How To Get Your Crush To Like You

By on December 29, 2013






So maybe there is a guy you like – a guy you find yourself falling head over heels for. He’s cute, he’s funny, he’s handsome – in short he’s everything you want in a man and you’re crushing on him hard. All that’s good and well, but it poses one big problem, how on earth do you get your crush to like you back? This is probably not something you want to hear, but capturing your dream guy’s attention and his heart all at once is not always an easy feat to conquer…

Getting your crush to like you can be extremely frustrating and stressful. During the process there may be times you will just want to pull your hair out and scream because it can feel like he is looking right through you. That brings us to my first piece of advice in snagging your crush: Do not over-stress. You may be facing a daunting challenge, but worrying will get you absolutely nowhere in this game. Just stay calm and stay relaxed. If you follow these fool-proof pieces of advice, you’ll be set. If all goes to plan, your crush will be falling for you in no time at all!

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Tip One – Make Yourself Visible

First and foremost, your crush isn’t going to fall for you (or even have the ability to fall for you) if he’s never met you or never gets to speak to you. Perhaps he is the type of popular guy who stands out at work or school, maybe he’s the shy, withdrawn, quiet type of guy who sits in the back row. Figure out which type he is and work with that information to help you figure out the best ways to get him to like you like you like him. To get him to fall for you, you first need to figure out how to approach him. After gathering this information, use it in your conversations.

Yes, we said conversations. Because at some point, dear reader, you will need to keep a consistent form of contact with this guy. Otherwise you will never be able to form a proper relationship or get him to see you like him as more than friends.

Currently, he is your crush. It’s not the other way around at this point, so you may need to make  the first move. You may be thinking it’s hard putting yourself out there, which it totally is! But,  be brave, you can do it. By no means do you have to ask him out… yet. You’re still quite a ways away from taking measures like that.  All you really need to do for now is just speak to him. Introduce yourself, tell him about what you like, ask him if he’s got any hobbies, where does he go to work/school, etc.. See, it’s simple. This first tip is all about baby-steps, simple icebreakers to put you on his radar.

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Tip Two – Don’t Be Afraid To Flirt

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You’re probably thinking to yourself, ‘Duh, flirting is what it’s all about!’ and you’d be mostly right. As much of a cliche it is to tell you that flirting is important, it’s one of the most vital tactics in getting your sought after man to like you back. Don’t be nervous! Pretty much everyone has a strong fear of rejection in one situation or another. We subconsciously stop ourselves from feeling anything, just because there is an off chance we could get hurt! But all it takes are a few flirtatious gestures to hook the man you’ve been dreaming about. Once he sees that you are putting in all this effort, he might start to get the message and eventually want to be more than just friends.  

Don’t come on too strong, but you can subtly make your crush aware of your feelings for him.

Flirting is easier than it seems, for most of us it’s in our nature. We just have to dig up the small amount of confidence we need to get going! The strongest types of flirting come from the way you are speaking to your crush. Let yourself keep the conversations light-hearted and playful. Try out some witty banter or maybe even some corny pickup lines to get a laugh from your crush!

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Tip Three – Be Yourself & Act Natural

This is the most important piece of advice you will ever get when it comes down to relationships. Whether it be that they are just beginning or it is 50 years down the line, it’s important to stay true to yourself through it all. A lot of people will go to extreme lengths to impress the person they are crushing on. Our advice to you is to stick to being yourself. It is never healthy to try building a relationship based on falsities. It’s especially easy to get caught up in pretending to be something you’re not. Ask yourself: How can my crush like me if he doesn’t really know me? No one really appreciates a liar, so stay honest.

You definitely want your crush to like you for who you are and vice versa, right? Hopefully you answered yes to the question, because maintaining a strong bond built on truth is important. There is really no point in trying to be something you’re not. If you find that your crush doesn’t seem to be interested in who you are as a person, he probably is not the right guy for you anways. Stay true to yourself, be who you are and don’t ever let anyone stop you from doing so!

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Tip Four — Use Body Language

Using your body language and being flirtatious go hand in hand with each other. There are only a few differences between the two, but many similarities. Body language will literally show your crush that you mean business. Go ahead and bat those eyelashes at him in playful conversations. Try twirling your hair through your fingers or even just flash a few of your sweetest smiles in his direction. Let him know your mind and body are interested in him by using both of them. When you two are chatting and it is his turn to speak, find yourself placing your hand on his arm or leg to show him that you are really listening to what he has to say to you and that you are interested in every word.

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The most important part of body language is always maintaining a proper amount of eye contact. I can’t stress this part enough: Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact! Eyes are the doorways to the soul, or so we have heard. Eye contact brings an uber personal feel into your discussions. Using your eyes is a great way to get someone to pay attention to you, because once he sees your beautiful baby blues or browns, how could he possibly look away?

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Tip 5 — Get To Know Him

Guys love when you pay attention to them and take the time to get to know them on a more personal level. This tip is all about figuring out what likes, what he dislikes, what his favorite things are, where he spends most of his time, what his basic interests are, etc. Your crush will truly appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day to try to understand him better. Asking him personal questions will also give you information to have more conversations in the future. Having conversation starters is super important in this process. You will need something to fuel your talks with him.

You taking interest in him will surely get him just as interested in getting to know you, too. Get a deeper look to discover if you and your crush have any common interests, Does he like nature like you do? Maybe he has a crazy uncle that always belts out karaoke at all the wrong times at family events like you do or maybe you will both find some excitement in the fact that you both absolutely adore german shepherds. Whatever the random facts, you will never know unless you do some deeper digging.

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Tip 6 — Use Humor

What brings two human beings closer together than bonding over a few laughs? Very few things, it seems.. Do not ever underestimate the power of a laugh or the strength of a smile, especially when it comes to liking someone and getting them to like you back. Using humor is one of the most effective ways in getting your crush to like you.

First you can start off by talking with him about your favorite funny memories, such as your most embarrassing moments or funniest memories. Open up to him and tell him some of your favorite jokes and then try asking him to tell you some of his favorite jokes, too. Take the measures to create new jokes with your crush over time. Inside jokes are super glue in creating bonds with people. If you create new jokes with your crush, he is more inclined to remember them and think of you later when you’re not around. Maybe you will get a few giggles from him. Funny is definitely sexy. That is why people always say they are looking for a partner with a great sense of humor. Utilize this information to help you get the guy of your dreams!

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Tip 7 — Keep It Classy

We know when you’re eager for someone to like you back, things can get out of control. Just a warning: Desperation is definitely not hot. There is no need to try too hard. Keep it simple when it comes to your crush. It is okay to send your crush a couple of texts, but absolutely do not bombard him every moment of the day. He probably saw the first one you sent, so it is up to you to develop and practice some patience. Don’t get overworked if he doesn’t respond right away, he may just be busy.

It is also okay to dress up to impress your crush, but there is no need to overdress or, shall we say, underdress. Try not to let your outfit give it all away before you are even sure if he likes you or not. Guys usually prefer a bit of mystery. Form fitting clothes, subtly low necklines and putting on some lipstick can only help. But stay away from fishnets, too much cleavage or excessive blush and eyeshadow. Overdoing it can seem desperate for attention and gaudy.

When it comes to your behavior try to not be too enthusiastic. Stay calm and collected. What we are saying is: Play it cool!

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Tip 8 — Take Your Time

You truly cannot rush a good thing. Really getting this guy to like you for who you are does take a good amount of time and work. Putting everything out on the table immediately could leave you at risk of ruining everything that you have worked so hard for while pursuing your crush. No one wants anyone baring it all right away! Use time as your advantage.

The longer you take, the more effort you will find yourself putting in to the bond. The longer you take, the more he will start to get intrigued by you and want to get to know you more. Rushing could also give him the wrong ideas about your intentions. We are not saying take all the time in the world, we do not want your crush to get bored by any means.  Get him to take you seriously in your efforts by keeping the pace steady and slow. In taking your time ensure you use your utmost confidence and maintain strong contact with him so he knows your interest in him is unwavering. Continuously try to apply the previous tips while doing so and you should have your crush hooked, no problem!

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Tip 9 — Use Common Ground

Remember how we told you to really take the time to get to know what your crush is interested in? That was because finding those common interests is going to give you an advantage in getting your crush to like you back. Use that common ground to make yourself more appealing to him. If he enjoys cooking and you enjoy eating, ask him to cook for you sometime.

If he loves art, you can ask him to check out the sculptures you love with you sometime. Maybe he is in a special group at school that you have thought about joining before, like speech or photography club, get involved with those and he will appreciate you taking interests in these things. Do you both watch similar tv shows? You two can chat about how they killed off your favorite character in the series finale! Whatever it may be, use it to help you get the guy you like to like you back. If you two do not seem to share any common interests at all, then maybe he is not the right guy for you after all. But if you two do share quite a few common interests, then the task of getting his attention will be super easy!

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Tip 10 — Build Up Chemistry and Wait

All you have to do now is use all of the previous tips to get your crush to like you back. Watch the tips work their magic. Remember: Do not rush it. Good things come in due time and if you really like this guy you will take time to do it right. It’s important to remember to stay true to who you are, because relationships seldom work built on lies. Use your flirtatious tactics to the max and input body language to build up chemistry between the two of you. Make your intentions clear with him or you may end up in the friendzone and we definitely do not want that, do we? At the very end of your pursuit of your dream guy, you have two options.

Option number one consists of waiting to see if your crush will ask you out, drop hints about your favorite places or activities and see if he catches on! Maybe he is a shy guy and can’t seem to find the gusto to ask you out. Maybe he finds you too intimidating! If you feel like that is the case, then please use option two. Option two tells you to go ahead and take the initiative to ask him out yourself! Don’t come on too strong, but definitely maintain a good amount of confidence. Use these simple, effective tips and you should have him wrapped around your finger in no time.





538 Comments

  1. aimee

    April 8, 2017 at 12:26 pm

    Hey, I have this crush on a guy, we used to sit next to each other in English and we talked a lot. we did go out for 5 days, but he broke up with me and told my friends that he didn’t want a gf. Then after we broke up, before maths one of my friends asked him and this other guy whether they liked me and they both said yeah and they are really good friends. I think there is a rivalry growing between them. I still really like him and have dreams about us getting back together. I still think he likes me because we are always staring at each other in lessons. that other guy I was talking about, went out with me in nursery and he asked me out a few weeks ago but I said no because I had to much on my plate at that moment. ever since he asked me out ive been thinking bout him and our memories. but I still really like my crush. I’m so confused I don’t know what to do. please help

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      web admin

      April 9, 2017 at 9:45 am

      Before you do anything, you have to decide who you like the most and who you want to be with. It sounds like both guys could be interested in dating you, so you have to figure out who you like and want to be with. I would make that decision quickly though because they may sooner or later lose interest if it seems like they do not have any hope of being with you. Good luck, Aimee!

  2. Cindy

    March 27, 2017 at 8:46 am

    Hi I have a crush on this really nice guy n we have been talking for a year n 3 months I really like this guy but there is this problem that is keeping me n him away from each other we both have bf/gf n I wish I could be with my crush forever I really need help figuring out what I should do in a situation like this like we both like each other I need to know what I should do with my bf..

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 27, 2017 at 9:52 am

      You guys really need to decide what you want. If you no longer like your boyfriend, then end the relationship. If you like your boyfriend and just find yourself attracted to this other guy, you should be extremely cautious. Even people in long-term marriages find other people attractive. When you are in a relationship, it is how you act (or, rather, not act) on these feelings that matters. Right now, you have to first decide if you want to be with your boyfriend. If you do, stop talking to the other guy, avoid the temptation and focus on your current relationship. If you no longer like your boyfriend, end things with him and wait to see what happens with the other guy.

  3. Daira

    March 26, 2017 at 5:30 pm

    So I have like is guy for a year.When I saw him I liked him.We use to hang out a lot of time.He was my best friend.We use to laugh tougher,look at each other,and he would tell me everything that happened in his life.He is in one grade after me.But one day he move out of the apts where I live,and I only see him in school now.He does not talk to me any more.And I just found out that other girl likes him to what should I do?I dream about him all the time.I really want to date him what do I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 27, 2017 at 9:27 am

      The dreams just show that you like him and wish that you could be with him. If he likes another girl and does not talk to you anymore, it may be very hard to get him interested in you and he may have just viewed you as a friend before. At the moment, your best bet is to start talking to him again. You have to get the friendship going again so that he has a chance to notice you and become interested. If that goes well, you can start flirting with him and make your move. Good luck, Daira!

  4. Maria

    March 21, 2017 at 12:03 pm

    Hi! So, my crush is my best guy friend. We’re in the same class and we next to each other. I really like but I’m not sure if he likes me the same way I do. Most people think we’re dating, even my old teachers! People are always saying we’d make a cute couple. I just want to know if I should tell him how I really feel.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 21, 2017 at 1:53 pm

      It is certainly possible that people have told him the same thing about you. He probably feels similar to how you feel. You should speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Try to spend additional time with him outside of school. This will cause your relationship to become stronger. Have a great day, Maria!

  5. Lucia

    March 20, 2017 at 4:09 am

    Hi,so there is one guy in my school that I really like. The problem is that he is a senior year and I’m junior year so we don’t talk. Once there was a school dance and I noticed that he was looking at me quite a lot and he even said something to me but I couldn’t understand what because of my friends and music lol. Since then I see him looking at me and smiling to me a lot (and I do the same thing) I added him on insta and facebook and he always likes my pictures. My friends think that he likes me back.I want to message him but I don’t konow how. I’m quite shy and so he is .What should I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 20, 2017 at 4:05 pm

      Send him a message. See if he wants to spend some time with you. As the two of you become closer, you will find out if you want to develop a relationship with him. If you want to do so, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. This will give him a chance to share his mind with you as well. Have a great day, Lucia!

  6. Bridget

    March 12, 2017 at 8:47 am

    Hi, so my crush and I have every class together. I’ve tried everything and he knows I like him and I’ve caught him staring at me. We talk but he never brings it up. I feel like I’m being pushy and annoying, and I’m at a dead end, I’ve tried everything including wearing makeup and nice clothes. What do I do? I really like him, and I find myself dreaming about him all the time.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 12, 2017 at 2:28 pm

      Speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Try to spend more time with him outside of school. Go out to a meal with him or out on a nature walk. Dressing up and going to a public place may cause him to find confidence in his feelings for you. Best of luck, Bridget!

  7. Maraya

    March 7, 2017 at 11:03 pm

    Hi. My crush is in my class. I haven’t talked to him yet. I can’t look at him often because I’m afraid that everyone will find out I like him. When I catch him staring at me he look away. Once we have PE and I was looking at him because he was showing the exercises. Then he looked at me too and I looked away but I was very happy. Other day I entered my classroom and look at him by accident and he was staring at me. Yesterday we had math on the third floor and when I get to it he was waiting in front of the classroom for the other students to come out. I accidentally look at him and he was staring at me again. I don’t know how to approach him because it will be awkward. He’s quite and maybe shy. I may sound funny but i appreciate the small things I can receive.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 8, 2017 at 1:48 pm

      He may have an interest in you. Determine how you best want to approach him. When you do, speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. Your best option is to walk directly up to him when he is alone. If he is in a group, then try to catch his eye and call him to you. This will help the conversation naturally flow. Best of luck, Maraya!

  8. Riah

    March 5, 2017 at 2:40 am

    i haven’t spoken go my crush yet and it’s been 7 months since I’ve liked him. I told a friend and she blurted it out to his friend whom told him straight away that I like him. He said he likes me too but after another friend got involved he admitted that he only said that because he didn’t want to be mean and that he wants to be able to get to know me. But the thing is, that was my plan, I was going to speak to him and boom make him fall for me but my friend has put me into an awkward situation. Now my crush is friends with all my friends but me and im friends with everyone but him, I’m not popular but I get along with everyone in my class but him and I really don’t know what to do or how to approach him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 5, 2017 at 11:04 am

      All you can do is try to talk to him whenever you get a chance and try to get to know him better. If he is friends with everyone except you, it sounds like he may feel just as awkward and shy. For you guys to have a chance of dating some day, one of you will have to find the courage to make the first move and start talking. Since it has already been seven months, it looks like it may be up to you to make that move. Good luck, Riah!

  9. California

    March 3, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    So my crush goes to the same school as me and after 3rd period I always see him with his friends and he always makes eye contact with me as I’m walking with my friend, and she is well aware that I like him very much. He on the other hand doesn’t know that. Then I have 5th period with him and he always has to be saying something to me everyday even if it’s just to make sure I’m doing my work or to mess around with me. But yet, he’s talking to someone but he makes me feel extremely happy , and i don’t know what to do. I have his number and his fb, insta, and snap, but when I text him he’s either working or I am , and if we aren’t busy he doesn’t reply for hours at times or replies within seconds.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 4, 2017 at 10:07 am

      There is no way to know if he likes you back or not. For the moment, the lack of his response online and via text seems to indicate that he views you as just a friend. Try to talk to him whenever you can. If he gets to know you better, he may start falling for you. Try talking to him in person so that you can gauge his mannerisms to see if he is flirting. If that seems too intimidating, you can also continue to try to talk to him online. Good luck, California!

  10. aries

    February 27, 2017 at 11:42 am

    if i get his # should i text him?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2017 at 1:17 pm

      If you get his number, then you should text him. There is no reason to get his number and then not speak with him. Good luck, Aries!

  11. aries

    February 27, 2017 at 11:42 am

    if i get his # should i text him?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2017 at 1:17 pm

      If you get his number, then you should text him. There is no reason to get his number and then not speak with him. Good luck, Aries!

  12. akhila

    February 26, 2017 at 5:37 pm

    My crush is studying in another college and I only get to see him quite often. And he doesn’t even look at me. And at the present geographically we are far away from each other. But v are connected through Facebook , but haven’t talked to each other yet. We have a lot of mutual friends, but I am a bit shy to ask them about him. So how could I make my move being far away from him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 27, 2017 at 12:14 pm

      If you live in different areas, go to different colleges, and you haven’t spoken to him, then your relationship will have trouble developing. Reach out to him if you want you to establish a friendship. After you are friends for some time, you can then try to visit him. Then you may be able to develop a relationship with him. Best of luck, Akhila!

  13. Ria

    February 20, 2017 at 7:11 am

    Hi. Ok so i know that all of this is not going to work for my case. My crush is in my class and he doesnt talk to me much. Like we keep a distance. I’ve caught him looking at me twice and we laughed together when i caught him cheating in a test right in front of the teacher. He doesn’t know much about me and he has added me on snapchat. But we dont talk or text each other. What do i do?? Plus i’m in a school where i have a uniform on with a head scarf so i cant be flirty or look good. Help mee!!

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 20, 2017 at 11:30 am

      If the two of you have a way to contact each other, then contact him. There is no reason not to attempt to communicate with him. Try to be closer to him at school as well. You can do what you need to do to be more attractive to him. If you can alter your uniform or scarf in any way that you think will help catch his eye, then do so. Have a great day, Ria!

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