Scorpio Man in Love

By on April 25, 2014






Always determined to succeed, presenting an unemotional and detached personality while having an underlying need for love and fulfillment, and an eager and mysterious attitude that can’t be ignored, it’s no wonder why Scorpio is such a fascinating sign. They are undoubtedly one of the most loyal and determined signs of the bunch and won’t hesitate to ask questions, yet many perceive a Scorpio to be disinterested and bored. However, Scorpios are notably the most passionate and intense people, with a constant need for involvement and success.

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The Type of Woman a Scorpio Needs

A Scorpio isn’t swayed by a pretty face, nor is he attracted to a fake woman. A Scorpio man is on the lookout for a breathtakingly gorgeous woman who is fierce and confident, preferably with a stable career and a respectable personality. He seeks a true lady with a bright attitude and a sheer confidence that can draw attention even in the largest crowds. However, Scorpio also needs a woman who is adventurous and able to put up with somewhat possessive and intense relationship. He does not and will not put up with a woman who tries to play games. 

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Scorpio in a Relationship

It’s commonly said that a Scorpio man will be quick to jump into bed with a pretty woman, but he has to be really intrigued to enter in a relationship with a lady. She has to be extremely special and over the top to grab his attention for something other than a one night stand. And once he finds this extraordinary woman, he leeches on to her like bees on honey. He’ll do anything for his woman, yet may still give her the cold shoulder when it comes to emotions. You see, Scorpio men try to put on an act of being rugged and tough, not showing any form of love or interest. Yet deep down they are extremely emotional and attached to their lady of choice. In fact, they can be so possessive and intense that some ladies take it as being controlling. That’s just the Scorpio way, though- he doesn’t want to play games and he surely doesn’t want to lose his prized possession- which of course is his lovely lady.

A Scorpio man isn’t afraid to take on the challenge of a confident and classy woman, and doesn’t care if she makes more money or has a bigger house. In fact, he loves a woman that can take care of herself and doesn’t need stabilization from a man. This is what many woman find attractive in a Scorpio, especially the women who are highly successful and need a man who won’t be jealous (at least over financial matters). Women are also attracted to the fact that a Scorpio man is able to talk about real issues and deep problems without being offended or angry. In a Scorpio man’s mind, he would rather talk through a problem calmly rather than getting angry or bothered with each other.

To put it plainly, a Scorpio man is in it for the long haul. When he finds a gal he’s seriously interested in, he will do anything to keep her and treasures her like diamond or gold.

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Scorpio in the Bedroom

Scorpios can be very persuasive and mysterious. They love to put on an act, presenting an unemotional exterior yet on the inside having a somewhat needy and passionate attitude. Their seductive nature and mystery is what draws many women to the Scorpio man, and what he presents in the bedroom only ignites their lust for him further.

That being said, if you’re looking for safety and security, then you probably shouldn’t jump into bed with a Scorpio. Scorpios have very wild sex lives and a just-as-crazy sex drive that keeps them extremely active. They are willing to do just about anything in the bedroom- even if it’s only one time, just to say they’ve tried it. They don’t like a hum and drum experience and require a sexually adventurous woman that is able to keep up with his crazy sexual antics. That doesn’t mean they aren’t passionate or loving, but the Scorpio wants to please his lady with many different forms.

Needless to say, if you pursue a night with a Scorpio, you can expect a wild and adventurous time unlike anything you have experienced before. Just remember to keep an open mind and a positive attitude and you’ll experience plenty of pleasure.

Negative Side of a Scorpio Man

It can’t all be roses and daisies, right? And just like anyone else, the Scorpio has his flaws. One of the biggest flaws that any Scorpio dater can tell you is they can be a bit controlling. A Scorpio man will get jealous fast and likes his woman to be loyal to him at all times. He’s not necessarily trying to be controlling, he’s really just passionate about his lady and wants her all to himself. This selfish nature can be tamed and some women even enjoy the Scorpios intense relationship.

Another one of the biggest flaws commonly seen with Scorpio men is their mood swings. They can be fiery and passionate one second, detached and uninterested the next. This is simply because the Scorpio hates to show his sensitive side, deeming it weak, although inside they are really mushy and romantic. If you can stick by a Scorpio man through his mood swings, however, you are guaranteed to witness his sensitive and loving side- which has said to be beyond any other type of love you could get in another relationship.

Compatibility

Scorpio and Pisces: the two of you will share a deep emotional connection that makes for a very loving and fun relationship. You won’t connect with another sign as easily as you do with Pisces.

Scorpio and Scorpio: this makes for an extremely intense and romantic relationship. With the two of you both sharing possessive and controlling qualities, the two of you are likely to be glued to each other which can easily lead to marriage.

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Scorpio and Taurus: the two of you will connect on a romantic level quickly. If you can find other levels and interests to connect with, the relationship will undoubtedly be extremely strong and long term.

Scorpio and Cancer: this match is less likely to work, but is still possible. The two of you both love an intense relationship and strong bond, however the two vary greatly when it comes to handling situations. This could end up ruining the once strong bond the two of you shared.

The Scorpio Man in a Nutshell 

He is a passionate, driven man who doesn’t like to show his sensitive side to the public. He’s desperate to find a confident, successful woman to one day have as his trophy wife. He needs stability and passion, and isn’t afraid to try new things- especially in the bedroom. His mysterious nature and seductive ways makes him easy to get along with, yet he only holds true feelings for few. If you can put up with his controlling nature and mood swings, the Scorpio man will treat you like a princess and make you feel like the greatest woman in the world.





141 Comments

  1. Liz

    April 3, 2017 at 2:28 pm

    I met a scorpio man a few years ago. He was a very unhappy client due to an err on my company’s behalf. nevertheless all was sorted but in the process he got my phone number. One day I received a call from him thanking me for assisting him and apologising for his outbursts etc. We spoke frequently thereafter and I was invited out to a football game with himself, 2 sons and friend. After that I was constantly called to go out with him, he showed and spoke about how much he cared and being interested in me. I always turned him down because just the mentioned of his name many saw him as a big flirt etc. After awhile he got angry and upset with me claiming I was playing hard to get and having someone in my life (far from the truth). He didn’t call for a very long time. Eventually He did as if nothing happened and we were off to those weekend soccer matches. We eventually build a friendship bond and we were both able to have some trust between us. His sons who were young adults once said to me “of all the women friends they have seen their dad around I am the one he trust the most” It was a lovely compliment indeed. I would not lie I did have feelings for him but I never allowed it to go beyond friendship because I didn’t want to be counted as one of his many flings. He trusted me with his family and many times we would all have dinner together be it cooking in or eating out. Being protective? … that he was of both his sons and me anytime someone would say something in the negative. As for the emotional side, yes I have seen it too and I have seen his hurt as well. When he lost his job (executive position) He became as a baby though he fought hard to cover up his emotions. The many friends he had never came to him in his time of need but as a true scorpio he rose to fight another day. I even watched his raw emotions when one of his sons died – but I stood by his side as a true friend. Before they departed my country I was given a gift on behalf of the entire family. It blew me away, simple but yet exquisite and still being the true scorpio he is he said if anytime I changed my mind He is right there waiting. So having read all the comments above…yes it’s true you can fall in love with a scorpio man but also true that you can become a faithful friend – the choice is ours.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 4, 2017 at 10:09 am

      That is a very interesting experience. I am curious–do you ever plan on being more than friends with him? It sounds like you have developed a bond that would make for a good relationship, if you ever chose to go that route. Thanks for commenting, Liz!

  2. Elisabeth

    March 23, 2017 at 9:25 am

    Hey,
    Is it true that relationships with Scorpios go through a lot of stages, generally speaking? (Break-ups, silent stages, then making up again)
    Also, I am a Virgo and a Scorpio moon. So I tend to have a bad temper as well which is why I sometimes accidentally make my scorpio guy angry very quickly. Sometimes I struggle with this because yes Scorpios can sting and it hurts!
    Also what would be your #1 tip in keeping a Scorpio male interested? Or to keep things exciting.

    Thanks for writing this, this has helped me a lot! You have described the Scorpio male perfectly. 🙂

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 23, 2017 at 11:57 am

      While there are generalities that are true for each sign, individuals are far more unique than their astrological symbols. If you and your partner are both quick to anger, one of the best things that you could both do is work on ways of controlling your anger and expressing criticism constructively. Even if you only say something in anger, it still has the potential to hurt your partner and cause lasting damage to the relationship. Communication is the key to having a healthy, long-lasting relationship.

  3. Iris

    March 20, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    Thank you so much for this article. I have a question.. So I’m seeing this Scorpio guy for about 4 months now. Everything has been great, he lives a couple of hours driving away, so we talk a lot on the phone. We could talk for hours and hours. The sexual intimacy is also great. He’s only 3 years older than I am. (I’m in my 20s). He’s a typical scorpio: moody, possessive, jealous, but also very loving, charming, and sweet. A few times he even talked about our future ahead. At first he didn’t trust me at all, (he would get suspicious of me seeing other guys), so he brought every little thing up, and got so angry over it. But now I got angry at him for once, because I saw a girl commenting on one of his Facebook photos. He got SO angry over this, that he said this was the end of us, and he doesn’t want to talk to me. Later he admitted he was so upset because he was hurt that I didn’t trust him. So I apologized for it but he was still angry. Now we haven’t really talked. What should I do?! Did I make a big mistake?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 20, 2017 at 4:24 pm

      You did not make a mistake. He was concerned about you cheating on him and you shared those same concerns. He may have felt that you did not trust him, but he had not been trusting you. His reaction may also have been an admittance of guilty thoughts. You may want to allow him to fade from your life at this time. If a relationship between the two of you redevelops in the future, then allow it to happen at that time. For now, focus on yourself and your own life. Have a great day, Iris!

      • Iris

        March 21, 2017 at 2:07 am

        Tanks so much for your quick response. I’ll just wait and see what happens indeed. Thank you!!

  4. Gemma

    February 15, 2017 at 10:19 pm

    If Scorpio men are known for honesty, what does it mean when they say they want to see you again, but fade out? Wouldn’t they normally just say they’re not feeling it?

    I heard they take their time considering if a gal is right for them and tend to move slow in making decisions in general and that you should exercise extreme patience if you want things to work. But, seems like they would still communicate this when they have been honest about other things, or is this the part where they hide that sensitive side?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 16, 2017 at 10:17 am

      Not all people are the same. There are many aspects of every person, and you can not rely on zodiacs in all cases. Instead, your best option is to speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give you the best chance to understand his ideas. Take your life in your own hands, and allow the stars to move on their own way. Best of luck, Gemma!

  5. Stacy

    February 11, 2017 at 8:00 am

    I am a Pisces girl who has fallen in love with a scorpio guy.he says he loves me but needs time to get work on himself as his last relationship did a number on him. he says he wants to give the best of himself to me as he wants to be fair.

    I am scared and dont know what to do as I have never loved anyone as much as I love him.. and in six yrs of being single he is the only person I have connected with. He is the only person to always call and check in on me. Take food for me if I dont have any… just all around being there for me.

    He is concerned that since he cant give me what I want right now im going to start dating and he doesnt want to loose me.
    I really dont want to be dating others but I also dont want to sit around waiting on him and having him think that im pathetic.
    He is the first person I talk to whenever I need advise on any matter, we get along so well and even if we have an argument we talk it over and in minutes its like we never had an argument to begin with.

    I truly believe we have a soul connection and right now though I want to be positive I feel so heartbroken and sad.
    I am working on starting my business but cant seem to focus much as this has me feeling so down.

    What would be your advise to me right now? Should I move on or should I be there for him in this time as he doesnt really trust alot of people?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 11, 2017 at 10:47 am

      There is no reason for you not to keep him as a friend at this time. Do not simply wait for him, as he may begin a relationship with someone else during that time. Do not worry about him either. Focus on your business and keep him as a friend. Take whatever life gives you and act in response to those events. Best of luck, Stacy!

    • M

      February 26, 2017 at 2:54 am

      Hello Stacey
      I was in the same scenario as you
      I had to wait 6 mths to meet Scorpio man as he wasn’t feeling right to meet
      I called him one day and said I’m going to circular date I said it from my heart and not coming from manipulation I meant it as I had been loyal to someone I had never met yet felt an incredible connection . It shifted my energy and changed everything overnight I kept dating till he came around within a week
      We are in a beautiful living relationship now
      It took a lot of patience but in the end I had to do what was right for me and not wait around but keep my energy and myself self empowered

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 26, 2017 at 2:30 pm

        Thank you for sharing your experience and insights. It is great to see that our readers are sharing their stories. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts in the future. Have a great day, M!

  6. Dakota

    January 20, 2017 at 10:14 pm

    Hello there. I’m Dakota I’m a war crab, sun cancer, moon aries.
    I currently have a complicated relationship with a scorpion male. We both like each other but my relationship anxieties and insecurities are getting in the way.

    He brings up dating all the time and i shoot him down and explain why and he try’s to convince me that he will be there for me, that he will make me happy. Though my gut just doesn’t sit well on this.

    He always compliments me, flirts with me. He will say I’m beautiful or used sly tactics for me to go out with him.

    I really do like him but I’m worried that my anxiety will make this relationship possible.
    Should I ignore my gut feeling?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 22, 2017 at 2:43 pm

      The easiest way to get over your relationship anxieties is to get out there, fall in love and start trusting someone again. Every relationship carries risks, and the only way to know where a relationship could ultimately go is to take those risks. Until you let yourself love again, your anxieties will remain. It will take time to learn to trust him, but it seems like he is already doing a lot to earn your trust. He is always there for you know and continues to ask you out–even though you constantly turn him down. If you were to date, he would be there for you even more. It sounds like you have found a keeper–don’t lose him!

  7. hk

    January 12, 2017 at 4:08 pm

    I dont know, anything..he has no time to talk…..
    Im desperate, feel uneasy,we never met,spoke on materimonial site and then whatsapp, im fat and he is very concerned about this that he is stopped communicating …he says his mom will not agree and he cant go against his mom….i cant stop thinking of him and a life with him all the time he occupies my heart mind ….i have lost my mental peace…i feel relaxed only when he talks …
    But he is in his office from 9 to 5 then with his mom he sleeps with her in the same room and cant talk much. Kind of he is not desperate or anything…he is a scorpion..
    I am a scorpion but a cusp trait with sagi
    Like i was 21/11/78 born and he is 14/11/76

    What is happening is that i am very convencing in my communication and even as he sometimes gets disinterested saying ill not reduce or close communication i dont stop communicationg leaving him messages day and night on whats app and evwry day finding a way to get him talk to me someway or the other

    Now off late finally when one day i was so drained draiined doing this exercise that finally when he excitedly called me taking out time i showed up very rudely telling him i was his last priority and all that stuff…a lot of nonsense

    Im very desperate and we have never met and since when ever i asked him to communicate freely he uses to put an excuse lets first meet…

    We stay far away so i was expecting him to take out time for me and come but he said he had no leave he is struggling with his job may loose it so i wait for 4 months or come myself and in my desperation i tried to get off first but im unable to i tried to stop talking and wait foe him to start a converzation but i cant wait longer than a day

    I practiced this quite a few times

    But i cant wait to communicate and it does not even last a day and i become the first one to to break the silence

    Even as i break the silence neither has he the time nor the expression it seems as if he is so controled by his mom even on a sunday he is just busy driving her out ….
    Its been 2 months since the communication begun but and not a single day for me hardly few minutes in 2 or three days and that too on whats app

    Actually i cant take phone calls myself bcause instantly my mom is the third scorpion who wants to know everything the moment my phone rings and since there is nothing substancial yet i cant talk to her about it

    Im really in a mess and after one day of silence i again broke the ice and this time i messaged him if i came today to meet him or on sunday will he give me his time

    Help me im going mad for him like dying probally coz of desperstion or harmones more than love coz i have not even met him i wonder if i love him or like him or its my desperation due to the chilling winter

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 13, 2017 at 10:05 am

      It sounds like it would be best for you to allow him to fade out of your life. He clearly has not made the effort required of someone who you are willing to give your love to. Allow him to send you a message and respond if you want to. However, it would be best for you to have him reach out to you instead of you making the first move all of the time. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future without him. Remain positive. Good luck, Hk!

  8. nandy

    January 3, 2017 at 10:03 am

    And me and him are also long distance…the only means to contact him is through text in wattsap..or sometimes he calls me or I call him..

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 3, 2017 at 12:14 pm

      If he has made his lack of feelings for you clear, then it may be unwise to wait for him. Yes, his feelings may change for you, but it is not worth years of your life to wait for someone who may never begin to have feelings for you. Since the two of you are long distance, he may be unwilling to establish a relationship with you for that reason. Best of luck, Nandy!

  9. nandy

    January 3, 2017 at 9:57 am

    Hi…iim an Aquarian…I think I’m very much attracted to this guy who is a scorpion….the issue is I have told everything about myself to him…its been almost an year that we are talking…i hav even told directly about my feelings…he said he has no feelings for me but he tries to be very much simple and behaves as if nothing happened…i just Dono wat to do can I giv him space and wait for my next time…will this man change his feelings someday….i don’t mind waiting for him….i want ur answer as soon as possible so that I can make my mind convince that he is no more for me….n I should move on….

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 3, 2017 at 12:14 pm

      If he has made his lack of feelings for you clear, then it may be unwise to wait for him. Yes, his feelings may change for you, but it is not worth years of your life to wait for someone who may never begin to have feelings for you. Since the two of you are long distance, he may be unwilling to establish a relationship with you for that reason. Best of luck, Nandy!

  10. ConfusedAries

    December 17, 2016 at 11:33 pm

    Please help me. I’m so lost right now. I met a scorpio male, not that I really am into star signs, but I’m desperate, and it’s only been a couple of months, but we connected almost instantly when we first spoke. We obviously have a great friendship. Now our course is over, we keep in contact by email or phone, and the odd get together with some other friends. We have an incredible amount in common, and both feel very at ease with each other. He opened up to me very quickly about a lot of things, and we literally talk on the phone for hours and hours. However I started to sense he might like me more than a friend, just by some of the emails he sent, but was never like that in person. I couldn’t read him if I tried. Finally last weekend, he ended our night hanging out at my place, with a kiss, and this went on for a while. I’d been married and had a horrific experience with that, plus I fell deep into severe depression, and only just getting back on my feet. I felt more confident now than in my whole life, so in between the kissing, I wanted to be up front about everything, saying we would need to take this slow, as neither of us want to ruin our wonderful friendship. I told him I just wanted to be sure, and he was fine with everything I said. I was so taken aback by it all and incredibly nervous. I’m in my 40’s and not been with anyone since my husband and I dated 26 years ago. Everything was sweet and fine, he was the perfect gentlemen. We giggled and smiled at each other, before he headed on home, and he messaged me when he got home. All was good. But just this last week, he seems to have become distant. We still talked on the phone, and I know he’s going through a difficult time right now, but I’m noticing even the smallest things like the absence of xo’s from some of his emails, and he doesn’t bring US up at all. I did ask him was he still interested in an us, and his response he wanted to take things slow, and he didn’t want to ruin our friendship over sex or anything. Even when I said I wish I could see him, he never responded to it. He totally ignored it. If I’d said that before last week, he would have made a time to come see me. I don’t wanna pressure him or nag him as he’s really stressed out at the moment. He does have a valid reason. It’s known to a few of us. But why do I get the feeling with all that is on his mind right now, that I am not one of them. I can’t go through any more heartbreak or confusion. I have been avoiding it like the plague. Does it seem like he’s no longer interested in me? Is he trying to friendzone me now? I really don’t know what to think, and I’m already feeling the depression coming back. I can’t go there again. I have children to consider. I think I’m better off cutting all forms of communication with him, unless something changes soon, I will feel I have no choice but to run for the hills

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 18, 2016 at 9:46 am

      It sounds like he is just stressed out or busy right now. You told him to take things slowly, so that is also another reason why he does not bring up the topic of you two as a couple right now. You said to take things slow, so he is respecting that decision. He has only distant for the week, and you said that you know why he could be stressed out. Give him the benefit of the doubt and do not cut him off. If you do, you will never get him back. If you do not think that you can handle taking things slow or a more serious relationship right now, then it is fine to cut him off. It is normal to be hesitant about dating after a long marriage ends, especially if you have children to consider. I would just be very careful about what you do or say because he is probably completely unaware about your conflicted feelings right now.

  11. Lim

    December 8, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    I’m a sag woman. I noted a scorpio man stare at me for many months at a bus stop near my workplace. He is a staff in computer centre while i’m in acad school. We happened to see each other in the bus stop sometime but not always. I do not know him well. We hv 2 brief interaction at work in Mar 2016. Recently i plucked up the courage to look at him when i got up the bus. He was with his male colleague. He was smiling shyly looking downward when i looked at him. What does this signify?

    Saw him in the same canteen last 2 weeks.Once was when i was w my colleagues walking out from the canteen. He stood in the middle area outside the canteen but look at his mobile.Is he pretending he is not looking at me but actually he was? Is he trying to get my attention?
    This week he came w one of his male colleague, into the canteen n sat on the table next to mine. Then he sat directly facing me. I noted he glanced over at me. But one of my colleague came n sat next to me, blocking his direct view. He walked out after finished his lunch.
    I felt nervous when i saw him came in. My hands shivered a little when he sat directly facing me. My questions are:
    1) why did he stare at me so much? Is he interested in me?
    2) why he didn’t initiate any conversation?
    3) should i give him a sweet smile?
    4) Are scropio man very persistent in the woman he is interested?
    5) Will scropio man give up in the woman he is interested if he think thw woman ia not interested?
    6) what should I do if i’m interested in him?
    7) Heard that sag woman n scropio man do not match. Is this true? But why is scropio man attracted to sag woman?

    Need so help. Thanks.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 10, 2016 at 10:40 am

      It is possible that he likes you. His looks and shyness could be because he is interested in you, or he may not realize that he is doing this. It would be a good idea to give him a sweet smile and make an excuse to start a conversation. He will never know that you could be interested unless you do something to at least hint at your feelings–he is not a mind reader, and he may become discouraged if he thinks that you do not care for him at all. While a sag and scorpio may not be an ideal match, there is a great deal of variance between different individuals and different relationships. It is entirely possible that you could be a great couple, but you would both have to take a chance and see what happens. Good luck!

  12. Jade

    October 28, 2016 at 3:15 am

    I’m a 38 years and met this great Scorpio man, Taurus moon, in class 14 months ago. I’m a sag with Scorpio moon, cancer rising and we get on relly well. He is 53.

    About 7 months ago we started working together. In another group and on my projects. We work amazingly well together and we bring out the best in each other. I’ve never said this but he has said this to me and it is true.

    We have been away several times for weekends, separate rooms and nothing has happened. We see each other several times a week to see shows, talks and conferences. These are all supposed to be work related.

    He told me 5 months ago that he likes women who look like me and hints that he liked me but now he no longer does that

    I catch him staring at me so intensly sometimes. It is if he is undressing menot only in a sexual way but in the depths of my soul. It sounds stupid and soft, I know. He teases me terribly in company. He often seemed to try and steer the conversation about sex, but not so much now. I do not engage in any talk about sex or relationships with him.

    I have in the last 3/4 months realisd that I like him. I am really shy in matters of the heart and find it hard to show my emotions. He says I’m sensitive, guarded and do not want to give anything away

    I felt tht he was blowing hot and cold with me and could be possessive and demanding of me. More so thanwould warrant aprofessional relationship. For example, I went abroad and came back 12 hours later than I original thought. I didn’t call him as soon as I got back and he was upset and acted cold for a day or so. I told him I wouldn’t lie to him and then he acted like nothing had happened. He seems to dislike any man who takes a romantic interest in me and says he doesn’t want them to work with us.

    Lots of people that we both know has said he blatantly likes me. Do I like him? I constantly pretended I dont’t feel anything for him all the time. I didn’t want our working relationship to suffer and I am shy so I chose not to.

    I’ve met his sister and other members of his family recenty. his sister asked if I’m his love interest. I toldher thati liked him but haven’t said anything because of work. His sister encouraged me to say something.

    In the last few weeks my feelings have intensified so I felt like I cant, and don’t want to like anyone this much.epecially somone that I’m woking with. I have been on my own for 10 years raising my children alone, completed my MA and working. I have not missed being with a man up until now. He stirs things in me that have been dormant since my 14 yearrelationship with my childrens father.

    I decided that this can not go on, so I plucked up the courage and told him I want to speak with him face to face about me dropping some of the projects we work on together and why. This is a big deal for me. I have never, ever told anyone I like or love them. He seemed to know instinctively what might be on the agenda andwas very reluctant to meet up. Was really busy for the next few weeks but kept asking if we were going to keepappointments to do things togehther. I bought tickets for us to see a show on his birthday and he bought tickets for us to see a show together.

    He then made a time in his busy schedule to see me than cancelled that day, which is unlike him. I said I don’t want to drag this out and I wanted tell him face to face as he has worked so incredibly hard on my projects an dbeen good to me, but I have to tell him. So he said he would call. He did and I told him I can’t work with him anymore as I am started to like him and I cant pretend any more. It will get in the way of the work relationship. I decided I would cut him off, as I usually do with potential partners do to save my feelings.

    I told him and he said, but I’m kind of in a relationship. I felt that there was something holding him back and that he might have somone. Everyone that knows us said he cant have somone as he doesn’t talk aout them. His sister though the didn’t have somone. I felt it, but didn’t want to pry.

    I didn’t say anything about him having a girlfriend. I continued to talk about not being able to work with him with thesefeelings. He said we work so well together and thatI was the root of everuthing great tht we do professionally. I told him he was amazing and doesn’t need me at all. He can do brilliantly without me. He said it notture he needs me. I told him its not fair on me and does he have any suggestions. He said no.

    I asked him to give me some time and let me see I can work through it. In the meantime we shoud, limit our contact and not see each other on his birthday. I also told him why I didn’t want to work on project with a mutual colleague. The character I would play has experienced abuse of the same kind I had experienced. I felt the director was not sensitive enough of this and told him. Heseemed really shocked and upset about that. I have not ever told a man about that, but felt comfortable enough to tellhim as I trust him.

    The next day I emiled him as he had asked some personal health advice. I emailed him the information and he askedfor more info which gave and asked him to contact some people we had worked with that only he had the contact details to.

    I spoke to a mutual colleague about a project we are supposed to be all working on the next day, and decided that I should finish the project as istarted it. Despite my personal challenges with him. she wanted usto meet next week.

    I then called himby accident and text him to say sorry an accident. he called me straight awyay to ask whats wrong am I alright. I told him that I was alright, and that I have decided to continue the other project with our mutual colleague. He said ok, but are you alright?

    I am now at home missing him terribly and wondering if I can work on this project with him where we ply husband and wife, in a story that imitates our relationship. I want to cut myself off because wework together, I’m afraid of these intense feelings and now because he has a girlfriend.

    I don’t know really why I’m asking for advice as I know I really need to stay away from him, but any advice?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 28, 2016 at 3:02 pm

      It seems as though his feelings toward you have changed over time. He may have originally wanted to develop a relationship with you, but because of a lack of response, he may have chosen to protect his emotions. Then his emotions were influenced again by your actions. In short, it seems as though the two of you want to develop a relationship with each other, but you are also afraid of being hurt. This is a reasonable concern. It is up to you want you want to do. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. There is no reason why you can’t work with someone who you are dating, unless you make that decision yourself. It is almost certain that he wants to be with you. Decide and stick with your decision. Remain positive and mindful as you move forward, Jade!

  13. Lea

    September 23, 2016 at 10:15 am

    Hello, first of all, I’d like to thank you for your kind replies and would love to receive your opinion/advice on my situation. I am dating a Scorpio man for two years now and we are having a serious crisis. He has withdrawn a lot and we see each other very little and mainly when I take the initiative. And even then, sometimes he turns down my proposals. He is quite solitary and most of the time says he is tired or doesn’t feel like it, even though he doesn’t work for some time now (which he says doesn’t bother him at all). But we haven’t been intimate for about a month. He doesn’t text much or calls me, though he does reply to my texts. He started very strong and was very intense and passionate, but we’ve had a few problems, meaning arguments and misunderstandings over nothing really serious, but he even broke up with me a couple of times in the heat of an argument, though we always made it up after some time and various apologies from me. We are both in our fifties. He never married or had any children, but he did have three long term relationships which he always ended. I divorced fourteen years ago and have a daughter. He has always complaint about me not putting as much effort into the relationship as he did, making comments that hurt him, etc. I have made some critical comments occasionally, without meaning to hurt him, but generally I am supportive and kind. Also, I can be a bit argumentative, I have teased him on occasion, I am a bit of a “know-it-all”, and he has got really angry with me and withdrawn. I have many interest and like to debate about things (current affairs, movies, whatever). I can’t help it, but he hates it. He hates arguments, but I feel that most of the time he is the one arguing. He has to be right all the time, lol. I have apologized to him and tried to be more sensitive, but he is so oversensitive… it is so easy to slight him. He says he knows I am a good person and feels loved, I am romantic and emotional, like him, and caring, but I always end up doing something that bothers him or getting emotional about his coldness, his withdrawals and his resentment. I am working on myself a lot to understand him, the way he understands love, to know myself and to be a happier person. To be more serene, balanced and not care about being right or wrong. We love each other, I am absolutely sure about that. But he says love is not always enough and doesn’t believe much in people changing. I was on my own so many years that it wasn’t easy for me to be in a relationship and more so with someone as complicated as a Scorpio man. I have read a lot lately about this sign and I wish I had done it before. It would have helped me to understand this man much better. Now, I don’t know what else I can do or if he will ever come back to me like before. He keeps doing some things for me that show he cares, like spending many hours repairing things, etc, but is keeping contact to a minimum and avoiding intimacy altogether. I am being patient, respecting his space, working on myself, doing meditation and generally keeping myself strong and happy within. But I miss him and wonder… I have seen many, many wonderful things in this man before, but he has gradually stop investing in the relationship. Sorry abt the long message. I would really appreciate any thoughts on this. Love to all of you.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 25, 2016 at 10:05 am

      It seems as though he is withdrawn at this time. This may have stemmed from your variety of disagreements or his feelings about your reactions toward him. If you want to develop your relationship with him and you know that he does not like debating or your statements about him coldness, then it would be wise for you to avoid those topics. If you determine that you need someone to have those discussions with you but you still want to be with him, then perhaps find another friend who wants to have those conversations. Be mindful of his needs and he will become more mindful of your needs. Remain positive and thank you for such a friendly and loving post, Lea.

  14. Mocha

    September 19, 2016 at 10:43 am

    I am a taurus female in a situation ship with a male scorpio and he does the most. We had sex immediately because he is very aggressive and passionate and I have never felt anything like him. But I have no way of knowing how he feels unless he is REALLY drunk and let’s something slip or he is playing a song about his feelings towards me (he is REALLY into music) from what I gather through observation he is very emotional and maybe has been deeply hurt and betrayed by a female in the past. He trust no one let alone women but I am to be trusted. I am with someone else I told him that its hard to just break it off we had been together for ten years. He doesn’t want to hear the back drop of me and my BABY’S FATHER because He is extremely jealous. He is so fake I can’t take it but he is beautiful his voice is beautiful our sex is amazing. I fall hard but refuse to fall If I cannot see where I am going. I will not commit myself to someone who is not willing to commit themselves to me and give up everything I have worked for and struggled through with my children father (don’t want him want his money and my family) I am strong enough to have these intense feelings and still have our relationship stand where it has been but is he? I highly doubt it and want to know should I just love him or leave him because I HATE DRAMA SCANDAL AND CONFUSION and can’t take it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 19, 2016 at 1:30 pm

      If you do not think that this relationship will ever go anywhere or do not want to leave your baby’s father, then move on and forget about him. It will be hard, but it is easier to do now rather than later. If you talk to your Scorpio and he does want a commitment, then you will have to leave your baby’s father completely and just be with the Scorpio. If I were you, I would sit down the Scorpio and ask him what he wants. If he cannot say what he wants or does not want a commitment, then your choice is easy: you would have to move on. Good luck!

  15. Zara90

    September 4, 2016 at 7:08 am

    Hello 🙂 ….. Maybe this is off topic, but.. So i have problem with scorpio man (I am cancer). We are not friends or lovers. He just hates me simple as that! We never talked. He also lives near me. Just for no reason he hates me… so weird… Also i have to drive thru his village.Im not that kind of person to just ask him why is he like that.Everytime we see eachother anywhere he looks at me with anger..and it’s scary to be honest.Any advice? Thanks XX

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 5, 2016 at 1:12 pm

      You cannot control what someone else thinks or feels, so there is no way to change how he feels. Maybe he once knew someone who reminded him of you that he hates, or maybe he got the wrong impression. Whatever the reason, it is not your fault and there is nothing that you can do about it. All you can do is move on and focus on more positive influences in your life. If he wants to spend his life hating people for no reason, that is his problem. It’s unfortuante that you have to deal with it, but there really isn’t anything that you can do to change the situation. 🙁 Good luck, Zara90!

  16. Duchess

    August 25, 2016 at 2:47 am

    Whew.. Im a gemini .. True gemini to the letter but also a mix of cancer (sensitive) Ive always dated savgitarius . Met a scorpio in may. Instant connection and chemistry. We talked every day all day .. But the conversation would always turn to sex. It was a redflag to me and I wouldnt cross that line. At this stage in my life I want more. I let him know im not interested in a friends with benefit thing. He was reluctant to get in a relationship be ause we occasionally work together. Occasionally is like once or twice a quarter. I understood and we remained on the path of building our friendship. I still date and he doesnt like that . But cant do much about it because we arent together. We occasionally go out each time we have had amazing times. I love being with him and talking to him. We are getting very close and are becoming great friends. So the last time we went out things got pretty intense.. Our chemistry is amazing!! He wanted to go back to my place.. I wouldnt. I feel like if he wants me in that area he would have to invite me to his place. If i let him in my personal space I would be in a friends with benefits relationship.. So i wont go there. The following weekend he tried to invite himself over again I was not having it. He cooled off. We talked less, he was less responsive. I cooled off with him. About a week goes by and he text out of the blue good morning and we are back to things as usual but no sex or itimacy. We laugh and talk like weve known each other for years. I reallllly like him but i am not sure if he likes me like relationship or friends with benefits .. Although no benefits yet. We are toying with the idea of a quick getaway which i already know if we do .. The intimacy will happen and then we would cross that line. Im okay with that but when we return it will be business as usual until I get a romantic evening at his place.. But he wants to be able to start sex and come and go from my place. We are both 41. Am i on the right track or should I cut and run. The other thing thats a littke scary is what ive read about the violent sexual nature of a scorpio and I already know this man is sexual that excites me and scares me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 26, 2016 at 9:16 am

      He knows where you stand about wanting a relationship, so he could just have a relationship with you if that is what he wanted. From the sound of it, he wants to have a sexual, friends with benefits relationship. While this could always change in the future, it does not sound like it is going to change any time soon. As long as you are still single, you could hang out with him in the hope that things will change, but he will probably continue to ask for things to go further sexually. You just have to decide if you want to wait around for the slim chance that he changes his mind or if you want to move on. Good luck!

      • Duchess

        August 27, 2016 at 4:13 am

        I agree. Thank you for the confirmation.

        • web admin

          web admin

          August 27, 2016 at 2:22 pm

          No problem! Let me know if you have any other questions or need help. Good luck, Duchess!

  17. Ashley

    August 17, 2016 at 5:48 pm

    Hi! I’m an Aries woman and I have a big crush on this Scorpio male. We live worlds apart (8 hours) and I have never met him. He has a thing for older woman,which I am not..I don’t know if I’m gonna ever meet or see him one day and if I do I just was curious as to if there’s anything I can do to try to “attract” him?? Or a way I could try to interest him or be mysterious so he’d want to get to know me? I know you can’t force someone to like anyone and I’m not trying to do that, I don’t agree with that but I am so attracted to him and I’m not just talking about his appearance you know. I don’t know what his type of woman is or his ideal woman but I’d like to be even his friend if that’s possible which is most likely not. A woman can dream haha… I wish there was tips that could help me get his attention or be intriguing or something. Haha … Thanks

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 17, 2016 at 9:49 pm

      Aries and Scorpio need proximity. You need to be able to show him your passion and he needs to be able to do the same. If you want to make a move to flourish your relationship, then attempt to see him in person. Otherwise, continue your conversations with him and share your feelings as best possible. That said, the distance between the two of you may be too much for overcome if the two of you have yet to meet in person.

      • Ashley

        August 18, 2016 at 12:20 am

        I agree.. We’re total strangers but we seem to have a lot in common.i know he’s not a shallow person to just care of looks, But he leans towards older (blonde) woman I’ve noticed and it doesn’t help me , the fact that I’m a petit black haired 5’2 with a sort of baby face according to others… I wish I could speak to him but I’m afraid it won’t happen.. It’s not that simple in my case..I just wish I could get him to see me as a potential friend or something more… Also when and if I ever decide to attempt to meet him I literally only have a split second if that to leave a good lasting “impression” on him… Among a bunch of other faces there for him in a large crowd… I wouldn’t know how to stand out… I’ve written him two letters which I may or may not get a response back as he’s very busy and I did not put an extra envelope or stamps in either… He’s in the uk and I’m in us. Anyways I’ll just be glad to meet him if I ever do one day and if nothing comes of it that’s really okay. I’ll have to be okay with that! I’m too familiar with the whole unrequited love feeling anyways…. As I said I just wish there was anything extra, helpful that I could do or say to get him to like me even a little bit .. Or if I could make him laugh and return a smile as he’s given me many… I’d love that. It’d be nice if he’d wanna see me again .. got any tips? Anything I could do to go the extra mile to spark something up haha? I don’t know what I’m saying or how to phrase/say this so sorry if you don’t understand…also I know I sound crazy but I really am not… Love makes you feel and say or do crazy things right?? Thanks

        • web admin

          web admin

          August 18, 2016 at 8:55 pm

          You should take this time to determine if you can adjust to a relationship with someone who is famous. Nothing is impossible, however there are lifestyle changes that would come with having someone famous and from another country become a partner in your life. However, there is no reason to let limitations stop you. It would be best for you to begin in a fan club. Are you a member of a fan club? They may have a way for you to get into contact with him, if even for a moment. Be bold, and act like the people he is interested in to get his attention. From there, allow your inner self to come out.

          • Ashley

            August 18, 2016 at 11:07 pm

            I am so embarrassed. Thanks I appreciate the honesty though And answers. I can’t believe I even search this stuff up haha I’ve never done this before, I don’t even know why I let myself go this far…. I should just let it go. That’d probably be best… I’ve just never felt this way and it’s the best attraction / crush I have ever had so I guess maybe that’s why…. Have a nice night or day!

  18. Brianna D

    June 29, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    I’m a Liibra dating a Scorpio a 32 year old guy & 27 years younger than me. We have everything in common personally, professionally, and emotionally the chemistry is off the charts. The only thing we don’t have in common is the age gap. We’re doing great, except I don’t think this is realistic. I feel I would have to be the realistic one to let him go because I want to be fair to him. He should be with someone younger. Other than that, we don’t have issues, & I’m just taking it one day at a time. The age gap does not bother him, it bothers me more. No one can tell we’re this much apart, except me in my head. What are your thoughts on this?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 30, 2016 at 2:32 pm

      If the age gap does not bother him and your relationship is strong, then it would be best for you to not destroy your relationship because of concerns about age. We live in a world where things like age differences no longer matter. Speak with him about your concerns if you would like, but be mindful and respectful of his desires as well. It sounds like you have a good person by your side.

    • Rachel

      August 19, 2016 at 12:27 am

      Hello Brianna D,

      I am going through the exact same thing. I turn 50 in a few months and he turns 30. I am 20 years older than he is, in fact he is a few years older than my son. We actually just started seeing each other, it’s moving nice and slowly, I think at a very reasonable pace. I am quite cautious, thinking the same thing, that I may just come out and tell him on our next date that I think I should be fair to him, to just be friends and let him go.

      We haven’t been intimate yet, not even a kiss. We have a second date in a few days, and I will see where it goes, by asking him what his intentions are. Yes, the age gap (in my situation) is troubling to me and it could all be in my mind, but I often think of being 60 when he’s 40.

      We look fantastic together – he is gorgeous and very mature for his age, which is what puzzles me. He is more mature than most 40 year olds. (My ex is 44 and a spoilt brat and baby). I am told by many that I look like 35 – people are shocked when they find out my age. I share it proudly!

      Let’s keep in touch because we might be good moral support for each other. I am also a Libra, both our birthdays are in October. I have very strong feelings for him, and I feel he also does for me… I just don’t know where this is going to go. I also need some advice.

      Let me say this… let’s live in the present, sharing ourselves with our mates honestly and openly and just see what happens because tomorrow may never come.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 20, 2016 at 12:20 am

        Thank you for sharing your experience, feelings, and advice. You could not have given better advice. And we always support our readers developing friendships with each other. Honestly is always the best policy.

      • Brianna D

        September 6, 2016 at 11:17 pm

        Hello Rachel (from Aug 19, 2016 post)

        It is a pleasure to know someone else who has the same experience from the normal population aside from celebrities. Thank you for your feedback. I was starting to wonder if there is someone else out there in the masses that can relate to my experience. Finally after two months since my post in June, I am so happy to read your post.

        Sam Taylor-Johnson 49 (Fifty Shades of Grey movie director), her husband is 25 years younger. Chris Jenner 60 who happens to be a Scorpio has a boyfriend who is 25 years younger and also a Scorpio. But of course these are filthy rich women who can have any man at any age. So as you can see, I’ve done research on older women much younger men relationship trends. However, it’s refreshing to hear it from the common population.

        I never thought I will experience this type of soul to soul connection again. I experienced this before when I was much younger, also with a Scorpio man, and wished for many years for the same experience to present itself! And then, 30 plus years later when I thought that kind of a connection is only a once in a life time opportunity and such a rarity, it’s happening when I least expect it at a time when I feel a relationship is not a necessity at my age.

        Except Mother Nature can be so cruel, why 25 years younger? Almost perfect except for the age gap. But at the same time, I thought to myself, there is no way I will miss this incredible gift of hypnotic chemistry. It’s simple but incredibly deep. I simply cannot miss this amazing experience.

        With all that being said, I engaged in this relationship with a grain of salt by having no expectations and just going with the flow. I keep reading in astrology, that Scorpio men are not known to commit to older women twice their age in the long run. Whatever the end result of this is going to be, short-term or long-term, my eyes are wide open to accept it and I will be forever grateful for the experience.

        But please next time, just a tad bit older than that, 10 or even 15 years younger is reasonable. But 25 years younger, I will proceed with extreme caution; once again, no expectations! I’m going to be 60 this year, he’s going to be 33. Naturally I continue to be skeptical about this. As I was saying in my June post, the age gap is more bothersome to me. It is the least of his concerns. He enjoys it when I’m perceived as someone between 35 and 40.

        At any rate, yes please; let’s stay in touch and support each other in this journey!

        • web admin

          web admin

          September 7, 2016 at 7:25 am

          As long as neither of you cares, age shouldn’t matter for your relationship. It’s much better to find someone that has shared interested that you want to spend your life with. Thanks for commenting, Brianna D!

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