Types of Hugs From a Man (And Their Meaning)

By on February 5, 2015






Hugs can be super confusing. They can either show signs of affection and intimacy, or awkwardness and disinterest. What kind of hugs are your man giving you? Find out the 8 types of hugs you may get from a man, and what they all mean.

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 1. One Armed

We’ve all gotten one of those incredibly awkward one armed hugs- or as I like to call it, the cold shoulder hugs. This type of hug shows that he feels incredibly awkward around you and isn’t even sure if he really wants to hug you in the first place. My suggestion: I wouldn’t be trying to get another hug from him anytime soon.

2. A Quick Hug

Everyone tends to overlook a quick hug. They think, “Oh, that was short and to-the-point. They obviously don’t want to hug me!” But that actually couldn’t be any further from the truth. While some individuals may choose a quick hug because they’re just not in the mood to hug, nine times out of ten it means they just want to give you a quick squeeze to reassure you that they care. Maybe they’re late to work or school and only have time for a quickie, or maybe they just simply couldn’t wait another second to give you a little splash of love.

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3. Catches You

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When you go in for a hug and the guy whisks you off your feet instantly, it’s a very clear sign this man really missed you, and he couldn’t be any more excited to finally get a hug from you. This is one of those hugs we always see on television or romance movies: you know, the one where the guy and girl run towards each other and the girl wraps her legs around his waist and they embrace for 10 minutes with deep hugs and kisses. Ladies, if your man does this, he’s seriously into you.

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4. Twirls You Around

Twirly hugs are absolutely awesome. They’re totally whimsical and free spirited, and is sure to put a huge smile on the girls face. That being said, if your man twirls you around when you go in for a hug, that means he feels comfortable and playful with you and loves to make you giggle and smile from ear to ear. Obviously a wonderful sign that he likes you and enjoys your company to the fullest extent!

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5. Holds You Tight

When a man holds you tight, he doesn’t want you to leave. He is so enthralled and in love with you he doesn’t ever want to let go. These hugs can go on for a couple of minutes, and ladies, you should enjoy every second of it. Indulge in the embrace and feel the utter romance pouring through his body that he’s too afraid of tough to express with words.

6. Gives You a Squeeze

The squeeze hug is kind of a blend of the quick hug and the hold you tight hug. It’s the hug where he has a HUGE smile on his face as he wraps you in his arms and pulls you in for the tightest squeeze of your life. This is a super cute “bear hug” that is done between both friends and lovers. That being said, knowing the meaning around his hug may be a little hard to find out. He may give you a friendly squeeze or a romantic squeeze. Keep your eye out for others clues!

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7. Looks Into Your Eyes

When you are hugging a man and he pulls away (but doesn’t break the hug) just so he can look into your eyes for a moment, it means he is deeply in love with you. Even though he sees your face often, he still doesn’t want to go longer than a second without seeing your majestic beauty. This is such an incredibly romantic hug that has tons of deep feelings attached to it.

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8. Lay Heads on Each Other

While you’re embracing with your man, have you ever noticed that your head is a perfect fit for his arm? And if your man is tall enough, has he ever laid his head gently on top of yours? This is not only an incredibly cozy and comfortable hug, but one that shows the two of you are incredibly close and have deep feelings for each other. It shows that you’re one hundred percent comfortable around each other and know that the two of you go together perfectly like the last two pieces of a hard puzzle.

So, we’re curious: which hug do you like the most? Have you ever been given one of those terrible one armed, awkward hugs? Or have you been lucky enough to be twirled around by the man of your dreams? We’d love to hear your stories below, and we hope this has helped break the hug code!





433 Comments

  1. sara

    June 16, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    I have a friend who has been my classmate for about 6 months. after 2 weeks of knowing each other, every time we meet he hugged me but I met him yesterday after two weeks and when he was leaving, he hugged me with him two hands and squeeze Little bit. I guess I like him but I want to know if he is interested too.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 17, 2017 at 7:19 pm

      It is likely that he is interested in you if he is hugging you. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him a chance to open up to you as well. When you have done this, attempt to spend additional time with him. As the two of you become closer, your mutual feelings will grow stronger. Have a great day, Sara!

  2. Gina Tzu

    June 11, 2017 at 12:01 pm

    I feel as if Im in love with my best friend. Granted we’re both 18 and moving off to college, so I know our time together is short. I confessed to him and his response was, he’s not ready for a relationship and he’s afraid that long distance will hurt me. He never said if he does or does not like me. Recently, we’ve been hanging out a lot one on one. He’s asked me to kiss his cheek, he let’s me rest my head on his shoulder at the movies, and he’s kissed my cheek as well. The other night, I started crying that we were separating soon while we were hugging. He later sat on the couch and laid my head down on a pillow in his lap. And he stroked my hair and arm to calm me down. After we hugged before he had to go. He had his arms around my waist and my arms were around his neck. He hugged me 4-5 times before he had to drive home (we were at my house). Honestly, I feel as if he loves me back. I genuinely feel that way, because thats what I see in his actions. But he’s never outright said it. What are your thoughts on how he feels, do his hugs and actions indicate anything? Again, we’re both 18, I know its a bit young to think about this, but I would still like an opinion. Thank you!

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2017 at 3:35 pm

      He probably has deep feelings for you and may want to develop a relationship with you. He also realizes that he will be in college and may want to focus on his education. Long distance relationships, especially during college, may be difficult to sustain. You may want to think about what it would mean to you if the two of you enjoyed a relationship together until he left for college. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Gina!

      • Gina Tzu

        June 12, 2017 at 11:05 am

        Thank you for the quick response. I think that its probably best that I maintain the friendship we have right now. I recognize that we feel something really deep for each othee, but perhaps we’re both not mature enough to pinpoint exactly what it is. Maybe its best if I see how this next year of our freshman year in college goes. If we maintain the friendship long distance and meet back and things are the same as usual, maybe there’s a chance we’ll grow to learn what these feelings truly are. One can hope of course XD

        • web admin

          web admin

          June 13, 2017 at 7:24 pm

          It sounds like you have an excellent plan. Continue to remain in touch with him. You may want to even video chat with him while you are apart. If he develops a relationship with someone else, then develop a relationship with someone else as well, if you want to. If he does not develop a relationship with someone else, then grow your relationship with him while you are apart. Have a great day, Gina!

  3. Maya

    June 3, 2017 at 6:42 pm

    I recently started dating a guy. At the end of our second date, he asked for a hug before I got out of his far. I am not a hugger, so before I left to go, he gave me a quick squeeze. Not sure what it meant though. Could it mean he is romantically interested or a friendly one?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 5, 2017 at 1:56 pm

      He could be interested in you on a variety of levels. Hugs are commonly signs of a emotional interest. It is certainly possible that he wants to develop a relationship with you. He may think of you as a good friend. You may want to speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will help the two of you determine what kind of relationship that you want to develop together. Have a great day, Maya!

  4. Tica

    May 29, 2017 at 12:29 am

    I’ve been distant friends with this guy i kinda liked for a while, distanced myself when I found he had a gf and so we became hello friends. Then about a month ago we started talking and instantly clicked and we have spoken everyday since, guess hes having issues with his gf but I didnt want to be in the middle and be the reason for a breakup and so I try to distance myself without telling him why and one night when I tell him I can’t see him cause I’m seeing someone else, he gets angry at first but later hes like its cool if Im meeting my guys but I Shouldnt lie about it and be straightforward, so I guess he just wants friendship. But every night after our talks, we always hug, he seems to like hugs a lot so do I especially when its done right. I stretched out my hands over his shoulder and around his neck and lean in completely and he just holds my back/waist, doesnt hold me further or maybe cause am already all in and after a short while hes like goodnight making me feel in my head like I lingered for too long, but also he holds on to my waist when I’m done hugging him and I get confused. I also never ask about his relationship and the gf is in the same school, he was kinda shady at first but later on after coming clean he was kinda laid back, I dont know if its my place to ask and I don’t want him to think I care too much and if he had an intention of playing me he would easily do that because I would seem vulnerable. Soo I’m wondering does he like me or is he just passing time? Is he trying to make his gf jealous tho she never sees us? Why doesn’t he hug me well enough but still lingers on?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 29, 2017 at 12:59 pm

      I think he is physically attracted to you and may like you. He was angry when you said you dated other guys because he was jealous. He was at least logical enough to cool down and realize that it is completely unfair to expect a single girl to stay single when he is flirting with a girlfriend at home. While it sounds like he likes you on some level, I would stop spending time with him. He has a girlfriend, and he is not letting that stop him from getting to know you better or thinking about you. If you were to date him, he could be just as much of a player. At the very least, stop spending so much time with him until he is single.

  5. Crystal

    May 28, 2017 at 12:44 pm

    I have a counselor / professional relationship with a man. I have a huge crush on him. A few days ago he moved in for a hug goodbye. My legs went to jelly and i went weak kneed. When we let go i was flushed and im sure the blank look on my face said it all….do u think this indicates he wants something more? There are other signs as well but could be construed as ambiguous.He asked me on a day date…outside of our work relationship. After the hug..i fell madly..but i remain aloof and afraid of rejection and decided to leave next moves up to him. Men love a challenge …right?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 29, 2017 at 11:39 am

      The hug could just be because he views you as a friend or someone he cares about, although it could be something more. He did ask you out on a day date, so it seems possible that he could like you. I would just act like a friend and let him make the move. If this is a date, then he definitely seems like the type of guy who doesn’t need to be nudged into making a move. Go on the date and see how it goes! Good luck, Crystal!

  6. lilly

    May 26, 2017 at 6:54 am

    i was with this guy for a very long time and i had loved him since but i don’t know if he stills likes other girls once we were somewhere and we were playing truth or dare then he started calling me babe few years later went and saw him but it looked like he didn’t want a hug he just shook my hand with a smile. then 2weeks later i saw him somewhere he started making jokes and i laughed then i spent just a little bit of time with him i was scared to hug him with both hands so i just side huge him i was overthinking too. after he said bye too me also he said my name and smile does that mean he likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 26, 2017 at 10:31 am

      It is possible, but there is no way to know for sure yet. Keep talking to him, flirt a bit and see how things go. Hopefully, he will do some more obvious sign in the future so that you can know how he feels. Good luck, Lilly!

  7. ....

    May 26, 2017 at 12:12 am

    There is this guy in my school, we are kind of like friends, he calls me his bestfriend and sometimes little sister. The part I don’t unerstand is one day, we met in the hallway in school by accident cause I was late for class, I gave him a hug cause he called me, then when I wanted to let go and go to class, He held me back a little like he didn’t want to let go. After that, I told myself i’m overthinking it because I like him and he gives everyone a hug. Like a month later, he started holding my hands even in the hallway in school. I didn’t see him hold hands with anybody else, which is what got me confused. Then, he stopped doing all that and kind of seem different to me. Acts a little different too.I kind of think he is not interested. should I just leave it at us being just friends and do you think he like me or was he just being friendly?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 26, 2017 at 9:48 am

      It sounds like he could like you. The hug could have just been you over-reading it, but holding hands sees to show that he likes you. He may just be afraid to make a move. While it sounds like he likes you, you may also want to just go with your gut instinct–if you think he doesn’t like you, then you may want to hold off on making a move.

  8. pat Fulford. MH,SA, Therapist

    May 23, 2017 at 11:16 pm

    I think he is being a gentleman, and yes I believe he likes you “dig you”. Nice closer. I feel you should appreciate what his guilt was able to make him do be a gentleman. That tells you he cared for you, and maybe still or once loved you. But he never did any indication that I saw in your note that he has not moved on as you have. Think of it as a decent your man and you probably got a friend out there somewhere once time has passed that can be valuable. 🙂

  9. Olivia

    May 23, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    I have just recently started dating my ex again, he broke up with me because he thought i had deserved better and all this time i found out we both still loved eachother and we’re dating again. I found out he cried over me and we hugged for the first time last night and he pulled me in, squeezed me tight and hugged me for a long time, he also rubbed my back. What does that hug mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 24, 2017 at 9:51 am

      It sounds like it means that he missed being with you and was happy to get you back. He left because he wanted you to have better, and he later realized that he had made a mistake. Unlike many, many couples, he was given a second chance to be with the woman he loves, and he sounds justifiably happy about it. Congratulations, Olivia! I hope that everything works out for you!

  10. Baylee

    May 10, 2017 at 9:20 pm

    This guy broke up with me last October and I’ve loved him since, i finally met another guy about 2 months ago and i love him soo much, but deep down i still love my ex but he doesn’t effect me. I saw him for the first time a couple days ago at training and we kind of avoided each other, but then i got home and there was message from him saying he’s regret breaking up with me and the reason why he did it, because he felt bad not messaging me when we were together and how he felt like i didn’t deserve him and i deserve much better, and i read it over and over, i couldn’t help but cry or smile, because i’m glad he finally reached out to me, and, i have missed him so much. I think i’m in love with my ex and my boyfriend. I don’t know what to do, is it common to love 2 guys at once

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 11, 2017 at 8:33 am

      Many people still have feelings for their ex–after all, it’s not like you can flip a switch and suddenly stop caring about a person. You obviously don’t want to be with your ex though, so try to redirect your thoughts whenever thoughts of him come up in your mind. You will move on from him, but it may take a bit of extra effort to do so. In the meantime, focus on your current relationship and forget about the ex. The relationship won’t be any better than it was before, so just try to forget about him as much as possible or it could hurt your current relationship.

      • Baylee

        May 11, 2017 at 4:18 pm

        I’ve thought things through and i’ve realized i don’t have feelings for my boyfriend anymore and i’m still in love with my ex

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 12, 2017 at 8:01 am

          If you are absolutely sure about how you feel, then you may want to end things with your boyfriend. Even if it turns out that you can’t be with your ex again, it is a bit unfair to your boyfriend that he is a second choice. Good luck, Baylee–I hope that everything works out for you!

          • Baylee

            May 14, 2017 at 4:08 pm

            Thankyou things did work out after all, I’m dating my ex again and we both are happy as ever

            • web admin

              web admin

              May 15, 2017 at 11:10 am

              I am glad to hear that everything is working out for you! Good luck, Baylee!

  11. krisy

    May 9, 2017 at 11:16 am

    I was partially seeing a guy and stopped since he said he cant make it official.. I ran into him for the first time in 6 months with no contact for the last 4 months.i didnt even notice him but he saw me…he approached me with arms wide open, a huge smile and gave me a tight hug to which I kinda pulled away and he was like ‘dont wory I wont jump on you’….then saying good to see you here. ?.what you are doing here.?…..how r u?..amd how have you been??..you still work with Dr Kate? do you still live there? you know this what’s has been happening…ohhh I thought about you a couple of times…..ohh give me your phone no…..my other phone crashed down….are you on what’s app??let me flash you that my no…and he was like ohhh I save it as Dr maru..he used to call me like that back then….by the way you still look good….ohh you should come and say hi to my mum..and then after awhile he left going in for another hug but I gave him a side hug and he was like u still give those side hugs…
    I hated running into him because despite being 6 months I still think of him but I never told him so……

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 9, 2017 at 2:02 pm

      It seems like you may have commented twice on this one. I have to answer each comment individually, so it may sometimes take me a little while to answer them all. If you do not see your response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my last response and let me know if you have any questions. Thanks for commenting!

  12. krisy

    May 9, 2017 at 11:08 am

    I was partially seeing a guy and stopped since he said he cant make it official.. I ran into him for the first time in 6 months with no contact for the last 4 months.i didnt even notice him but he saw me…he approached me and gave me a tight hug to which I kinda pulled away and he was like ‘dont wory I wont jump on you’….then saying good to see you here. ?.what you are doing here.?…..how r u?..amd how have you been??..you still work with Dr Kate? do you still live there? you know this what’s has been happening…ohhh I thought about you a couple of times…..ohh give me your phone no…..my other phone crashed down….are you on what’s app??let me flash you that my no…and he was like ohhh I save it as Dr maru..he used to call me like that back then….by the way you still look good….ohh you should come and say hi to my mum..and then after awhile he left going in for another hug but I gave him a side hug and he was like u still give those side hugs…
    I hated running into him because despite being 6 months I still think of him but I never told him so……

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 9, 2017 at 2:02 pm

      It sounds like he still likes you. If you don’t want to be with him, don’t talk to him or respond to his messages. If you do want to be with him again, then it certainly sounds like it would be possible to date again if you want to. Good luck, Krisy!

      • krisy

        May 29, 2017 at 12:04 am

        hey thanks soo much for the advice
        I actually texted him to wish him his birthday….he was happy to hearfrom saying that you remembered……he again texted me the following day wishing me a happy weekend. ..I texted him yesterday and he was like don’t be a stranger. …..when I told him that he is being a stranger more then me, he was like we should both then be work on being less of strangers and asked to meet him for coffee one day….he said he cared to when I told him that I always cared and still do….he then told me that he was so happy to see me again and he hopes to see me soon…….asking him about his mum he was like you come home to have tea with him and her……is this how friendship is??

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 29, 2017 at 11:32 am

          It might be. I am not sure what he really wants. He didn’t want a relationship before, so that might not have changed. It does seem like he genuinely cares for you. If you can stand the risk of it not working out, you could hang out with him and see how things go. Good luck, Krisy!

          • krisy

            May 30, 2017 at 11:12 am

            Thanks web admin….i don’t know really….it hurts deep inside to see this…maybe he still thinks he has a chance for a hook up and maybe playing with my mind….then I feel he is acting like a coward..just yesterday he got in a long text conversation with me in regard to his mum who he had taken to the doctor. he kept updating me about it….i don’t know why he is hiding…maybe it’s time to move on seriously..
            kudos to the great work you do for the commenters..blessings

            • web admin

              web admin

              May 31, 2017 at 8:16 am

              It might be time to move on seriously, but it is really up to you. You just have to decide if you want to risk being hurt again. He might not even be angling for a hook up–if his mother is sick, he may just want someone who listens to him. Unfortunately, this still wouldn’t bode well for having a relationship some day. 🙁 I hope that everything works out for you, Krisy. Good luck!

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