How to Tell If A Guy Likes You Through Texting

By on December 25, 2013






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Now, more than ever, we are totally glued to our phones. Twenty years ago it was all about the way we talked, today it’s all about the way we text. It’s nice to be able to talk to anybody and everybody every second of every day, sharing every thought and detail of your life can make you feel like you’re together even when you’re miles apart.  But even though we can send words back and forth almost as fast as we can think them, it’s a little bit harder to send emotions and feelings along with them.  Sometimes all of those little tiny LOL’s and OMG’s only add to your confusion – especially when you are talking to a guy you like.

Don’t Freak Out If He Doesn’t Reply Immediately

So, how can you tell if your crush’s friendly greeting is more than just friendly?  The first thing you have to remember is that guys don’t think or communicate the same way girls do.  Most of the time, they say what they mean and they mean what they say.  If you get a one letter response it’s because they’re busy or in a hurry or because it’s faster, not because they’re mad at you.  Don’t read so much into it.  Most guys are pretty straight forward.

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He Texts You Throughout The Day

Something else to keep in mind is that while we ladies are the queens of multitasking, most guys just aren’t.  They can do one thing at a time, and they can do it well, but try to get them to walk and chew gum at the same time and see what happens.  Unless, of course, they are chasing a girl.  Once a guy has his sights set on his lady love, he can pursue her 24/7, all while going about his normal routine.  So, if your guy is texting you when his mind should be on other things, like work, chances are you’ve tickled his fancy.  He just can’t get you out of his mind.

Does He Always Text Back Quickly?

Another way to tell if your guy is trying to send some ‘more than friend’ vibes your way via SMS is to pay attention to how fast he texts you back.  If he is responding within a few seconds, you know he’s waiting on your next message and is totally engaged in the conversation.  Even better is when you have a meeting of the minds moment and text each other at the same time – that’s almost the definition of soul mates in the 21st century.

He Tells You Everything

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Also, if any guy takes the time to fill up that little screen with detailed descriptions of his day, chances are he’s digging on you just a little bit.  Especially if he’s got an old-school phone.  No man is going to take the time to text you line after line on those teeny tiny number keys unless he’s got some hidden feelings.   The way he sees it, he’s making a valid effort to communicate with his lady, something not to be taken lightly.

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He May Just Stink At Texting

When you are wrestling with your internal “he loves me, he loves me not” demons, make sure to keep in mind that every guy is different.  So is every phone.  Some guys may not text back as often as you would like because their phone is a pain in the you-know-what, while others may not text you back because they’re just not that into you.  To tell which you’re dealing with, you’re going to have to use a little discernment.  You don’t have to go all crazy stalker or anything, but scope him out when he’s texting his buddies.  Does he look comfortable with his handset, or like  a bit of a novice?  If he’s a bit on the slow side, don’t be too offended if he’s a bit slow to get back to you.

He Wants To Spend Time With You

Something else to keep in mind is that if a guy is really into you, he’ll enjoy a bit of a chase.  Let him initiate the text sessions from time to time.  If you notice he’s hitting you up pretty regularly, out of the blue, chances are you’re on his mind more often than not.  If he’s thinking about you while he’s walking around his living room or dozing off at night, you might be more than the girl of his dreams, if you get my drift.

The truth is that even though the way we communicate has gotten high-tech, the thoughts and feelings we are trying to convey are the same.  There is a lot to be said for trusting your instincts; that being said if you are truly wondering about the intentions of your potential Romeo, the best thing you can do is ask.   Maybe something like U+ME=:) After all, it’s only a text message.  It’s impossible for him to know your true emotions, either.  Worst case scenario, you tell him you were only kidding LOL





106 Comments

  1. Alya

    November 8, 2016 at 5:16 am

    So I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months and I’m not sure if he likes me or not. In person, we talk like friends and joke, but through text he’s like a different person. He always seems super enthusiastic in his texts and even if he doesn’t reply right away, he usually replies, even when I think the conversation has ended. He’s also initiated conversations a few times for random reasons. However, he’s been like that since day one and I don’t know how he texts other people, so I have no idea if he actually likes me or is treating me like his other friends…

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 8, 2016 at 11:57 am

      If he is attempting to speak with you, is enthusiastic when talking, and jokes with you, then it is likely that he has feelings for you. Spend more time with him in person and share your thoughts and ideas with him. Additionally, share your hobbies and interests and learn what his are. This way the two of you can become closer. If you want to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings, then that is always a great option. Remain positive as you move forward. Best of luck, Alya!

  2. Beverley

    November 4, 2016 at 3:12 am

    Hi! This guy & me have been texting each other since a year. He keeps telling me a lot about his life. Also, he keeps flirting with me regularly through texts. Recently, I told him that the girl who stole your heart is special. To which replied, “You stole my heart long back.” Is he only flirting, or is it an indirect way of telling me he loves me? He keeps telling me I’m special to him. I am in love with him, but haven’t been able to tell him my feelings, though I also keep flirting with him. I am thinking of confessing my love for him through text. But I’m afraid that if things don’t work out, he’ll have an evidence to make fun of me if I tell him through text. Hence I am resisting. We are in the same college, but it’s almost impossible for us to meet as our timings are different. Do you think texting him is a good idea? I’m totally confused!

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 4, 2016 at 6:34 pm

      It is certain that he is not attempting to gather information about you so that he can make fun of you. He may be flirting and he may be showing his loving feelings. If you want to know for sure, then allow yourself to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Share your thoughts with him and attempt to spend additional time with him. Take this risk and remain positive. Best of luck, Beverley!

      • Beverley

        November 5, 2016 at 12:21 am

        So texting about my feelings is a bad idea? Should I tell him about this in person?

        • web admin

          web admin

          November 5, 2016 at 10:17 am

          I think that telling him about your feelings is a good idea. It sounds like he could like you, and he may just be too shy to make a move. You will never know for sure though unless you take a risk, tell him how you feel and see what his response is. It sounds more likely than not that he does like you though, so go for it!

          • Kyle

            November 6, 2016 at 5:58 am

            I’ve read somewhere that texting a person about your feelings is not a good idea. It’s better to tell it in person. Do you agree with this? Will texting not be a good medium? I can express myself better through text than in person. So should I text a guy about my feelings for him?

  3. ppkk

    October 31, 2016 at 10:14 pm

    Hi. He’s friendly and talkative and I have no idea that we’re still just friends or any chance ?. He never asks anything about me but he just tells his stuffs. He always replies my texts and sometimes he answers very quick but no flirting at all. We’ve texted day, couple days … last time, he told me he’ll be gone a few days and the day that he’ll talk to me again. It’s not okay because I’m starting to think but he’s too friendly. So what could he probably feel? Thank you.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 1, 2016 at 4:46 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in you but doesn’t know how to share his feelings, or it is possible that he simply wants to be friends with you. Allow your friendship to flourish and see where it goes. For now, continue to remain positive and mindful about your communication. If you determine that you are confident enough to take action regarding your relationship, then speak with him honestly and directly about your feelings. Have a great day, and best of luck!

  4. JxF

    October 31, 2016 at 10:00 pm

    Hi. He’s friendly and talkative and I have no idea that we’re still just friends or any chance ?. He never asks anything about me but he just tells his stuffs. He always replies my texts and sometimes he answers very quick but no flirting at all. We’ve texted day, couple days … last time, he told me he’ll be gone a few days and the day that he’ll talk to me again. It’s not okay because I’m starting to think but he’s too friendly. So what could he probably feel? Thank you.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 1, 2016 at 4:46 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in you but doesn’t know how to share his feelings, or it is possible that he simply wants to be friends with you. Allow your friendship to flourish and see where it goes. For now, continue to remain positive and mindful about your communication. If you determine that you are confident enough to take action regarding your relationship, then speak with him honestly and directly about your feelings. Have a great day, and best of luck!

  5. .

    October 28, 2016 at 10:10 pm

    hey. so me and him still texting and he always reply no matter what but last wednesday he didnt reply me and i asked him “did you get my text” then he said ” i just got them im sorry” but today he didnt reply again. do you think he lied? and why didnt he reply?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 29, 2016 at 11:40 am

      He may have lied and he may not have lied. It is possible that he is busy, out of reception, or just unable to talk at this time. If you want to speak with him more, then share your feelings with him and attempt to spend time with him. Nothing will support a relationship more than being near each other. That said, do not allow your concerns to cloud your judgment and make you take action that will damage your relationship. Remain positive and mindful as you move forward!

      • .

        October 30, 2016 at 3:10 am

        but hes my crush. i dont know if he likes me or not. today he didnt reply again. i was helping him about her sister and then the last time i said “you call her rn?” (for helping him) and then he didnt text back. but he posted on fb and instagram. his behavior changes.. my friend thinks he likes me bcs he cares about me. and now it seems so weird. is he playing with my feelings?

        • web admin

          web admin

          October 30, 2016 at 5:56 pm

          He is likely not purposefully playing with your feelings. Your best option is to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If you do not speak with him and hear his words, then you will forever be concerned and anxious about learning his feelings. It would be wise of you to take this time to determine which course of action you want to take. If nothing else, attempt to spend additional time with him so the two of you can become closer intellectually and emotionally. Remain positive!

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