Types of Hugs From a Man (And Their Meaning)

By on February 5, 2015

Hugs can be super confusing. They can either show signs of affection and intimacy, or awkwardness and disinterest. What kind of hugs are your man giving you? Find out the 8 types of hugs you may get from a man, and what they all mean.

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 1. One Armed

We’ve all gotten one of those incredibly awkward one armed hugs- or as I like to call it, the cold shoulder hugs. This type of hug shows that he feels incredibly awkward around you and isn’t even sure if he really wants to hug you in the first place. My suggestion: I wouldn’t be trying to get another hug from him anytime soon.

2. A Quick Hug

Everyone tends to overlook a quick hug. They think, “Oh, that was short and to-the-point. They obviously don’t want to hug me!” But that actually couldn’t be any further from the truth. While some individuals may choose a quick hug because they’re just not in the mood to hug, nine times out of ten it means they just want to give you a quick squeeze to reassure you that they care. Maybe they’re late to work or school and only have time for a quickie, or maybe they just simply couldn’t wait another second to give you a little splash of love.

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3. Catches You

When you go in for a hug and the guy whisks you off your feet instantly, it’s a very clear sign this man really missed you, and he couldn’t be any more excited to finally get a hug from you. This is one of those hugs we always see on television or romance movies: you know, the one where the guy and girl run towards each other and the girl wraps her legs around his waist and they embrace for 10 minutes with deep hugs and kisses. Ladies, if your man does this, he’s seriously into you.

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4. Twirls You Around

Twirly hugs are absolutely awesome. They’re totally whimsical and free spirited, and is sure to put a huge smile on the girls face. That being said, if your man twirls you around when you go in for a hug, that means he feels comfortable and playful with you and loves to make you giggle and smile from ear to ear. Obviously a wonderful sign that he likes you and enjoys your company to the fullest extent!

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5. Holds You Tight

When a man holds you tight, he doesn’t want you to leave. He is so enthralled and in love with you he doesn’t ever want to let go. These hugs can go on for a couple of minutes, and ladies, you should enjoy every second of it. Indulge in the embrace and feel the utter romance pouring through his body that he’s too afraid of tough to express with words.

6. Gives You a Squeeze

The squeeze hug is kind of a blend of the quick hug and the hold you tight hug. It’s the hug where he has a HUGE smile on his face as he wraps you in his arms and pulls you in for the tightest squeeze of your life. This is a super cute “bear hug” that is done between both friends and lovers. That being said, knowing the meaning around his hug may be a little hard to find out. He may give you a friendly squeeze or a romantic squeeze. Keep your eye out for others clues!

7. Looks Into Your Eyes

When you are hugging a man and he pulls away (but doesn’t break the hug) just so he can look into your eyes for a moment, it means he is deeply in love with you. Even though he sees your face often, he still doesn’t want to go longer than a second without seeing your majestic beauty. This is such an incredibly romantic hug that has tons of deep feelings attached to it.

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8. Lay Heads on Each Other

While you’re embracing with your man, have you ever noticed that your head is a perfect fit for his arm? And if your man is tall enough, has he ever laid his head gently on top of yours? This is not only an incredibly cozy and comfortable hug, but one that shows the two of you are incredibly close and have deep feelings for each other. It shows that you’re one hundred percent comfortable around each other and know that the two of you go together perfectly like the last two pieces of a hard puzzle.

So, we’re curious: which hug do you like the most? Have you ever been given one of those terrible one armed, awkward hugs? Or have you been lucky enough to be twirled around by the man of your dreams? We’d love to hear your stories below, and we hope this has helped break the hug code!

594 Comments

  1. Terry

    November 20, 2018 at 3:08 am

    There’s this co-worker that talks to everyone else but me. One time I came over to ask something and didn’t even turn to look at me. He told me he’ll look into it and when he came over to respond, he looked at other people sitting next to me. I realized that he liked me because whenever I talk to this other guy, I could see him checking us out from his cube and whenever I’m in the kitchen with this other guy, he would always come in. He would always hang out and talk to someone near my cube. When we pass each other, he used to look away or give me this awkward smile. The thing is, he’s so charming and confident with everyone else. When we move to a different floor and he got startled when he saw me and pretended that I didn’t notice. One thing to note us that is he’s really cute and married with no kids. . I think he married his high school sweetheart. This is why I wasn’t doing anything myself. We’re doing this song and dance for almost a year and then he found another job. It was a great opportunity for him since our company treated him bad. He started avoiding me and I felt bad and thought that he doesn’t like me anymore. But then in his happy hour party, when I said goodbye to hug him, he pulled me so close with a tight hug that I could feel my chest got squeezed and his cheek was touching mine. It’s exactly that no. 5 picture. The next day, which is his last day, he seemed to be making sure that he didn’t lose sight of me. I caught him looking at me more than once. Then he came over to say goodbye, I stood up to hug him and he hugged me so tight again like the picture. This time I said I’ll miss him. And we both turned red when we realized someone was by my cube waiting to talk to him. Its been weeks now and I missed him so much and never got closure. It would be nice to know from him what was going on between us.

    • web admin

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      November 20, 2018 at 7:35 pm

      His behaviors were indications that he is interested in developing a relationship with you, but he is shy or uncertain about his feelings. He has another job and the two of you are no longer in close contact. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you want to nourish a relationship with him, then reach out to him to share your thoughts and feelings. If not, then decide what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Terry!

      • Terry

        November 21, 2018 at 4:44 am

        I do want a relationship with him but I’m afraid thet will reject me since he seemed to be conflicted. Even though his hugs made me feel that he has strong feelings for me. I thought of reaching out thru his close friend at work but I’m afraid that it will leaked out in the office. When he said his goodbye letter to everyone, I responded only to him and said that I enjoyed working with him and I’ll miss him and the office will not be the same without him. He responded that he enjoyed my company as well and that he hoped that our paths cross again. It made me feel sad and felt like he already gave up on seeing each other again.

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          November 22, 2018 at 9:37 pm

          Determine what you want for your future. He has expressed his feelings, though you remain uncertain or confused. This is a sign of your personal feelings and desires. If you do not want to maintain a relationship with him, then do not reach out to him. If you want to nourish this relationship, then attempt to spend time with him in person. The choice is yours to make. Have a great day, Terry!

  2. Charlee

    September 25, 2018 at 5:04 am

    I had been broken up with by my ex-boyfriend at the start of the year. We were still good friends afterwards and we thought we had moved on until we met up. He ended up chasing me around and playing footsies except with our hands instead of our feet. He then picked me up and twirled me around, we did the look into eyes type hug and we both went in for the kiss. Our parents don’t want us going back out with eachother again, and it made us both teary, he knew he made a mistake twice, both for the reasons of not being able to see eachother often. We still love eachother but our parents won’t allow it, what do we do?

    • web admin

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      September 25, 2018 at 7:50 pm

      The two of you share a history and a strong emotional connection. You have decided to end your relationship before, and that was likely due to various reasons. Each of your parents do not want to see the two of you hurt, and they likely feel that your mutual partner may cause that pain. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. Have a great day, Charlee!

      • Questionable

        November 1, 2018 at 8:34 pm

        What about when you and a guy you recently met had chemistry and you guys get along great, you were at one point kissing goodbye than all the sudden he changed to a hug goodbye instead? A full hug, not one handed or quick. This guy says he doesn’t know what he wants.(he has a very busy schedule. If that means anything into the interpretations.)

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          web admin

          November 1, 2018 at 9:02 pm

          You are aware that this person is busy. This means that he may be uncertain if he is able to maintain a strong social and emotional relationship with you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion with him. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Questionable!

    • ruby

      September 28, 2018 at 5:23 am

      If you trust the input of your parents, maybe ask why they dont want you together? Chances are they see something or feel something you do not. Love is a funny thing but it blinds us to the traits of the person that are not good but if you two really love each other, and want to fight for it, I would suggest sitting down with both sets of parents and talking about it. Good Luck!

      • web admin

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        September 28, 2018 at 9:24 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insightful support. We always appreciate when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Ruby!

    • Grace

      October 6, 2018 at 1:03 am

      Hey, listen if both of you love each other why would you guys let your family ( from bith sides ) interfere into your love life? If you think he is worthy to fight for, then ho ahead and be happy. Do not listen to the voice of your hear, but listen to the voice that is in your mind, do not go by emotions, think smart and you’ll get the wisely decision. Your parents are already happily married and have each other, what about you? Their happiness should not depend on you, you need to be happy as well and have someone by your side, unless you guys are under age, but if you see your future with this guy why not fight for it? You don’t wanna end up married with someone that you don’t love and regretting for the rest of your life, do you?. I am sure you don’t want that. It is time to for you to think about yourself now.

      God bless you!
      I wish all the best. 🙂

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        October 6, 2018 at 9:17 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is always beneficial when members of our community share their thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your positive comments in the future. Have a great day, Grace!

  3. Sanda

    September 14, 2018 at 8:00 pm

    I have this ex he said he’s not a relationship kinda guy and dats y we broke up it’s been few months since the separation but each tym we see we hug and he pulls me in for a tight hug with a kiss on my cheek and says he misses me does dis mean he wants to get back or he just misses me but nothing has changed?

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      September 14, 2018 at 9:06 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. He likely misses spending time with you and may want to spend additional time with you in person. He may not want to maintain a monogamous or long term relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is viable. Have a great day, Sanda!

  4. M

    September 13, 2018 at 8:12 pm

    I have a best friend and I see him everyday at school. He gives me a quick hug but our chests are against each other every time and our arms wrap around each other. He hugs this other girl with that awkward I don’t actually wanna hug you hug. And he will hide from her if he sees her. It’s confusing though because when I told him I wanted to text him outside of school he didn’t want to give me his number but he did once he seen how sad it made me. My friend said that’s normal for him. I just really wish I knew if he liked me.

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      web admin

      September 14, 2018 at 8:23 pm

      It is possible that his sister is correct and his behavior is normal. It is possible that his hugs are indications of stronger feelings for you. Determine what you want for your future. You may find that your relationship will strengthen as you spend additional time with him in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, M!

  5. Baylee

    August 27, 2018 at 6:22 pm

    I like this guy and he likes me back. He was my first ever boyfriend and first kiss but we live really far away from each other. He told me loved me at one point but a week later, he had feelings for this other girl as well, that goes to her school. He says it’s more realistic. I also told him i’m a similar position, i like the guy that goes to my school too. He told me to go for him and that he’ll be here forever, so i’m now going out with this other guy but i don’t think i have feelings for him and i’ve realized i’m in love with this other guy. I talked to the guy on the weekend and he said that he wants to move on but he can’t and i told him “I know you don’t like me it’s obvious” and he replied with “I do like you, i like you a lot and it’s driving me insane” he sent a snap of him crying, i cried too, what do i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 28, 2018 at 8:40 pm

      The two of you share a strong emotional connection. If your relationship were viable, then it would be likely that you would nourish a successful relationship with him. Decide if you believe that this relationship is viable. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If the two of you decide to move to the same city in the future, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Baylee!

      • Baylee

        September 5, 2018 at 7:10 pm

        I ended up breaking up with the guy that i’m dating and the other guy and me are going really well, our relationship wouldn’t viable but he said when he’s 18 and he can come and get me. He’s even counting the days haha

        • web admin

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          September 5, 2018 at 10:08 pm

          It sounds as though you are nourishing a healthy relationship. Continue to spend time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Please share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Baylee!

    • Grace

      October 6, 2018 at 1:10 am

      Sweety if you have no feelings for him, do not date him, you cried because you felt sorry for him, and you were feeling
      guilty for it, trust me it is better like that than stay with someone that you have no feelings for. You will both move on…

      Stay Strong. God bless!

      • web admin

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        October 6, 2018 at 9:17 pm

        Thank you for supporting members of our community. Please ensure that you share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Grace!

  6. lina

    August 19, 2018 at 9:04 am

    My boss gave me a hug for the first time, it wasnt a long hug but either a short one. it felt warm. i was a little shocked. im a feamle and he is a male. What does it mean?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 19, 2018 at 9:46 pm

      This hug may be a reflection of his professional appreciation for your work, but that may be unlikely. It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is appropriate. Speak with your boss about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Lina!

  7. Tracey

    June 14, 2018 at 1:51 am

    If a boy hugs you for the first time and you two are not really that close but you know him what does his hug means

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      web admin

      June 14, 2018 at 8:18 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he feels a strong connection with you. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. When you left him after the hug, he may have become confused or uncertain. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Tracey!

  8. Tracey

    June 14, 2018 at 1:45 am

    Hi well there was a boy and i used to have a crush on him, but i try to get rid of it and i did 😁 and today coming out of class we saw each other and he was walking towards me so i made a way for him to pass but instead of him passing me he came to me, open his arms slowly and hugged me slowly i was shocked cause that the first time he hugged me, but then i hug him back and gave him a tap on the shower saying ok, then he let go and i walked away without looking at him cause i was too shy, just wanna get away.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 14, 2018 at 8:14 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he feels a strong connection with you. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. When you left him after the hug, he may have become confused or uncertain. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Tracey!

  9. Xali

    June 12, 2018 at 3:57 pm

    So I have this guy friend, who is actually one of my best friends. Two years ago I developed a crush on him but I have been trying to get rid of the crush. I keep saying I’m over the crush, but every time I see him, he does something that brings the feelings back: a lot of hugging. Quite recently we were hanging out with a group of friends and I was standing by myself just chilling. He came over and put out his arms for a hug. When I just smiled at him he wrapped me up in a tight hug and laid his head on my shoulder. I hugged him back for a few seconds until my other best friend, who’s a girl, came over. He quickly let go and just stood by me after then. When it was time for the group to disperse he was the one who gave me the longest and tightest hug. So what does this mean? Am I still in the wrong for returning to crushing on him every time he hugs me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 13, 2018 at 11:00 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. His hugs are indications that he feels an emotional and social connection with you. Determine what you want for the future of your relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Spend additional time with him, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Xali!

  10. Robyn Thomas

    June 12, 2018 at 12:03 pm

    I had a crush on a guy back in 2005. We flirted but nothing ever happened. I got married in 2010. I found out last year after leaving my husband that our crush was mutual but he was shy. When ever he saw me he would give me the one armed since hug. Now he holds it. Once he rested his head on my head for a second or two. I saw him last week. He hugged me and held it when he first saw me. We chatted a little and when departing he hugged me and held it.

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      web admin

      June 13, 2018 at 10:48 pm

      The two of you are no longer in relationships with other people. It is clear that you share a strong emotional and social connection. The two of you have history. His behaviors are indications that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. It is likely that he will want to develop a relationship with you. Have a great day, Robyn!

  11. Kim

    June 11, 2018 at 6:30 pm

    A guy I am head over heals for, never told him but I am sure he suspects I am. I know he has been watching me on social media because he commented about my actives of late. We met up last week after not seeing him for 2 years and just talked for an hour. We were going our own ways we stood up and he just grabbed me and had to bend down, he wrapped his arms around me and hugged me for about 30 seconds, not tight, in turn wrapped my arms around his waist then he lended back and gave me 3 small kisses. I am confused.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2018 at 9:28 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He follows your actions on social media, so you are on his mind. Determine what you want for your future. You will find benefit in spending additional time with him in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Kim!

  12. SingToMe99

    June 11, 2018 at 12:45 pm

    My guy friend, whom I have a crush on, grabbed me and gave me a hug when I started crying about my sister. He held me and grabbed my head and just held me for a few minutes. He flirts with girls any chance he gets, and he specifically hangs out with this one girl now more often… Does that hug mean anything? Or could it be just because he hangs out with girls so much?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 11, 2018 at 9:27 pm

      It is clear that he feels an emotional connection with you. He wants you to feel happy and secure. He may be interested in developing a relationship with you. Since the two of you are not in a relationship, he may also be attempting to nourish other relationships at this time. Determine what your want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Sing!

  13. Kat

    June 3, 2018 at 11:47 am

    One guy friend gives me a hug goodbye but other guy friends dont. We are close but I’m not interested, I don’t think he is either but could that be a sign or is it just that he cares about me as my friend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 3, 2018 at 11:07 pm

      It is possible that his behaviors are signs that he is your friend. It is possible that he is a hugging kind of person, while the other people may not be. You are not interested in developing a romantic relationship with him. Ensure that you continue to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Kat!

  14. Gwen

    June 2, 2018 at 8:35 am

    My best guy friend constantly ask for hugs from me and when I tell him no, he tries to give me one of the quick hugs but when I say yes he wraps his arms around my shoulders/ neck then sways back and forth.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 2, 2018 at 8:27 pm

      Your friend is likely interested in nourishing a stronger emotional relationship with you. He certainly feels a strong attachment to you. However, that does not give him the right to touch you without permission, especially after you have told him that you do not want him to hug you. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship and which actions are appropriate. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Gwen!

  15. Anabelle

    May 28, 2018 at 10:37 pm

    My ex used to always pick me up by the waist and then hold me as tight as he could so I used to wonder why

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 30, 2018 at 1:01 pm

      This type of hug was an indication of his comfort and emotional connection that he felt for you. It is likely that he was often excited to see you. He was also physically able to pick you up by the waist. Have a great day, Anabelle!

  16. Tamar Kent

    May 26, 2018 at 7:18 pm

    my guy friend sometimes comes and hugs me from behind with his arms around my waist, also he might kiss my neck what does that hug mean. I also wanted to say we are in the 8th grade.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 27, 2018 at 11:06 pm

      He feels emotional comfortable with you and may be interested in developing a physical relationship. His behaviors are indications that he is physically attracted to you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what actions you believe are acceptable. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Tamar!

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