How to Tell If A Guy Likes You Through Texting

By on December 25, 2013

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Now, more than ever, we are totally glued to our phones. Twenty years ago it was all about the way we talked, today it’s all about the way we text. It’s nice to be able to talk to anybody and everybody every second of every day, sharing every thought and detail of your life can make you feel like you’re together even when you’re miles apart.  But even though we can send words back and forth almost as fast as we can think them, it’s a little bit harder to send emotions and feelings along with them.  Sometimes all of those little tiny LOL’s and OMG’s only add to your confusion – especially when you are talking to a guy you like.

Don’t Freak Out If He Doesn’t Reply Immediately

So, how can you tell if your crush’s friendly greeting is more than just friendly?  The first thing you have to remember is that guys don’t think or communicate the same way girls do.  Most of the time, they say what they mean and they mean what they say.  If you get a one letter response it’s because they’re busy or in a hurry or because it’s faster, not because they’re mad at you.  Don’t read so much into it.  Most guys are pretty straight forward.


He Texts You Throughout The Day

Something else to keep in mind is that while we ladies are the queens of multitasking, most guys just aren’t.  They can do one thing at a time, and they can do it well, but try to get them to walk and chew gum at the same time and see what happens.  Unless, of course, they are chasing a girl.  Once a guy has his sights set on his lady love, he can pursue her 24/7, all while going about his normal routine.  So, if your guy is texting you when his mind should be on other things, like work, chances are you’ve tickled his fancy.  He just can’t get you out of his mind.

Does He Always Text Back Quickly?

Another way to tell if your guy is trying to send some ‘more than friend’ vibes your way via SMS is to pay attention to how fast he texts you back.  If he is responding within a few seconds, you know he’s waiting on your next message and is totally engaged in the conversation.  Even better is when you have a meeting of the minds moment and text each other at the same time – that’s almost the definition of soul mates in the 21st century.

He Tells You Everything


Also, if any guy takes the time to fill up that little screen with detailed descriptions of his day, chances are he’s digging on you just a little bit.  Especially if he’s got an old-school phone.  No man is going to take the time to text you line after line on those teeny tiny number keys unless he’s got some hidden feelings.   The way he sees it, he’s making a valid effort to communicate with his lady, something not to be taken lightly.


He May Just Stink At Texting

When you are wrestling with your internal “he loves me, he loves me not” demons, make sure to keep in mind that every guy is different.  So is every phone.  Some guys may not text back as often as you would like because their phone is a pain in the you-know-what, while others may not text you back because they’re just not that into you.  To tell which you’re dealing with, you’re going to have to use a little discernment.  You don’t have to go all crazy stalker or anything, but scope him out when he’s texting his buddies.  Does he look comfortable with his handset, or like  a bit of a novice?  If he’s a bit on the slow side, don’t be too offended if he’s a bit slow to get back to you.

He Wants To Spend Time With You

Something else to keep in mind is that if a guy is really into you, he’ll enjoy a bit of a chase.  Let him initiate the text sessions from time to time.  If you notice he’s hitting you up pretty regularly, out of the blue, chances are you’re on his mind more often than not.  If he’s thinking about you while he’s walking around his living room or dozing off at night, you might be more than the girl of his dreams, if you get my drift.

The truth is that even though the way we communicate has gotten high-tech, the thoughts and feelings we are trying to convey are the same.  There is a lot to be said for trusting your instincts; that being said if you are truly wondering about the intentions of your potential Romeo, the best thing you can do is ask.   Maybe something like U+ME=:) After all, it’s only a text message.  It’s impossible for him to know your true emotions, either.  Worst case scenario, you tell him you were only kidding LOL


  1. Maya

    September 12, 2017 at 2:21 am

    Oh and one more thing, he did say that he enjoys chatting with me. But I don’t think I believe that even though some experts says that men are straightforward. Or is it just me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 12, 2017 at 4:12 pm

      Some men are straightforward, while others are not. It is best to treat each person as their own. Avoid the words of professional labels. Have a great day, Maya!

  2. Maya

    September 12, 2017 at 2:17 am

    Hey! So, I’m artist and I post my art via Instagram. And one day, he complimented my art, saying that it’s awesome that I’m good at drawing and he said that he sucks at it. From that day on, he would find a topic to talk to me thru texting. He doesn’t text me all day, but maybe after three or four days and sometimes a week. However, he replies fast and he always ask about personal stuff abt me, saying that he’s curious. Being a woman, I also ask him several questions that’s not too deep in case he suspects smthg. Sometimes I compliment myself to see how he responds. Unlike my friends, he doesnt seem to care what I labelled myself as. We went to the same tuition class, and he admit thru text that he’s been watching me. He’s the same age as me and we both went to the same school but in different class. So, I’m wondering whether he’s being friendly and nice or is he interested in me. Thanks!

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 12, 2017 at 4:11 pm

      It is possible that he is interested in you. He may have a strong interest in your art. He may want to be supportive and kind. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to nourish your relationship, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You may want to share more of your artwork with him. Have a great day, Maya!

  3. Jennie

    August 17, 2017 at 7:25 am

    In addition, through the text (it was several days ago), he complimented me that i am so cool and he’s such a nerd. He also told me about his schedule, events and conferences ahead and mentioned his prestigious campus. I want to say that he was trying to impress me, but i am not that confident as he didnt text me first until today.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 17, 2017 at 7:29 pm

      It is highly likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Jennie!

  4. Jennie

    August 17, 2017 at 7:07 am

    Hi, so theres a shy guy that i like and we only met once during a conference about 3 days. Please note that hes super quiet and shy guy. First day, he shyly approached me and asked something common about location. The next day, i told him (and other colleagues) about my plan to enjoy the city after the conference and he asked me to invite him. As he greeted me before, i tried to get to know more about him by smiling a lot and bringing small talk up yet he only answered me with one-two words and not asked me back. Surprisingly, he texted me at the night to invite other friends of us to join the trip. Then the day after that we met to do the trip with several friends. I kept talking to him and he simply smiled at me and answered with one-two words again. In the museum as we split up, and i bumped into him (without our friends) suddenly he approached me with smiley face and asked me my name. I was surprised, like seriously why did you ask me my name when you’ve already texted me, i teased him a lot because of that question. We had conversation and he took several pics of me with my camera, and followed me when i was looking for direction when he already knew the right path. I thought he was interested in me and had already open up with me but after we encountered our friends, he began to be a quite guy again, but now with smile on his face. He didnt talk in group unless i or others asked him question (and i asked him a lot).
    Since we live in different countries, the only way to reach him is only by texting. I initiated the conversation twice and hes pretty fun and good at texting, we texted throughout the night, despite he was on meeting he replied me quite fast, but in the end when the convo felt stuck, i left him on read.
    Now i want him to know that i like him but i think this is too soon and i slightly have fear of rejection as well. Could you give me advice on my story? Thanks in advance!

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 17, 2017 at 7:25 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. H certainly enjoys your company. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then reach out to him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Ensure that he is able to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jennie!

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