Do’s and Don’ts for Texting Your Crush

By on January 24, 2015

You’ve got butterflies in your belly and a phone in your hand – your crush has texted you, or given you his number. Now what?

There are some simple guidelines for texting your crush. Whilst each person is unique, most of us have some things in common when it comes to flirting and chatting via text and it’s recommended that you follow the below do’s and don’ts…in most cases.

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Don’t Reply to Every Text Straight Away

Most people like if you reply within a reasonable amount of time, but if you stop everything you are doing to reply to a text every time you get one, the other person will start thinking you’ve got nothing going on in your life.

Whilst it’s nice to get into a proper texting conversation with someone, where both of you reply straight away, when you receive the first text, or aren’t into the conversation yet, take your time. Sometimes that can be ten minutes, sometimes an hour, or even more if you have a busy day.

Also, if you are at work, studying, or doing something important, wait awhile and see it as a treat when you get to reply – like after finishing that deathly boring task you know you need to get finished. If you text non-stop you won’t get any work done and a crush should never get between you and becoming the next Queen of whatever career you’ve chosen, or for that matter: stop you from being present when hanging out with your friends.

Do Think Before You Text

Sometimes when we get a text we are busy doing something else and don’t properly read the text, or we get so happy, or so angry, we don’t stop to think before replying. This often leads to us either misinterpreting the text, or replying in a way we will later regret. If we actually stop to think for a minute or two we usually come up with something more interesting or funny to say.

Do Crack Jokes

Who can resist someone funny? Given you really are funny that is…

Do Send Images

Sometimes a funny image, or an image to show where you are is easier than texting about it.

Don’t Put LOL at the End of Each Sentence

Sometimes LOL or haha really should be in the text, but not always.

Also, if you are flirting, or use a bit of sexy innuendo, if you finish it with LOL it comes across as if you are insecure, or as you are trying to show you don’t really mean what you just said. Why else would you put LOL after it?

Don’t Send Those Kind of Photos of Yourself Unless You Are in a Relationship

Yes, sexy photos are sexy…if you know the guy is seriously into you and you’ve already seen each other naked. Unless you want to be taken for a mail order bride, hold off with the naughtiness till you are a real item. After all, you don’t want to find the very same image all over the internet and Facebook, do you?

Don’t Wait Days to Text After a Date

No, there isn’t a three day rule that says you have to wait three days to text someone. Usually if someone has any kind of decency, they text you within 24 hours of a date. If they don’t, send one text and gauge the feedback, but as a general rule – guys text first after a date…there is always that one exception to the rule though.

Do End a Conversation That’s Fizzling Out

If you feel he doesn’t reply with any kind of enthusiasm (and it isn’t because he is terrible at texting, but because he’s simply not into the conversation anymore), end it. Say you have something to do, or if there is a natural ending, stop texting.

If he’s just replying with short texts, nothing interesting, then also end the conversation. A simple “Right, gotta go. Catch ya later.” or “Cool. See you later alligator.” or “Sounds great. Laters.” might work, depending on what he just said. Or as mentioned – sometimes the conversation comes to a natural halt.

Do Ask Questions

A conversation will end if no one is asking questions. If in doubt, check out an article I wrote about great questions to ask your crush!

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Do Use Emoticons 

Why not add a touch of color? Sometimes it can add humor to a point too.

Don’t Over Use Emoticons

Seriously.

Don’t Start Serious Conversations Randomly 

You can get deep and philosophical over text – it can be really cool. Sometimes conversations go that way. But if you intend to ask a guy if he has feelings for you, or anything else that’s serious, the best place to do that is face to face.

Don’t Dump Someone Over Text

Ever.

If you’ve been talking a lot to your crush, but suddenly started seeing this other guy, don’t tell him over text, OK?

Don’t Use Abbreviations All the Time

Hey, hw r u? Want 2 c a movie 2nite?

It gets annoying. Really annoying.

Also keep a check on:

– their, there and they’re

– we’re, were and where

– you’re and your

Do Start a Conversation

Sure, guys should chase the girl. Sometimes it’s great to leave a day or two in between texting, but also show you are interested. Start some of the conversations.

If you just got his number and want a way to start a conversation a few days later (unless it’s after a date, then it should be within 24 hours, really) then send him a text when you come across something you have chatted to him about before. Like “I just saw that car you were on about. Looks real cool.” And attach a photo of said car. Or, to keep it real simple “Hey, how’s your day going? How’s this for an awesome winter’s day? Ice skating all day :)”

Do Wink and Hint

If you get the feeling he’s interested, play with a bit of innuendo and flirting. Don’t over do it though. Every message doesn’t have to be flirtatious. Remember – the best person to fall in love with is your best friend, so chat to him about all sorts of things. Maybe just not your period.

Don’t Tell Him How Hot All the Other Guys Are

If you’ve been to the movies and walked out with a massive crush on Chris Helmsworth, you probably shouldn’t tell your crush. Unless you want to hear how hot Angelina Jolie is, that is.

Don’t Downplay Yourself 

As with putting a LOL by the end of every sentence (to ensure he knows you could just be kidding, don’t really mean it, aren’t really trying to flirt, or don’t take yourself seriously) saying things like “that’s not really a great text, but you get what I mean,” “that’s probably not the answer you wanted,” and “I really can’t express myself well when texting” after every other sentence isn’t gonna make you look like a confident person either.

Of course you can say these things if you really mean it – you might be terrible at texting, or you really messed up a reply and hit send without thinking – but then say it once and once only. And be confident about it, or have some fun with it:

“Oups, that came out wrong – I was trying to multitask and obviously didn’t think about what I was texting about LOL”

“I really suck at texting – it’s sooo much easier to talk to people in real life!”

“Man, I’m terrible at writing texts. Luckily I’m better in person ;)”

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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery

108 Comments

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    Dextinator

    October 21, 2015 at 4:54 am

    I asked my crush out and she said no in a indirect way and also said she hopes it doesnt get awkward.I still like her.what do I do now do I still text her ..

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      web admin

      October 24, 2015 at 5:32 pm

      If she said that she does not want to date you and that she does not want things to get awkward, then she was trying to let you down easily. She may start liking you in the future, but it seems like she is not interested right now. If you guys are friends and normally hang out, you can text her and do whatever you normally do. If you are not friends and rarely text/hang out, then you should probably not text her because she may think that you are trying to hit on her again.

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    Daniel

    October 6, 2015 at 10:35 pm

    I met a girl that I’ve been talking to online and we’re set for date 2 later this week. I’ve read so many tips about don’t text between dates and such so I wanted to ask for your guys’ help. Should I Text her or don’t text her during the week before the date?

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      web admin

      October 8, 2015 at 3:41 pm

      I would go ahead and text her once or twice. If you text her, then she will be able to know that you are interested and that you like her. If you completely avoid texting or calling her, she is going to get confused and not understand what you want. Obviously, you do not want to over-do it by texting her continuously, but you will want to text her at least a couple of times during the week. Perhaps a good morning text or just a message seeing how she is doing will work fine. Good luck, Daniel!

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    Festus

    September 26, 2015 at 9:05 am

    There is this girl that I like, she knows that I like her. I asked her to prom and she said yes. we talk sometimes, we usually talk till we go to sleep, when we have said our good nights she doesn’t continue the conversation the next day, so i was wondering whether to say hi to her or something

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      web admin

      September 27, 2015 at 7:37 pm

      I would go ahead and say hello to her. She might be afraid to start talking or texting you again because she may be worried that it would come off as too eager. If she has told you that she will go to prom with you and spends all night texting you, then I would imagine that you have a 90 to 95 percent chance that she likes you. The only reason she might not text you the next day is just because she does not want to appear needy or clingy. Go ahead and talk with her in real life or text her again–it sounds like she like syou. AFter prom, you could also try asking her if she wants to go on a real date with you. Good luck, Festus!

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    Ethan

    September 22, 2015 at 10:12 am

    Okay, so there is a girl who i have a crush on. I use to be to shy to even just go talk to her until a few weeks ago. I decided one day just to go and talk to her. We talk most of the days while at school. The convo is all good, we both laugh and smile at each other. But when we talk on facebook we can never seem to think to say or what questions to ask. So what are some goof questions to ask

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      web admin

      September 23, 2015 at 2:44 pm

      We actually have a few articles on the different questions that you can ask your crush. You could check them out for ideas. It is also fairly easy to keep a conversation going if you talk to the person about their hobbies, interest or childhood. If you guys know each other well enough, you could talk about personal beliefs because those are generally easy to talk about–as long as you do not start debating them! Good luck, Ethan!

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    Jordon

    September 12, 2015 at 4:22 pm

    Well I’m I I’m love with a girl after two years of meeting each other. But we don’t talk neither do we msg each other. But I msg her she won’t reply. She is like hoof talk face to face but no good environment and social media and stuff is screwed up

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      web admin

      September 12, 2015 at 6:18 pm

      Wait–I think there were a few autocorrected things in your comment. Does she never talk to you? Or does she just not like talking via text or social media? If she just dislikes texting, then talk to her more often in person! Some people just dislike texts, so just adjust for that. If, on the other hand, she never talks to you and ignores your texts, then she might not be interested. This could always change in the future, but it will take a long time for her to change her mind. Good luck, Jordon!

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    Nina

    August 12, 2015 at 1:46 pm

    I met this guy last year when he came to drop my sister. It was just a short meeting of 5mins(Just introduction), but I could see he liked me and later he took number from my elder sis. But he messaged me after a year i.e 2 weeks back and throughout the week, he insisted me to meet him as we stay in the same city. Finally I met him on friday night for drinks/dinner. At dinner he said all good things about me like “I find you very cute and I dont know why I took 1 year to message you. I am enjoying your company”. Later when the bar was getting closed, he said – “I dont wana go… I am not letting you go. I dont want this to end”. So he insisted me to come to his place and I agreed saying I would leave in an hour. I made sure I am not gonna sleep at his place and ofcourse not with him for sure(Since it was our first meeting). He tried getting close but I stick to what I had in my mind and kept it a decent meeting. He made me feel really special by all his jokes, good music and romantic one liners. Later for 3-4 days we were in touch on text msgs and discussed all that we felt that night. He compared our story with “Before sunrise” movie too. Again on wednesday, he insisted me for dinner and we met in a restaurant. We again ended up going to his place and was listening to music, chitchatting. This time we cuddled in the balcony, on the carpet, on the couch. It was a romantic night until he tried to get really close and I asked him to control and said “I dont feel anything for anyone!”. So he booked a cab and I came back home. I think it turned him off and now its been 5 days, he is not initiating the contact with me. He just respond to my msgs like a friend. I called him once, we spoke for few mins and he disconnected the call saying – I will call you back and he never called back. I am not sure, was he only expecting sex or was he getting close to me seriously. I miss him and I was looking for a long term relationship and not just sex, so I thought of taking things slow initially. With his behaviour, I feel he just wanted to have sex with me. But when I think of things he said like comparing our story with before sunrise and stuff, I think even he liked me. He is not asking to meet me anymore. What should I do? Please help!

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      web admin

      August 13, 2015 at 9:45 pm

      As long as you expressed that you wanted to take things slow and have a relationship before sex, I think that your guess–that he just wants sex–is probably right. If he was interested in a relationship, then there is nothing wrong with waiting to know each other before you have sex. It sounds like he genuinely liked you, but he may be interested in just having a sexual fling at this point in his life. Perhaps when he gets older, his life changes or he becomes more mature, he will be able to have a more serious relationship.

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        Nina

        August 14, 2015 at 9:44 am

        I dont remember expressing that I am looking for a relationship or I like him, but yes I said him that its important to be in love to proceed further. On the first meeting when we were at his place, he himself said things like “I like you and I feel peace with you and love will eventually happen”. Those were his words. Since 4 days we are not in touch, but he keeps changing his whatsapp pic and status to the things he said to me…When I read it, I feel that is a msg for me and he is thinking about me. Guys are really difficult to understand.

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          web admin

          August 14, 2015 at 8:35 pm

          Have you tried just texting him again? If he keeps changing his status to the things that he said to you, then he could very well be thinking about you. Perhaps you should try sending him a text message or using Whatsapp and seeing if he responds. Good luck, Nina!

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            Nina

            August 20, 2015 at 11:57 am

            Yes. He text messaged me when I changed my profile pic and he called me himself on Tuesday and said he is hanging around in my area. He asked me, if I wanna go out for a drive..We went to few places and then we decided we can enjoy more being at home. So, we went to his house and this time, he decently kept distant and was being more formal. He said “I became bit naughty last time. Just got carried away. Hope you are not judging me on that.” I said “No, but I want to know what pissed you off that you suddenly booked cab for me. He said “I don’t know I was just bit irritated with something”, I told him that this is not how you treat people around you.. He is like “Yeah yeah! I am really sorry for that behavior of mine.” And then we had few drinks with some soft romantic music playing. He holdd my hands and said I am loving this. I asked him directly if he just wants to have sex with me and he denied that he wont have sex unless he loves a girl. He doesn’t believe in having a casual sex. Later we kept talking for few hours. while talking he came close to me..Hugged me and he kissed me and suddenly got up and started doing something else. I was lying on the couch clueless (WEIRD! right?).. I said “I think I should leave.. I have work tomorrow.” He said “Yes. I will drop you back home.” And on the way to my house, we hardly spoke anything and was just listening to music. Now its Thursday and no call, msgs from him! WTF! What he wants man? 😐

            PS: I loved the way he gently kissed me for few min. Blush! 😀

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              web admin

              August 20, 2015 at 5:33 pm

              Hmm…well, it sounds like he is trying to control himself around you at least a bit–that could explain why he got up after kissing you. As for his lack of communication, I have no clue what is going on with that. He texted you back and hung out with you again, so it seems like he is interested. Perhaps just play it by ear and see how things go? He seems to be doing and saying the right things now, so maybe he just is too busy to hang out at the moment. Do you like him? Have you tried just texting him? It is perfectly fine for the girl to send a text to hang out, especially if you guys have already been on more than one date together.

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                Nina

                August 24, 2015 at 1:03 pm

                Hey! Want to share what happen next:

                I was too busy last week at my work and was travelling to another city for the weekend. I left directly from my work to another city to see a friend of mine. And I told him last weekend that I might travel next weekend and he remembered that. So when I was on my way to another city, this guy called me to see if I have already left. He said – “I was around your place so was thinking to meet you.” I said – “I am already half way And I was confused in the starting of the day to travel or not but then decided to go.” He is like its fine. I asked him what he will be doing now, he said he will go to see few of his friends then. I said okay. Then on sunday, he msged me back – “Are you back?”. I said no and he said I thought you are coming back tonight. And then he kept chatting for few hours saying – “next whole month I would be traveling to china, singapore and india.” I said – “Thats great! Seems an exciting month ahead for you. So we will directly meet in october now.”. To which he replied – “No I will come back.” He shows interest, but I am bit confused – Is it just for the romance thing or he really wants to get into some serious relationship with me. Coz I know he and his parents are looking for a girl for him to get married. And he too knows that the case is same with me too. Even I am looking out to get settled now. My question – If he likes me then why don’t he just ask me?. Last time when I met him, I even asked him jokingly if he is looking for any girls for marriage, he said his parents shown him some pics and they are talking to the respective parents too. I don’t know what to do?
                Should I start to ignore him completely?
                Or just dont get into any physical act? (Which is impossible for me too when he is around)
                Or should I casually start dating him without any expectation(I anyways have nothing to loose in that case)?
                Or should I ask him to marry me? (LOL!! But that sound funny!!)
                Or should I share all this with my elder sister minus the kissing part(Since I am shy to speak about it to her)?(He is her friend and she knows him well)

                Please suggest!

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                  Nina

                  August 24, 2015 at 1:24 pm

                  PPS: My sister have no idea that I am meeting this guy personally. I will have to tell her that I met him couple of times and went to his place for dinner. ( I sometimes feel that even my sister had feelings for him and before an year when this guy asked for my number, she wasn’t happy to share it with him ). I think I first need to know what was her equation with this guy. Coz if she knows what type of guy he is, she might warn me. In my last meeting I spoke about this to this guy. I said – “I am gonna tell my sister that we are meeting for dinner and I came to your house couple of times(Just to see his reaction).” But he seemed to be fine with it.

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                    web admin

                    August 24, 2015 at 6:57 pm

                    If things were to go extremely well with this guy and you were to get married or have a serious relationship, your older sister would ultimately find out. It is much better for her to find out now before it is too serious, plus she can give you some insight into his mindset. At any rate, it would definitely be better to tell her sooner rather than later–she would probably be upset if she found out months down the road that you kept this from her.

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                  web admin

                  August 24, 2015 at 6:55 pm

                  Talking to your sister sounds like a good plan, since she knows him fairly well. I would hold off on asking him to marry you, though. 😉 For the moment, it seems like he is interested in you. He may just be trying to see if you two would actually work together as a couple and if he wants to pursue things more. It seems like he wants to at least see what the possibilities are, so that is good news for you. As long as you are also interested in him, keep talking to him and casually date him for a while. After a few weeks or months, you will both be able to see if you really want to pursue the relationship further. And if you need more advice, your older sister sounds like an excellent person to turn to. Good luck!

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                    Nina

                    August 25, 2015 at 1:09 pm

                    Hey!
                    Thanks for the reply. I would surely discuss this with my sister. He messaged me today as well that he wants to see me tonight as he would be travelling tomorrow for a week. Btw, I would like to know your name so that I can address you with name. Thanks! 🙂

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                      web admin

                      August 25, 2015 at 9:30 pm

                      Good luck, Nina! As for a name, “web admin” works fine. 🙂 Let me know how everything works out with your guy and your talk with your sister!

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                    Nina

                    September 7, 2015 at 2:32 pm

                    Hey..Long time! I wanna discuss something with you.
                    This guy is finally back from his vacation and he texted me after taking rest for a day. So we planned to meet the other day. He asked me to come to his place to chill. When I reached at his place, we planned to watch a horror movie. While I was watching the movie, he made popcorn for me and served with red wine (I dont know why he makes all our meetings as if it is our first date.) Anyways, later after the movie we cuddled for a bit, I asked him, if he missed me on his trip and he said “little”. (Little? Really? I was waiting to see him desperately). Then I thought I should be honest about my feelings since I really dont know whats going on in his mind, but I need to get a clear picture as I dont want to waste my time on this. So I just asked – “Are you close with someone else too like the way you are with me? If yes, then I dont want to be involved.” to which he replied “No”. I added- “Coz I just dont want to waste my time emotinally.”. He is like “Ok! But as I said I want to focus on my career now.”. I said “Its not that I’ve fallen in love but I feel the connection with you and may be you dont feel the same.”. He said even he feels the connection between us. And suddenly he got up and started smoking. He said “I am still not out of my past relation and I think she is getting engaged soon.”. I said “What are you waiting for? You are hoping for her to come back?” He said “no but I need to settle in my life to prove that I am not a useless guy”. I told him to move on. to which he said “yes I am almost out of it, but there is something which i want to prove and this is why i wanna focus on my career. I wanna be successful.” I said ok. and then there was nothing that great happened. I slept for few hours with me on the couch and then midnight he went inside the bedroom and asked me to wake him up before leaving in the morning. But as soon as it was bright in the morning, I left a text msg to him (that i dont want to bother you as you are deep asleep and ty for the movie,popcorn and blah blah) and left. Sunday at 9 when he woke up, he msged me “sorry couldnt stay awake, you tc.” And that’s it. I see, he likes me a lot, but may be he have bit hopes of getting back with his ex. They were suppose to get engaged but because of some family issues, they broke up. Not sure, what he wants now. He chase me, but he has no sexual intention(Or may be he have, but I never crossed my boundaries). What to do? What do you think, I should do to drawn him towards me? I feel a great connection with him like a soulmate, but not sure if he feels the same!! 🙁

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                      web admin

                      September 7, 2015 at 4:37 pm

                      It seems like he is interested in you, but he is having problems getting over his ex-girlfriend. Even if he no longer wants to be with her, the relationship can take a bit to get over. Right now, it seems like he is being completely honest with you about what he is feeling and where he is in life. As long as you don’t mind just dating for a while, I don’t see anything wrong with the current situation. He needs some time to heal and focus on becoming successful in his career, and he is a good enough guy to be honest with you about all of that. As long as you are still interested and are okay with the wait, go for it.

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                      Nina

                      September 29, 2015 at 12:00 pm

                      Hey! Hope you are doing fine. Long story short.
                      Lately I really got close to this guy but still he never talks about our relation. He meets me once or twice a week. And other days, we dont even text/talk(I dont start the conversation coz I dont want to appear needy or clingy). He calls me whenever he feels like meeting me. Sometimes I feel may be he just wants a companion to kill his time. Last weekend he was partying with his friends and he texted me at 1am at night to join this party at his place. I reached there by 2am and after the party when everyone left, I asked him why did he call me there, he said “because I was missing you” (He was too drunk to even realise anything before speaking). We both were drunk and we ended up doing stuff. Next day we dint even speak much and I came back home. I thought may be he will regret things(Since I was regretting it too). But before few days, he called me and said – “I am close-by your house and I am getting late but I wants to see you and have a smoke. Are you free to meet now?”. I said ok. He came to my place, he was behaving very formal(Since after makingout this was our first meeting). He did not speak to me about anything and just had one smoke with me, sat for few mins and left.. And now I am confused again. I think when he came to see me, he wasn’t looking for any physical intimacy but he just wanted to see me. He dint even kiss me(We dint even discuss our makingout session). He have other female friends too and I feel very insecure sometimes. I feel may be the days he doesn’t call me, he must be with other girls(May be he is physically involved with them too).. Today he called me again and said I would be around your place this whole week. I said ok, but what does he want? I dont want to get physically involved with him but when I see him, I couldn’t resist. Please tell me what should I do? He knows that I like him but he doesn’t pursue anything in that context. Make me feel sad! 🙁

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                      web admin

                      September 29, 2015 at 4:05 pm

                      It sounds like he likes being around you, and he at least likes to be your friend. He could want more than that, but I do not know for sure. The fact that you hooked up when drunk could mean that he took things farther than he meant to or it could mean that he is too afraid to do anything/ask you out when he is sober. If you really want to see what is going on, you could just ask him how he feels or what he wants your relationship to be like. Let him know that you are fine with being friends because you like to be around him, but also let him know that you would be fine with being more. As for the other girls, there is no way to know if he is being physical with them or not. They could be just friends or they could be more. Since you guys are not dating exclusively or even casually, it is perfectly acceptable (although not very enjoyable for you 🙁 ) if he is dating other girls. If you guys do choose to date, then you can always have a talk with him about boundaries. Good luck, Nina!

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                      Nina

                      October 8, 2015 at 1:22 pm

                      Hey!
                      I have something to discuss with you.
                      Last weekend, he met with his ex and asked if she stills feels the connection between them and she said “NO”. On monday, he called me and asked me out for dinner. After the dinner, when he came to drop me, I asked him to come upstairs,but he denied saying “If I come upstairs, then I couldn’t leave you and go.”. But he still came upstairs and we spoke for few hours where he spoke about his meeting with his ex and said I want to move on now. And since then he wants to meet me every day. I know he is physically attracted to me and he often invites me at his place. But I don’t know, how it will go. I am affraid if I end up being his rebound. But I think he genuinely likes me and even I couldn’t resist keeping distance when he is around. After monday, he asked me to catch on tue(But I was too busy to meet him), then wed he was too busy(but still at night he said if it is possible for me to visit him and i denied coz it was too late).
                      He started messaging me very often which he never use to do before. Even when he wakes up, he msgs me. Atleast this is going on since few days now. On wed, I said, we will meet on friday, then he said “Direct friday? Are you bored of me already? You don’t feel like meeting me everyday?”. This was his reaction and he said we are meeting tomorrow i.e thursday. So I will be meeting him today evening. I just hope everything goes well. Other than the rebound thing, everything seems to be rosy rosy. I want to make him the man of my life but couldn’t express myself. Do you think I should express him my love/affection/feelings to him? I think this could push him away coz he will think that I am already ready to give myself to him? Please suggest, how should I go from here?

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                      web admin

                      October 8, 2015 at 3:29 pm

                      I would not express that you want that level of commitment or love right away. Keep dating him and make sure that he feels the same way as well. It seems like he is incredibly infatuated with you, so it would not be hard for him to get to that level–but if you tell him how you feel now, it could scare him away. He just got out of a serious relationship, so you may want to take things slower emotionally. He seems really interested in you, so hang out, go on dates and keep texting him. Good luck, Nina!

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    Risha

    August 7, 2015 at 10:47 pm

    So if he makes eye contact with me should I do the same?

    And thankyou for the help! 🙂

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    Risha__

    August 7, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    And by the way if he makes eye contact with me should I do the same and stare back?

    and Thankyou for the help! 🙂

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      web admin

      August 7, 2015 at 11:09 pm

      I think that you should do whatever feels natural to you. If it feels normal to stare back, then do it. Likewise, if it feels weird to you, then don’t stare back. 🙂

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    Risha

    August 6, 2015 at 2:51 am

    I like this Guy and we’ve been friends since We were younger in and he did find out that I liked him and he was alright with it and it then Went very akward so my friend told him I never liked him anymore (even though I did ) then he saw my picture with my hair done and makeup done to a wedding and since he saw my hair from the picture that my friend showed he was like ‘woah’ she asked him if he Mehta it in a good way or bad he said good and then since June to the end of July he kept makeing a lot of eye contact with me he always looked at me a lot and then we walked home me him and my friend and when we walked there was a one way path and my friend was walking infornt of us and me and him were right next to each other and I tried to catch up with my friend so I didn’t make it bait that I liked him and he leveled his walking with me like he catches up and then we spoke more then usual for 3 days then this new boy came (a old primary school friend ) I thought my crush was not interested in me anymore until my betsfreind told me he was trying to refuse the amounts of times he looks at me and then still eye contact ect like he keeps starring at me and everything and then I siad get to him On Facebook and he never looked at it since he don’t really reply to anyone on Facebook and then on the last day of school we were in essembly and he was a row infornt of me he kept looking at me and then when eveyone cheered he locked eye with me and I stared back then I got nervous and looked away and I look back and he’s so confident to do it again but I didn’t take it I was to shy and then when I walked home with my friend while there going and then 2 days later I asked my crush on text if he liked me More then a friend he said ‘no sorry ‘ and on that Wednesday And I got home they saw my crush and they asked were he was going he said he’s going out to eat and then my friend said that he told her ‘it woud be akward to go out With someone I’ve known my whole life ‘ and I don’t know if she’s lying to me or saying the truth I felt upset that he rejected me and so I texted him again I told him it would be akward to go out with him since I’ve Known him my whole life he was like ‘trust that’s what I was gonna say ‘ and I siad it so things don’t go akward again when we get back to school ,and why would he make a stupid excuse like that when he Dosnt know my likes or dislikes or anything about me Excepts I’ve been Infront of him and spoken to him my whole life and like that excuse 🙁 and I’m confused with all the eye contact he made .

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      August 6, 2015 at 6:48 pm

      He might be just being honest: he thinks it would be weird to date someone his whole life, and he has probably spent a lot of his life viewing you as a sister rather than a date. Although it seems like he has developed a physical attraction for you and some feelings, he seems unwilling to ever take it any farther. The best thing that you can do is just remain friends with him and hope that he changes his mind. Wait for him to ask you out because you will just keep getting rejected if you keep trying to ask him. Good luck!

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    Ashlynn

    August 1, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    I’ve been texting this guy I like since yesterday and our texts have been really short and awkward. Any help?

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      August 2, 2015 at 2:32 am

      We actually have a few articles with flirty texts, good morning quotes and similar topics. If you look through these articles, you will get a decent idea of things that you could say to try flirting with him. We also have an article on questions to ask your crush or boyfriend, so that could also help you to get the conversation going. Good luck!

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    Arina

    July 31, 2015 at 3:38 am

    I have a huge crush on this guy who is daiting my best friend and everyday I can’t get him out of my mind what do I do I can’t hurt my bestfriend

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      web admin

      July 31, 2015 at 4:25 am

      Liking him or dating him will not necessarily hurt him. Often, relationships between friends are the ones that are most likely to last over the long term. What makes you think that you will end up hurting him? Does he like you back?

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    lily

    July 30, 2015 at 11:45 pm

    I like this guy that I met while I was over my friends house we didn’t talk that much while we were there but then he asked me for my number over Instagram. We texted a lot and had really good conversations. We have also hung out a few more times with friends. and everything seemed normal. But now I have to start all the text conversations and he will like stop responding at random times. What should I do?

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      July 31, 2015 at 4:18 am

      It looks like you may have commented on this twice. I have to approve of each comment individually, so it can sometimes take a few hours for every comment to be approved. Thanks for commenting and let me know if you have any other questions!

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    lily

    July 30, 2015 at 11:31 pm

    I met this guy while I was over my friends house we didn’t talk that much while we were there but then he asked me for my number over Instagram. We texted a lot and had really good conversations. We have also hung out a few more times with friends and everything seemed normal. But now I have to start all the text conversations and he will like stop responding at random times. What should I do?

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      web admin

      July 31, 2015 at 4:11 am

      You can keep texting him–if he added you on Instagram and asked for your number, then you have a very, very good chance that he likes you. If the conversation randomly stops, that could be because he is busy or because he just ran out of things to say–it is just as hard for him to keep the conversation going at times as it is for you. Go ahead and keep talking to him or ask him out–it seems like he is really interested in you.

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    DJ

    July 15, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    I ran into the guy I have been crushing on for a while, he asked me for my number and asked if I was single. Later that day he texted me saying to save his number. We would text 2-3 times a week. He asked me on a date twice but I was unable to go both times and I told him why and he was cool with it. I went on a trip to Europe for two weeks and the day after I got back he asked me what I was doing and I said ” just sitting around my house what about you?” He replied ” going swimming” I said ” that sounds like tons of fun!” He didn’t reply till later when he said “it was tons of fun you should come next time!” I said I would love to! After that about a week I called him to ask him on a date and he never answered and I texted him twice.(this is spread throughout a week) but he liked my profile picture on Facebook. I never got a reply. I then saw his picture On Facebook with two girls and another guy I assumed a date so I texted him just joking saying ” you could have just said no or told me there was another girl that would have been totally fine! 😉 have fun!:) ” he replied ” there is not another girl lol, I am doing rodeo, the weekend of the 24th is just really busy for me. (The date wa soft a rodeo on the 22). I then replied ” oh serious?! That’s awesome! Where at? Sorry if that came off rude earlier I kinda had my sassy pants on earlier. But maybe now we are even on not being able to go on a date maybe we could some other time? ” he didn’t reply and hour later so I said “okay let me try again cause everything about my texts were kinda rude sorry, just got a little fired up today. I was just so excited that I had a chance to ask you to come with me because I had heard what a great guy you were and I was so excited and a little nervous then I didn’t get a reply so I got a little discouraged. Then when my friends were talking to me about it today they got me fired up, it all just didn’t come out how I thought it was, sorry”. He still has not replied. I know I totally messed up by assuming and sending those texts I was just trying to have a little fun and I was joking mostly I am just afraid that he took it as dramatic and that is not how I meant it at all because I know no one likes drama even myself. I am just not very experienced in dating and the texting I need some help!? What do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 16, 2015 at 1:44 am

      Although the last two texts do come off as being a bit dramatic (and certainly confusing), he still should have gotten the message. Perhaps he changed his mind about going on a date? Or he met someone else, but is not dating them yet? At this point, I would just wait for him to text you again. If you try texting or calling him right now, it will end up appearing desperate. You already explained yourself twice, so there is no reason to go back and try to explain yourself again. He was extremely interested initially, so perhaps he will resume his interest. Just give him space and let him be the first one to initiate contact again.

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    Clarrie

    July 12, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    Hi , I met this guy yesterday and I was instantly attracted to him. He came over to my friend and I and asked for my number. He was in town for a race car competition , he is sixteen and I’m fourteen. The problem is he lives in Johannesburg and I live kn East London and the only way we can communicate is via text. He has complemented me three times. I don’t exactly know what to do because I doubt we will ever see each other again, possibly next year when he comes back for the annual race. Please would you give me some advice?

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      web admin

      July 12, 2015 at 4:55 pm

      If you do not think that you will ever see him again, then you should probably just remain friends. You guys can hang out during the races and get to know each other better every year. Later on, you may be able to have a relationship when you are older. Once you guys are both 18, it would actually be possible to move closer to each other and pursue a relationship. For now, I would stick to being friends online or via text and seeing each other at the annual races. Good luck, Clarrie!

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    Rachelle

    July 10, 2015 at 6:03 am

    I just met him once. And i was attracted to him. I gave him my number and unexpectedly he texted me. Then when im telling him miss you he just replied “you dont know me enough to miss me but thank you :)” i really like him. What should i do?

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      web admin

      July 10, 2015 at 5:55 pm

      I think his reply seems very cute, and it happens to be honest. Since you are attracted to him and he seems to be responding to you well, keep texting him. If possible, see if this guy wants to meet up with you to hang out or go to the movies. You could also try adding him on social media since it would make messaging each other and talking much easier. Good luck, Rachelle!

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    Ayah

    June 29, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    There is this boy that older then me 3 years and he wants me to show him love how ??

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      web admin

      June 29, 2015 at 7:49 pm

      He wants you to show him love? I am not entirely sure what he means by that, but there are some things that you can do. If you want to do something incredibly romantic, make him an amazing dinner (Italian is my favorite for this) and pack it into your car. Bring along a table, chairs, goblets and candles. Without telling him what is going on, blindfold him and drive him to a great lookout point–mountains are some of the best. Set up the table, light the candles, put the food out and then take off the blindfold. He will be amazed, and there are few things that are more stereotypically romantic than this. Plus, guys always like food, so this is a great way to fulfill the old adage, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”

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    Carla

    June 7, 2015 at 4:45 am

    This boy is texting me and we’re bored . What do we talk about or play ?

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      June 8, 2015 at 10:21 pm

      We actually have an article on Her Interest that covers this exact topic. If you go to this link: https://www.herinterest.com/7-games-to-play-over-text-with-a-guy/ , it will tell you seven different games that you can play over text with a guy. I think that some of the readers also added comments with additional games, so there may be more than seven ideas on the page. Good luck!

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    Gaurab Paudel

    May 22, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Really interesting article. This really helps out. Thanks.

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      web admin

      May 23, 2015 at 1:57 am

      I am happy to hear that this helped you. If you needed help with thinking of cute or romantic text messages, we have several lists of quotes and ideas on the site. There is also a list of romantic text messages for your crush that is available. If you have some time, make sure to check it out! Thanks for commenting!

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    CeCe

    January 24, 2015 at 1:35 pm

    This is such a good point! I am so impressed with this website! My boyfriend and I get into awkward conversations where neither of us know what to say, so your tip about ending the conversation really helped me! Thank you so much! I love you, Caleb! <3

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      web admin

      April 14, 2015 at 10:23 pm

      I am really glad to head that this helped you, CeCe! The writers at HerInterest work really hard to make sure we have relevant, interesting topics for our readers. It looks like we have succeeded this time–thanks for letting us know it!

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