How to Tell If A Guy Likes You Through Texting

By on December 25, 2013






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Now, more than ever, we are totally glued to our phones. Twenty years ago it was all about the way we talked, today it’s all about the way we text. It’s nice to be able to talk to anybody and everybody every second of every day, sharing every thought and detail of your life can make you feel like you’re together even when you’re miles apart.  But even though we can send words back and forth almost as fast as we can think them, it’s a little bit harder to send emotions and feelings along with them.  Sometimes all of those little tiny LOL’s and OMG’s only add to your confusion – especially when you are talking to a guy you like.

Don’t Freak Out If He Doesn’t Reply Immediately

So, how can you tell if your crush’s friendly greeting is more than just friendly?  The first thing you have to remember is that guys don’t think or communicate the same way girls do.  Most of the time, they say what they mean and they mean what they say.  If you get a one letter response it’s because they’re busy or in a hurry or because it’s faster, not because they’re mad at you.  Don’t read so much into it.  Most guys are pretty straight forward.

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He Texts You Throughout The Day

Something else to keep in mind is that while we ladies are the queens of multitasking, most guys just aren’t.  They can do one thing at a time, and they can do it well, but try to get them to walk and chew gum at the same time and see what happens.  Unless, of course, they are chasing a girl.  Once a guy has his sights set on his lady love, he can pursue her 24/7, all while going about his normal routine.  So, if your guy is texting you when his mind should be on other things, like work, chances are you’ve tickled his fancy.  He just can’t get you out of his mind.

Does He Always Text Back Quickly?

Another way to tell if your guy is trying to send some ‘more than friend’ vibes your way via SMS is to pay attention to how fast he texts you back.  If he is responding within a few seconds, you know he’s waiting on your next message and is totally engaged in the conversation.  Even better is when you have a meeting of the minds moment and text each other at the same time – that’s almost the definition of soul mates in the 21st century.

He Tells You Everything

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Also, if any guy takes the time to fill up that little screen with detailed descriptions of his day, chances are he’s digging on you just a little bit.  Especially if he’s got an old-school phone.  No man is going to take the time to text you line after line on those teeny tiny number keys unless he’s got some hidden feelings.   The way he sees it, he’s making a valid effort to communicate with his lady, something not to be taken lightly.

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He May Just Stink At Texting

When you are wrestling with your internal “he loves me, he loves me not” demons, make sure to keep in mind that every guy is different.  So is every phone.  Some guys may not text back as often as you would like because their phone is a pain in the you-know-what, while others may not text you back because they’re just not that into you.  To tell which you’re dealing with, you’re going to have to use a little discernment.  You don’t have to go all crazy stalker or anything, but scope him out when he’s texting his buddies.  Does he look comfortable with his handset, or like  a bit of a novice?  If he’s a bit on the slow side, don’t be too offended if he’s a bit slow to get back to you.

He Wants To Spend Time With You

Something else to keep in mind is that if a guy is really into you, he’ll enjoy a bit of a chase.  Let him initiate the text sessions from time to time.  If you notice he’s hitting you up pretty regularly, out of the blue, chances are you’re on his mind more often than not.  If he’s thinking about you while he’s walking around his living room or dozing off at night, you might be more than the girl of his dreams, if you get my drift.

The truth is that even though the way we communicate has gotten high-tech, the thoughts and feelings we are trying to convey are the same.  There is a lot to be said for trusting your instincts; that being said if you are truly wondering about the intentions of your potential Romeo, the best thing you can do is ask.   Maybe something like U+ME=:) After all, it’s only a text message.  It’s impossible for him to know your true emotions, either.  Worst case scenario, you tell him you were only kidding LOL





164 Comments

  1. Denise

    February 22, 2017 at 5:25 am

    I’m sorry as this is gonna be a really long message. I have been regularly texting this guy from more than a year. We share a good relation with each other. He’s very flirty through texts and keeps telling me I’m a very special girl and keeps complimenting me. He appreciates me for the way I am. However he hasn’t admitted that he likes me. A week back, he was heading home and saw me walking down the stairs. He paused to see if it was me and then spoke to me for a few minutes as both of us were in a hurry. I found that he is kind of shy. As in, he asked me general things like why did I finish college early etc. even though we were talking through text just a day before and had a completely different conversation. I felt that he is more open through text than in person, and is shy. But I don’t know if this is true. We were sending messages to each other everyday for the past 3 weeks (though we didn’t have a long conversation as such). The day before, we spoke for an hour straight without a break. Then he sent me a reply to one of my messages yesterday morning, and also wished me a good morning. I wished him back. But he seen the message and didn’t have anything to reply. Normally if he would do that, he would send me a good night text. But I haven’t received one yet. I am not sure if he is only replying to my texts, or is actually interested in having a conversation. He also initiates conversations as well at times. Sometimes he is online but doesn’t reply to my messages for hours. I have also noticed that if we have a conversation for a long time, he generally disappears for a few days or weeks until he sends a message again. Or sometimes I send him a message. Do you think there’s a chance of him liking me? I have a feeling it is so. But I’m confused. Please help! Thanks

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 22, 2017 at 10:26 am

      He is interested in you. He may be busy or unable to message you. Your best option is to reach out to him and try to see him in person. Text and message based relationships often end because a lack of physical proximity. You will want to spend time with him. Best of luck, Denise!

      • Denise

        February 23, 2017 at 12:27 am

        Thanks! I wanted to know what is the reason for a guy to be so close to you, but yet not admit that they like you? Is it only a fear of rejection?

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 23, 2017 at 11:15 am

          It may be fear of rejection. They may also be confused about your feelings. They may also simply be shy. Have a great day, Denise!

          • Denise

            February 24, 2017 at 1:01 am

            What should be the best way to deal with a guy who is shy, and prefers texting rather than meeting? Could it mean than he isn’t loyal? There are a lot of shy guys who I’ve known and they say a lot of things through text which could’ve been awkward to say in person? Why is that so?

  2. Alyssa

    February 21, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    Hi,my friends told the guy I like and we had so much conversations over text (I was usually the one to start them) they told him that I have a crush on him over my phone and asked if he likes me which he said idk and that he is confused (he’s friends we’re pushing him into me today). Story short, I told him it wasn’t me and that it was my friends, and now I’m not sure if he likes me or if i did the right thing by telling him it wasn’t me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 22, 2017 at 10:06 am

      You did the wrong thing by lying. You have wholly confused his already confused feelings. Your best option is to speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. You may have hurt his feelings and embarrassed him. If he does not want to establish a relationship with you at this time, then take this event as a lesson. Have a good day, Alyssa.

  3. Anna V

    February 14, 2017 at 1:09 pm

    Hey, I’ve just started texting this guy about a month ago. He responds super quickly and carries the convo a little every time. My problem is that he can get any girl he wants (yes prob playing around with me) but I always have to start the convo. Is he interested in me??

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 15, 2017 at 9:09 am

      If he always talks with you and continues the conversation, then he is probably interested in you. He may be able to get anyone that he wants, but he is interested in you. Your best option is to try to spend time with him. If your relationship remains only text-based, then you may find that it will diminish over time. Hang out with him in person. Best of luck, Anna!

  4. Lisara

    February 10, 2017 at 2:53 pm

    Hi. I like this guy but i don’t knw bout his feelins at me, we’ve been friends bout 4yrs but only through on chat, all day & nite we’re texting, its seems like we’re both crazy bcz we’re laughing at the unimportant things urmm you knw ~ but then this year on on 31st Jan 2017, he texted me ‘ i miss you ‘ well i prob shock when i read it, i don’t knw how to respond bck tho, so i tease him till he text ‘ its okay u don’t miss me anymore ‘ i feel blank tht time till i reply ‘ i miss you too wt lots of cry emoji ‘ then he just laughing n says tht im funny. But after tht on 4th Feb, we stop texted at each other, i don’t knw y. I feel like im doing somthing mistake. What do u think ??

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 11, 2017 at 9:54 am

      You may want to send him a message. Text-based relationships often slowly end. You will want to try to spend time with him in person. Tell him that you want to meet up with him for a meal or for a walk. This is the best way to rekindle your relationship. Best of luck, Lisara!

  5. Maryann

    February 5, 2017 at 6:13 am

    Hi! I have this guy friend who I’ve been texting since more than a year now. He has opened up to me a lot. He keeps complimenting me always through text, and also keeps flirting with me. He tells me that I am a special girl, and I am a queen. However I’ve been noticing since a few weeks that he doesn’t reply quick to my messages. This doesn’t happen all the time, but it is quite often. I find him online at times for 10-15 mins at a stretch, and yet get no answer from him till like a hour or so later. I get frustrated and end up replying late as well to him. Once, I received a reply to my text after almost 2 entire days. I knew he was busy with some college work, but how can a person be so busy that he can’t reply to a text! I don’t know if he is just being flirty or actually likes me. He once told me “I won’t talk to anyone who says you are a bad girl.” He respects me, and is always praising me. Then why is he trying to ignore me? Please help.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 5, 2017 at 10:42 am

      It sounds like he liked you for sure before. He could be busy now with his college work, or he may have started to give up on you because nothing happened in your relationship. He has been texting you for more than a year now, so he may have just assumed that nothing would be possible since the relationship has not moved forward yet. Try asking him to hang out with you–it will help to rekindle your relationship and it will give you a better chance to gauge his mannerisms and attitude. Best of luck, Maryann!

      • Maryann

        February 6, 2017 at 1:27 am

        Thank you for your advice! What could I do to make the relationship move forward? I asked him if he ever liked a girl, or likes a girl now. And he replied no. It’s not possible for us to actually meet in person, though I rarely see him at college. What should I do then?

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 6, 2017 at 11:09 am

          He may have said “No” because he didn’t know for sure if you liked him. This is a normal occurrence. It would be best for you to speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Tell him that you like him and that you would like to further develop your relationship. If he feels the same, then your relationship has begun. If he doesn’t feel the same, then you have lost nothing. Best of luck, Maryann!

          • Maryann

            February 6, 2017 at 11:38 pm

            Thank you very much!

            • web admin

              web admin

              February 8, 2017 at 10:19 am

              You are welcome. Have a great day, Maryanne!

  6. Audrey

    February 3, 2017 at 12:45 pm

    Hi
    There is this guy ..we became friends 2 years back we never used to talk much then just about school stuff like if there’s a class tomorrow ..so he was my facebook friend back then but never used to chat ..we started chatting when we both got admission in our respective colleges ..and i have started noticing this few months ago that he’s he first one to text also when i was back in my hometown for vacations…he asked me twice to go out with him ..but somehow i wasnt able to and also he remembers the small details like when im going back to college after vacations when ill be coming back .. but im still not sure if he likes me or not cause our conversations are not long enough but yeah he texts me atleast 4 times in a week .pls help me out with this !!

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 5, 2017 at 9:22 am

      It sounds like he could be interested in you. He may just be worried that you do not like him. You turned him down for hanging out twice before, so he may mistakenly think that you are not interested. Perhaps, you could try asking him to hang out as friends sometime. This will give you a better read on his feelings, and it will hopefully encourage him in thinking that something more could be possible with you. Good luck, Audrey!

  7. .

    February 3, 2017 at 9:21 am

    Hi
    There is this guy ..we became friends 2 years back we never used to talk much then just about school stuff like if there’s a class tomorrow ..so he was my facebook friend back then but never used to chat ..we started chatting when we both got admission in our respective colleges ..and i have started noticing this few months ago that he’s he first one to text also when i was back in my hometown for vacations…he asked me twice to go out with him ..but somehow i wasnt able to and also he remembers the small details like when im going back to college after vacations when ill be coming back .. but im still not sure if he likes me or not cause our conversations are not long enough but yeah he texts me atleast 4 times in a week .pls help me out with this !!

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2017 at 11:49 am

      He probably is interested in developing a relationship with you. Continue to speak with him. If you noticed that he initiates conversation often, then he probably has feelings for you. You may want to send him a message first so that he knows that you care for him as well. Try to spend time with him in person if you are able to do so. Best of luck, Dot!

  8. lazyann

    February 2, 2017 at 11:29 pm

    hi, I having a textmate for almost 3weeks..he said he like but I rejected becoause I do nt trust a person I dd not yet seen in person..but he always text but later he often txt only every after 3 days..is he still interestedwith me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 3, 2017 at 11:37 am

      He may still be interested in you. He may be no longer interested in you because you rejected him. This is normal. If you want to continue to speak with him, then do so. Keep this experience in your mind as a lesson for your future relationships. If you want to meet with him, then do so. Best of luck, Lazyann!

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