Dating Polish Men
Ever fancied one of those strong Slavic men? In Sweden where I am from there are plenty of Poles who work in construction, so the “rough man” dream is spot on when it comes to many people’s idea of Polish men. And as the story goes there’s some truth to legends. Read on to find out more about Polish men and what to expect when dating them.
Whilst the church has lost some of its grip on society at large, people are generally brought up with the catholic faith in Poland. That does not mean their idea of catholicism hasn’t changed quite a bit with modern times – the waiting with sex till marriage does not seem to apply to everyone, but of course there are also those that follow the faith religiously. (No pun intended, but as I wrote it I realized it was quite funny. Not that I’m saying I’m funny, but you know…)
In Poland the right to abortion isn’t a given, nor are contraceptives, so make sure if you meet a man in Poland that you make it clear that you won’t have unprotected sex with him and bring the condoms yourself. Doctors can still deny women contraceptives there, even if it’s rare.
All in all, make sure you talk to him about religion to find out where he stands, whether you are catholic or not yourself. Whilst it’s not necessarily a topic for a first date you will want to know about his beliefs before you get serious, which you would with anyone you date.
They Give Gifts
It’s my understanding that Polish women expect their men to bring them gifts, especially flowers. I’ve heard of more than one Polish woman going crazy for the flowers. And Polish women are quite fierce, so chances are they have trained your man well.
Speaking to my sister just now who lives in Poland she confirmed that you see men and women everywhere carrying bouquets of flowers. Quite a nice tradition!
Polish men are, as a general rule, very polite. They will hold doors for you, give up their seat in the bus for you and so on.
When it comes to paying the bill a lot of Polish men will offer to pay it. However, it depends on how much money he is earning and it’s always polite to offer you pay your half yourself (unless he insisted you go to the most expensive restaurant in town). In Europe it’s much less common that men pick up the bill than what it is in America. Poland is, overall, more traditional than many other European countries though so some traditions, like men paying the bill, still live on to a certain extent.
Another reason men in Poland offer to pay at times is that women still have a bit of a harder place in the work market than in other countries. It’s been said that equality is still a far ways away. This, however, also means that women who fight for equality might very well insist on paying the bill and as a result a man might find it to be a sign of equality if he pays only half the bill. Each person will have their own thoughts on the matter, so just be sure to have a chat with him about it. It’s by far the easiest way of finding out where he stands.
As mentioned, some traditions have lived on longer in Poland than many other European countries. It’s still very much expected that a woman takes care of the household and look after the children. That said, things are changing and if you meet your man abroad he might very well have become influenced by the country he lives in now.
The Poles are known for enjoying a good time, both when going clubbing and when spending time with the family. Weddings last for three days, which sort of says it all.
Most Polish families are close knitted, so if you are dating a Pole it’s likely he introduces you to his family sooner rather than later, if he gets along with them well. The family often comes together to celebrate birthdays, names days and so on. Names days are a tradition where each day of the year has certain names associated with that day.
Polish women like to dress up and enchant their men, so if you date a Polish guy, be sure to have some sexy dresses in the wardrobe! Polish women are quite determined and whilst Polish men are expected to do the courting, the women will ensure the man they want pay attention to them in the first place.
By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery