Types of Hugs From a Man (And Their Meaning)

By on February 5, 2015

Hugs can be super confusing. They can either show signs of affection and intimacy, or awkwardness and disinterest. What kind of hugs are your man giving you? Find out the 8 types of hugs you may get from a man, and what they all mean.


 1. One Armed

We’ve all gotten one of those incredibly awkward one armed hugs- or as I like to call it, the cold shoulder hugs. This type of hug shows that he feels incredibly awkward around you and isn’t even sure if he really wants to hug you in the first place. My suggestion: I wouldn’t be trying to get another hug from him anytime soon.

2. A Quick Hug

Everyone tends to overlook a quick hug. They think, “Oh, that was short and to-the-point. They obviously don’t want to hug me!” But that actually couldn’t be any further from the truth. While some individuals may choose a quick hug because they’re just not in the mood to hug, nine times out of ten it means they just want to give you a quick squeeze to reassure you that they care. Maybe they’re late to work or school and only have time for a quickie, or maybe they just simply couldn’t wait another second to give you a little splash of love.


3. Catches You

When you go in for a hug and the guy whisks you off your feet instantly, it’s a very clear sign this man really missed you, and he couldn’t be any more excited to finally get a hug from you. This is one of those hugs we always see on television or romance movies: you know, the one where the guy and girl run towards each other and the girl wraps her legs around his waist and they embrace for 10 minutes with deep hugs and kisses. Ladies, if your man does this, he’s seriously into you.

twirls you around


4. Twirls You Around

Twirly hugs are absolutely awesome. They’re totally whimsical and free spirited, and is sure to put a huge smile on the girls face. That being said, if your man twirls you around when you go in for a hug, that means he feels comfortable and playful with you and loves to make you giggle and smile from ear to ear. Obviously a wonderful sign that he likes you and enjoys your company to the fullest extent!


5. Holds You Tight

When a man holds you tight, he doesn’t want you to leave. He is so enthralled and in love with you he doesn’t ever want to let go. These hugs can go on for a couple of minutes, and ladies, you should enjoy every second of it. Indulge in the embrace and feel the utter romance pouring through his body that he’s too afraid of tough to express with words.

6. Gives You a Squeeze

The squeeze hug is kind of a blend of the quick hug and the hold you tight hug. It’s the hug where he has a HUGE smile on his face as he wraps you in his arms and pulls you in for the tightest squeeze of your life. This is a super cute “bear hug” that is done between both friends and lovers. That being said, knowing the meaning around his hug may be a little hard to find out. He may give you a friendly squeeze or a romantic squeeze. Keep your eye out for others clues!

7. Looks Into Your Eyes

When you are hugging a man and he pulls away (but doesn’t break the hug) just so he can look into your eyes for a moment, it means he is deeply in love with you. Even though he sees your face often, he still doesn’t want to go longer than a second without seeing your majestic beauty. This is such an incredibly romantic hug that has tons of deep feelings attached to it.



8. Lay Heads on Each Other

While you’re embracing with your man, have you ever noticed that your head is a perfect fit for his arm? And if your man is tall enough, has he ever laid his head gently on top of yours? This is not only an incredibly cozy and comfortable hug, but one that shows the two of you are incredibly close and have deep feelings for each other. It shows that you’re one hundred percent comfortable around each other and know that the two of you go together perfectly like the last two pieces of a hard puzzle.

So, we’re curious: which hug do you like the most? Have you ever been given one of those terrible one armed, awkward hugs? Or have you been lucky enough to be twirled around by the man of your dreams? We’d love to hear your stories below, and we hope this has helped break the hug code!


  1. Carra

    February 20, 2017 at 11:29 am

    Ok so there’s this guy who liked me and he told me, but i freaked out cause I was so happy that I said I didn’t like him. It has been 3 months and his sister said that he still likes me. We used to text all the time, but now we barely do so I thought he waster me. One day I went to the carnival with my friend and when i saw him right in front of me with his friends I paused then tried to avoid him, but then he said “where’s my hug?” I was so confused, but I hugged him and it lasted for maybe 10 seconds and he held me tight enough that I was actually pretty comfortable. But I have never hugged him before. If he asked for a hug out of no where does he still like me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 20, 2017 at 11:38 am

      Based on the duration of the hug, it is possible that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. You can attempt to take action to establish a relationship with him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him a chance to respond in kind. Take this time to determine what course of action that you want to take. Best of luck, Carra!

      • Carra

        February 21, 2017 at 9:31 pm

        Thank you! Just one thing, so I am pretty confident that he likes me and I like him too. He does many actions that are seen as flirting by other people I have told. But I am not the kind to reach out to him and tell him straight up. Is there a way that I can let him know that I like him without actually telling him when we are texting.

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 22, 2017 at 9:57 am

          If you are texting him, then he already knows that you like him. Continue to speak with him more often. Your best option is to attempt to spend time with him in person. Tell him that you want to see him. Or, if that does not work for you, then ask him why he has not asked you to come visit him. That may give him a strong enough hint. Best of luck, Carra!

      • Carra

        February 21, 2017 at 9:32 pm

        Thank you! Just one thing, he does many actions that are seen as flirting by other people I have told. But I am not the kind to reach out to him and tell him straight up. Is there a way that I can let him know that I like him without actually telling him when we are texting?

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 22, 2017 at 9:57 am

          If you are texting him, then he already knows that you like him. Continue to speak with him more often. Your best option is to attempt to spend time with him in person. Tell him that you want to see him. Or, if that does not work for you, then ask him why he has not asked you to come visit him. That may give him a strong enough hint. Best of luck, Carra!

  2. risse

    February 17, 2017 at 5:19 pm

    There is this boy. He gives me hugs everyday and they last for a long while. Sometimes he kisses me on my cheek and I always rest my head on his chest. I feel he is into me but I’m scared I will get rejected.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 18, 2017 at 12:53 pm

      If he gives you long hugs and kisses you, then he will not be rejecting you. He wants to develop a relationship with you. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. He will respond in a positive manner and share his feelings with you. This is the best route for you to take. Best of luck, Risse!

  3. jessica

    February 16, 2017 at 11:06 am

    This guy wants to give me a bear but i dont like him , im intrested in someone else but should i reject the bear or accept it ? please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 16, 2017 at 11:10 am

      You can accept it as a friend, if you want to. Before you accept it, let him know that you view him as a friend. You may want to take action toward this other person. If you remain single, then this bear person may think that he has a chance to establish a relationship with you. Best of luck, Jessica!

  4. Pinky

    February 8, 2017 at 1:08 pm

    So my friend/crush/boy he also seams to have lost interest in me . At first he was always being nice to me and texting back. But recently he doesn’t text me back much anymore and he doesn’t hug me as much. When he does hug me they are side hugs but they are tight . What should I do , does it look like he likes me to you please help

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 8, 2017 at 2:42 pm

      Try to spend time with him in person. Texting can bring a relationship only so far. You will find that the more time that you spend with him, the better. Perhaps try to go on a nature walk with him. This may bring positive actions from him. Best of luck, Pinky!

  5. Emily, girl who is confused about love

    February 6, 2017 at 5:34 pm

    OK, so past Friday my guy friend/crush/guy that used to like me but doesn’t anymore but we’re still pretty close, saw that I was crying because I had just broken up with my boyfriend that liked another girl more than me even though the previous day he sid he loved me and that he only liked me… Anyways after he saw that I was extremely upset he and his other friend (also my friend) came to me and cheered me up with jokes and told me that I didn’t need him, he didn’t deserve me, he is stupid for not liking me, etc. then out of nowhere he said, “I’m gonna hug you.” I said with joking sarcasm, “Yea right.” And gave a slight smile and roll of the eyes. Next thing I know his hand is around my waist, hugging me close. I get VERY excited inside and his friends all go, “ooo!” and he stays by my side the entire rest of “recess” (middle school break ti`me) after lunch whenever my ex tried to talk to me… But what I am confused about is that he says he likes my friend which I am totally ok with and happy for her (SQUEEEEEE) so does he or does he not possibly still like me??

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 8, 2017 at 10:52 am

      It is possible that he likes you. It is clear that he cares for you. That is the most important thing. You may find that your friendship will grow naturally into a relationship over time. Try to speak with him more often. Try to spend time with him when you are able to do so. Perhaps have you and all of your friends go out to a park or out to a meal. Best of luck, Emily!

  6. Teagan

    February 5, 2017 at 3:07 am

    The other day I was upset and my best guy friend came over sat me down on a bed started hugging me and rubbing my thigh. Then his mate came in and turned the light of I stood up and he followed and hugged me and placed his head on top of mine. What does that mean.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 5, 2017 at 10:40 am

      It sounds like he either views you as a very close friend or he is interested in you romantically. At the moment, there is not enough to show whether he likes you as more than a friend or not. If you like him, keep talking to him and try to flirt to see if he responds. If you are not interested in him, just stay friends and hope that he does not make a move. Best of luck, Teagan!

  7. Alyssa

    January 25, 2017 at 1:47 pm

    Okay so a long time ago, this guy and I were very close friends. We aren’t friends anymore sadly but anyway… One day we were walking and he just randomly turned and hugged me. It was weird for me because he had never done anything like that before. I asked him what he was doing and he said that he wasn’t giving me as hug (obviously!) And then I asked him why and he said “because”… What was up with this?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 26, 2017 at 11:44 am

      If the two of you are no longer friends, then allow thoughts of this hug to fade. The hug may have meant that he cared for you. Hugs are signs of affection. You may want to remember this for the future. Return any hug that you receive if you want more hugs. Have a great day, Alyssa!

  8. Sierra

    January 21, 2017 at 9:16 pm

    What if a guy hugs you, even though he says he doesnt like you like that, then he hugs you again after walking you home?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 22, 2017 at 4:39 pm

      If he says that he does not like you, then he just views you as a friend. If this is the case, then the hug probably does not mean anything more than just a sign of friendship. keep talking to him and stay friends though because he may change his mind in the future. Best of luck, Sierra!

  9. Kaitlyn

    January 7, 2017 at 8:36 am

    My boyfriend and I are very close, he and I were best friends before we began to date, and I was his first crush, that being said he loves to hug me a lot, because he knows I feel safe with him, it’s the most wonderful feeling in the world to me, and I think he loves hugging me too. The only type of hug that I can’t really find the meaning to is those hugs from behind,I love them but when I ask him why guys hug from behind a lot, he replys with “I dunno, it’s cute I guess” which is his answer for everything. Any info given would be helpful, thank you!

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 7, 2017 at 9:26 am

      I would really not worry about it. Every hug that he gives you is a sign that he likes you and wants to be close to you. He obviously is not overanalyzing the types of hugs that he does, so I would not read too much into it. Relax, enjoy your relationship and keep hugging! 🙂

  10. Vee Quil

    January 5, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    Okay, I’m pretty sure the ‘Catches you Hug’ made me smile! Break at my school just ended, and when we came across each other, this one guy just swept me off the ground! He did this a lot a few months ago, but stopped. When he did do it just two days ago, I was, say, really happy and surprised. I didn’t think he remembered that he used to give me “random” hugs, but he said he did! Makes me so happy!

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 6, 2017 at 1:25 pm

      Be sure to let him know that you enjoy his hugs. Surprise him with a hug of your own from time to time. The more that you share your thoughts and feelings with him, the more he will be able to react properly toward him. Reward him when he does things that you enjoy and you can be sure that you will get more hugs that sweep you off of the ground. Enjoy life, Vee!

  11. Sophie

    January 1, 2017 at 11:05 pm

    I’ve been friends with this one guy for almost 2 years now…

    But the friendship we have, it’s a special one. I’m not sure how to explain it, but whenever I’m with him “I feel like I’m home.” And as cheesy as that sounds, hear me out…

    I’m not sure if I’m in love with him, or if I fell in love with our friendship. And as far as hugging goes, 2 and 5-8 have been regular/consistent.

    Any ideas on how he feels about me? (I’m too shy to ask…) Thanks

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 3, 2017 at 11:34 am

      Because the two of you hug so often and you feel so strongly toward him, it is likely that he likes you. He may want to begin a relationship with you. However, if you do not love him, then it may be wise not to enter into a relationship with him. That said, if he asks you out and you tell him that, then he may not understand and the two of you may drift apart. It is best to remain close and be kind to people who make you feel at home. It is a rare find indeed. Best of luck, Sophie!

    • Fish

      January 25, 2017 at 7:17 pm

      OMG! I am experiencing the same with someone I have started talking for a few months… The “feel like I’m home” feeling you mentioned… Glad that someone out there is experiencing the same! It’s so unexplainable that I feel like no one would understand.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 26, 2017 at 11:47 am

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Feel free to share more of your thoughts and ideas in the future. Have a great day, Fish!

  12. Dazya

    December 31, 2016 at 4:47 pm

    I been friends with this boy for 5 years. I have told him how I felt before but had no idea he had feelings for his ex. As time passed he moved on. When he sees me his face lights up, he smiles at me everytime I visit him at work. We hug tight bear hugs and sometimes I lay my head on his chest hug. I have been in love with him since we both were in school. The week after my birthday we hung out he hugged me tight and talked but moments we talk we both look down sometimes and then when walking we walked really close but still had some space. Then when we said goodbye we hugged tight again but this time longer then before. It was a good 5 minute hug. Does that mean he likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 1, 2017 at 11:18 am

      It sounds like he could like you. He either cares about you deeply as a sister, or he is romantically interested in you. Perhaps you could ask him to hang out more often or go somewhere with you so that you have a better chance to understand his feelings and get close to him. There is no way to know for sure if he likes you back or not, but it sounds like it could be a possibility.

  13. Alexis Campbell

    December 23, 2016 at 8:08 am

    So, there is this guy I worked with for a year at Wendy’s. I had a super duper crush on him. I was at Wendy’s for three years,but it was ready for something different. So, I got different job. Anyways every time I go in to my old job he always gives me a hug. First time, it was a squeeze so tight I wanna say for like ten minutes and then a kiss on the forehead. And every time since he gives me a hug every time I see him but no kiss on the forehead. I am just trying to figure him out and what he is wanting. We talk all the time and I like him and I have told him that multiple times, but I at the same time don’t want to over tell him that. I feel like I’m a way he feels the same way he just doesn’t know how to tell me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 23, 2016 at 10:08 am

      He likely has an interest in developing a relationship with you. He may have stopped kissing you because he was unsure about your feelings. Try to spend additional time with him if you want to develop a relationship with him. The next time that you go in, you should hug him back. See if he wants to go with you for his lunch break or something. Have a great day, Alexis!

  14. Johanis

    December 20, 2016 at 8:50 am

    hi , i just work at this f&b restaurant , so my shift would be morning and his at evening . I do think he liked me bcause he keeps hugging me whenever i look down to my phone . at his break time , he asked me to eat with him , eventho my shift has ended . he wants me to stay abit longer then . We just knew for a few days so , is that a good sign or not ? tbh , i liked him too

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 20, 2016 at 11:53 am

      It sounds like he could like you. Since you have only known each other for a little while though, I would wait a bit before making a move. Get to know him better, talk to him and flirt a bit. In a few weeks or months, you can make a move if things are still as promising as they are now. Good luck, Johanis!

  15. Ana

    November 23, 2016 at 9:27 am

    There’s this guy I’ve been chatting for more than a year. I’m a type of girl who always play safe even in chatting. Recently I got a chance to meet him in person. I was hesitant how to welcome him but he gave me a hug and smelled my shoulder. I liked it but I felt a little awkwardness because he’s way taller than me. When we were about to say our goodbye, he gave me a hug again. This time he smelled my shoulder and burried his face on my neck and squeezed me tighter. He was mumbling something but I didnt hear it because I was enjoying the hug. I’d never been hugged by anyone other than my gay friends and I’m concern of what his real feelings toward me. I’m always having trouble expressing my feeling towards other people especially to an opposite sex and I’m worried that if he finds me unreceptive to his moves he will just walk away. 🙁

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 24, 2016 at 7:48 am

      It sounds like he is interested in you, so keep talking to him. We have a few articles on flirting on Her Interest that you could check out and use for some additional tips. I would not worry too much because it sound like he is attracted to you, and he has had plenty of time to get to know you over the last year. Hopefully, he has learned enough about you to realize that he is the one who will have to make the first move. Good luck, Ana!

  16. Redrenee

    November 23, 2016 at 5:30 am

    There’s this one guy we’re pretty good friends and we work together. We’re seemingly pretty comfortable with each other. We’ve only embraced twice once was when we had gone to celebrate his birthday together where we had the arms around my shoulders mine around his torso hug which was nice and the other was facing each other one arm over the shoulder one around the waist. This on seemed a bit more intimate since the embrace was different than the one armed side by side hug he gave our other female friend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 24, 2016 at 7:46 am

      It is possible that he could like you or he just views you as a very close friend. While the hug was intimate, it could be just caused by your close friendship with each other. I would keep talking to him, try flirting a bit and see if he flirts back. If you are tired of waiting to see hwo he feels, you could also just tell him your feelings and see how he responds. Good luck, Redrenee!

  17. Jazzy

    November 10, 2016 at 5:58 pm

    theres this boy and he always wants to give me a hug even when i look mad or try to ignore him what does it mean ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 11, 2016 at 11:26 am

      If he attempts to bring himself close to you physically when you are upset or not paying attention to him, then it means that he wants you to feel better or give him attention. These actions are indications that he has feelings for you. He likely wants to develop a relationship with you. If you do not want to do so, then you do not need to try to establish a relationship with him. If you do want to, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. This will give you additional information about his thoughts regarding you. Best of luck, Jazzy!

  18. Alyssa Sheil

    November 10, 2016 at 4:35 pm

    me and this guy were bestfriends and one day he told me he liked me and i liked him too. so about a week later he hugged me and it took my breath away :)) i was so happy.. then summer came and we stopped talking. and now that schools back he wont look at me and he has this new girl that he likes.. she asked him out and theyre going on a “picnic date” tomorrow after school. HELP?! what do i doz?

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 11, 2016 at 11:21 am

      It seems as though this new girl and him are close. It would be unwise for you to attempt to damage their relationship. Doing so would only bring negative events back toward you and harm towards this other girl. There is no reason for you to not remain friends with him however. Remain positive as you move forward. If you find that their relationship did not work out, then you should attempt to rekindle your relationship with him at that time. Have a great week, Alyssa!

  19. Jojo

    November 6, 2016 at 4:20 pm

    I have this crush and before he found out I liked him I use to mess with him to get his attention and after I did that he would come up from behind me and pick me up or just hug me from behind and walk up to me acting all strong like he was challenging me cause he over heard me saying I’m not as strong as him but he’d do it with a smirk on his face then when I’d back up a little he’d walk up to me with a smile on his face and hug me,even after he found out,also after he found out he’d just walk up to me and hug me. But the thing about is that he hugs his friends that r girls too and idk what it means. HELP!!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 7, 2016 at 3:15 pm

      Since his hugging you, it is likely that he has a desire to be closer to you. As he is defending you from people who are trying to touch you, he is either protecting you as a friend or protecting you because he wants to be more than a friend. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. As the two of you speak, you will learn his feelings for you in greater detail. As his actions toward you are already friendly and helpful, it is likely that he will respond in a positive manner. Have a great day, Jojo!

    • Alyssa Sheil

      November 10, 2016 at 4:31 pm

      get out of the friend zone 😉 tell him how you feel. if he doesnt feel the same then thats a shame. just continue being friends..

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 11, 2016 at 11:19 am

        Excellent advice! It is always important to share your feelings in a direct and honest way. That way they can share their feelings with you. If it does not go as planned, then you are still able to remain friends with them. At that time, spend additional time together. It is possible that proximity will grow their feelings for you. Thank you for your insights, Alyssa!

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