Types of Hugs From a Man (And Their Meaning)

By on February 5, 2015

Hugs can be super confusing. They can either show signs of affection and intimacy, or awkwardness and disinterest. What kind of hugs are your man giving you? Find out the 8 types of hugs you may get from a man, and what they all mean.


 1. One Armed

We’ve all gotten one of those incredibly awkward one armed hugs- or as I like to call it, the cold shoulder hugs. This type of hug shows that he feels incredibly awkward around you and isn’t even sure if he really wants to hug you in the first place. My suggestion: I wouldn’t be trying to get another hug from him anytime soon.

2. A Quick Hug

Everyone tends to overlook a quick hug. They think, “Oh, that was short and to-the-point. They obviously don’t want to hug me!” But that actually couldn’t be any further from the truth. While some individuals may choose a quick hug because they’re just not in the mood to hug, nine times out of ten it means they just want to give you a quick squeeze to reassure you that they care. Maybe they’re late to work or school and only have time for a quickie, or maybe they just simply couldn’t wait another second to give you a little splash of love.


3. Catches You


When you go in for a hug and the guy whisks you off your feet instantly, it’s a very clear sign this man really missed you, and he couldn’t be any more excited to finally get a hug from you. This is one of those hugs we always see on television or romance movies: you know, the one where the guy and girl run towards each other and the girl wraps her legs around his waist and they embrace for 10 minutes with deep hugs and kisses. Ladies, if your man does this, he’s seriously into you.

twirls you around

4. Twirls You Around

Twirly hugs are absolutely awesome. They’re totally whimsical and free spirited, and is sure to put a huge smile on the girls face. That being said, if your man twirls you around when you go in for a hug, that means he feels comfortable and playful with you and loves to make you giggle and smile from ear to ear. Obviously a wonderful sign that he likes you and enjoys your company to the fullest extent!


5. Holds You Tight

When a man holds you tight, he doesn’t want you to leave. He is so enthralled and in love with you he doesn’t ever want to let go. These hugs can go on for a couple of minutes, and ladies, you should enjoy every second of it. Indulge in the embrace and feel the utter romance pouring through his body that he’s too afraid of tough to express with words.

6. Gives You a Squeeze

The squeeze hug is kind of a blend of the quick hug and the hold you tight hug. It’s the hug where he has a HUGE smile on his face as he wraps you in his arms and pulls you in for the tightest squeeze of your life. This is a super cute “bear hug” that is done between both friends and lovers. That being said, knowing the meaning around his hug may be a little hard to find out. He may give you a friendly squeeze or a romantic squeeze. Keep your eye out for others clues!


7. Looks Into Your Eyes

When you are hugging a man and he pulls away (but doesn’t break the hug) just so he can look into your eyes for a moment, it means he is deeply in love with you. Even though he sees your face often, he still doesn’t want to go longer than a second without seeing your majestic beauty. This is such an incredibly romantic hug that has tons of deep feelings attached to it.


8. Lay Heads on Each Other

While you’re embracing with your man, have you ever noticed that your head is a perfect fit for his arm? And if your man is tall enough, has he ever laid his head gently on top of yours? This is not only an incredibly cozy and comfortable hug, but one that shows the two of you are incredibly close and have deep feelings for each other. It shows that you’re one hundred percent comfortable around each other and know that the two of you go together perfectly like the last two pieces of a hard puzzle.

So, we’re curious: which hug do you like the most? Have you ever been given one of those terrible one armed, awkward hugs? Or have you been lucky enough to be twirled around by the man of your dreams? We’d love to hear your stories below, and we hope this has helped break the hug code!


  1. ....

    April 24, 2017 at 2:24 pm

    There is this guy at my school, kind of like a friend but we only see each other once or twice a week. One time, he gave me a back hug, another time, we hugged in the morning and when i tried lettin go, it felt like he didn’t want to. Then next, he started holdin my hands, I mean I like him but im still not sure if he likes me because he gives all my friends hugs, doesn’t hold their hands though, never seen him do that with anyone else. I think i’m overthinkin this and I think giving up on him might be best. Any advice?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 25, 2017 at 1:54 pm

      He is interested in developing a relationship with you on some level. If you are interested in developing a relationship with him, then speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Try to spend additional time with him, as this will help bring the two of you closer. Best of luck, Anon!

  2. Paris

    April 21, 2017 at 10:39 pm

    At college there’s this guy I became close with, after class he’d hug all his friends (ladies friends) including me, at first he’d give me bear hugs. And he normally says we should spend proper time because at college we only meet for like 2seconds and then it’s his shift. But the last hug kinda lasted more than the others and this time he pulled me very closer, and it left this strange but a beautiful feeling.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 22, 2017 at 10:26 am

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Attempt to reach out to him and give him a hug as well. If he responds in a positive way and you want to move your relationship forward, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Paris!

  3. Mickey Rainey

    April 19, 2017 at 9:40 pm

    I have been dating my boyfriend for a some time now and we haven’t kissed yet, because he isn’t ready and he’s never kissed a girl before so he’s a bit nervous. We usually hug for a couple of seconds and he always hugs me and sometimes i hug him out of surprise. But after the bell went at school, he hugged me for about a minute and he looked straight into my eyes while he was holding my waist and i had my arms wrapped around he’s neck. We were staring at each other for about 30 seconds, he blushed and smiled, he gave me the dreamy eye look and i can’t stop smiling or thinking about that hug.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 20, 2017 at 11:07 am

      He likely wants to kiss you. He may be too shy to make the first move. You may want to be the first to initiate the kiss. You can also tell him that you want him to kiss you. There are many options for you to choose from. Make this kiss special! Have a great day, Mickey!

  4. Sonja Meredith

    April 17, 2017 at 4:04 pm

    I have a friend that I been talking to for almost a year now it’s nothing serious but I do love and have feelings for him and he says he has love for me but he is the type of person to hold back and not express his feelings but one time we were kissing and he told me he loved me twice but I really dont know but the other day he gave me a hug and it was a tight hug a long hug and it felt so good I felt a connection a chemistry between us like we hugged for atleast ten minutes and the hug turned into kissing as well but we still was hugging while we was kising so I dont know but he doesnt expess his feelings to often

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 18, 2017 at 10:17 am

      If you are hugging and kissing, then the feelings that the two of you have are clear. You both are interested in developing a relationship with each other. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Continue to develop your chemistry and see where your relationship goes. Have a great day, Sonja!

  5. India

    April 15, 2017 at 9:36 pm

    I like this man and I think i Love him too. He does tells me that he loves me but i keep doubting it. Last time when we met he gave me a tight hug almost like crushing me. Then he fit his forehead to mine and kissed my forehead too. Later before leaving he hugged me from behind and just held me for quite some time. I loved it but I’m confused as I never had such hugs from anyone before. Can you please help me understand if he is serious about me. My past experience with relationships has been very bad hence I’m scared to move ahead.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 16, 2017 at 9:05 am

      If he says that he loves you and he hugs you often, then he likely has strong feelings for you. Continue to spend time with him. Give him more chances to show you that he loves you. Be certain to return his emotions so that he knows that you feel the same toward him. Take this time to contact him and share your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, India!

  6. Still in love

    April 14, 2017 at 9:20 am

    I saw my ex girlfriend yesterday for the first time in 3 months. Relationship was a year and a half and great. She got distant for a week and we broke up with me pulling the trigger. Tried to get back with her for about a month but she ended up telling me she “fell out of love” which I really don’t believe but tried to accept it. Finally met up yesteday, she initiated a big greeting hug. We caught up for 40 minutes and she had to get to work an even bigger tight full body hug for probably a minute, I loosened to make sure it wasn’t me but she held even tighter so I just rode it out. Is that maybe a sign she is still interested? We were exchanging stuff and she gave me a large number of things that obviously not mine, i’my thinking to keep the door open

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 14, 2017 at 10:32 am

      The door is open. There is no reason for you to not be her friend. The two of you may get back together in the future. She clearly cares for you and may be uncertain about your feelings toward her. Take this time to determine what course of action that you want to take. Be there for her at this time. Best of luck, In Love!

  7. Imanidiotsorry

    March 24, 2017 at 12:16 am

    So there’s this friend in class (we’re not that super close especially because we have different teams but we’re close) so he tends to give me at least three-four hugs when we see each other.. when we see each other we hug. then like after an hour of class, during break he hugs me. after class, if we do small talk, he hugs me again (hello) and then when we part he hugs me again. so basically keeps offering hugs.
    I usually see them as friendly hugs.
    But then his bestfriend (who I’m a bit closer with, gave me a weird vibe that made it awkward..) so last night, we said our last goodbyes and hugged 2 because the first one failed, so the last hug I noticed that it was full on hug (it’s a full on hugs all the time, like he wont make me move on if its not proper)but im not sure if he buried his face in my hair or shoulder I dont know if it was accurate maybe by accident because I tried to keep it quick. I really didnt understand why the bestfriend made it awkward. My heart began to pound so hard with the atmosphere, so I gave the bestfriend a quick hug too to keep it even and focused on the bestfriend… and made them leave…. ughhh then when they passed by their car.. I thought they wouldnt noticed but I was just giving BOTH of them a heart signs (im mean the whole class was like that so there’s no malice)(even the other classmates that passed me)when their car passed (they ride together) he was driving but faced his body gave me a full happy wave… I really don’t know.. do you think he likes me? or we’re just too friendly? It’s just bestfriend made me doubt myself.. heeeelp… im over thinking huh?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 24, 2017 at 9:17 am

      It sounds like he likes you. The best friend may have a slight crush on you as well, but it sounds like your crush could be interested in you. While he only gives you hugs, he gives you a lot of hugs and always seems to be around you. It seems more likely than not that he is interested in you. Now, you just have to decide if you want to take the next step and ask him out. What do you want to do?

  8. .

    March 18, 2017 at 10:07 pm

    I have a lot of feelings for my friend and we see each other everyday and the majority of the time we’ll walk back home together and he always give me a bear hug before he goes and it usually lasts 2 seconds ( yes I counted how long it lasts haha ) and he’ll walk all the way back home and i just don’t know if he feels like the same way about me he has told me he loves me but I don’t know if he meant it was friends or in a more than friend way and he also said he was also going to ask me to be his valentines but he said he didn’t because he saw me with a rose and he didn’t have anything for me.(I thought he meant it in a friend way but prior to that we were arguing because he said that Valentine’s Day is just about love,romance and not friendship and I’m just confused). Also My friends have said that he is interested in me because of the way we interact with each other and one friend even said that we give each other awkward hugs like the I like you you like me but I’m not gonna tell you type of hug. i don’t know what to do I feel like I should just confess to him and hope that he’ll feel the same way but I’m scared of that changing the friendship we have or if I’ll end up loosing him. I just don’t know what to do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2017 at 6:06 pm

      It is likely that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. It is normal to feel concerned that changing a friendship into a romantic relationship may end the friendship. However, friendships can fade away for a wife variety of reasons. If either of you begin dating someone else, then your friendship may end. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day!

  9. HeLp

    March 18, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    hey so i might be developing feelings for my friend and yesterday when i went to hug him goodbye i hugged him and in the middle of it he picked me up. what does this mean??

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 19, 2017 at 5:59 pm

      He is happy that you hugged him. Hey may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Try to continue to spend time with him. Share hugs with him as long as you feel comfortable doing so. You may want to speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Help!

  10. Sally

    March 16, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    Ive started to develope feelings for and extremely close friend the problem is i feel like were in the friend zone because when we started chatting it was about a girl he liked alot… lately hes been giving me more attention and tight hugs… should i try to take things further

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 16, 2017 at 2:55 pm

      If the two of you hug, then let him know that you like it. Hug him back and hold him tighter. Tell him that you want to spend more time with him. Go on nature walks with him or out to a meal. Try to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings after spending time with him throughout a day. This will make him think about you more often than before. Have a great day, Sally!

  11. ????

    March 14, 2017 at 6:35 pm

    my friends boyfriend asked me for a hug the first time i said no but then he asked again and i didnt know why he wanted to so i agreed to what does this mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2017 at 3:03 pm

      He may view you as a friend, or he may be interested in you. Tell your girlfriend if you are concerned about his thoughts. If he asks for a hug again, then explain that you do not feel comfortable doing so. If he pushes again, then tell your friend. Have a great day, Mystery!

  12. Tierra

    March 14, 2017 at 9:59 am

    There is this guy I work with and he always wants hugs from me. One time I did the run and jump into his arms and he held me for awhile, the problem is he has a girlfriend, so I feel guilty for hugging him all the time. Is he into me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 15, 2017 at 3:00 pm

      He may be into you. However, he is in a relationship. Explain to him that you do want such hugs since he is in a relationship. If your hugs are simply friendly, then there is no reason to stop them. Do not attempt to damage his relationship. If it ends and you still want to be with him, then attempt to develop a relationship with him at that time. Have a great day, Tierra!

  13. Tiki

    March 12, 2017 at 9:30 pm

    So my best guy friend gives me really tight hugs and sometimes picks me up and twirls me around. Does that mean he’s into me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 13, 2017 at 1:56 pm

      He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Next time he hugs you like this, return the hug and show him that you enjoy it. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then share your thoughts and feelings. This will give him an opportunity to share his ideas as well. Have a great day, Tiki!

  14. Henrietta

    March 8, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    I also have a male friend who loves to hug for long though he has a girlfriend. It makes me feel awkward. Don’t know if he is beginning to love me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 9, 2017 at 2:34 pm

      If he is hugging people from behind while he has a girlfriend, then there are many reasons why you should not attempt to develop a relationship with him. He is acting in a way that may be a sign of infidelity. You should not attempt to break apart his relationship, as that will only cause negative consequences for you. Have a great day, Henrietta!

  15. Love

    March 6, 2017 at 11:10 am

    So this guy and I used to be together for a couple years off and on. We got busy and kinda distanced. The last week we’ve seen each other 3 times. Yesterday he vented about things and I wasn’t really the good friend he needed. When we were saying goodbye he gave me a long kinda tight hug. Wondering if our friendship can go to more over time.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 6, 2017 at 2:27 pm

      Your relationship certainly has the capacity to grow. If you want to reach out to him and establish a relationship with him again, then do so. However, if you find that the memories of your previous relationship cause you to second guess this course of action, then allow him to fade from your life. If you want to remain friends with him, then do so. Best of luck, Love!

      • The girl who has a crush

        April 4, 2017 at 3:52 pm

        What if I was hugging my friend then my other friend that’s a guy, held out his arena for a hug but it was dark and then we hugged?

        • web admin

          web admin

          April 5, 2017 at 8:39 am

          It might just mean that you feel close to your friends and they like you as a friend. It is also possible that they like you as more than a friend. If you want to find out if either of them likes you or not, you can check out some of our articles on how to tell if a guy likes you and see if he shows any of those signs. Good luck!

  16. Jersey

    March 5, 2017 at 12:20 am

    I have a friend who I also like. Whenever we see each other he always grabs me from behind at my waist and will pull me away from my friend group. We talk a lot, but I have no idea if he is into me or not. I see him tomorrow, so I will try to see if his pupils get bigger. In the meantime, any help?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 5, 2017 at 11:01 am

      It sounds like he could be interested in you. He could just view you as a close friend, but it also seems possible that he has or is starting to have feelings for you. Try to flirt with him and see how he responds. We also have an article on Her Interest called How to Tell If a Guy Likes you that goes into the different sins that he could be interested in you. Good luck, Jersey!

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