Will He Come Back?

By on January 11, 2016






A breakup is incredibly difficult on both parties. The two of you are probably hurting, no matter who did the breaking up. One of the biggest thoughts running through your head is probably: will he come back? This is a question only time will answer, but we’re going to help your thought process a bit. We have a list of some of the main reasons a man may come back, a few questions to ask yourself to decide whether or not there is a chance of his returning, and what to do with yourself while you wait.

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Reasons He May Come Back

  1. He Misses You

The biggest reason anyone goes back to their ex is that they genuinely miss this person. They miss their smile, their personality, the fun the two of you had together; they miss everything about you. If he really misses you, he is going to come back. That’s just a fact of life. And if you leave the line of communication open, you will be hearing from him sooner or later.

  1. He Has Changed

If the two of you broke up because of something he was doing or a way he was acting, he will most likely return when these things have been rectified. For instance: if you were tired of him smoking cigarettes and he wouldn’t stop (even though promising for weeks that he would!), you may opt to leave him. At this point he will realize how much the relationship means to him and finally cut the bad habit. When it’s over, he might ask you out on a ‘smoke-free’ date; a big surprise for you, he’s actually given up the cigarettes just for you.

  1. He Regrets Breaking Up

On the other hand, if your ex-boyfriend broke up with you (for whatever reason), he may realize it was a mistake a few days or weeks down the road. This is rather common, as you know how the old saying goes: you don’t know what you have until it’s gone. If he has lost you and regrets breaking up with you he will undoubtedly make an effort to return.

  1. He Misses the Sex

Okay, let’s just be honest: we all have needs. Especially men. If the two of you have broken up and he isn’t getting any action between the sheets, he may return to you for some good old fashion loving. In this situation I advise you to run for the hills; it has nothing to do with him missing you or wanting to be with you again, he simply wants to ‘get some’. Not cool!

  1. He Doesn’t Want to be Alone

Some people crave companionship and can’t stand being alone; even the thought of being alone drives them wild! If your guy is the type that loves to be in a relationship and hates to be alone, he may come back just to rekindle the companionship. It doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to be with YOU, he just wants to be with SOMEONE. So be careful with this reason!

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Questions to Ask Yourself

  1. Did the relationship end on bad terms?

Were the two of you fighting excessively before the breakup occurred? Was there some kind of terrible event- perhaps cheating- that led to the breakup? If your relationship ended on bad terms, it’s probably best to leave the relationship in the past. Don’t worry about whether he will come back or not- if the relationship was that bad, it’s time to move on. You’re wasting not only your time, but your energy and emotions on something that probably won’t work in the future either.

  1. Is he mad at you about something?

Does your ex-boyfriend have something to be mad about? Did you do something to him or say something that has seriously pissed him off, so bad that the two of you broke up? Then I hate to say it, but he’s probably not coming back. In this particular situation it is YOU that will have to do the reaching out and rectifying. Why on earth would he make the effort when it is essentially your fault (not entirely of course, breakups are almost never one-sided)? He won’t come back when he’s mad. If you want him, apologize and take it from there.

  1. Is he ignoring you?

Okay, so, if the man loves you he isn’t going to ignore you. He may not be quick and eager to answer your every message, but he certainly isn’t going to leave you hanging for days- unless of course he is DONE with you and has no intention of coming back. So ask yourself this question: is he ignoring you? Or is he responding? Even a tiny response is a sign that he may still be interested. Don’t bombard him with text messages or calls though; be calm and in control, which we talk more about in the “What You Should Do” section.

  1. Does it seem like he misses you?

You can tell when someone misses you: they make an effort to talk back, they send you little cute emoticons, they just smile a little when they see you in public (although they probably try to hide it). He may also be keeping the things you’ve given him over the course of the relationship instead of throwing them away. He’s probably STILL talking about you to his friends and family members. If there’s a definite sign he is missing you, then he’s probably going to come back and try to fix the relationship.

  1. Is he seeing anyone else?

This one is the kicker. Yes, sometimes people try to date someone else quickly to help get rid of feelings for someone else (the good old ‘rebound’), but most people will stay away from the dating scene for quite some time after a breakup. If he isn’t seeing anyone or even making an effort, he is either thinking about getting together with you or trying to work on himself before he takes the next step with someone else. Only time will tell on this one!

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What You Should Do

  1. Don’t Be Too Eager

Whether he broke up with you or you broke up with him, DO NOT BE TOO EAGER. Don’t bombard him with text messages and phone calls. If he texts you, don’t rush to text him back within ten seconds. You don’t want to appear desperate and you certainly don’t want him to think he has you wrapped around his finger. I’m not saying to keep the man hanging for days without a response, but keep your cool. Being relaxed and casual and not too eager is a lot more appealing to men than a woman who appears clingy and needy.

  1. Take Time For Yourself

The best advice anyone will give you after a breakup is to take time for yourself. Do all the things you love to do and work on those not-so-great parts about yourself that you’d like to change. Make yourself happy and confident, in whatever way possible. Don’t worry about finding another man right away and don’t worry about pleasing everyone around you. A breakup is difficult, so take the time to reflect and fix anything that may be wrong in your life. And of course, go out and have fun with your best gal pals; there is no better medicine than laughter, right?

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  1. Be Charming and Seductive

When you are done taking time on yourself and you’ve done enough casual talking with this ex-boyfriend and you’re ready to kick it up a notch, remember to be in control of yourself. You may be extremely excited that the two of you are chatting it up and even being a little flirty, but don’t let that show! You need to be charming and seductive; make him WANT you. Make him realize what he has lost and make him work to get you back. As we mentioned earlier, don’t be eager or clingy; be the woman of his dreams, the woman he will do anything to be with again. Running back into his arms certainly won’t change anything and you will probably end up in a breakup again!

  1. Don’t Rush In to Anything

I know, I know; the last thing you want to do is WAIT when you’re talking to your ex-boyfriend about getting back together. But ladies, rushing back into a relationship with your ex is a big mistake. Take things slow! Make him work for it. And when you do decide to start dating again, don’t make it too serious. Have fun with each other and enjoy each others company; the rest will follow.

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So yes, breakups are hard. They are ultimately heartbreaking and you will wonder if your ex will come back. While time is the ONLY way to tell, these tips will certainly help you along the way.

Have you been in a breakup? Did your ex-boyfriend come back to you, or did you part ways and start dating other people? If he came back, why did he come back? Did the relationship last? Let us in on ALL the juicy details!





360 Comments

  1. Emma

    May 22, 2017 at 5:36 am

    I have been with my bf for 4 months.
    We got into a fight about a lie I told (I went out and said I only drank 2 beers when I had clearly drunk more) I admitted the lie the following morning and gave him a sincere apology.

    That was 5 weeks ago, we have barely spoken since, he replies to almost any message I send, but doesn’t initiate conversations

    He said that he was unsure about me because of the loss of credibility.
    And he isn’t sure how to talk to me anymore without being disrespectful.

    I sent one last message last week asking him whether we should end it or move on and he read it and didn’t reply.

    I started no contact, the day after I sent and received no answer to the text.

    I’m struggling a little because there was no official “ending” I am assuming it’s over, and am concentrating on myself but could there be any hope?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 22, 2017 at 12:08 pm

      I would wait a couple of weeks just to be sure. If it isn’t over in his mind and you date anyone right now, he will probably view it as a further betrayal. If your hope is to get things going again, wait a couple of weeks and only contact him if it is in response to his messages. Hopefully, he will get over the one argument before long because it really wasn’t that major of a lie. Lies are never good in a relationship, but it still shouldn’t be the type of lie that ends a relationship.

  2. Julia

    May 18, 2017 at 4:19 pm

    I dated my guy for about a year & struggled with anxiety & depression through the last couple months of the relationship. He was always very supportive & would always fight very hard for me whenever I felt like running away. He would text all my friends about how he couldn’t lose me. He went abroad for four months & his best friend (whom he calls
    His brother) visited him for the last week. His friend does not understand my past or my mental illness & he essentially convinced him it wasn’t worth it. So my guy left me & I went absolutely anxiety-crazy. I called him & begged for him back & fought as hard as he did many time before. We’ve always had a happy relationship, and he visited me a week after the breakup & realized he still loves me. But when he hung out with his best friend again he dumped me again? It’s all very confusing & im emotionally drained. Since then, I received medication for my anxiety and depression and the person I was before is now gone & I am myself again. I just recently stopped fighting for him when he claimed I know nothing about him even after everything we have been through.
    Do you think he will miss me or ever text me? I’m really focusing on myself right now but I just have to know. He always wants to have sex & says he still loves me a little. So if he wants me physically & emotionally, & Im receiving treatment then whats the problem? His best friend leaves in two weeks to live in Hawaii & im supposed to go to a concert with him on June 11 but I don’t even think I want to anymore.
    Ahhh what do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 19, 2017 at 10:07 am

      It probably is not easy for him to always be so supportive. While he loves you, his friend keeps reminding him that his life could be easier if he just moved on. He may miss you, but that does not mean that he will get in touch again. Once his friend leaves, give it another week or two and then talk to him again. With the friend gone, he won’t have anyone to lean on or to tell him to break up with you. Hopefully, that will be enough. Good luck, Julia!

  3. Angie

    May 18, 2017 at 12:30 pm

    I was my ex for 4 years. I am 20 and he is 21. One morning he woke up, told me goodmorning and all then was acting strange, i asked him whats wrong and he said he feels that hes been too tied up lately and feels that hes too young to be in a series relationship and that he shouldn’t go out with his boys and feel guilty about that because he has a girlfriend. I’m not that girlfriend to tell him to not go out, I always told him to go hangout with his boys because I always trusted him. I was very surprised when he told me that. That day we broke up and that was 3 months ago. I text him here and there, but it never goes anywhere he just tells me that he wants to do what he wants, when he wants without comitting to no one. He tells me he wants to be with me in the future, but right now hes too young. I find it crazy how he can just drop our relationship one day and not speak to me. The only time he messaged me first was last week and he apologized for everything he is doing and that I don’t deserve to be treated this way, because I always did so much for him. I want to be with him, but I just hate the fact that he can just leave me like this and expect to come back to me. I don’t know what to do, I barely text him anymore and I don’t have him on any social media. I feel like he’s just going to forget everything between us and move on with his life. What should I do? I feel weird every time I speak to a new guy, because I feel like I am waiting for my ex.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 19, 2017 at 9:57 am

      He is right–you do not deserve to be treated this way. Unfortunately, it does not seem like that is going to change anytime soon. I would not wait around for him. If he feels like he is too young to be in a committed relationship, it could be years before he changes his mind. He wants to have his freedom, be single and enjoy being young, so he doesn’t want a relationship. Even though it seems like you guys were a good fit, I would not wait around for him. He is probably going to date around at some point, and there is no guarantee that he will come to you. I would just work on moving on and find someone else–or spend some time enjoying being young yourself.

      • angie

        May 20, 2017 at 11:11 am

        I try to move on, but everyday it just gets harder and harder. He sends me snaps, I don’t answer. He recently sent me a request on instagram, because I deleted him. We have this shared icloud album, where we can add pictures and like pictures and comment and he keeps liking old pictures of us kissing. Everyday there is something knew with him. He still speaks to my family members. He told my sister and mom a happy mothers day. Im just so confused what hes trying to do. He makes me crazy because I feel like I am getting all these mixed signals from him. Maybe I’m just overreacting, but he really is playing mind games with me

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 20, 2017 at 1:35 pm

          He is being really unfair to you. All of his signals sound like he has not let this relationship go, but what he says is that he wants it to be over with. If it feels like he is driving you crazy, it is for a reason. Everything he is doing makes it impossible for you to really move on. It will be hard to get over him if he doesn’t let the relationship go. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that he can either be with you, or he needs to stop contacting you all the time and move on. He can’t have both.

          • angie

            May 20, 2017 at 7:42 pm

            I just contacted him. I started with how are you. After a while of texting I told him that i feel that it is best that we stop every type of contact with each other. He kept saying stop over and over again. He doesn’t seem like he wants me to move on. I told him it would be better and he said no and to stop again. He wants to keep in contact with me and its not fair. I’m not sure what I can do, because he isn’t cooperating. He also mentioned that he doesnt want to stop talking to me because he still loves me. After we kept texting as friends. I dont know what to do .

            • web admin

              web admin

              May 21, 2017 at 11:25 am

              Continue ignoring him. He is being extremely unfair to you, so he needs to realize that. He wants to keep you interested in him and keep you as an option, but move on himself. He might not have the courage to move on completely, but he either needs to move on or start treating you fairly. If he won’t listen, try to ignore his texts and calls as much as possible. If you have to, block him.

              • angie

                May 21, 2017 at 9:54 pm

                i will, thank you i appreciate the advice so much

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  May 22, 2017 at 10:49 am

                  You are welcome! Let me know if you need anything else. Good luck, Angie!

  4. alohamama

    May 18, 2017 at 1:50 am

    Hi there. I am a single mother just entering her early 40’s. After seven years of dating men who just could not show up for me in the way that I need, I finally met an amazing man who also was a single parent. The only problem was that he was freshly divorced (his wife blind-sided him by leaving their healthy relationship for another man). Because he was so freshly divorced, I immediately put him into the friend zone. We were quite friendly for approximately five months, as I saw him often when I would be over visiting my good friend who was renting out space to him during his transition. Once he moved out of my friend’s home, and into a home of his own, I did not hear from him for approximately two months. He eventually got into contact with me for physical therapy due to a recent injury, and about a week after I gave him a session, he contacted me for a date. We eventually became romantic only after seven months post divorce (I know, I know!). We continued seeing one another for nearly three months, and he did everything right. He courted me appropriately by always making plans with me prior to our normal date nights, making me dinner, taking me to dinner, going on hikes, inviting me to spend time with him and his daughter a couple times a week as well. The relationship was unfolding in an extremely organic way…it was lovely, and easeful. He certainly seemed extremely interested up until the very end.
    Just a little backstory: I waited a month and a half to sleep with him. The very first time we slept together, he wanted to go home, as he did not bring his things for work the next day (it was unplanned), and we both had to get up at wee hours of the morning (4:30 and 5:30 am), and so I clearly told him that I completely understood, and that it was ok with me, as long as it didn’t become a trend. What followed was a month of sleeping together regularly, and more times than not, he would go home. Both of our schedules were grueling, and we never had a morning to sleep in together even if we could have chosen. The three times that he did spend the night, he reported that he didn’t sleep well. I tried to discuss with him how to make it more comfortable (changing the bed, shades on the window, etc), but he kept blowing it off as if it weren’t a big deal.
    When it came time for me to introduce my kids to him on a romantic level, they danced around us chanting “mommy has a boyfriend” incessantly, and the first day we all spent together, my eleven year old son went off in front of him about how I always break up with the men I date (not true, but remember that his wife left him for another man…so a very delicate subject). So, when I tried to speak about it that night, again, my boyfriend/lover waved it off as it was no big deal. Then later that night, after making love, he again attempted to go home. Out of nowhere, I stated that if this continues to happen, that I will have to stop sleeping with him…which he replied in shock. After the spring break with the kids, he and I had resumed our normal date nights. The first date night, he exclaimed that he brought his toothbrush, demonstrating that he was trying to do his best in planning to sleep over. So I didn’t feel as we had to discuss that issue any longer. We had a good date night, but I saw him the next day, and he again did not sleep well.
    Four days later, we had our last date. Upon coming home from a really nice dinner and time together (as usual), I gave him a pillow to put a case on, and he mentioned that he “forgot” his work stuff at home. So, when we started making out, and he made an advance into the bedroom, I denied it. We ended up making out on the couch, and it got quite heated. I definitely teased him a little, but we had to cool down. Eventually, he was on his way home, and we did our usual goodnight kiss routine (sans the sex).
    The next day, he contacted me asking if he could stop by after work, an unusual time to stop by…so I knew it was going to be a “talk”, but I was not prepared for him to break it off, which is what he did. He did so kindly (he is an unusually good and kind-hearted man). But he also said that he is not in the place he would like to be emotionally. And that it was just an attraction that needed to be explored. It was a shock, but I let him go easefully. We hugged goodbye, and he made it a point to say that he still really would like to be friends.
    Since then, it’s been a month. I’ve seen him twice in passing, and I have been kind and waved hello, but it was just too awkward to have any real interaction beyond that.
    Now, three weeks later, and I haven’t even heard from the guy who “wants to be friends”. I really felt like he was super into me until the very end, and I don’t believe he is out on the rebound either. I do believe that he thought he might have been ready to date, but discovered in the process that he wasn’t quite as emotionally ready as he wanted to be. A sad case, as we really did go together well…both on paper, and in reality.
    My questions are:
    Did we ruin it by jumping in too quickly after divorce?
    Is there even a chance at reconciling down the road?
    Did I make a mistake in coming off too strong in my statement of ending the sexual relationship if he wasn’t regularly spending the night afterwards?
    Did I appear to lack empathy for where he was at in his process?
    Does it seem like he was just in it for the sex, even though he made great effort in showing his care outside of the bedroom?
    Did we not communicate enough, or appropriately?
    And is it too late to attempt to communicate with him about it now? (I would like to see if we can salvage this, or at least if not, gain proper closure)
    And if it seems appropriate to communicate, is at least a month (the time frame we are at now) an appropriate amount of time/space to give before speaking?
    And, should I reach out to him? Or wait even longer to see if he reaches out to me?
    I totally get that he broke it off, and I respect his decision. This should be closure enough for me, but I keep feeling as if something got lost in between the cracks here…a miscommunication, or perhaps not enough communication took place in our relationship?
    It would be a shame to let this go so easily, as at my age and where I am at in my life, a good guy is hard to find…and a good guy who is so compatible with me on pretty much every level, as a single mom and beyond, is even that much harder to find. Help!

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 19, 2017 at 9:44 am

      It sounds like he just is not ready to have a real relationship yet. He may have realized that he was moving too fast too late. Even though this was a perfectly healthy, normal time for him to start dating again, everyone is different. He may have just realized that he was moving from one serious relationship to another and needed time to think it over. It sounds like generally did everything right, so I would not read too much into everything. You may just need to give him space so that he can be on his own and figure things out for a while. It sounds like you really connected, so he may come back once he has everything else figured out.

  5. Vicky

    May 17, 2017 at 3:28 am

    Hello my ex of 3 and a half years broke up with me 2 weeks ago, we had been having a lot of arguments and breaks and he said he still loves me he just can’t deal with the arguments, he said he still wants to be friends and who knows what could happen in the future but too much has happened with us. He was very upset and said he needed to focus on his career and he wasn’t interested in anyone else. Since then I didn’t message him for a week but then found out I was pregnant so text him and he was dissapointed and said he wasn’t ready to see me and can’t be there for me right now. I said I wanted to see him and he said next week. I kinda lost it then and started messaging loads of paragraphs why we should be together and how I’ve realised stuff 🙁 he replied ‘Vicky please stop-.-‘ it’s a shame cause he probably would’ve missed me by now but I’ve sent all that stuff, I’m not going to text him for a while now and see if he still meets up with me. If I meet up with him and he still wants to be friends what should I say? And is there any chance of him coming back? I love him a lot 🙁 I don’t think he wants me to keep the baby as we are not ready so I don’t know if he will even contact me. Do you think he still misses me even though I sent lots of soppy messages?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 17, 2017 at 1:30 pm

      It looks like you commented twice on this one. I have to answer each comment individually, so it may sometimes take a little while for all of them to be approved. If you do not see your response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my last response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  6. Mary

    May 15, 2017 at 9:34 am

    My bf and I were together a little over a year. I started Grad school and work has been hectic which has caused my anxiety to really shine thru. He said he isn’t sure if he can handle all my emotions. He has moved most of his things out. I asked him if he could respect me and let me know if he didn’t want to be with me and he said to just give him time and space. We’ve had an amazing relationship up to this point. We’re like best friends so this has really been hard for me. Ive started with no contact. I don’t know if he’s just trying to figure out what he wants. I just hope he doesn’t keep me waiting. I guess I should start the process and treat it like a break up? Thanks I appreciate any advice.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 15, 2017 at 11:49 am

      I don’t think that no contact is a good idea unless he knows that you are just giving him space. Otherwise, he may think that you have moved on and give up. If you want to work things out, talk to him about it. You might want to give it a couple of weeks before you have a serious conversation so that you both have time to think over whether being together is really the right decision for you two.

  7. Lola

    May 12, 2017 at 8:02 am

    Hi,
    My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Last summer he decided to have a break from the relationship, because he said he wasn’t sure if he was ready, although after about 2 weeks of separation we continued to see each other almost daily and got back together properly after about a month. 2 weeks ago he left again. I didn’t see him for about 10 days but we were on the phone daily, and he came back 3 days ago saying that we need some time and we are still on a break, and he doesn’t know if he wants to be with me, but apart from that we are still behaving as if we are together. he has been at my house every day and texting and calling when we are apart. He just called to ask if I am going out tonight. I’m so confused. Does he want to be with me or not? I am still the first person he calls if he has news or a problem and he still introduces me to people as his girlfriend, but he says nothing has changed yet.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 12, 2017 at 9:48 am

      It sounds like he doesn’t know what he wants. He is used to being in a relationship with you, so he has a problem changing that. A part of him seems to want to be separate though, so he is still trying to figure out which desire is stronger. Until he knows what he wants, you won’t know for sure if he wants to be with you or not either. 🙁

  8. Confused and Heartbroken

    May 5, 2017 at 10:12 am

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We graduated last year and this past year has been intense. Around Thanksgiving he told me that he was having doubts about what he wanted in life, our relationship and everything really. We have only been with each other..We are 23. We were each other’s firsts for pretty much everything including sex. Then it went back to normal and we spent 2 vacations together. Last week this same topic came up and he feels that he needs time to figure out what he wants and to grow and not feel dependent on me for happiness, like he has lost his identity. We said we were going to work on this together and work on our independence.

    One week goes by and the texts got distant and platonic except for him telling me he loved me once.

    3 days ago he asked me to get together and we went out to dinner and went to a park. There he told me that he wants to figure himself out but alone, even though we said we were going to do this together. He can’t do what he wants to if he is together with me. I know he feels like he is missing out on experiences of being single and an adult plus he doesn’t want to cheat.

    He told me he loves me so much and cares so much about me. He has been having doubts about if I am who he wants to spend the rest of his life with and wants to make sure. I know that he is who I want, he is my best friend and we have such a strong connection when he isn’t hot and cold.

    When we said goodbye after sobbing for 2 hours together. He hugged and kissed me so passionately and said he loved me so much.

    He told me that we are single now. He is telling his friends and family that we both need some time alone. He doesn’t like the term break. I don’t know if this is a break or a break up. We are doing NC right now with HIS promise that we will revisit this after some time has passed.

    What do I do? I know for a fact that he is going out with his guy friends so I went out with my friends instead of wallowing at home alone. They also posted on facebook a picture of me out with them. Is this a break? Is he going to get back together with me because he realized how much he missed me? You don’t love someone as much as he said he does and throw this away. When things were good we were talking about how great it will be when we get an apartment together. I don’t want him seeing me out as the okay for him to be doing this because he thinks I’m okay and have “moved on”.

    Help :'(

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 6, 2017 at 1:38 pm

      All you can do is give him some space. When you start dating someone young and only date them, one or both partners may wonder what they are missing out on or if their date is really the right person since they have never been with someone else. In addition, it seems like he is also trying to figure out other parts of his life right now and just needs time. I don’t think that even he knows what his real plan is going to be. Other than talk to you later on, it seems like he really just wants to find out for sure what he wants and what it is like to be independent instead of interdependent. All you can do right now is give him space, focus on yourself and wait to see what will happen.

      • Confused and Heartbroken

        May 11, 2017 at 8:01 am

        Update…

        He texted me last night after a week of NC “Hi How are you” I waited to reply “Im Good How are you.

        Him: Good 🙂
        Him: Just wanted to check in and see how things are going
        Him: I dont mind talking if you want to.

        Me: I’m okay thank you for asking
        Me: Work is crazy but nothing I can’t handle

        Him: Im sure haha
        Him: What have you been up to?

        Me: Work, Catching up with friends, Relaxing

        Him: Thats good haha
        Him: I’m gonna go to sleep in a little. It’s been a pretty crazy day.
        Him: Glad to hear you’ve been catching up with people

        Me: Okay have a goodnight.

        WHAT DO I DO!! I waited to answer never answering immediately like he was doing.

        My thoughts are that if he is trying to reconcile then he needs to say it and I dont know why he texted me. Was he bored, does he miss me? He is the one who initiated this NC and he broke it first.

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 11, 2017 at 8:23 am

          It seems like he may have just been wondering how you were doing or missed talking to you. I wouldn’t read too much into it yet. If he wants to restart the relationship, then he will just say it. From the sound of the texts, he just wanted to see how you are doing for now.

  9. Anny

    May 3, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    We were in relationship for 2.5 yrs out of which 2 yrs we experienced long distance relationship. He was going through rough phase in his career and stopped talking to me. One day when I was contineously texting him he broke up with me saying I don’t have interest in u… N informed me that he left the job…. Since he had not served the notice period he got abscond…. He betrayed me and left me alone … After 6 mths I msged him how r u? N he responded but he didn’t had job still…. He asked for my photo n I said’No’…. I helped him in getting a job… During this phase I used to provide him the contact details of the person who can help him for job n he used to respond but not quickly…. He used to respond when he felt like. Now after 3 mths of kind of communication and regorous search of job he is in the job…. One fine day, early morning he msged and again asked for my pictures and I rejected him…. I don’t know whether he loves me or he just want my pics to satisfy him. I asked him he said for old days sake…. Meanwhile my family is searching a suitable guy for me…. They want me to get married and not wait any more for him…. The issue is I still love him n want him but only when he realise what he did was wrong …. I don’t know he loves me or not but I want to know the same n want to know whether he will come back to me or not … During our relationship we fought for each other…. We fought with parents n society n were deeply n madly in love …. We even planned our marriage but I don’t know what happened abruptly and I lost every thing…. What should I do …. What do u think should I expect him or not…..

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 3, 2017 at 2:16 pm

      It sounds as though you are not interested in developing a relationship with him, he doesn’t want a relationship with you, and your family does not want the two of you together. If this is the case, then allow him to fade from your thoughts. However, it also sounds as though you do want to have a relationship with him. If this is the case, then reach out to him and be with him. The decision is simple. Have a great day, Anny!

  10. A

    May 3, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    We were in relationship for 2.5 yrs out of which 2 yrs we experienced long distance relationship. He was going through rough phase in his career and stopped talking to me. One day when I was contineously texting him he broke up with me saying I don’t have interest in u… N informed me that he left the job…. Since he had not served the notice period he got abscond…. He betrayed me and left me alone … After 6 mths I msged him how r u? N he responded but he didn’t had job still…. He asked for my photo n I said’No’…. I helped him in getting a job… During this phase I used to provide him the contact details of the person who can help him for job n he used to respond but not quickly…. He used to respond when he felt like. Now after 3 mths of kind of communication and regorous search of job he is in the job…. One fine day, early morning he msged and again asked for my pictures and I rejected him…. I don’t know whether he loves me or he just want my pics to satisfy him. I asked him he said for old days sake…. Meanwhile my family is searching a suitable guy for me…. They want me to get married and not wait any more for him…. The issue is I still love him n want him but only when he realise what he did was wrong …. I don’t know he loves me or not but I want to know the same n want to know whether he will come back to me or not … During our relationship we fought for each other…. We fought with parents n society n were deeply n madly in love …. We even planned our marriage but I don’t know what happened abruptly and I lost every thing…. What should I do …. What do u think should I expect him or not…..

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 3, 2017 at 2:16 pm

      It sounds as though you are not interested in developing a relationship with him, he doesn’t want a relationship with you, and your family does not want the two of you together. If this is the case, then allow him to fade from your thoughts. However, it also sounds as though you do want to have a relationship with him. If this is the case, then reach out to him and be with him. The decision is simple. Have a great day, A!

  11. Jackie

    April 18, 2017 at 2:00 pm

    Hello! Me and my ex/boyfriend have been together for 3 years. On the first 6 months into dating, everything was going great and i felt so happy with him. Then suddenly he became distant and didn’t talk to me for almost 2 days, I texted him asking if everything was okay. He didn’t respond until days later and said he was okay but in very short responses. I asked to see him and he almost didn’t want, but i wanted answers immediately. He came over and we talked and said the reason for why he has been so distant is because he had cheated on me with another girl. He said it was killing him so he figured he would try to cut contact with me, but he realized he had to tell me the truth. It killed me and i cried all night with him, i told him i didn’t know what i wanted to do. I thought about it the whole night, and came to my senses that i would forgive him almost immediately so we can continue to work on the great relationship we had going. I forgave him but i never forgot, the cheating drained my self esteem and i began to worry if he would do it again. Over time i began to get angry with him with anything he would do, if he didn’t text back, if he talked to girl friends, if he wanted to hang out with friends and sometimes family. It got to the point where he told me he didn’t know what he wanted anymore, he felt paranoid i would get mad with everything he did. He said he needed a “cool off” for a month or at least a week to figure out himself. I denied his request and said its either a break up or to keep going in the relationship. He didn’t want to lose me so he sucked it up and stayed.

    The same week this insecurity of his just left me unease, i asked him if he really was going to be insecure in the future? He responded with “lets just not waste each other’s time” and it broke me so i broke up with him that instant.

    I regretted it the next day and begged him to come back, he had blocked me everywhere. I called him 20 times sent him countless messages and no response. I was confused and went to his apartment to look for him, he was shocked i was there and was upset. He told me to let him go, if he loved me he would come back to me. I left, but the same night I sent him one last text, telling him i was sorry for acting crazy and i would accept his space and be happy with it. I said at the same time i would try to be happy myself and i would give him the time he needed, and i would wait for him and that i loved him. To my surprise he responded the next day and said it made him happy that i respected his decision, he said he cared about me and loved me too. He said “trust me i will come back”. 15 minutes later he said “after you said this it made me catch feelings for you, trust me i will come back”

    Im doing the no contact rule but its breaking my heart. He went to Cochella this weekend with friends i feel like he is going to meet another girl that will treat him so much better than me. Its tearing me apart not knowing what he will do, or if someone else will cross his way.

    I feel guilty for the end of my relationship. I accept most of it is my fault, I pushed him away from me. Its been 4 days since we last talked, do you think he will come back? I’m still unsure, and i feel like he won’t ever come back or at least let me know whats going on. When would it be appropriate to text him how he’s doing?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 19, 2017 at 7:43 pm

      You did nothing wrong. You ended this relationship and it was the right thing to do. He cheated on you. You didn’t do anything bad to him. It would be best for you to completely put an end to this relationship. Allow him to fade from your life and move on. Have a great day, Jackie!

  12. Faith

    April 10, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    My name is Faith. Just today,first day, I was about to start the 30-days-No-Contact method as I read alot of articles shows that way to heal ,but I consider to see both which are healing myself and makes my exboyfriend misses me to be back together. But when I read an article,which saying not to be rude, right after he called me once, I immediately send a message to say “sorry that I was middle of something just now. What’s up? ” but he didn’t reply it. So, I just let it be then.

    Now I will tell the story on how we end. It’s all started by me. I am the one make us break up. Yes, I cheated on my ex- boyfriend on 19th December last year. I was on call with other boy that I knew from online , and he overheard it outside of my bedroom for half an hour. He wanted to make me a surprised as I told him my feets quite hurt after have spend time with my friends. So he decided to come to my house without telling me . So when he entered the room, I immediately shut off my phone surprisingly to see him .

    We had very serious conversation, and end up fights each other. But after days past, he tried to recover our relationship and to avoid us to breakup, but I ignored of all his hardworking. On new year eve , I dress up for the last time and have a day with him . I still stubborn ,yet I still dress up nicely .

    So on the new year of 2017,we officially broke up. It’s was really sad for me, and I move on with new boyfriend that I knew from the online . After I had first date with the new one, the new one acted really different from what I knew about him through online and phone. He treated me really made my mental down, such as when I needed him as I fall sick, all he can say to me is (“you need a doctor, not me”) ,and that time I felt deeply regret to leave my ex boyfriend.

    The next month (February) ,early of the month, our closest friend will be going back to her hometown ,so she would like to meet up with me. And I think my ex will be there, but I try not to care about, still I dress up differently than before. He picked me with a different car. As I entered the car, we didn’t talked much, but whenever the conversation starts, its full of casual way. When he drive to the place to meet up , he constantly keep on looking to his phone, and I assume he is seeing someone. Makes my heart breaks too. I tried to ask if we could get back together, I can say is begging. Yeah I did . :’), but he refuse it. All the time.

    After quite sometimes, during the meet up. We had a little drama between us, I jealous seeing him ,and I saw lovebites by his neck since our friend remark on it. I ran away ,but he pulled me . We had quarreled. Then later, things sort out,after our friend calm me down, and bring me to him. While 3 of us spend time together ,shopping here and there. He walk besides me and he hold my hand. Indeed I feel so melancholic and curious why he doing that way.

    After ups and downs. His family had few issues, his little sister had a dengue , and I took care of her until she recovers (approx like 3 days). After my class, I straight away took care of her. While he and the new girl at the his house. And those 3 days, my mental and emotions broke down,and drama keep on constantly happened. First day, we had serious talk at night. The second day, I stopped eating, he lied that he said he will accompany me at the hospital,but instead he bring that new girl to the hospital to visit his little sister. Third day, I fall sick, he immediately ran to me, and give a massage.

    He told he is seeing on someone who works same place as him,makes me even worry about him. He also told our friend ,and our friend to me that he still in love me , by his heart,there is me and the new girl. But very inside of his heart, there were only me ,he’s love. And the new girl , told our friend that he always talked about me , mentioning about me makes our friend abit curious why he didn’t want to get back with me if he still that way. So i told her, on what he told me “How can I leave someone that helps me when I down ,when you are the person I needed the most ,just to get you back? Its not fair at all,”

    So he is like on debt to the girl for saving him while I am not there like he wanted to. During this 2 months , he had complexion within himself, sometimes he wants me back,sometimes he push me away . He is in confuse stage. I do give him space, and let him starts the conversation. There is times, when the new girl is not his place (yeah, sometimes that girl staying at his place , to go to work,since his house quite near compare to her own house ) . Whenever she is not around, he called me,and we talked over 3 hours until fall asleep together. During February til Early March, he keep on bragging on how bad he was when I was with new boyfriend , third time he talked about it and I nicely say that “past is past. I want us to be better , but not doing this way”. Slowly when we able to contact , he didn’t talk about it , but instead change into talk about our good times . Which I really glad about it.

    But when the new girl were around , he disappear in silence. Makes my heart in pain of worrying.

    Recently, I hang out with my friends late at night at urban city ,and stayed in a hotel for one night,like I just to move on. First time hangout, he particularly,worry and ask my friend to watch over me after all he saying to my friend that he didn’t want care about me,my friend quite curious about his request on that night. The second hangout , he was out of same town as I do, and invites to meet up with other our mutual friends, and saying “You look beautiful” as I posted my picture in Instagram , honestly I don’t know why. I stayed in hotel nearby where he is,but I avoid to see him since he said he won’t coming when I invited him earlier. He kept on calling ,texting me, but stops by 10pm since he need to pick up the new girl from work. Usually he use that new girl’s car for his transportation instead using his family’s car. And during that time, he had two off days from his work (saturday and sunday)

    And I think, why should we meet up if he need to pick that new girl up ? Oh the transport. I got so **** off by his game since he disappear of no where and appear like nothing happen, didn’t care about my worries.

    But the next day(Sunday), right after he send that new girl back to work, he tried to contact me , by sending message and calls. But I ignored all of it. My friend help to set him up to a place which is 2 hours far from my home by driving. He immediately searched me there for almost 2 hours. Later he triggered me with a message “Really? Is this really end of us? Without saying goodbye?”
    So I started by saying “Why are you doing this?”
    Then we quarreled, again and again. But we settle things up after couple of minutes. He said that he want us to hang out like close friend again, but I told him I never seeing him as he seeing me, he understand but instead we let it be that way.

    Then, the month of April started, and I called this month is his month since his birthday is end of the month. And today (6th April) where I decided to do the “30-days No-Contact” method. We are okay before, but something comes up again , he having his complexion again within himself since I told him that he is cruel the way he treated me right after he told me he wanted to hug me when he had a dream where the truth was told . In that dream, I was standing infront of him with very bad condition ,crying with destroy make up and wearing black dress, and the new girl walk away as she saw us. He tried to talk about it but that new girl just go away from him. So he abit confuse there. He is going to club tonight and bring the new girl along ,and our mutual friends will be there so I saying is kinda cruel , since I never bring new guy who wants to go with me to the such place, I just go with my friends. My girlfriends. He just could only reply “I don’t know what to say”.

    Then we didn’t talk for many days (2 days) ,up until yesterday after I had bad dream. He immediately ask my condition. He tried to calm me down,and he have to go since the work makes him hard to talk with me,but he told me that he will text me later. But up until this morning he didn’t text me nor called me. But he called me once just now, but I didn’t picked it up while I was about to start the “No-contact” method.

    The new girl tell to our closest friend (which she helped us alot), that my ex constantly talked about me , mentioned about me when they go out. And I think,why she is not leaving yet? I don’t know. During one of the night, when we able to contact each other, he told me that he do love me. I am happy to hear that, but why he still confuse about to choose? I do know he owe that new girl’s kindness but I still didn’t get it.

    Eversince, he goes out with this new girl, he always go club and drinks alot . I don’t know, but I feel he is not happy with that new girl.
    He will be celebrating his birthday at the outside of this country with the new girl and other co-workers . Question. Should I send a birthday message? Long and meaning one? Or just be quiet? Because I was planning to make a surprise for him on early May. What should I do about it and later

    The 4 days ago, we met and everything drop to disaster he told me wanted to let me go for 4th time already. We fought .

    He told that he was happy with the new girl. As i heard it , all I can do is to be calm after cry miserably because of panic but when I have deeply thought that I should be calm so I decided to act tough around him before it gets into worst. He do told me that he still care about me.

    Before heading back to my home, we had close our touch by hugs and kisses on the forehead. He do love my scent. And I know he do loves me but the pain between us about what I did is still there.

    From the day onwards, I read few articles which telling me he is on “rebound relationship” , so is better to be not contact for a while right ?

    Lately, our closest friend had told me today that he is suffering in pain of his complexion a.k.a confusion while I were in No-contact period (i am on 4th day) . He still hurts by remembering all I did to him. Which is meant the break up, our memories and he do confessed to our friend that he misses me . I feel sorry to him and I want to help him to relief but I am in No-contact period. Our closest friend told to me that I should not contact him for awhile and let him be strong and handle all those within himself. The thing is..is worrying me lately. What should I do ? Stay on the no-contact but is there anything i can do something ?

    And that’s it. Thank you for spending your time to read my problems. I hope I can get an advice how to get him back.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 11, 2017 at 8:57 am

      The no-contact rule will help you to heal, but it probably won’t bring him back to you. It sounds like he is trying his best to move on, but it is hard because he still talks to you and still has some feelings for you. As long as he is with the new girl though, he probably won’t leave her. Talk to him as you would a friend if you can handle talking to him while you still love him. If you can’t handle being just friends, just let him know that you need to stop talking to him for a while so that you can actually heal. You may also want to consider breaking up with your new boyfriend since he does not seem like the right fit, and it is rather unfair to date him when you are still in love with your ex.

      • Eich gee

        April 23, 2017 at 6:01 pm

        Hello everyone. Ive been with my ex bf for 2.5yrs but we broke up for some reason i cant really tell. Here’s what happened, we’re both raised in thailand, someone in his family died so he had to go back to thailand for 2 weeks, he got very upset because of what happened. He was not even able to file for his leave at work in the right process.. When he came back here in US, i know he was still grieving so i just didnt care for the bad attitude hes showing, the next day after he got back we had a huge fight. I ask him to take me to work and he did. Before i get off the car i was asking for a kiss like what he will usually do before goin to work but he acted like he doesnt wanna give me one. So then before i clock in to work i message him on messenger saying that i f*cking hate his attitude i called him b*tch and i said he’s an *sshole for treating me this way and he knows that i cant go to work if hes acting that way and then i wished for him to die. And he just replied “im done with you, let’s go separate ways” so i realized it was my fault. I went too far for all ive said, i then said sorry right away and went back home 3hrs before my shift ends to just beg for him because i know it was something serious. I started crying and pleading. I know he’s problematic about his job too, he almost got fired because of abandoning the job for 2 weeks so i know thats one of the factors why he’s very mad. And then that day too he told our family that we’re done and never getting me back because im such a bad person. He’s acting like he doesnt know me for 2.5yrs. I dunno. I just feel like im dead . At first i thought he only needed some time to think about stuff but Its now been 37days since he left. I begged him for 8straight days and gives the same answer that he’s tired of me and i have to move on. I decided to leave the house 8days after our fight because i know to myself that he’s decided about all these and me begging and pleading so many times isnt gonna do any good but will just push him away even further. But why would he get my name tattooed in his arm 4days before the big fight? I know he loves me but everyone that i told my story to has been saying that there’s something bigger problem than my attitude.. there’s prolly 3rd party or stuff like that. im confused. He unfollow me on ig but still friends with fb. He seems to be moving on now with his life while i wanna isolate myself bcos i dont want him to see that im enjoying life without him. Im very hurt. Every single day im feeling like sh*t. I cant accept that fact that he’s never coming back. Im indenial. We we’re planning to get married on october but i guess its not happening anymore. Last time i texted him was 18days ago. He’s very cold like what i expected..called him 27 times no answer so i told him im not going to force him this time and just wanted to hear how he was. 2 hrs after he replied saying he’s fine. I brought up about our relationship he said he doesnt wanna think about that stuff right now he’s giving his 100% to his job because he just got it back so i said ok i understand, and since then i never bother him again. People be telling me to move on and they’re convinced that he’s never coming back but i dont know him like this. Before, he will just hug and kiss once i say sorry but i cant accept that this time is different. He wants me to change and i cant just do that. I mean if he really loves me he will accept who/how i am.. but i think he had enough of my bad attitude. And i take all the blame for what happened.I still love him though. Im feeling the same amount of pain everyday. Im trying my best to move forward but its just not that easy and i didnt see this coming. We were so much inlove to one another. I cant unlove him that easy. I still want him back so bad eventhough im so hurt. Please someone give me good advice. Thanks for reading.

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 24, 2017 at 10:47 am

          Allow him to fade from your life. He has clearly moved on and it won’t be beneficial to you to continue to wait for him. Take this time to look to family and friends to support. There are other people in the world who are willing to treat you better than he has treated you recently. If the reason for his feelings are due to your actions, then allow this to be a lesson for your future relationships. If he his actions are because of a third party, then you do not want someone who will treat you this way because of someone else. Look at this through a positive lens and move on. Best of luck, Eich!

      • Sarah

        May 8, 2017 at 2:20 am

        Me and my ex were together for just under a year he broke up with me saying he didn’t think he loved me, wasn’t sure if we had a future. It’s been a month and since then there has been constant contact on by both of us. We initially agreed to work on it, but he said some days he wants to try others he doesn’t. We’ve now agreed the best thing is to try to move on though he said who knows what the future holds. We work together so though I’m going to to NC outside of work I don’t know if I’m wasting my time. Everyone says he’ll regret it and he’s going through something that he panicked and didn’t want a relationship. Is it a lost cause or could I still make him miss me and want to try again later on?

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 8, 2017 at 9:31 am

          There is no way to know for sure. It doesn’t sound like he even knows what he wants, so there is no way for you to know. It seems like he likes you, but was not ready for a committed relationship and didn’t know if he could see himself with you forever. Give him space so that he can figure out what he wants. You don’t have to do the no-contact rule completely, but you will want to give him as much space as possible so that he can figure out what he wants.

  13. Berry

    April 10, 2017 at 1:01 am

    My one year bf (it was our first love for the two of us) broke up with me a week ago. The last month was difficult, we had a lot of tests at school every week, and he had started freelance, so we didnt have a lot of time together, and when we did, he was always talking about work or absent-minded.
    I told him i didnt like it and i felt bad we couldnt enjoy more time to relax together, and i told him if we couldnt change how things were i didnt know if it was worth that i stayed. It was the week before he broke up that i told him that. He apologized and tried to change that (which worked), but he still told me that i shouldnt be upset because he was working because it was to get money so we could go out, to which i replied “if we have money but you arent enjoy our moments together because of work theres no point” and “you are too young to act like a 40 year old man who is overbooked… we are young lets enjoy it”. Things were alright after that.

    One week later, i told him i was sad we didnt go to the karaoke on saturday with his mum, bc he wanted to rest and sleep all day, which we did. On sunday, he came early and told me “lets go out” to make up for yesterday, but i had slept late because i thought he would like to sleep again. Then we had sex, and after he told me he was tired that i didnt listen to him and wasnt careful with him and that it reminded him of his father (who left him when he was a kid and never listened to him and reallhy is a dick), i replied “when you yell at me you are like my dad too” (it was stupid but i was upset… i had told him this a lot before), and he left saying “i cant stand you anymore”.
    Next day he says he will come to get his stuff back, but then said he was busy. At night, he asked me if we could talk tomorrow.
    Tuesday, we meet in a park. He tells his tired of me, but that he loves me a lot still. We way we could spend the week together, to see if it works but then he said no and left again. I ran up to him and asked him if he wanted to go to paris (which he wanted to do on sunday), and he took me in his arms, cried and kissed me and said yes
    But again he changed his mind and said it was dumb and we couldnt be happy. I went home, 30min later he calls me and say “come back i love you too much”. So i went back, we hugged, kissed, cried and told each other we were sorry and we didnt want to break up. Then we went to paris to buy stuff for the holidays (we have 2 weeks right now) and he was a bit stressed but happy.
    We went home, cuddled on his bed and i realized he had removed all the things i gave him from his room (probably after he left on sunday) and i asked him if he wanted to put them back together one day (i was stressed and worried after all that happened… should not have said that).
    Then his attitude changed altogether, he was cold and dead-eyed and said “its because i want to move on. i dont love you anymore. I care about you but its not love. Now leave” and i was so shocked. I asked if he was lying this morning after all the things he said like he will never leave again, that he loved me, the walk in pari, and all the tears of relief when i came back..? he said “i thought i could revive the flame but no”. I was so angry i felt used and betrayed. He gave me my stuff back, and i tore two gifts i made him that i found in his room. he said “dont do this in front of me not in my house”. i said “if you want me to move on let me look at the gifts” and we trashed some and kept the most important ones. then he pushed me out of his house.

    He came the next day to get a childhood plush from my home, said he only wanted one back (i have 3 childhood things of his). he waited for me in front of my building, he looked at me when i arrived, i put the things in his bag, then he told me things i had to do for work, then said bye with coldly. i said “if you ever want to talk, you know where i am” and he said “i have better things to do”. now he has blocked me everywhere and deleted my number (i didnt text him once but i know it) and im lost.
    i know i overreacted when he said he didnt love me anymore, but it was so unexpected after all the “i want you but im scared” things he did from sunday to tuesday. he left 3 times! i was exhausted mentally and on the edge :(. im so sad i destroyed so many gifts out of anger, thats why he must be angry. but i was so upset he lead me on thinking we had a chance.
    What can i do to arrange things? I didnt tell him i was sorry for breaking the gifts and i cant stop thinking of it…
    Does he really not loved me anymore?
    He left 6 times before this break up for multiple reasons and always came back (we would always talk after each break up), but this time i got angry and cruel :”””(. I need help

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 10, 2017 at 8:07 am

      I don’t think that overreacting was the reason why he left. It sounds like he realized that he wanted to move on and no longer felt the same way about you. Because he cared for you as a person (and also because he has never really had to have a break up like this), he kept coming back. He did not block you and act coldly just because of his feelings changing–he is also doing it so that he cannot return to you in a moment of weakness. His brain wants to move on, but his heart was holding him back, so he has had to go to extreme measures to make sure that he does what he has decided to do. He is probably not going to return–if he does, he will only regret it again later and break up all over again. It is never easy moving on after a break up, but you should probably start focusing on healing.

      • Berry

        April 11, 2017 at 3:30 am

        thank you… im sad it had to end like that. do you think its okay if i try to reach out to him one day just to say things clearly and not in anger like we did during the break up? i know i want this more for myself than him, but… 🙁 maybe we can salvage friendship…? we were very close friend before dating and later falling in love…

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 11, 2017 at 8:21 am

          It might be hard to remain friends since there is so much more emotional baggage now. However, it would probably be okay to reach out to him someday in the future once you have both had plenty of time to cool down and heal–it could give you the closure that you need to really move on. Good luck, Berry!

          • Berry

            April 11, 2017 at 11:37 am

            Thanks again c’: i called my therapist and im seeing her tomorrow! i havent seen her in months (i started 2 years ago, and stopped after 5 months after dating him because i only saw her once a month and i didnt see how it could help seeing her this little…). I’m gonna work on myself so that i don’t make the same mistakes twice. Thanks again for making things a little bit clearer for me. I’m gonna miss him a lot, that’s for sure… but time heals all wounds right? I hope all this pain won’t affect him too much too…

            • web admin

              web admin

              April 12, 2017 at 8:26 am

              I would just focus on yourself right now. It’s good that you have someone that you can talk to about this–I am sure it will be a relief to see her tomorrow. Good luck, Berry!

              • Berry

                April 16, 2017 at 4:46 am

                I saw him on friday during a programming/coding class and it was too much for me :(( i tried to talk to him at the end and kept saying “i dont care about you, piss off”. i asked “why are you so angry at me? is because of how I reacted on tuesday?” he said “No. its because you’ve been a bitch for 5months and never listened.” i apologized and he said “i dont care about you” I told him i would pass to give a thank you gift to his mum for the job she found me and he replied “dont talk to my mum”. Then I got really upset… Because it has nothing to do with him. I said “It’s my professional life, don’t interfere. I’m sorry it involves your mum, but I won’t contact her for anything else. I don’t care about you.” and he continued to say “dont contact her” but at some point he laughed and said “i dont give a shit about my dad, why would i care for my mum. i dont fucking care about her”. I pushed him and said “well don’t interfere then” and then i almost cried and said “i just wanted to talk” and he said “why?” i said “because i cared about you” he said “i dont. if i wanted to call you i got your number blocked, so i wont find it again” and he told me to fuck off. I said “dont give me orders im not your dog” and i left saying “you prick”
                im just typing this to try to “move on”… i let my hurt, anger and sadness took over but i felt a bit better after it happened… :c especially because I tried to stand up to him… because when hes upset he always put me down and try to hurt me with things that really matter to me and i didnt want to let him bark at me like he always does… during our whole relationship i only stood up to him once, even though he would always call me names and say really hurting things to make me feel bad for messing up something. he would also tell me things like “good job you ruined it are you happy?” “you better make things right” “you stupid bitch”
                im sad i didnt listen to him when he told me to stop doing something… maybe all this wouldn’t have happened.

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  April 16, 2017 at 8:54 am

                  Your relationship is over. Allow thoughts and memories of him to fade. If you find that you are thinking about him, then force those thoughts from your mind. There is no more reason to waste anymore energy on a person who treats you in this way. Take this time to determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Berry!

              • Kristina

                April 30, 2017 at 6:15 pm

                Hello, I am struggling so much with my situation it is literally killing me 🙁 so me and my ex were together two years we have a 10 month old baby and I am due in August he got his third DUI and spent a month in jail after pay 5,000 on court things when he got home in September and was out on felony probation I was constantly on him I didn’t allow drinking or alcohol at the house I didn’t want him being around people of all they were doing was getting drunk I pretty much made his life hell I guess I just didn’t want him going to prison well 2 weeks ago I came home from work and he was gone took his work clothes he’s and toothbrush and was just gone my heart sunk I called and texted him numerous times and nothing finally I got the response of I’m a drunk I’m never going to change I want to live my life I feel like I’m on parole you deserve better blah blah so I asked him if we could please meet in person so I could have some sort of closure and all he keeps telling me is if he meets me in person he will want to come home and he’s not ready to talk when he is he will let me know I am so heartbroken he seriously is avoiding me he refuses to see me in person he picks our daughter up from daycare and drops her back off at daycare before I get off work I just don’t get it Friday I made the desicion that I was going to just stop talking to him and I have done awesome today is day number three it is killing me because he has not contacted me either can someone please try and help me understand what is going on or if he every remotely cares 🙁 my friends are texting me saying he’s on dating sites I thought for sure he would text me and has not I just do not for the life of me get it 🙁

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  May 1, 2017 at 9:50 am

                  If he has explained that he is not willing to be part of your life and has started using dating sites, then it would be best for you to go to your friends and family at this time. He likely is going to take some time before he changes – if he changes. Look to the support of the people who love and care about you. Explain to him that you will need financial support for your children, otherwise you will need to look to child support from the government. Best of luck, Kristina!

  14. Stephenie Quesada

    April 9, 2017 at 5:19 am

    My fiance broke up with me two days ago. He told me it’s because I’m not being too supportive (he’s studying to become a doctor) I will admit I wasn’t always supportive but I was sometimes. He told me he saw the good things I would do too and he saw I was supportive sometimes but that he’s disappointed in himself and that he feels like his family is not proud of him of him, and he is not proud of himself either. I’m really hurt because when he was talking to me he was crying so much. He said we can’t be in a relationship right now. He said that if we decided to talk again that we’really going to talk as friends and see if we decide to get back together and see if we should get engaged again. He gave me some of the things I made for him like: notes but he didn’t give me back other sentimental objects.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 9, 2017 at 10:09 am

      That sounds like a terrible experience. 🙁 Medical school can be stressful, so he may just be reacting to that pressure in a negative way. For the moment, give him space and let him focus on school. He has left the door open to date again, so if he sees that you are a supportive friend and misses having you in his life romantically, he may come back. Just try to give him some space for now. Good luck, Stephenie Quesada!

  15. Karen

    April 6, 2017 at 3:41 pm

    I I have been dating a man for 14 months and it is a long distant relationship.He is emailing and texting other women. I don’t have a problem with men having friends of the opposite sex, but this one girl is different. Early on in the relationship he took her out for the day hiking , canoeing and out to lunch. She made him dinner and gave him a balloon for his birthday and he took her out to a nice restaurant for her birthday. Well if they are friends than that’s not too big a deal, BUT, he admitted she wanted more than a friend ship relationship, he never uses her name and hasn’t introduced me to her, and I have asked several times. The other night she text him at 12am in the morning. I think there are a few other girls he is in contact with, but I don’t know because he refers to them all as “his friend”. At Christmas time he contacted the girl he was beginning to see when I meet him. I trust that nothing sexual is going on and I believe that he loves me (questioning his now)I just feel that it’s all secretive to some extent.

    This has been practically the only thing we have argued about. The extreme defensiveness that comes up when I try to discuss it, also bothers me. When she text him at 12 am and he took his phone into the bathroom the next morning made me feel deflated. I think this relationship crosses a line and is disrespectful to me. I feel like he has this private life of other women that he wants me to know about, but certainly not part of. I didn’t ask him to give her up, but implied it. He told me that if he had give up a friend for a relationship then we were not meant for each other and broke up with me. Other than this, we have had a great relationship. We love each other’s family and friends.we had just gotten back from a nice vacation. He said he thought I was the girl he wanted to spend the rest of his life with. Am I being controlling or is he being disrespectful of my feelings? Why would he give up something so good just to keep random girls in his back pocket? It’s almost like he wants to have a backup, in case we don’t work out and we didn’t work out because of it. There are a few more things that I feel are questionable, but this is already too long.

    Thanks, I look forward to your answer.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 7, 2017 at 8:51 am

      You are not being controlling at all. If he is just friends with her, then there is no reason why you shouldn’t be allowed to meet her. After all, he said that you were the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with, and friends are a part of that life. He is being disrespectful of your feelings in general, and the defensiveness on his part is probably because a part of him likes the girl whether he realizes it or not. These types of friendships can easily become an affair without either person trying to make it happen, so it is a really dangerous situation that he has placed himself into. At the very least, he should be willing to let you meet her. He wants you to share his life with him, but he won’t even let you meet his friend? Or know her name? You are not being unfair or controlling at all. Many couples actually choose not to hang out with friends of the opposite gender because of situations like this. The couples who do have opposite gender friends are open and honest about their friendships. If he won’t even tell you her name or let you meet her, it doesn’t sound like he is being very open or honest.

      • Karen

        April 7, 2017 at 10:02 am

        Thank you! I don’t think he even really likes the girl. He likes the attention. She has the hots for him. When he started dating he liked all the attention he was getting from the women who contacted him. Even if the date didn’t work out he wanted to stay in contact with them.

        He was really hurt and deceive by his exwife. She cheated on him and took a lot of money. He says a lot of “nobody is going to tell me I can’t…….” He said no one is going to play him for a fool again. He sees this as me telling him he can’t have something. I’m telling him to get rid of a friend and he isn’t going to give up a friend just to make a relationship work. If I loved him I wouldn’t ask him too. He also left his profile up on the site we meet on. He said he wasn’t looking but if he got a response he would write them back and tell them that he was in a relationship. He finally hid his profile. He said he wanted to keep it in case it didn’t work out with us. I believes he does love me, but he is so afraid of getting hurt that he keeps the girls in the background just in case. Funny isn’t it, this is the reason it didn’t work.

        There was a pop up on my iPad for a dating site. He thought that I was on the site looking for other men. He went through my emails and browsing history and then checked on the dating site. He felt guilty and told me. I told him that I have nothing to hide and he could have my passwords if he wanted them. I think he was shocked by the offer and said he did trust me and of course he didn’t need that.

        We live 5 hours apart. We talked every night for at least an hour. Other than this, we were very happy. He broke up with me right after a nice vacation. He is also the most stubborn person I’ve ever met. I have been doing the no contact and don’t plan to call him. If he really loved me, he wouldn’t walk away, right?

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 7, 2017 at 11:32 am

          That is not always the case–even if he really loved you, he may feel like he needs to walk away to keep his freedom. Telling him to get rid of a friend may have triggered feelings about his past, but I still don’t see why it would make him upset to tell him that you need to at least meet that friend. There may not have been anything more than friendship on his side, but it does seem like he was keeping her around as at least an option. If he reaches out to you, talk to him and tell him that you would like to meet all of his friends because you care about him. Otherwise, give him space to rethink what he has done. I hope that everything works out for you, Karen. Good luck!

          • Karen

            April 7, 2017 at 2:12 pm

            Thanks again! He never got up set when I asked to meet her. He just kind of blew it off, like I didn’t say it and went back to the issue about not giving up a friend and saying I was just jealous. This friend does not want to meet me I’m sure, and I think he knows it. She wants to date him and even if he doesn’t have feelings for her that way, I think it strokes his damage ego. I think if he had told me that my hurt feelings where more important to him and seeing me upset wasn’t worth a friendship with her, I would probably not care if he saw her. It’s the fact that when I get upset he comes back defensive. He is not comforting and isn’t the least bit empathic. It’s all about him. I asked him if we could take it to a third party to help him understand. He said a councilor; and I said I would take a stranger off the streets. He said that if we can’t work it out between the two of us, then we should move on. He hasn’t had enough relationships to realize what he is walking away from. It will be his loss!! I really thank you for your feed back. You never know when your friends are giving you advice if they are just telling you what You want to hear, because they love you.

            • web admin

              web admin

              April 8, 2017 at 8:24 am

              You are welcome–I’m always happy to help. The fact that he blows you off is a bit confusing. If you guys ever get to discuss it again, say something like, “I don’t want you to get rid of your friends or lose anyone, but I want to share my life with you. I would like to meet your friends and share your life with you as well. I am free on ___day and can meet you and her. Okay?” Try to make it so that he has to respond. Reiterate that you don’t want him to lose his friends, and you just want to share your life and his life together by meeting each other’s friends. If he still won’t let you meet her, then you may have to move on. There is no reason not to let you meet her unless something hinky is going on or is expected to go on at some point. I can get why he’d be upset and defensive about losing a friend, but he should be fine with you meeting his friends if there isn’t anything going on.

              • Danielle

                April 8, 2017 at 7:48 pm

                I am not sure how to post initially to the thread. Only thing I see is a reply. I hope it’s ok to post here.

                I was engaged to a man. He asked me to marry him and for a family. I had a difficult pregnancy resulting in bedrest at 26 weeks and delivery via emergency c-section at 28w. Baby was in NICU and had several surgeries. Went home on oxygen at 4 pounds. I was unable to work as I needed to care for the baby. Long story short he changed. He used to be so living and attentive. Even too much. Once all of the responsibilities kicked in he became distant, bitter and resentful towards me. He was mean. Went out to play sports with mutual friends a lot more. Once I was finally cleared to excecise I wanted to go play Vball and hit the gym. He wouldn’t watch the kids so I left him feeling as it wasn’t fair. (He always did whatever he wanted and I was home with the kids). I took care of everything, paid as much bills as I could, kids house, cleaning and cooking. I went to my moms hoping this would give him a wake up call. He did come back telling me he would go to therapy. He moved in wth a mutual friend and I stayed at moms with the kids. Well we went to several sessions. The therapist told me his mental and emotional maturity was that of a 16 year old. He applied nothing so I ended up breaking up a second time for he same thing. He’s very immature and selfish. It’s been 3 months now and he hasn’t made any effort to fix. One minute he’s saying he loves me and wants to get himself situated and then get back together and the next he’s saying he doesn’t want a relationship just do what he needs for the kids (which he doesn’t make time for or see). I find myself wondering if he will ever wake up or if I should cut the cord for good

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  April 9, 2017 at 9:54 am

                  Only you can really decide that. Judging from what the therapist said, it does not seem like he will wake up anytime soon. He doesn’t even seem to know for sure what he wants though, so he’d really have to decide for sure before he could be a committed father or be your partner again. Your question is a tough one. If it were me, I would take a middle road of doing a trial separation for a while so that he can start figuring out what he wants and hopefully grow up. If that, again, doesn’t work, then you might have to cut the cord.

              • Karen

                April 8, 2017 at 8:45 pm

                Thank you. You have really helped me. I think in my heart, I don’t think I’ll get that chance. I don’t believe he will change his mind. We live too far away to have a drop in talk. He doesn’t trust me. If he did he wouldn’t have gone through my email to see if I was cheating on him. He has made a few comments about me not loving him or liking him . I told him that I didn’t know where he was coming from. I pointed out that I wouldn’t be driving 51/2 hours to see him twice a month if I wasn’t committed. I’ve been an open book. His fears are not justified. Other than the issues that relate to this issue, we have never had a bad time together. As they say, what you fear most you create. I think there may come a time when he realizes what he gave up, but I think it will be too late for me. Once I move on, I’m not goin back. It’s all very sad, but not the end of the world.

                It is really nice, what you are doing to help people when they are hurting.

                • web admin

                  web admin

                  April 9, 2017 at 9:23 am

                  It sounds like you have reached your own decision about moving on. I don’t know if or when he will realize the mistake he has made, but it sounds like he is missing out. I know very few couples who would actually drive that far twice a month to see someone–he really didn’t realize what he had with you. Good luck, Karen!

  16. Denise

    April 6, 2017 at 2:39 pm

    I feel like my problem is kind of complicated. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about a year now and until a few weeks ago he broke up with me. We started having problems cause I would get upset and mad too easily and most times we wouldn’t agree on a lot of stuff. Eventually we learned to communicate and things got better for awhile then went back to the same thing after awhile. He confessed to me that this is his first relationship ever and I guess the problem was that I always forgot about that detail and made things harder for him. He got tired of us going and forth and eventually took a break from each other. When he finally reached out to me again he had every intention to work things out but now he has changed his mind again. When I asked his thoughts he told me that he loves and misses me a lot everyday but just doesn’t miss the bad times we had. He says he doesn’t but feel happy anymore. I sincerely apologized to him for my part but he seems to have lost trust since he says he feels it will happen again. I have a hard time understanding why we can’t be together when we both still love each other and are hurting. I’ve done all I could to explain how I want things to change for us in the future but he seems to struggle to trust again. I know he cares but he doesn’t no show it. He replies in anger sometimes cause I bombard him with messages. I have stopped sending him messages although it sucks not to hear from him. What should I do? I sincerely feel that we can fix this

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 7, 2017 at 9:25 am

      It seems like he doesn’t believe that change is possible and he can’t handle the bad experiences in the relationship. Bombarding him with messages is only going to make him less likely to come back to you. While it sounds like you could actually fix most of the problems in the relationship, that is only possible if both of you want to fix them. He wants to move on, and it does not seem like he will change his mind. All you can do is do your best to move on and heal. It won’t be easy, but you can do it.

      • Denise

        April 7, 2017 at 12:15 pm

        I see him checking my social medias and snapchats and still haven’t deleted any of our pictures off his accounts. Could there still be hope that he will change his mind? I really don’t want to lose him.

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 8, 2017 at 7:59 am

          It’s always possible that he could change his mind. Just give him space for a while to think and, hopefully, to start missing you. With any luck, that will be all that he needs to change his mind. Good luck, Denise!

          • Denise

            April 10, 2017 at 12:14 pm

            Update: I focused on myself and gave him his space and he came back! He messaged me over the weekend and asked to see me. I accepted and we got to hangout and talk. I asked him how he was feeling and said he missed me terribly. The thought of not hearing from me everyday was terrible. When it came to talking about our situation he said he understood that couples are gonna fight but he wants to keep trying. We agreed to start talking again and take it slow day by day and regain that spark we had from the start. I hope this is a positive thing and things start to fall back together.

            • web admin

              web admin

              April 10, 2017 at 1:52 pm

              Awesome–that’s great to hear. It sounds like you are headed in the right direction. As long as both of you are willing to communicate openly and work on the relationship, it sounds like you are off to a great start. Good luck, Denise!

  17. Sarah

    April 4, 2017 at 8:13 pm

    My ex broke up with me in anger. We were together 3.5 years. I didn’t listen to something he asked me not to do. It was dropping food off to him at midnight. as I had spent ages cooking it and he didn’t pick it up I said I’m coming to drop it off and he said don’t come out at this time it’s not safe for you. But I didn’t listen as I was very angry. And he blocked me and said it’s over he was furious. After a week of no contact I emailed him to apologise for not respecting his wishes. But he replied “I’ve made up my mind and I will never change it. You made a mistake and I will never forgive you for it. No hard feelings. Take care. Goodbye” he has unblocked me though. What shall I do. I want him back. Shall I continue no contact and will he come back but I want him to respect me so I don’t want to keep apologising or grovelling. I don’t know if he’s seeing other people and his ego is being dented as I am not blowing
    Up his phone.

    • Sarah

      April 5, 2017 at 4:30 am

      I phoned him today off a private number and he answered and he was still extremely angry he had so much hate and anger in him. He said im fine without you I’ve planned my holidays my life and each day that goes by i forget the memories with you. I don’t want to be with you cos il never forgive you. what should I do cos he punishes me for leaving him to it and goin no contact and then punishes me for contacting him saying it’s over

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 5, 2017 at 8:58 am

        I think it would be best to just move on. He was being extremely unfair to you before the break up. The fact that he has already planned his vacation means that he was probably thinking about doing this break up for a while. Instead of just telling the truth about why he wanted to end it, he blamed it on you making him food one night. The best thing that you could do is move on and forget about him. Date around, stay busy, have some fun and gradually the healing process will happen. Hopefully, the next person that you date will be a better partner for you.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 5, 2017 at 8:52 am

      You spent forever making food for him, he never showed up to eat it and he then became upset when you brought it to him? That sounds a bit intense. Sure, it wasn’t safe at midnight for you, but it seems like a bit weird to break up with someone who does that. He unblocked you now, so he may be interested in dating you again. I would really think carefully before you reach out to him though because it does not sound like he was being particularly fair to you in the relationship.

      • Sarah

        April 5, 2017 at 2:09 pm

        You’re right it is very unfair to me. Although he’s very kind and caring he’s abit insecure and has an ego. I think his reason was More a lack of trust on his part about me going out at midnight. Which is sad cos I haven’t done anything to cause that. Well I did reach out he’s being very obstinate and saying it’s over showing a lot of anger That I didn’t listen and Its made him not want to be with me. And saying he’s going to be a man about it and not stand for it. So I will leave him to it for his anger to go. As much as it hurts. thanks admin for your reply.

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 6, 2017 at 9:46 am

          You are welcome. I think that you are making the right decision. It is extremely hard to move on after a break up, but it will happen–just give it a few months. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck, Sarah!

  18. Samantha

    April 2, 2017 at 2:56 am

    My family was involved in my relationship and never liked him from the beginning. Unfortunately I became depressed from my family being negative. Unfortunately whenever I was with him he saw I was depressed and whenever he used to ask me what was wrong I told him nothing but I was ray thinking of my family being unhappy for me. Im pretty sure he broke up with me for me looking depressed all the time when it was really my family that made me depressed. He still thinks I was sad though because of him. Is there any possibility of us getting back together if he keeps thinking that I was sad from him instead of from my family?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 2, 2017 at 10:05 am

      You may want to explain why you were depressed all of the time. Good relationships are based on good communication, so communicating why you felt this way could help. At the same time, it might not help too much. Supposing you get back together, you might not be any happier–your family still wouldn’t like him, so you would continue to feel upset about it. Either you will have to ignore how your family feels and be happy because you love your relationship, or the relationship still wouldn’t work out. Whatever the case, the first step would be to explain to him why you were so depressed.

  19. Ally

    March 31, 2017 at 10:39 pm

    My ex broke up with me a couple of days ago because he was confused. He said that I was his best friend, his soul mate and his girlfriend but couldn’t be that person to commit to me. We have been together for a year and a bit and I’m not understanding why he’s scared. He said our relationship was getting too intense and that it had gone further than what he wanted. We are truly so compatible. Before the breakup we went to breakfast and everything was fine. We were kissing, playing around. I asked him whilst we discussing the breakup of everything had been fine before I asked what I had asked. And he said yes. He said he feels good when he’s with me and I make him so so happy but he’s genuinely confused as to where I belong in his future. I want to be back with him. I truly believe this breakup was too abrupt and not thought out. We are seeing eachother on Saturday because of a party and we have the same group of friends. What should I do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 1, 2017 at 10:02 am

      It sounds like he just doesn’t know what he wants in life. Sometimes, people panic as they realize that the relationship is getting serious because they realize that that could be the last relationship of their life. It’s kind of like a mid-life crisis, except it often happens among younger people. It can be hard to imagine just dating the same person forever or settling down for good, and it sounds like your relationship was headed that way. He loved you, you were extremely compatible and the relationship is great. The only thing to fear would be the prospect of committing to you for good. It seems like he is confused because he is torn between wanting you and not wanting to have his entire life decided just yet. If you can handle it, stay friends with him and give him space when you can. It may take a few months or years for him to get into commitment mode, so be prepared for that.

      • Vicky

        May 17, 2017 at 2:46 am

        Hello, my bf of 3 and a half years recently broke up with me 2 and a half weeks ago because we kept arguing and having breaks so he said he couldn’t deal with the arguments. He said he still wanted to be friends and isn’t writing anything off in the future if we got feelings back.he said he still loves me but too much has happened. He said he needed time to find himself. I initially left him for a week no contact after and then found out I was pregnant so I told him and he was a bit dissapointed and said he couldn’t be there for me right now. Since then I’ve asked to meet him and he has said he’s not ready yet but next week etc and then I sent him loads of messages about how things would be different if we got back together etc and a video of us together :S he replied ‘please stop -.-‘ so I know I’ve pissed him off and he probably isn’t missing me :/ how do I rectify this? I’m going to give him space now but I don’t think he wants me to keep the baby. So wil he contact me just to see how that is or will he still miss me now even though I messaged too much?

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 17, 2017 at 1:29 pm

          You have to decide if you want to keep the baby or not based on your own feelings. Afterward, you can try to get him to be a part of the child’s life and take responsibility. For the moment though, give him space. Wait at least a few weeks before you message him again–when you have your first ultrasound, that would be a good time to reach out and see if he wants to go with you to see the baby. He may not want to date ever again, but he will hopefully want to play a role in the baby’s life. Give him some space so that he can calm down and accept the fact that he is going to be a father.

  20. Fiona

    March 29, 2017 at 1:54 pm

    My boyfriend and I were together for 3 months. We study in the same college as well as we’re in the same classroom. After 3 months of us being together he just suddenly texts me about ending the relationship with me and he wanted to be just friends with me. I tried convincing him to stay but he didn’t listen. A week later I texted him asking if we could ever get back together. He never gave me the reason for the breakup. I kept asking him the reason again and again but he didn’t give me any reason. I have him the solution to Evey reason I thought was existing, still hE didn’t accept, got angry, blocked me from everywhere. I see him in clg each day. It seems that he hates me. He ignores me and we avoid crossing each others path. I truly love him a lot. I haven’t contacted him ever since and he hasn’t initiated any contact as well. I don’t know what My next step should be. I really love him a lot.i don’t know if due to the studies he’s doing this or some false rumors or some family pressure or something, I don’t know because he didn’t give me any reason he’s just like no reason and I don’t want you anymore etc etc. Please guide me as to what must I do. I don’t want to lose him. Also, he had an ex 2 years back who had cheated on him. When we were together he told me that he’s done with her and and he doesn’t miss her anymore. But I’m scared that instead of missing me he might be missing her. I am so very confused. Please guide me. Thanks a ton.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 30, 2017 at 9:57 am

      This sounds like a difficult situation to experience. He never told you why he ended things, so it is impossible for you to really get closure. He blocked you from everything though, so he obviously wants to just move on. If he heard a rumor or thought you cheated, I feel like he would have confronted you about it. It seems more likely that he either lost interest or fell for someone else and could not bring himself to tell you that. Whatever the case, it seems certain that he has moved on and no longer wants to date. Ultimately, you will have to move on as well, although that is made much harder by the fact that you can’t get closure about the relationship.

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