Dating Portuguese Men

By on April 1, 2015






Looking to find a Portuguese beauty with brown eyes you can get lost in? Well, then you will want to know what it’s actually like dating Portuguese men.

I can’t say I’ve dated a Portuguese man myself, but I have visited Portugal. My experience of Portuguese men, bearing in mind I was about fourteen years old, was that this one guy tried to get closer and closer to me on the bus. We were sitting next to each other and he wanted to eliminate the space between us. Luckily my grandma was sitting on the seat behind me and saw what he was doing. And in a way only gran can, she smacked him with a newspaper! I don’t suggest men doing something inappropriate when my gran is around. I also don’t suggest you believe all Portuguese men will hit on you in inappropriate ways. So let’s have a look what others, who know a bit more about dating Portuguese men have to say.

They Are Not Spanish

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Uhm, so this might be apparent, but as someone from Scandinavia I can tell you there are lots of people who think Danes, Norwegians and Swedes are all the same, but they aren’t. We may be alike, but we have cultural differences. Likewise, the Spanish and the Portuguese are often grouped together, but they have cultural differences. And whilst the Spanish and Portuguese languages may be similar, they are not the same.

As with many other neighboring countries there has been a lot of rivalry between Spain and Portugal. They even have a saying that marriage between people from the different countries are never a good idea: “Just like the East winds from Spain bring storms, likewise, Spanish spouses bring trouble.”

Body Language

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While close friends touch each other whilst speaking to emphasize something, the Portuguese don’t get in your space in the same way the Brazilians do. They most certainly don’t try to start kissing you within five minutes in a bar, like some Brazilians. At least not in most instances!

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Clubbing

If you want to meet Portuguese men in clubs or bars, it’s recommended you bring some female friends along. The Portuguese are very traditional in some ways and find it weird if a woman goes to a bar by herself.

Likewise, if you are there for business purposes, you won’t want to ask a man for a dinner meeting unless you ask him to bring his wife. Rather stick to lunch. Of course, if you are trying to win the man over you might be able to break the rules…but remember: a man wants to be the one who courts you, not vice versa.

In general, men make the first move. That said, a bit of flirting will probably help them along!

Traditional Values

Women in Portugal are often still seen wearing skirts and dresses as opposed to jeans and skirts, but as everywhere else this is changing. Due to the hot weather though there are some advantages to come dressed in a skirt! Also, some Portuguese men simply appreciate seeing the feminine side of you.

The church still plays a fairly big role in many people’s lives in Portugal. So if you have a strong faith yourself, you will want to talk about it before you get too far dating someone, to ensure your values are similar.

It’s been said that Portuguese men make their women walk behind them, which might be an exaggeration, but there are still some old traditions that live on. Traditionally women stayed at home raising kids and looking after the household and some of that does live on in Portugal today, especially in the countryside. That said, Portugal is a modern country in many ways and more women are joining the workforce there, as most anywhere else. In the bigger cities chances are you’ll see much more equality between the sexes in all ways. Also, remember that just because something is tradition doesn’t mean someone is looking down on you. It just means that’s how they are used to things being.

Jealousy

Portuguese men have a reputation of being a tad more jealous than some other men in the Western world, but of course this varies from man to man.

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Public Displays of Affection

A hug or kiss in public isn’t going to offend anyone in Portugal. So don’t be alarmed if he stops to kiss you when taking you for an evening stroll along the beach… In fact, Portugal has such a long coastline that you are certain of getting plenty of romance by the sea if you date someone Portuguese!

 

1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery





20 Comments

  1. Linn

    October 8, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    I’ve dated a guy from Portugal for 3 long years. He was divorced from his first marriage before I met him. And he dated some women too. I never get introduced to his family lolz
    He is cold as ice in a way that he won’t even care to celebrate holidays like Christmas. I’m Asian and Christmas is a big deal.
    I’ve noticed that he adds random women in his facebook but not me.
    He always put his phone facing down on the table. And I asked him why is that, he just said that it’s a habit. But to me, it means that he doesn’t want me to see anything that might pop on the phone screen. But I let that go.
    This summer he went to Portugal for his parents’ 50th wedding anniversary. And there he met a woman that’s his big brother’s step daughter. So they added each other on facebook and then I’ve seen that this lady “liked” his photos.
    I confronted him if something’s going on, and he said nothing’s going on between them. I let that passed.
    When he came back from Portugal, I saw a small empty jewelry box inside his suitcase. I freaked out! I accused him of giving that jewelry to the woman he just knew.
    Anyways, we broke up. It’s like he chose that woman over me.
    I’ve been so nice to him, doing everything in the house (we lived together for 1yr) and still that seemed to be not enough.

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      October 10, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      It sounds as though he was unwilling to give you the respect that you required. It is beneficial to your that this relationship has ended. Allow this relationship to fade from your memory. There is no reason for you to attempt to establish a relationship with him again. Remain positive as you move forward. Have a great day, Linn!

  2. April

    July 13, 2017 at 8:33 am

    I’m from Puerto Rico but reside in Canada and recently i met a portuguese man, but born here in Canada, so lets see what happens

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      July 13, 2017 at 8:26 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. Please feel free to share any future thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, April!

  3. marianne leah

    June 18, 2017 at 3:36 am

    Me to, want to be with the kind caring louving gentle smart confident knowing Portugues stud that i liked, to many girls also like him and he always like to have emotions because He goes with all the people who like hi I’ve only been with ten people and that’s alittle he’s been with at least twenty people and i don’t like it that everyone likes to go out with the Portugal guy i like him

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      June 19, 2017 at 3:17 pm

      If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give the two of you chance to learn more about the goals and ideas that each other has. Have a great day, Marianne!

  4. Namuli Veronica

    March 29, 2017 at 2:52 am

    I met a Portuguese guy from a dating site but trust me I fell in love with him just from our chats and the day we met first I was more impressed by his touches and little kisses. This doesn’t make me a b**** but they are wonderful

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      March 29, 2017 at 10:36 am

      It’s great that you have found the right person. I am sure that our other readers will appreciate getting your personal insight. Thanks for commenting, Namuli Veronica!

  5. PatriciA freitas

    February 27, 2017 at 6:35 am

    Married to an aorian foe 43 yers. Ii believe portuges. Men are kind and. gentle. Men with a great sence of humor

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      February 27, 2017 at 12:59 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. Please feel free to share more of your positive and helpful contributions in the future. Have a great day, Patricia!

  6. fuxia

    February 26, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    i ve been to portugual many times. the men there are worldly and well educated. people are tender and warm generally speaking quite different from spanish and italian as I lived in both countries. i met a portuguese man and i think i love him sadly the feeling only belongs to mine. it is a great country that can accomodate you a sweet family life. i was there alone and i felt the romance of lisboa each time but the solitudine in that atmosphere had torn me apart. i really wish those above girls find a great portuguese men and live in portugal to enjoy! we live only once go for it!

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      February 27, 2017 at 12:47 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Fuxia!

  7. Liss

    February 22, 2017 at 5:57 am

    Im a Asian traditional woman. The first time i met him – a Portuguese man- a feeling believe never have had before, then i visited him in Portugal. I really love this country and people. Portuguese men is confident, smart and knowledgeable. I wish i can date and marry a Portuguese man.

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      February 22, 2017 at 10:30 am

      You can do whatever you wan to do. Continue to spend time in the country and develop a relationship with someone. Take this time to determine what you want for your future and follow that path. Best of luck, Liss!

  8. Teena

    February 8, 2017 at 5:15 am

    I wish I can marry a Portuguese men.like I pray always..

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      February 8, 2017 at 11:35 am

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and hopes. Feel free to share more of your desires in the future. Have a great day, Teena!

  9. Caroline

    January 23, 2017 at 2:30 am

    I really love Portuguese. .I would like date one of them. actually I’m praying that God bless me with a good Portugal husband.

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      January 23, 2017 at 9:44 am

      Thank you for sharing your hopes and dreams. It is great to see that you have such a strong desire for your future relationships. You may be best served by going to Portugal and trying to meet someone there. Have a great day, Caroline!

  10. Nikki mennen

    July 2, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    Please contact me ♥️

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      July 3, 2016 at 12:21 pm

      Thank you for your positive post!

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