Dating Portuguese Men

By on April 1, 2015

Looking to find a Portuguese beauty with brown eyes you can get lost in? Well, then you will want to know what it’s actually like dating Portuguese men.

I can’t say I’ve dated a Portuguese man myself, but I have visited Portugal. My experience of Portuguese men, bearing in mind I was about fourteen years old, was that this one guy tried to get closer and closer to me on the bus. We were sitting next to each other and he wanted to eliminate the space between us. Luckily my grandma was sitting on the seat behind me and saw what he was doing. And in a way only gran can, she smacked him with a newspaper! I don’t suggest men doing something inappropriate when my gran is around. I also don’t suggest you believe all Portuguese men will hit on you in inappropriate ways. So let’s have a look what others, who know a bit more about dating Portuguese men have to say.

They Are Not Spanish

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Uhm, so this might be apparent, but as someone from Scandinavia I can tell you there are lots of people who think Danes, Norwegians and Swedes are all the same, but they aren’t. We may be alike, but we have cultural differences. Likewise, the Spanish and the Portuguese are often grouped together, but they have cultural differences. And whilst the Spanish and Portuguese languages may be similar, they are not the same.

As with many other neighboring countries there has been a lot of rivalry between Spain and Portugal. They even have a saying that marriage between people from the different countries are never a good idea: “Just like the East winds from Spain bring storms, likewise, Spanish spouses bring trouble.”

Body Language

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While close friends touch each other whilst speaking to emphasize something, the Portuguese don’t get in your space in the same way the Brazilians do. They most certainly don’t try to start kissing you within five minutes in a bar, like some Brazilians. At least not in most instances!


If you want to meet Portuguese men in clubs or bars, it’s recommended you bring some female friends along. The Portuguese are very traditional in some ways and find it weird if a woman goes to a bar by herself.

Likewise, if you are there for business purposes, you won’t want to ask a man for a dinner meeting unless you ask him to bring his wife. Rather stick to lunch. Of course, if you are trying to win the man over you might be able to break the rules…but remember: a man wants to be the one who courts you, not vice versa.

In general, men make the first move. That said, a bit of flirting will probably help them along!

Traditional Values

Women in Portugal are often still seen wearing skirts and dresses as opposed to jeans and skirts, but as everywhere else this is changing. Due to the hot weather though there are some advantages to come dressed in a skirt! Also, some Portuguese men simply appreciate seeing the feminine side of you.

The church still plays a fairly big role in many people’s lives in Portugal. So if you have a strong faith yourself, you will want to talk about it before you get too far dating someone, to ensure your values are similar.

It’s been said that Portuguese men make their women walk behind them, which might be an exaggeration, but there are still some old traditions that live on. Traditionally women stayed at home raising kids and looking after the household and some of that does live on in Portugal today, especially in the countryside. That said, Portugal is a modern country in many ways and more women are joining the workforce there, as most anywhere else. In the bigger cities chances are you’ll see much more equality between the sexes in all ways. Also, remember that just because something is tradition doesn’t mean someone is looking down on you. It just means that’s how they are used to things being.


Portuguese men have a reputation of being a tad more jealous than some other men in the Western world, but of course this varies from man to man.

Public Displays of Affection

A hug or kiss in public isn’t going to offend anyone in Portugal. So don’t be alarmed if he stops to kiss you when taking you for an evening stroll along the beach… In fact, Portugal has such a long coastline that you are certain of getting plenty of romance by the sea if you date someone Portuguese!


1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery


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    October 27, 2019 at 1:32 am

    Hello am Sarah from Kenya and I met a Portuguese guy online and I can tell he loves me so much.its two weeks now since we met but to me its like wev been knowing each other before.he never gives me time to do anything he is always video calling me all day night.the two weeks
    Have never had a good nap coz he is always calling.whenever he sees me online he’s always calling.when am at work he always sending me love messages and at the same time he can never stop calling..he says he will marry me and he is ready to travel to see me in my country.
    He tells me that when he marry me he is ready to take care of me…he tells me a lot of things sometimes I wonder is he bragging or what? Kindly I want to know whether he loves me or do he mean his words??do Portuguese guys lie or do they mean what they say .

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      March 5, 2020 at 11:09 am

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    August 9, 2019 at 5:30 pm

    I wish I could date a Portuguese boy because I am from Peru and I have the same values, for me family and loyalty are very important

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      August 10, 2019 at 9:36 pm

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    April 17, 2019 at 10:29 am

    I met a Portuguese man online. He is so kind and considerate. He treats me well and it’s like we were meant to be together. It has been over a year of dating and I am so thankful to have met such a wonderful man. Yes, Portuguese men are very handsome, I feel very blessed,

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      April 17, 2019 at 10:47 pm

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    M Wilson

    December 30, 2018 at 1:12 pm

    I work with hundreds of Portuguese men who are entrepreneurs, they are very polite and respecteful. They are quite handsome, successful but reserved. They tend to be married to Portuguese ladies and have children. They are family oriented and I get to meet their wives and kids on a business environment. Unlike Italian or French men who are in love with themselves and think they are the center if the universe, Portuguese men are quite humble and polite. I enjoy working with Portuguese as they are quite easy going but professional!

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      December 30, 2018 at 2:06 pm

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    November 12, 2018 at 6:20 am

    I a black girl and I met a portuguese man online… We started all well, he is a divorced man and all was well.. We would spend more ours talking to each other. He would send me morning messages, songs,but I happened to be busy one time at work and couldn’t call him as usual. He went mute and whenever I would meet him he would give me a serious face. Was so scared and went mute to,but since I had something bothering me about him or let me say I loved I confronted him about it but he only told me he regrets going mute on me but still likes and cares. We don’t talk much but I feel he loves.

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      November 12, 2018 at 10:24 pm

      He has decided that he is not interested in speaking with you. This may be due to variety of reasons. His behaviors may be inappropriate, as he may be attempting to harm you with his actions. He may be in a relationship, which may be causing him to not speak with you. Determine what type of relationship you want to nourish. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Catherine!

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    September 27, 2018 at 2:53 am

    I recently met a Portuguese man online. He is divorced, but luckily no children. He loves to give complements and he sounds too good to be true sometimes. I never met a man so generous and so loving before. We also share the same values to family life and having children. I love to cook and clean and impress and welcoming family to my home. I’m friendly and loving…and i believe in giving nice complements to other people.
    Somehow i think this Portuguese guy will be the one for me…i feel crazy thinking this way, but we have so much in common, and i have never met a guy like him before.
    I hope everything goes good and well.

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      September 27, 2018 at 9:08 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. The two of you share a strong social and emotional relationship. Nourish this relationship by attempting to spend additional time with him in person. Perhaps you will find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Angel!

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    September 20, 2018 at 6:19 pm

    I recently met a portugues man and we like each other we felt the match from the begenning soon i will go to visite him and we will what gonna happen

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      September 20, 2018 at 9:37 pm

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    Bianca Zhu

    July 10, 2018 at 6:28 am

    I’m a chinese girl living in the UK and recently I met a Portuguese man by friend networking. He was polite, humorous and super respectful to my friend and I. He works with minimum payment in a workforce because he likes to change the place he lives quite often. His English is not so good, sometimes it takes time for us to understand each other. He lived in Spain for a few years and speaks Spanish, my Spanish is not very good, but I speak Italian fluently. To be honest it’s the first time for me to have interactions with Portugal. We had a lot of eye contacts at a café and we discovered that we share a lot of interests. The second day we hung out in the city and when we were leaving he hugged me so long and tightly. That wasn’t like any kind of feeling I’ve had before. We followed each other on every social media and we started texting afterwards. I found an opportunity to say “te quiero”, he then said he’s really happy because he feels the same. I really do love him but the only thing I’m concerned about is that, he is 9 years older than me, and plus my family is quite traditional, they might not accept a guy who doesn’t have a stable job or good education background (my dad is a professor so he especially cares about this).

    This afternoon I’m going to his work place to see him and I’m really excited… kinda nervous but looking forward to it.^^

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      July 11, 2018 at 7:15 pm

      The two of you share a social connection and may be interested in nourishing a relationship together. Do not allow the difference in age prevent you from establishing this relationship. However, decide if this relationship is viable. If you have a strong relationship relationship your parents, then you want to ensure that you respect their wishes. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Bianca!

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    January 2, 2018 at 11:11 pm

    I’m Canadian, my husband and partner for almost 11 years was born in the Azores.

    We have two beautiful girls and he took on my older two children as his own. He is a kind and gentle man. Funny and loving. He is loyal and committed, and someone I can count on during anything❤️

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      January 4, 2018 at 7:42 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Bay!

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    October 8, 2017 at 4:30 pm

    I’ve dated a guy from Portugal for 3 long years. He was divorced from his first marriage before I met him. And he dated some women too. I never get introduced to his family lolz
    He is cold as ice in a way that he won’t even care to celebrate holidays like Christmas. I’m Asian and Christmas is a big deal.
    I’ve noticed that he adds random women in his facebook but not me.
    He always put his phone facing down on the table. And I asked him why is that, he just said that it’s a habit. But to me, it means that he doesn’t want me to see anything that might pop on the phone screen. But I let that go.
    This summer he went to Portugal for his parents’ 50th wedding anniversary. And there he met a woman that’s his big brother’s step daughter. So they added each other on facebook and then I’ve seen that this lady “liked” his photos.
    I confronted him if something’s going on, and he said nothing’s going on between them. I let that passed.
    When he came back from Portugal, I saw a small empty jewelry box inside his suitcase. I freaked out! I accused him of giving that jewelry to the woman he just knew.
    Anyways, we broke up. It’s like he chose that woman over me.
    I’ve been so nice to him, doing everything in the house (we lived together for 1yr) and still that seemed to be not enough.

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      October 10, 2017 at 7:24 pm

      It sounds as though he was unwilling to give you the respect that you required. It is beneficial to your that this relationship has ended. Allow this relationship to fade from your memory. There is no reason for you to attempt to establish a relationship with him again. Remain positive as you move forward. Have a great day, Linn!

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    July 13, 2017 at 8:33 am

    I’m from Puerto Rico but reside in Canada and recently i met a portuguese man, but born here in Canada, so lets see what happens

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      July 13, 2017 at 8:26 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. Please feel free to share any future thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, April!

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    marianne leah

    June 18, 2017 at 3:36 am

    Me to, want to be with the kind caring louving gentle smart confident knowing Portugues stud that i liked, to many girls also like him and he always like to have emotions because He goes with all the people who like hi I’ve only been with ten people and that’s alittle he’s been with at least twenty people and i don’t like it that everyone likes to go out with the Portugal guy i like him

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      June 19, 2017 at 3:17 pm

      If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give the two of you chance to learn more about the goals and ideas that each other has. Have a great day, Marianne!

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    Namuli Veronica

    March 29, 2017 at 2:52 am

    I met a Portuguese guy from a dating site but trust me I fell in love with him just from our chats and the day we met first I was more impressed by his touches and little kisses. This doesn’t make me a b**** but they are wonderful

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      March 29, 2017 at 10:36 am

      It’s great that you have found the right person. I am sure that our other readers will appreciate getting your personal insight. Thanks for commenting, Namuli Veronica!

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      Lorrie Shantz

      June 2, 2018 at 11:46 pm

      I met a guy on line, he is Portuguese…we have been texting and emailing for 12 months. He tells me he really loves me, and I actually feel the same way. He is working on a pipeline in Mexico, and will not be finished for a few months yet. Do you think I’m being silly to believer we will be together after he’s done ? I really want to meet him..please I would love an email answer as I might not find this site again ! Thank you..

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        June 3, 2018 at 10:53 pm

        He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He has explained that he loves you. You may want to attempt to speak with him as often as possible, as this will strengthen your relationship. When he is finished with his work and you are able to meet with him, then attempt to spend time with him in person. Have a great day, Lorrie!

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    PatriciA freitas

    February 27, 2017 at 6:35 am

    Married to an aorian foe 43 yers. Ii believe portuges. Men are kind and. gentle. Men with a great sence of humor

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      February 27, 2017 at 12:59 pm

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    February 26, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    i ve been to portugual many times. the men there are worldly and well educated. people are tender and warm generally speaking quite different from spanish and italian as I lived in both countries. i met a portuguese man and i think i love him sadly the feeling only belongs to mine. it is a great country that can accomodate you a sweet family life. i was there alone and i felt the romance of lisboa each time but the solitudine in that atmosphere had torn me apart. i really wish those above girls find a great portuguese men and live in portugal to enjoy! we live only once go for it!

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      February 27, 2017 at 12:47 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Fuxia!

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    February 22, 2017 at 5:57 am

    Im a Asian traditional woman. The first time i met him – a Portuguese man- a feeling believe never have had before, then i visited him in Portugal. I really love this country and people. Portuguese men is confident, smart and knowledgeable. I wish i can date and marry a Portuguese man.

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      February 22, 2017 at 10:30 am

      You can do whatever you wan to do. Continue to spend time in the country and develop a relationship with someone. Take this time to determine what you want for your future and follow that path. Best of luck, Liss!

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    February 8, 2017 at 5:15 am

    I wish I can marry a Portuguese I pray always..

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      February 8, 2017 at 11:35 am

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and hopes. Feel free to share more of your desires in the future. Have a great day, Teena!

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    January 23, 2017 at 2:30 am

    I really love Portuguese. .I would like date one of them. actually I’m praying that God bless me with a good Portugal husband.

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      January 23, 2017 at 9:44 am

      Thank you for sharing your hopes and dreams. It is great to see that you have such a strong desire for your future relationships. You may be best served by going to Portugal and trying to meet someone there. Have a great day, Caroline!

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    Nikki mennen

    July 2, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    Please contact me ♥️

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      July 3, 2016 at 12:21 pm

      Thank you for your positive post!

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