16 Ways to Make Him Fall in Love With You

By on June 1, 2014

“She wasn’t exactly sure when it happened. Or even when it started. All she knew for sure was that right here and now, she was falling hard and she could only pray that he was feeling the same way.” -Nicholas Sparks. If that sounds like you’re love life right now, you’re probably wondering if there’s any way to guarantee he loves you back. But while there’s no way to make someone fall for you, there’s still some easy steps you can take to get one step closer. Take a look at these 16 ways to make him fall in love with you!


1. Always Be Yourself

If you’re putting on a show or being someone you’re not in the hopes that he will fall in love with you, you are only setting yourself up for failure. The second you slip out of what you think is ‘perfection’ for him, he will not only view you as a liar- but won’t love you anymore. He wants to know the real you. He wants you with all of your flaws. That’s why he picked you. So stay true yourself and always be who you are. You’d be surprised how much further that gets you than trying to be something you’re not- which leads us to tip number 2.


2. Be Different Than the Rest

If you’re too busy trying to be like everyone else, how can you be different from the pack? Men don’t want another plastic replica of everyone else. They want a lady who is unique. Be that girl, not another clone of the rest of the world. That will attract him and make him fall for you quicker than any item of clothing, piece of makeup, or false appreciation for video games.


3. Look Your Best

I’m not even going to try and sugarcoat this statement: men fall in love with what they see. So if you’re not looking your best, how far do you think that’s going to get you? Always put your best foot forward. This doesn’t mean you need to buy the most expensive clothing or be a size 0. Simply take care of yourself and wear clothes that accentuate your best features. Find out the things he loves and try to do them often. Your guy loves red lipstick? Go out and buy yourself a lovely shade of red and glide it across your lips- he’ll go crazy! Have a man that likes women in cute summer dresses? Buy a couple flowery, cute (and of course short) summer dresses to turn him on.


4. Don’t Be Easy

Have you ever heard that saying, “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” It’s kind of harsh; but it’s also ridiculously true. Men like a challenge, and being quick and easy isn’t going to make him fall for you- let alone respect you. And this doesn’t just mean not being easy when it comes to having sex. You can be easy in other ways, like saying yes to every date he asks you on or agreeing with everything he says. You need to be independent, have your own opinions, and make him work for it- from the first date to the first kiss and everything that follows. Just remember not to hold out too long, as this can be a big turn off too.


5. Be a Great Listener

Women aren’t the only ones who like to talk for long periods of time, get their feelings out, or simply have a nice conversation. Men like it too, and nothing makes someone feel worse than talking to someone who isn’t listening to them- which really implies they don’t care. If you want your man to fall in love with you, pay attention to him. Listen to him when he wants to talk, and be there for him- even when the conversations are repetetive or boring. He needs an ear to listen, you should be the one with open ears ready for whatever he needs to say. You never know, the next conversation might be the time he expresses his love for you.


6. Be Positive

Who wants to be around someone who is negative? Surely not your boyfriend. Positivity only sprouts one thing: more positivity. If you want a positive, happy relationship with only positive and happy outcomes, you need to be positive from the beginning. Even when the going gets rough, be positive for your man and for yourself. This positivity will ignite future positivity which could lead to love and marriage.


7. Be Sweet

Nothing makes a man fall in love faster than a nice, sweet, innocent girl (with a hidden naughty side, of course- but we will get to that later!). If you really want to suck him into your love spell, just be sweet- from the moment he meets you. Have a smile on your face and be as feminine and gentle as possible. He will love your sweet attitude and will naturally gravitate towards you. It’s just physics, ladies!

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8. Be Silly

Women always say it’s a huge plus if a man can make them laugh. Why wouldn’t it be the same for a man? Men LOVE it when a girl can make them smile, and it’s only extra brownie points if she can make him laugh too. Be that girl that he actually enjoys being around. Don’t be afraid to let your hair down and have some fun. Make silly comments and do silly things, without feeling embarrassed or ‘too hot’ to do fun things. That’s a huge turn off for guys! Even those corny jokes you think are stupid to say- don’t be afraid to blurt those out too. He will probably find it adorable and funny all at the same time. Major WIN!



9. Be Trustworthy

You know what breaks a relationship up the quickest? A lack of trust. Trust (along with communication) are the stepping stones that make up the perfect relationship. And not just a perfect one, a long lasting one. You won’t get him to fall in love with you if you’re constantly insecure, asking him where he is at every time he leaves the house or accusing him of being with another woman just because he said ‘Hello’. Be secure in yourself and have faith in your partner. It really does work wonders, and you won’t believe how strong it will make your relationship.


10. Give Him Space

This goes hand in hand with tip number 9. You need to trust him enough to give him some personal space. After all, being around someone too much is never a good thing. Everyone needs their personal time- even your man. Let him go out with his buddies and have a good time. Let him stay home and get caught up on his work every once and awhile. Give him some space, and you’ll notice a stronger relationship. You will not only prove to him that you trust him, but also give his mind some relaxed time where he can let loose.


11. Be Supportive

When a man has a bad day, you know what he wants to come home to? A woman who will be positive, encouraging, and supportive. Even when the hard time comes, he needs his lady by his side no matter what. Show him that you are indeed that woman and he won’t be able to resist falling for you.


12. Let Him Be the Hero

It is in every man’s nature to want to be the hero. They want to be the strong protector that can do anything for their woman, from opening that tough jar of mayonnaise to bringing home the bacon. You act like you’re a dainty, feminine girl that actually needs him to perform the masculine tasks, and you’ll have him in your grasp in no time (while also giving him a huge, much needed ego boost).


13. Flirt a Lot

Who doesn’t love to be flirted with? A flirt, big or small, makes you feel special. It makes you feel wanted and needed, and most of all, attractive. Your man wants to be flirted with, whether it is the first date or the three hundred and third date. This not only makes him feel great about himself, but keeps the relationship spicy and romantic. Remember ladies: never stop doing the simple things that you did in the beginning of the relationship. That’s the best piece of advice for keeping a relationship alive. So when he tells that funny jokes, giggle and touch his arm like you did the first time. When he comes out wearing your favorite blue shirt, tell him how unbelievably handsome and muscular he looks. He needs this; and he will definitely appreciate it.


14. Keep Things Spicy

Yes, it’s time for the sex talk. Remember earlier when we made the, ‘wild in bed’ comment? Well, we meant it. Guys love this. They want a lady who can turn them on in the bedroom. If you’re not keeping things spicy and interesting, then he might get bored- and nobody wants that. Boredom only leads to two things: cheating and breakups. Try to switch things up often, whether it’s with a new outfit or a new candle, or something even freakier- it really depends on how crazy your man is and what he prefers. Ask him what kinds of things he’d like to try in the bedroom and surprise him with one of his fantasies. He will absolutely love this and won’t want to stop being with you; a little blend of lust and love.


15. Try New Things

It’s as simple as that: try new things often, in and out of the bedroom. In the bedroom, try out one of his fantasies, even if it isn’t in your comfort zone. You might find out you like it. But that’s not the only place you should be adventurous.

Let’s say your guy loves to scuba dive, but you’ve never tried it before. In fact, the thought of swimming around with fishes terrifies you. He assures you that it is tons of fun, and he will be right there next to you to guide you and protect you. With all of that reassurance, why not give it a try? You might discover a newfound love for scuba diving, and you did four great things: 1. You showed him that you are an adventurous woman who isn’t afraid to try new things. 2. You two now have something awesome you can do together often. 3. You showed him that he is your big, strong, powerful man, and by his side you can do anything. You trust him! 4. You want to explore things he likes, just because HE likes them. And that shows you really care about him, and he can’t help but admire that.

So the next time he wants to do something new and exciting, why not give it a shot?

16. Have Fun Together

This goes along with trying new things. But even if it’s something you’ve already done a million times before, HAVE FUN! Nobody wants to be stuck in a boring relationship, right? So keep things interesting and always have fun, whether you’re just playing video games on the couch together or going deep sea fishing. Being fun will keep you both happy and positive, which will only make the relationship grow tremendously.


It may seem like a challenge, but getting your man to say those three special words ‘I love you’ may be easier than you think. Just remember to keep a sweet, fun, and spontaneous attitude and always be yourself. Keep your trust and faith in your special someone and make him feel like the perfect guy he is. He won’t be able to resist you!


Ladies, what are some of the reasons why your man fell in love with you?


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    Matovu jacob

    April 14, 2020 at 1:56 pm

    Rili so cool

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      web admin

      April 15, 2020 at 2:41 pm

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

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    March 19, 2020 at 5:05 am

    hy….I’m Tayo well I’ve dated this guy for two years and two months we’ve been in and out of this relationship… but any time we breakup we still can’t stop seeing or talking to each other till we become official again we’ve been like that till last month which he broke up with me because according to him he doesn’t want to hurt me because of certain issue which I’m fully aware but even at that we re still seeing doing stuff and all…he told me I’m his muse because he writes songs but the main issue is that I sincerely and truly love me but if he keeps breaking up with me and I keep going back it really hurts cos he is someone I can’t let go because I have built so many memories with him and I can’t forget him that easily I don’t know what to do anymore.. I know deep down he cares for me but I don’t know how I can let him go because currently we are not dating but we are kind of together so please tell me what to do should I still stick with him till he fully comes back to me or I should let him go once and for all

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      web admin

      March 19, 2020 at 9:16 pm

      If you keep breaking up with each other, then it is unlikely that you will be able to get this relationship to work out. It will be extremely hard to get over him while you are still doing things with each other. In addition, there’s no reason for him to get back together if you are still kind of together. The best thing you could do is just end things for good. If you both decide you still miss each other and love each other after a few months of being apart, then it might be time to try the relationship again. Good luck!

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    Rachael Bengo

    March 17, 2020 at 7:47 am

    I love what you just wrote it an amazing work.I Have a quick question…its my first time to like someone or be in love. am not sure if he feels the same way. all i know is that his previous girlfriend broke his heart and he told me he does not want to love again when he noticed i have an interest in him. after our first day out out he told me to teach how to love again.we talk a lot with the guy.But my question is should i take the chance of teaching him how to love again? if yes how?

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      web admin

      March 17, 2020 at 8:53 pm

      Just go slowly! It sounds like he is aware that he will have a harder time because he was hurt so badly before, so he knows he needs to take it slow. The fact that he told you to teach him how to love again seems to indicate he is willing to learn how to love again because he is already falling for you. Just be yourself and always act in a way to earn his trust. The fact that he is even ready to open up his heart indicates you are already doing everything you need to get him to love you.

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    August 19, 2018 at 12:22 am

    Fantastic article, I have bookmarked this excellent website and may learn more later. keep up the great work!

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      web admin

      August 19, 2018 at 9:32 pm

      Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Love!

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      December 6, 2019 at 8:34 pm

      Same here!! Love ya babe

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      December 27, 2019 at 9:39 pm

      Hello…I recently just brokeup with my ex..and i met this cute charming guy..he’s 35 and am 21 I lied to him am 25 because I don’t want him to see me as a small girl which is not of the same level with him. We met through his female best friend which happens to be my friend, we’ve talking for 2wks now, now we planning on meeting tomorrow, but really not sure if he really likes me because I don’t wanna gt hurt for another time which have told him.. and I m not as sophisticated as he is which I have told him n he said he doesn’t mind. But the problem now is he has a baby mama which he often post telling me they are not together anymore..but they already lost thier son earlier this year, which is gonna b a year by March 2020,, but the lady keep using the death of his child to be with him. But I don’t wanna talk abt this iften so he won’t feel like am nt understanding, I only wanna be sweeet to him coz we just met and we planning on seeing each other tomorrow which m so very nervous abt. I feel sumtin for him but I dnt know if he feels the same. But m planning on playing the hard to get wen we see tomorrow coz it’s our first time of seeing

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        January 3, 2020 at 8:22 pm

        You should avoid playing hard to get when you see him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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    March 16, 2017 at 6:34 pm

    Have bin dating this guy for over 11 months now, av not met any of his family, anytime we meet we hardly talk about future, all we talk about is sex and all,tho I know most of his friends but i felt they are into this together, I love him so very much, I don’t know what to do, I tried letting him go but just can’t, he save some people’s number with my love,my boo n all but save my number with my name,I made him realized he means d world to me but still don’t understand him,but he’s always jealous, I can’t talk to any other man,am nor free,I can’t go out with friends, I think he doesn’t trust me. Pls what do u think I can do…IRS really hurting me

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      web admin

      March 18, 2017 at 12:20 am

      Speak with him about these other phone numbers. You may be one of his romantic partners. If you are comfortable with that, then realize that he may have stronger feelings for someone else. Try to learn about his goals with your relationship. If you believe that he does not love you the way that you love him, then think about the future of your relationship. Good luck, Lamzy!

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    February 3, 2017 at 1:29 am

    hi am recently dating a guy for a month now,he always claims he loves me ,but natin shows he does
    sometimes he talk about how he and her ex spent love together ,how he treated her and how he keep on buying her gift ,but in my case he does not do that to me and it really hurt me
    if I tell him how I feel he will say is a matter of time so shd give him time,
    we don’t spend enough time together too
    but I love him and getting so hurt
    pls help me

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      web admin

      February 3, 2017 at 11:38 am

      His mind is on his ex. Speak directly with him about your concerns regarding his feelings about his ex. It is clear that he is more interested in speaking with her at this time. Perhaps give him the space he needs and allow him to fade from your life. He needs time to allow his ex to fade from his life before he should start a relationship. Best of luck, Linda!

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    January 22, 2017 at 7:25 am

    Well Im currently in a relationship with a 26 year old and Im 16. I love this guy and recently found out that he has another girl he refers to as gist girlfriend. I found this by a friend and when i asked him he denied everything. How do i me sure he doesnt leave me and find outt whether he loves me. Because he doesnt telk me he loves me these days and we chat less and he has never bought me q gift or told me about his family or introduced me to his friends but we have been dating for 4 months now . My bestfriend suggested i broke up with him but i love him

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      web admin

      January 22, 2017 at 4:49 pm

      If he has not introduced you to his family after four months and rarely says he loves you, then he does not love you like you love him. If he hasn’t started to fall for you more by now, he isn’t going to. He is already with someone else, and the age difference does not help matters any. Breaj up with him now because you will only become more emotionally hurt the longer you wait.

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    January 17, 2017 at 3:49 am

    I have a crush on my family frnd relAtive.from first day we talk like close frnds he suggest me and he always told me to not change but one day he told me he like someone else and she is getting married so he is feeling bad it is a top secret he won’t tell anyone then I ask his uncle then his uncle said that the girl was in a relationship and she is getting married very soon then I think why he lied to me well I flirt with him and he was enjoying it and indirectly he also do that.i want to know how I will be sure we chat in texts

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      web admin

      January 17, 2017 at 10:32 am

      If this person is a family friend and not a relative, then there is no reason for you to not try to begin a relationship with him. Text him and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Learn about his ideas and hopes as well. You two will become closer as time progresses. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future. Best of luck, Deboshree!

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    December 27, 2016 at 10:14 am


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      December 27, 2016 at 10:53 am


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    December 27, 2016 at 10:11 am

    hi so i have a crush with my friend and he know that we talk like a couple but never asked me for a date ; but he got jealous when i talk with other man !! but i can’t get it if he wat me or no ? and i try to stop myself to text him like a bf but i couldn’t so please what shall i do i’m lost

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      web admin

      December 27, 2016 at 10:55 am

      If he gets jealous when you talk to other men, then it sounds like he likes on some level. He may be unwilling or uninterested in having a relationship now, or he may just think that you guys would not be an ideal match. Whatever the case, it does sound like he has some romantic feelings for you. Keep texting him, try flirting a little bit and see if he will make a move. Best of luck, Tama!

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        December 6, 2019 at 8:32 pm

        Good cuz dat man is out his mind

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    November 1, 2016 at 10:30 am

    Hi, i met this guy two years ago on October 27, 2014 we dated for 3-4 days because he said that he couldn’t meet my mom. Right before we started talking i told him that i had an issue with my mom a couple months earlier. he said it was cool. but on the third day he said that he didn’t want to date me no more because he couldn’t meet my mom. we started talking afterwards, we did things that a normal couple would do kiss go to each others house and even play around with each other. but since i moved we just stop hanging with each other like we used to don’t get me wrong we still text. and i still kind of have feelings for him he knows because i tell him all the time how i feel about him. its just that he’s in a relationship and i need help on trying to date him again. what should i do now.

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      web admin

      November 1, 2016 at 4:56 pm

      If he is in a relationship, then it would be most of you to stop attempting to develop a relationship with him. Remain his friend and care for him, as there is nothing wrong with that. You should not attempt to damage his current relationship. Doing so will only bring back pain and suffering toward you. Most importantly, you will be hurting an innocent person because of your personal desires. Take this time to look inward and determine what you need for yourself. Have a great day, Dominique!

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    October 17, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    Oh yeah I know that the page is already flooded with comments and i’m actually desperate for some suggestion.
    So there is this guy who happens to be my girl best friend’s guy bestfriend. Myself, that guy, the girl and her guy are more like a family. Others pull my leg that me and that guy are going on, though we are not. But I madly fell for him. We flirt a lot. But then once mentioned that im like a sister to him. I told him to stop telling so and we still do flirt. If i tell him that i like him and he doesnt, i’d break this bond. But i badly want to know. What do i do?

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      web admin

      October 18, 2016 at 9:41 am

      Perhaps you can have your friend or her boyfriend find out for you. You could also just tell him how you feel and make sure to emphasize that you do not want your friendship to change at all if the answer is no. He may just view you as a good friend, but you will never find out for sure unless you tell him. Often, the best relationships are based on friendships, so you could be in for an amazing relationship if he is interested. Best of luck, Caroline!

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    October 6, 2016 at 12:15 am

    Thanks alot,dis rilly helped

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      web admin

      October 6, 2016 at 9:14 am

      You are welcome! I am happy to hear that we could help you out. If you liked this article, we have a number of other articles like it on Her Interest. Make sure to check them out if you have the time. Thanks for commenting!

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    October 1, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    I hav this guy in my class he’s been telling me he loves me bt I was. Ignoring him bt now he’s been so nice n we talk he leistes n I listens to him too I’m staring to fall for him badly and he stil says he loves me now I dnt knw wat to do must I call him n tell him I love him too

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      web admin

      October 1, 2016 at 3:06 pm

      Just call him and ask him out! You already know that he is completely infatuated with you, so go for it! If you hold off too long on making a move, he may think you are rejecting him and not interested–and you don’t want that to happen! Tell him how you feel and ask him out on a date. Good luck, Fikile!

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    Anjana Seira

    September 5, 2016 at 1:05 pm

    Hey, there! I’ve started going to college a month ago. There’s a guy in my class I love. We started talking to each other on the first week itself. He’s very sweet and smart. He’s a gentleman. His heart was broken two years ago when he had to break up with the girl he loved more than he loved himself. He is adamant that he would never be in a relationship or love another girl ever again. I told him that I was in love with him. But he told me that he could only think of me as his best friend and that it doesn’t have anything to do with me, and everything to do with the fact that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. He has a lot of troubles and issues. I do too. He always listens to me. I love him so much. What should I do?

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      web admin

      September 6, 2016 at 7:53 am

      There is nothing that you can do. He is either letting you down easy, or he really can’t be in a relationship now and would like you otherwise. Whatever the case, all you can do is stay friends with him and hope that things change. If it is too stressful to try to be friends with someone that you want more with, then you can always just move on. There is no guarantee that he will ever want a relationship with you, or it could be a long time in the future, so you may not want to wait around. Your only option now is to either remain friends or move on. What you do is entirely up to you and what you can handle emotionally. Good luck, Anjana Seira!

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