Will He Come Back?

By on January 11, 2016






A breakup is incredibly difficult on both parties. The two of you are probably hurting, no matter who did the breaking up. One of the biggest thoughts running through your head is probably: will he come back? This is a question only time will answer, but we’re going to help your thought process a bit. We have a list of some of the main reasons a man may come back, a few questions to ask yourself to decide whether or not there is a chance of his returning, and what to do with yourself while you wait.

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Reasons He May Come Back

  1. He Misses You

The biggest reason anyone goes back to their ex is that they genuinely miss this person. They miss their smile, their personality, the fun the two of you had together; they miss everything about you. If he really misses you, he is going to come back. That’s just a fact of life. And if you leave the line of communication open, you will be hearing from him sooner or later.

  1. He Has Changed

If the two of you broke up because of something he was doing or a way he was acting, he will most likely return when these things have been rectified. For instance: if you were tired of him smoking cigarettes and he wouldn’t stop (even though promising for weeks that he would!), you may opt to leave him. At this point he will realize how much the relationship means to him and finally cut the bad habit. When it’s over, he might ask you out on a ‘smoke-free’ date; a big surprise for you, he’s actually given up the cigarettes just for you.

  1. He Regrets Breaking Up

On the other hand, if your ex-boyfriend broke up with you (for whatever reason), he may realize it was a mistake a few days or weeks down the road. This is rather common, as you know how the old saying goes: you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. If he has lost you and regrets breaking up with you he will undoubtedly make an effort to return.

  1. He Misses the Sex

Okay, let’s just be honest: we all have needs. Especially men. If the two of you have broken up and he isn’t getting any action between the sheets, he may return to you for some good old fashion loving. In this situation I advise you to run for the hills; it has nothing to do with him missing you or wanting to be with you again, he simply wants to ‘get some’. Not cool!

  1. He Doesn’t Want to be Alone

Some people crave companionship and can’t stand being alone; even the thought of being alone drives them wild! If your guy is the type that loves to be in a relationship and hates to be alone, he may come back just to rekindle the companionship. It doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to be with YOU, he just wants to be with SOMEONE. So be careful with this reason!

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Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Did the relationship end on bad terms?

Were the two of you fighting excessively before the breakup occurred? Was there some kind of terrible event- perhaps cheating- that led to the breakup? If your relationship ended on bad terms, it’s probably best to leave the relationship in the past. Don’t worry about whether he will come back or not- if the relationship was that bad, it’s time to move on. You’re wasting not only your time, but your energy and emotions on something that probably won’t work in the future either.

  1. Is he mad at you about something?

Does your ex-boyfriend have something to be mad about? Did you do something to him or say something that has seriously pissed him off, so bad that the two of you broke up? Then I hate to say it, but he’s probably not coming back. In this particular situation it is YOU that will have to do the reaching out and rectifying. Why on earth would he make the effort when it is essentially your fault (not entirely of course, breakups are almost never one-sided)? He won’t come back when he’s mad. If you want him, apologize and take it from there.

  1. Is he ignoring you?

Okay, so, if the man loves you he isn’t going to ignore you. He may not be quick and eager to answer your every message, but he certainly isn’t going to leave you hanging for days- unless of course he is DONE with you and has no intention of coming back. So ask yourself this question: is he ignoring you? Or is he responding? Even a tiny response is a sign that he may still be interested. Don’t bombard him with text messages or calls though; be calm and in control, which we talk more about in the “What You Should Do” section.

  1. Does it seem like he misses you?

You can tell when someone misses you: they make an effort to talk back, they send you little cute emoticons, they just smile a little when they see you in public (although they probably try to hide it). He may also be keeping the things you’ve given him over the course of the relationship instead of throwing them away. He’s probably STILL talking about you to his friends and family members. If there’s a definite sign he is missing you, then he’s probably going to come back and try to fix the relationship.

  1. Is he seeing anyone else?

This one is the kicker. Yes, sometimes people try to date someone else quickly to help get rid of feelings for someone else (the good old ‘rebound’), but most people will stay away from the dating scene for quite some time after a breakup. If he isn’t seeing anyone or even making an effort, he is either thinking about getting together with you or trying to work on himself before he takes the next step with someone else. Only time will tell on this one!

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What You Should Do

  1. Don’t Be Too Eager

Whether he broke up with you or you broke up with him, DO NOT BE TOO EAGER. Don’t bombard him with text messages and phone calls. If he texts you, don’t rush to text him back within ten seconds. You don’t want to appear desperate and you certainly don’t want him to think he has you wrapped around his finger. I’m not saying to keep the man hanging for days without a response, but keep your cool. Being relaxed and casual and not too eager is a lot more appealing to men than a woman who appears clingy and needy.

  1. Take Time For Yourself

The best advice anyone will give you after a breakup is to take time for yourself. Do all the things you love to do and work on those not-so-great parts about yourself that you’d like to change. Make yourself happy and confident, in whatever way possible. Don’t worry about finding another man right away and don’t worry about pleasing everyone around you. A breakup is difficult, so take the time to reflect and fix anything that may be wrong in your life. And of course, go out and have fun with your best gal pals; there is no better medicine than laughter, right?

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  1. Be Charming and Seductive

When you are done taking time on yourself and you’ve done enough casual talking with this ex-boyfriend and you’re ready to kick it up a notch, remember to be in control of yourself. You may be extremely excited that the two of you are chatting it up and even being a little flirty, but don’t let that show! You need to be charming and seductive; make him WANT you. Make him realize what he has lost and make him work to get you back. As we mentioned earlier, don’t be eager or clingy; be the woman of his dreams, the woman he will do anything to be with again. Running back into his arms certainly won’t change anything and you will probably end up in a breakup again!

  1. Don’t Rush In to Anything

I know, I know; the last thing you want to do is WAIT when you’re talking to your ex-boyfriend about getting back together. But ladies, rushing back into a relationship with your ex is a big mistake. Take things slow! Make him work for it. And when you do decide to start dating again, don’t make it too serious. Have fun with each other and enjoy each others company; the rest will follow.

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So yes, breakups are hard. They are ultimately heartbreaking and you will wonder if your ex will come back. While time is the ONLY way to tell, these tips will certainly help you along the way.

Have you been in a breakup? Did your ex-boyfriend come back to you, or did you part ways and start dating other people? If he came back, why did he come back? Did the relationship last? Let us in on ALL the juicy details!





278 Comments

  1. Alicia

    March 23, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    My ex and I were fresh into dating and we were together for about a month. It happened very fast and just last week he broke it off cause we moved too fast into the relationship and he has commitment issues as we talked about it when we decided to take a step back. He told me he wants to slow it down and go back to dating to get to know each other better. Now he also said that he doesn’t want to lose me and that he wants to make things work but he’s not sure if he’s ready for a commitment now. He’s 29 and an introvert and doesn’t txt alot. Since then he hasn’t initiated contact, only if I call or txt then he will reply or answer. Its been almost a week since we seen each other last which is weird since we use to see each other 3 times a week. And I miss him a lot. I called him 2 days ago but we didn’t chat about what’s going on between us, just casual talk and then at the end of the conversation, he said he will see me soon… I don’t want to play games but I’m confused where we stand right now. My best option is that I give him space but will he come around since we ended on a good note or should I just cut my losses now? Actions speak louder than words but I’m hoping he will contact me on his own and I’m not sure if he will. I don’t want to chase him either.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 24, 2017 at 9:01 am

      It sounds like he realized that he was not interested in a commitment. He realized that things were moving too fast and that the relationship was growing closer, so he decided that he needed to end things before that commitment happened. It may be best to just cut your losses. Unless he changes his mind and decides that he wants a relationship, he will never be able to be there for you the way that you want him to be.

  2. Sophia

    March 23, 2017 at 3:32 am

    Hello,

    Me and my ex was together for 6 months. We broke up a week ago. It wasn’t the most amazing relationship I have ever been in. We was great to each other and the bestest of friends. He would always love to show me off to everyone. Everything was going fine, things was great! We hadn’t little tiffs now and again but never a full blown argument. We had a massive argument a week ago about pointless things and one thing lead to another things was said in both parties. Ever since we have been talking about the relationship but it’s always me texting him first. Last night we spoke and he told me he really does love me, the relationship was the best and everything was good and that he is going to miss being my boyfriend. He told me he isn’t mentally and emotionally okay to be in the relationship with me. Would he ever come back if I left him alone or is this relationship better to be left in the past.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 23, 2017 at 7:53 am

      Your best chance of getting him back is to leave him alone and give him space. He may just need time to grow as a person and become more stable. It seems like he is not interested in having a relationship again right now, so your only option is to wait, give him space and see what happens. Good luck, Sophia!

  3. Broken.

    March 23, 2017 at 12:07 am

    My ex for 6yrs told me he didnt want to b in a realtionship and didnt luv me an will not admit tht our rocky 6yrs meant something, he says we can be friends (which i said i didnt want that)
    He says he wants to be alone and focus on his studies (I no thats a lie as he has been studyin for awhile an we were fine an happy!)
    Although later he says i didnt make an effort to see him an move near him were he is studying, an i was insecure!
    I feel he is punishing me as he thinks i never made the effort – which i did do!
    He has left b4 as he was stressed an in the army at the time an he came back a year later
    I feel when he is confused an has had enough he uses the i want to be alone and dont love you anymore rountine to push me away an says horrible things, he has always had a problem with his emtions, and at least i sort counselling to help our realtionship.
    I’m realllly upset an just want him back, he was my rock and made be happy when i was blue. i told him this crying that work and home hasnt been good an now he jus leaves me when i need him the most.
    We planned to live together, have kids an later maybe marriage.
    He then unblocks me from whats app and says I will be fine (smiley face)
    I just dont understand what he is thinking when he is like this

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 23, 2017 at 7:49 am

      It looks like he decided to move on and is going to be single for a while. No matter what his real reason was, the results are the same. He no longer wants to be in the relationship, and the best thing that you can do is move on and try to find someone who is more compatible with you. It is never easy moving on after a long-term relationship ends, but you can do it. Focus on yourself and healing for now. In a few months, you will be in a better place to decide what your next move will be.

  4. Amy

    March 22, 2017 at 12:42 am

    My bf of 6yrs..told me in february that he dosent want to be with me, he dosent love me and left me confused an said i didnt do anything for the break up. Although then started bringing up past arguements and said i didnt make the effort to see him or move to be with him. He says he wants to be alone and we can be friends.(which i said i didnt want he is my first love and always will, i couldnt now change to being friends)
    He was really cold with his attitude and said he focusing on his studies. But he been studyin for awhile and we were together an doing fine we were happy! We planned to try for a baby get a house together an marriage possibly later.

    However when i cried an said i needed him as im goin though things at home an work, and now he doing this i will not be able to cope without him. He unblocked me from social media (whats app), and text after our chat saying i will be fine (smiley face)
    I feel like he punishing me as he feels i didnt make more of an effort to support him, which i did and now after spending NY in January how he can just wake up month later and change his mind he dosent luv me no more! And will not admit to himself that our 6yrs hard years through up/downs meant something to him.
    He done this before left saying he needed space and came back a year later.
    I Feel when he stressed etc he puts this wall up pushes me out shows no emotion and says these things.

    I have had counselling an worked on myself etc. He will not admit he has issues with his emtions.

    I missss him sooo much,cry every night, he was my rock and he had his moments but we made it through, an i no when can start again – but he will not reason with me right now 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 22, 2017 at 9:50 am

      If he will not reason with you and does not want to come back, there is nothing that you can really do at the moment. For some reason, he has decided that he wants to move on. He has done this in the past, so it may be that this break up was just dragged on for longer than necessary. It is never easy getting over a first love, but it is possible. Even if he wanted to come back in the future, I would be very hesitant about taking him back. You have already spent six years with him, and he continues to break up with you periodically without moving the relationship forward in any meaningful way. Even if you were to get back together, it could end up just being a waste of time and another way of delaying the inevitable final break up.

      • Amy

        March 23, 2017 at 12:16 am

        Do i give him time the NC rule! I’am suffering with depression i do not talk to family, i dislike work..this break up as hit me really hard and at the wrong time..I want him back, he being unreasonable an not fair!

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 23, 2017 at 7:02 am

          You should let him know that you are doing the no contact rule to give him space. The only chance you have of him coming back is if you give him space for a while, so this is your best option. After that, the next step is up to him. Good luck, Amy!

  5. Ash

    March 21, 2017 at 8:32 pm

    I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 months, i know it sounds dumb but we were like best friends and spent every moment together and i like him alot!
    We both told eachother how happy we are and glad that weve found one another, but 2 wks ago i wanted to talk about how we were seeming like friends more than lovers and he just said he needed some time to himself, he started ignoring me and wouldnt talk to me for a week. After the week he came over we talked and said he felt like he needed time to work on himself, but wants to still work it out with me cause we like eachother, so we tried working on it, we hung out 3x but he seemed distant idk why. He works from 7am-6pm every day and always comes home to play video games…i decided we talk again and he came over and basically said that he doesnt see a future with us and that he doesnt even think he likes me anymore..in a process of 1 week, not talking to anyone eles just at work and video games, and he says that to me. im heartbroken cause i want us to give it a shot, we never really had problems, we have alot in common and i think hes still a great guy. He never talks to any of his ex’s but he told me he still wants to be friends with me cause he thinks im a great person and still cares. But we havent really talked since he broke up with me….ive been giving him time but i miss him alot, i know i dont need this in my life but, my situation im alone. I dont talk to my family or close friends anymore and i miss him alot, all the great memories we had, i just dont understand how after a week he says theres no future…i want him back so bad..do i just give it a week or 2 to talk to him? or what

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 22, 2017 at 9:33 am

      I would give it a week or two before you try to talk to him. It sounds like there isn’t another person or another major problem causing the split; he just feels like you are not the right person for him. Because of this, he pulled away, played video games and stopped paying attention to you. From the sound of it, he is probably not going to change his mind. Hopefully, giving him a couple of weeks to think about things will make him realize that you are right for him and he does want to be with you. This may not happen, but he is more likely to come back if you give him space than if you try to contact him right away. Give him space and hope for the best–for the moment, that is all that you can really do to get him back. Good luck, Ash!

  6. Stacey

    March 21, 2017 at 10:10 am

    My ex broke up with me last week. We broke up because I wanted to spend more time with him before he went away on holiday, we argued and things got heated and he ended it. Ever since we have been arguing but he keeps telling me he loves me and going to miss me but he can’t be in the relationship. This was our first proper argument and haven’t had one before. Things was going fine and we had plans for a holiday. Today is the first day I haven’t made contact with him even though he won’t delete me or block me on any social media even though I told him too. What do I do!

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 21, 2017 at 1:51 pm

      Allow him to fade from your life. It is clear that he is not interested in being in a relationship with you at this time. He claims to love you, but he is unwilling to share himself with you. You do not need someone like that in your life. Instead, move on from him. Count this break up as a blessing. You can take this time to develop your understanding of yourself or you can attempt to develop a new relationship. Have a great day, Stacey!

  7. Maria

    March 20, 2017 at 10:33 am

    My BF and i were together for 1 year and a month he broke up with me ou of nowhere he didnt even change his attitude before to broke up with me.. our relationship was great no fights or something we were very cheesy with eachother… he told me he wanted to broke up with me because has too much stress, finishing college and trying to get a job after, he said that loves me so much and will always love me but that cant give me all that i need so now he is not ready for a relationship… after 10 days of the break up i txt him and i told him i missed him and love him he said he loves me a lot abd miss me too and hope that im ok he say goodbye saying “know that i will always love you baby.. i love you so much❤️” i dont know what to do i really miss him and i want to give him space to but i don’t understand why he push me away please help me i dont want to lose my hopes of getting back

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 20, 2017 at 4:22 pm

      He may not be able to be in a relationship with you at this time. It may be best for you to allow him to fade from your life at this time. If he wants to develop a relationship with you again in the future and you want to to the same, then speak with him when he reaches out to you. You can not allow yourself to be controlled by your desire to be in a relationship with him. Live your own life. Have a great day, Maria!

  8. Amanda Caiola

    March 18, 2017 at 5:44 am

    My ex and I of 9 years broke up in November. We have a 5 yr old together. He said he just didnt have that “connection” with me anymore. Soon after he broke it off with me, he began “seeing” this girl who is ten yrs younger than him. Hes 32 shes 22. They grew extremely close by the end of december if you know what I mean. He talks about me constantly to his sister and brings me up everyday. He even stalks my instagram and screen shots things i put up and sends it to his sister asking what it may be about. It is now March and we only communicate for our son but its killing me bc I miss him and he left me for someone younger. I thought she was a rebound but it seems all hunckydory. His sister said trust me its not all that cracked up to be. I cant believe our 9 yr relationship is over for good over some younger girl who doesnt even have a car, doesnt go to school and is a total opposite of me.

    I miss our family and I just want it to work.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2017 at 6:15 pm

      Continue to develop your relationship with his sister. Perhaps bring her over to spend time with you and your son. Your ex may want to come back to you in the future, but you may not want to be with him again. If he does attempt to come back, then be clear about your thoughts and feelings. Keep your head up and focus on your child at this time. Best of luck, Amanda!

  9. Lauren Taylor

    March 15, 2017 at 11:27 am

    Hi! My BF and I have been together this go around for 3 years. He was my first love – he’ll always be the one I’ll Love until I die. We were together 2x as teenagers, again when I was 31 (we both were married) and then again at 39 – I’m now 42 (he was in process of divorce and I left my husband to be with him – finally). This relationship has been difficult! There’s no doubt about loving one another. We keep coming back for a reason. His ex wife has been something else! She takes nearly half his paycheck for alimony and child support. His alimony ends January 2018. He has been near homeless because of her. He’s a stubborn man and I know he feels defeated. We live 88 mikes apart… his job is there, mine her e and my young daughter’a school and friends/family. He has a very stressful job as do I. The distance is killing me! I miss him dearly. We don’t get to talk much because of how busy he is. I’m emotional, and super sensitive. I know if we lived closer or together things would be better because we’d actually see one another and talk to one another. He hates the phone as he’s on it all day for work. We’all see one another once a week to every few weeks. I HATE it!! I miss him dearly! He’s told me he wants to marry me. And I want to marry him. Here’s the problem… he has 3 older kids (15, 19, 20). The 19 year old lives with him, his gf and their baby. His son that lives with him, I feel, is trying to sabotage our relationship because it’s taking away drom
    Him. He gets to see his dad every day. I don’t. I saw a recent post on twitter that said his son can’t stand me. I thought he and I had a very special bond, one in that he was like the son I never had. I’ve done a lot for his kids! Seeing that post was crazy hurtful! His son basically stated that he hates it “when his dad and his “girlfriend” get along because then he’s shit to his dad, I can’t f&$,@”g stand her”. I was devastated to see that. I brought it up to his son, he asked me not to show his dad because it would make trouble for him. I discussed it with his dad because it very much hurt. Initially my bf was receptive then apparently he and his son talked and now my BF wants time and space to think about what he wants. Says he’s single and that he’ll be in touch when he’s ready. I see on fb or whatever that they seem to be doing what they normally do. How did this get turned on me. I told my BF that there need to be boundaries on every aspect. My BF’a mom
    Has been in a relationship and I know she’s gotten some flack from him but he’s not coming between them. I feel
    He’s a father now, in his own relationship, that should be his focus. I’ve tried to be there whenever he needed something and now I feel like I will never do another thing for him. And that this just ended my relationship with his dad. He said he wanted his dad happy and then pulled this. Idk what to do. I’m trying to leave my I guess ex-BF? Alone but I feel so shut out. I’ve texted him a few times and I’m trying so damn hard not to. Any advice?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2017 at 4:25 pm

      If you are shut out, then allow the relationship to fade. Move on and focus on your own life. Look inward and determine what you want for your future. You do not need the emotional stress of your current situation. Keep your head up and remain positive. Best of luck, Lauren!

  10. Hyvtal

    March 4, 2017 at 12:31 am

    My boyfriend of 13 months left me last night. We had been fighting over money because I had left my job in November and I still hadn’t found anything and its now March. He believes I havent been trying and said he is leaving me because he doesn’t think I’m ever going to change. He had started to become really nasty about it in December, calling me lazy and everything I did seemed to be annoying to him. We’ve been living together since September and my mental health seemed to decline after losing my job because I felt like a failure and as time went on I seemed to get worse. He said I’m impossible to live with…I dont know what to do now. He was my life, and I dont feel at home anymore in this flat…I want him to come back to me. I’ve promised I’d try harder but he said he doesnt believe me and I’m not the person he fell in love with. He said he still loves me but he cant live here, he cant deal with me and he doesnt want to talk to me again. He said he’s taking his name off the tenancy on monday and has already moved back in with his parents 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 4, 2017 at 10:15 am

      If he was calling you lazy and being nasty to you, it does not seem like he was helping your mental health condition. Part of the reason you may have felt like a failure was because he made you feel like a failure. Instead of supporting you and sticking with you, he became mean and pushed you away. While it is never easy recovering after a break up, it may be for the best. You have put up with emotional abuse because you loved him, and he ended up leaving him. The best thing that you can do is move on and start rebuilding your life. It may take a few months for the healing to start, but you will be able to recover.

  11. Pria

    March 2, 2017 at 6:31 pm

    I met a guy on a dating site 3 months ago. We exchanged e mails and then exchanged phone no and later started exchanging text messages . He was sweet and did not rush me into phone conversation or meeting .. few weeks after daily text we decided to meet up . We met and had a coffee , later we hung out and kissed .. it did not feel weird because we already had connection . The next day after the first date we started exchanging text again . Valentine’s Day came and he wished me and wanted to celebrate with me but i was working so he wanted to meet up on a weekend . We met and had lunch and had great time . It was still early so he asked me if I wanted to do anything else and we decided to go watch a movie . He did not tell me but bought the ticket for 50 shades .. I was ashamed but I did not want to look prude or uptight so went along with it .. but deep down the movie made me uncomfortable.. Anyway movie ended but both of us were a little strained .. we kissed and he dropped me off at my car .. all the way back home I felt like after the movie the connection felt weird .. I told him that and we started discussing what exactly happened and I stopped the discussion stating it is what it is .. for some reason he apparently got offended and did not text me for 2 days . I texted him and sort of apologized because I did not know how to react . So we sort of broke up but I almost begged him and so he continued sending me text but I felt it was forced on his end and not like before the warm loving texts .. so in a few days I couldn’t take the forced attempt on his end and broke off with him . I wasn’t angry I wished him luck and told him I was sad but that he had changed . he said he liked me and wished me good luck .. now I miss him and I feel I over reacted and don’t know how to proceed .. we did not fight and did not exchange bitter words and it was very amicable .. please help I want to rectify things with him . Do u think I have a chance ? Do u think he would come back

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 3, 2017 at 2:21 pm

      What exactly was his response when you told him that you were not comfortable with the film? If he is upset that you were uncomfortable, then you may be too different in your outlooks on the world to stay together. It is also possible that he just chose the film because he heard it was a romance that women liked and thought you would like it. If you have already explained what happened clearly, then you may have to just move on because it does not seem like the situation is going to improve much. If you never explained why you were uncomfortable and distant, explain it to him. He’d rather know the truth, and it would make a lot more sense to him than you suddenly becoming distant. From the sound of it, he felt awkward after the movie too, so he may not have realized exactly what it was about. Be open and honest with him and see what happens.

  12. Thapelo

    February 27, 2017 at 10:13 pm

    The father of my child just left me because we argue too much he said he is nolonger interested.in this relationship n not interested in fixing it..He said that he wants to be single n b left alone it was painfull because we have been through alot together he hasn’t been the perfect boyfriend but we were happy since I had the twins things started to fall apart is he gonna come back? Or is he gone for good

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 28, 2017 at 11:18 am

      He may come back because the two of you have a child together. Reach out to his family and to his friends. Try to get them to convince him to return to your and your child. If nothing else, then you can make sure that his family still wants to be in your life. This will give your child added security in the future. Best of luck, Thapelo!

      • Thapelo

        March 1, 2017 at 12:38 am

        Hi I took your advice and spoke to his sister n she said he loves me but maybe some space and time…He said that I’m putting too much pressure on him about the twins he told me that he come back when he is ready n not sure that he will come back but he loves me but 4 now doesn’t wanna b wit me he is suppose to bring the babies stuff today i don’t knw How to react or wat to say to him I don’t wanna b pushy or needy

        • web admin

          web admin

          March 1, 2017 at 9:13 am

          It looks like all you need to do is wait for a bit and let him come back to you. As long as you are not too pushy, it seems like he intends to return. Now, you just have to be patient and hope that everything will work out. Good luck, Thapelo!

  13. ProudMommy💕

    February 27, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    My ex just broke up with me 2wks ago we was together 13months. We argued a lot over the dumbest stuff that could easily be fixed. But when we was together everything was so perfect. We was so happy together and everything. We have a baby on the way she’ll be here march 25th .. I have two boys by someone else and he has a boy by someone else. His son calls me mom and my boys call him dad. We went through a lot of little break ups and he always came back. It only lasted 3days at the most. Now it’s been two weeks and he said he can’t do it anymore he’s tired of the fighting and arguing. He’s not happy with it anymore. So he moved out. He deleted me off everything Facebook Snapchat and IG. I tried to work it out 4x he didn’t want to. I tried texting and calling he don’t wanna talk to me bcus it’s hard on him. I know he loves me and misses me and my boys. He don’t wanna talk to me tell he is over me. He has not tried texting or calling not one time. I miss him so much. What do I do ? His family tells me when he’s done he’s really done. But what we had was so strong and everything. He said when the baby comes he only wants to keep it about her. When I tried texting and calling he would get mad at me bcus he would want me to just leave him alone.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 28, 2017 at 11:00 am

      You are in a difficult position. His family has explained that he is stubborn and he has explained his feeling to you. It is clear that he cares for your daughter, and her presence may cause him to return. It would be best if you reduce stress in your life at this time and care for your daughter. Allow him to reach out to you. You may want to tell his family that you would like him to reach out to you for your daughter. Best of luck, Proud Mommy!

  14. tk

    February 27, 2017 at 9:29 am

    My ex of 2.5 mths has broken up with me 1 mth ago, and just last week, I had remove all my stuff from his house. I know he still miss me and love me, but he being to clear headed to think we are not suitable and having hard time to get over too. Will he finally have a change of heart someday?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2017 at 1:01 pm

      He has made his feelings clear to you, and you have moved out. Your relationship has ended. It would be best for you to move on and look to the future. Allow your previous thoughts of him to fade into the past. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for the future. Have a great day, Tk!

  15. Mathilde

    February 26, 2017 at 12:31 pm

    My boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me 2 weeks ago. It was really unclear. He told me that he thought his feelings were not the same anymore and at the same time, he was telling me that he had never stayed with someone that long, that he had never loved someone that much, that our relationship was perfect, that I was perfect for him and that he will never find that anywhere else.

    I’m deeply shocked and I am torturing myself trying to figure out what happened. There was no sign that something was wrong, we had just celebrate our first year together, our mothers had just met (that was his request).

    I did not try to reach him and he did not either. Should I? He is really independent.

    He did not change his relationship’statut on Facebook (I know it doesn’t mean anything but still).

    Is there any advice you can give me? What can I do? Will he come back?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 26, 2017 at 2:56 pm

      He has made his feelings clear. You do not want to torture yourself with thoughts of him returning. He has chosen to leave you without giving you a reason. He is not someone that you want to waste your emotional thoughts with. Allow him to fade from your life. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want with your life. Remain positive as you move forward. Best of luck, Mathilde!

  16. Anon

    February 22, 2017 at 6:08 am

    I was with my ex for 6 and a half years and last march he broke up with me due to ‘not being happy’ he started dating someone new so did I, around June time until the middle of January he tried to get back with me, I went to a family wedding if his and told him there how i felt about him, he told me he still loved me wanted to settle down with me etc.. he had a car crash to which he rang me and he told me he loved me on the end of the phone call, that night he started seeing someone new, and now throwing it all over social media and in my face, I blocked and deleted him off everything I didn’t want to see it, he recently came over to my house unexpectedly, to tell me how happy he is in his new 4 week relationship and just kept asking me about my past relationship although he knew we weren’t together, I don’t know what to do

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 22, 2017 at 10:31 am

      Continue to break off communication. Explain to him that he is not invited to your house. He is in a relationship and he clearly is not interested in treating you will respect. Move on and allow thoughts of him to face. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Best of luck, Anon!

  17. Danielle

    February 21, 2017 at 11:01 am

    I was in a relationship with a guy for just over 2 years. It started out as just hanging out and of course hooking up.
    After a few months we decided it probably wouldn’t go anywhere and it was semi long distance (120 miles, we saw each other
    every single weekend though) so we kind of just stopped hanging out for a few weeks. We then met up a few times and hooked
    up again. After those times we decided we shouldn’t do that anymore, since we weren’t together. A month later I found out I
    was pregnant. He and his family are very religious, so we got back together and decided to give an actual relationship a go.
    It was blissful. We were so connected and in love. it was a very intense passion that we had for one another. He would always
    tell me how happy he was and how he was so happy god put me in his life. we were completely happy, and we wanted all of the same things in life.
    about 10 weeks later, when we had my first ultrasound,
    we found out that I had had a miscarriage, I was on a very strong birth control at the time and it had caused the pregnancy to
    not develop past the gestational sac. We were devastated but we were still so in love, so of course we stayed together and he
    was very supportive. Flash forward to a week after our 2 year anniversary and he called me up and said that he wasn’t happy and
    that he didn’t love me anymore and that the didn’t feel chemistry or a connection with me anymore. He then told me that he card
    about me much more than I could understand and that he really, really wanted it to work but he felt like he couldn’t make it
    work. He also told me that I was the best girlfriend that he’s ever had and that I’ve treated him better than anyone that he’s
    ever been with but he didn’t know if I was the person that he wanted to marry cause he feels like he would have asked me by now.
    He told me how happy he was and that he loved me right up until the break up, I’m talking that morning, he told me he loved me
    and to have a great day and to stay warm, and then that afternoon he broke up with me. Another thing was his family, they absolutely
    loved me and I loved them, but they did not like that I stayed at his house on the weekends because they considered it living together.
    His dad even told him a few months before we broke up that he needed to either break up with me or marry me or that I needed to sleep
    at their house when I was in town. He flat out told his father that breaking up was not an option. I told him that I would have no problem
    sleeping at his parents house because I didn’t want to force him in to asking me to marry him. he told me no, that he didn’t want me to do
    that. Now we haven’t talked in a little over 2 weeks. I feel as if he used his faith as a scape goat kind of. He told me it didn’t feel
    good, what we were doing, and I respected that, that’s why I offered to stay at his parents house and he said no. He also would periodically
    throughout the relationship tell me that we shouldn’t be having sex, which I respected as well, we sometimes went weeks without having sex
    and I never pushed him, because I respected his faith and the way that he was raised. I was even in his families pictures a week before he broke up with me.
    So now were broken up and a few of his family member reached out to me asking about the relationship. He apparently didn’t tell his family
    anything, just that we broke up. They all thought it was mutual, which makes me angry because I love his family. They also told me that they had hoped that he would have reached out to me by now.
    When we broke up he said we couldn’t be friends and hang out cause that would just lead to casual sex and that wouldn’t help either of us.
    But then he said when I move down there in 7 months for the job I already got cause we were planning our life together that he would help me
    look for an apartment and that if I ever wanted to talk to just call him. I also said I would get my own Netflix cause we shared, and he said
    No, you don’t have to. So I am just so confused. We even bought tickets to his cousins wedding in march in texas about 2 weeks before hand,
    and I bought a 200 dollar dress 3 days before, and he let me!! He hasn’t taken down any pictures of us or de-friended me.

    So now he is friending all sorts of girls on Fb and Instagram and my friends that live in his area are telling me that he is on Tinder.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 21, 2017 at 12:53 pm

      He has shared his feelings with you. He should have told you not to purchase anything for the wedding. Your relationship is over. You can still choose to go to the wedding. You can ask his cousin if she would mind if you brought someone else. Since he has broken up with you, he is probably looking to begin a relationship with someone else at this time. Allow him to drift from your thoughts and dreams. Have a great day, Danielle!

  18. emoschet

    February 19, 2017 at 7:44 pm

    A guy I dated for 3 months (unofficially) told me that he is not ready for a relationship and that he is not done meeting people. However, he told me I was the first person he “felt anything with” in over a year. We text every so often, but im the one who reaches out 90% of the time. Howver he has not responded to my text I sent a day ago. I also know he has been dating (I actually saw him on a date with another girl)

    Should I be hopeful he will come back to me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 20, 2017 at 10:32 am

      You should not wait for him to come back to you. There is no reason for you to torture yourself with thoughts of someone who is not interested in remaining loyal to you. You may have a relationship with him in the future. At this time, you should focus on yourself and live in the moment. Date other people or remain single, but do not attach your emotions to his actions. Best of luck, Emoschet!

  19. Jane

    February 17, 2017 at 6:23 pm

    My partner of 6yrs broke up with me nearly a month ago,he said he loved me with all his hear and i was his best friend in the whole world. But he needed time on his own.you haven’t lost me,we need each other. He went camping on his own for 4days,no contact.i msd him several times,no reply. I miss him so much,he will answer my msgs sometimes,he still says he misses me and loves me,he came to see me the other day,because i asked him,but it was just a big hug and he did little jobs for me. How can he spend 3wks on his ownand not want to see me. He promised we would catch up soon and go camping together on his next weekend off,which is 2wks away. I feel he just wants to be friends,but is trying not to hurt me. He keeps saying soon i promise,why won’t he tell me why he needs to be on his own,and will i get him back.jane

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 18, 2017 at 1:08 pm

      You may get him back or you may not. It is clear that he needs time to sort out his feelings. Your best option is to allow him to fade from your mind at this time. You do not want to torture yourself with thoughts him returning to you after two weeks to find that he has moved on. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future. Best of luck, Jane!

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