10 Signs He Wants A Relationship

By on October 4, 2013

Here’s an age-old problem: It is hard to read men. But, that’s why this article is here for you to read today to help you decide if your man is ready for that next step. Determining the difference between a guy who is ready for a relationship and a guy who is just messing around can be really tough. But, when you break it down- it’s not that difficult at all! You just have to know what to be watching out for. Here are 10 signs that a guy wants a relationship:


Sign #1.) A guy who pays attention to you is a guy who may just be ready for the next step. Men aren’t truly attentive creatures unless with someone or something they really care very deeply for. So, if you’re boy has been displaying quite a bit of his attention towards you, you may have a winner! But, how can you tell? Well: He will look at you and make eye contact you when he is talking or when you’re talking. He will ask you questions and always reply when you two are conversing. He will always try to relate and be involved fully into your discussion. He will also ask you for his input when it comes to him talking to you.


Sign #2.) A guy who wants to get to know you on a personal level may be ready to have a real relationship with you. Men don’t usually waste their time getting to know people they don’t have future intentions with. If he is trying to get to know you he won’t just ask, “How’s your day been going?” or “What do you do for a living?” He will go deeper and ask you what you like or dislike about your job, what your hobbies are, favorite foods, music and he might ask about your family or past relationships. If this guy is intrigued, he’ll most likely try to get to know everything about you.


Sign #3.) If he is ready to be your boyfriend he won’t keep hanging around other girls. Let’s forget about his sister, his mom and maybe that best friend he’s had since preschool… No, I’m talking about all the other girls that he flirted with before or that try to flirt with him now. He will put an end to that or just ignore them. He will, all in all, stop paying attention to all girls that aren’t you!


Signs #4.) Does your favorite guy keep you in the loop about his future plans? Good! He may  just be ready for commitment then! Guys only keep girls they considered a big part of their lives in their personal loops. If he does let you know about what his work schedule looks like, if he is taking any vacation or if he is going out of town or to an event, then he probably considers you more than just a friend.



Signs #5.) He should be a shoulder to cry on at all times, if he’s relationship ready.  If a guy is always there for you and is a constant shoulder to lean on- you have found your future boyfriend. No matter what, he will always try to be there for you. He will give you his best advice when you ask for it, he will bring the tissues when you are sad and he’ll always try to cheer you up when you are feeling down. Keep in mind, though, that if he is ready for you to be his girlfriend, he will expect you to have the same shoulder to lean on for him!


Sign #6.) A man ready for a relationship with you will make sure you are involved with his family and close friends. He will do everything he can to get you guys to meet and know each other and he will also do his best to get you to like each other. You all liking each other is very important to him and if he is trying to make that happen then he is definitely ready for that next step. A guy only brings a girlfriend-type of girl home to his family.


Sign #7.) A relationship-ready fella will display his trust towards you. He will treasure your thoughts and opinions about his decisions and what you have to say altogether. He will respect your advice.


Signs #8.) Patience is something huge to look out for when trying to figure out if a guy is ready for a relationship or not. If your guy doesn’t spend his time rushing you into anything, whether it be skydiving, running away to mexico, trying sushi or …. well, you know! A man who is patient with you, waits for you to be ready and respects the pace you want to take with things,  is a man ready to make you his girlfriend.


Signs #9.) You can tell a guy is ready for a relationship if he is trying to spend a lot of quality time with you. That means he is spending more than 1o minutes at a time with you. It means that he doesn’t just come around to sleep with you and that you see him in broad daylight. A guy ready to date won’t mind running errands with you or going out in public with you- he will actually enjoy spending any time with you!



Sign #10.) Any guy who looks at a girl as girlfriend-material, will keep in good contact with her. He will consistently message, call or text you everyday. He will reply to your texts or messages right away (unless he really is busy), but he won’t keep you waiting for long. He will make you a priority and make sure you stay in touch.




  1. Taqi

    February 15, 2017 at 3:09 pm

    What does it mean if a girl said to me she wants chances?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 15, 2017 at 6:50 pm

      She is either talking about her desire to have a chance with you. Meaning that she wants to develop a relationship with you. Or she is talking about how she wants chances in life. Meaning that she wants to experience what the world has to offer. Determine what you want for your future with her. Best of luck, Taqi!

  2. Amanda

    February 10, 2017 at 11:47 am

    I be seeing this guy for 3 week now and not sure if thing are rushing. We both live 2 hours away in different town our first date went well he drive 2 hours to ask me on a date then we got on so well after our date he texting and ringing me every day spending weekend with him watching movie and doing a bucket list of thing we can do together and he include my children and he made plan for me to go to south Australia with him to be with he family celebrating that they have once a year and now he talking about looking for house for me to live with him with my son and daughter when he come back from his holiday he going on that he arrange before he met me. but I be thinking where this relationship going when I ask him he stated he just want to be friend does he want more or are thing rushing to quickly

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 11, 2017 at 9:21 am

      Allow the relationship to move at the speed that you want it to move at. There is no reason to rush if you do not feel comfortable. Perhaps explain to him that you want to be with him, but you want to move a little slower. If he does not understand that, then maybe he isn’t the right person. If he does, then your relationship will move the speed that you want it to go. Best of luck, Amanda!

      • Amanda

        February 11, 2017 at 12:02 pm

        Thank you that help a lot it just took a big load off me 🙂

        • web admin

          web admin

          February 12, 2017 at 9:37 am

          You are welcome. Have a great day, Amanda!

  3. Rebecca

    January 17, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    I’ve been single for 3 years now, and it’s hard to tell if the man I’ve been seeing is wanting a relationship with me or considers us just friends. He drives me around on errands, he helped build my elliptical, took me out to a movie, which all seem like he’s interested but the long silence between texts, he won’t give me his actual number just BBM. Talks a lot about his schooling and not much about my day, and shows little interest in the son.

    I hate not knowing, in high school boys just asked you to be their gf, as an adult in my 30s it’s more difficult to tell where they stand.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 18, 2017 at 11:25 am

      If he is not willing to give you his number, then he may be in a relationship or he may have another reason to not give you this number. You should speak directly with him about your concerns. Also, if he shows no interest in your son, then perhaps you should not seek him as a future partner. You need someone who will be there for your child. Remain positive and good luck, Rebecca!

  4. Jessica

    January 11, 2017 at 2:53 am

    I really gained something here. Thanks a lot. But I get scared of men’s reaction a times. They show some love today and tomorrow they are off. Gets me thinking if he truly loves you.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 11, 2017 at 11:00 am

      Thank you for sharing your positive comment. We love seeing that our articles are helping people to establish strong relationships. If you find that you are confused about his feelings, then your best option is to speak with him directly. .He can not read your mind and he does not know what you need. Best of luck, Jessica!

  5. Gabby

    December 25, 2016 at 8:18 am

    I’ve been seeing a guy since November and we have been on 4 dates. We live in different cities that are an hour away from each other by train. When we’re together we get on really well and have good chemistry and I can see things going somewhere. He told me on our last date that he’d missed me and likes me a lot. He’s paid for us to do nice things and has been quite generous. However, he doesn’t contact me much in between dates. He might leave it as long as 4/5 days between texts, which makes me question whether he’s THAT into me? He’ll often say something like ‘I’ll give you a buzz next week about making plans for Saturday’ which makes me think he is not keen on small talk/daily contact. However, he does initiate making plans for us to see each other again which makes me think that he IS interested. I still have a few insecurities from my previous relationship and I don’t want to let that negatively affect a potential new one. But I also don’t want to be messed around and get hurt either. I feel like I need to play hard to get and wait for him to pursue me but I also doesn’t want him to think I’m not interested. Any advice?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 25, 2016 at 9:39 am

      I would not read too much into it yet. It sounds like he is not into small talk, texts or phone calls. He does go an hour out of his way to take a train to see you, so he is obviously interested in you. Since you just started the relationship together, he may just be trying to get to know you better and not bother you while the relationship progresses. It sounds like he genuinely likes you (and also genuinely does not like using phones), so I would relax, not worry about it and enjoy the relationship. Good luck, Gabby!

  6. Lillian

    November 6, 2016 at 6:30 pm

    I’ve been best friends with a guy since 6th grade when he moved here (we’re in 9th now), and I’ve liked him since then, too. Well, actually, I liked him from 6th until 8th when he got a girlfriend, then continued to not like him until he asked me to a school dance at the beginning of this school year.

    And I don’t mean he just asked me and we went. I mean he bribed me into going. I was really shocked when he asked (because I was used to our platonic relationship, and hadn’t had feelings for him in almost year, so I thought he was kidding), and I went “No!” to his face and all the other kids around us. He then said something like, “You’d probably make me do something to go with you.” And I was like, “Shit, maybe he wasn’t joking” So I made a deal with him and went.

    We enjoyed ourselves, and he spent at most half an hour away from me, unlike with his other dates (Where he spent the entire time against a wall refusing to dance with his girlfriend until like, the fourth time they went.). He also asked me to dance, but I had no idea how tf to dance (or which of the 20 million slow-dance positions he meant), so I said I didn’t know how.

    After that he paid a lot of attention to me, and I made sure to give him some, too. I even slept on him on the bus (which he invited me to do) and I asked if I was being annoying, he said no.

    Now he’s dating my cousin, but openly admits that it’s awkward. Now, most people that know us both, or even just me (and hear me talk about him) ship it HARD. A lot of them want us in a relationship more than they want themselves in their own relationships. They say we just “click,” and that it’s an “opposites attract” kind of thing because even though we share a lot of things (like music tastes, activities, and even have the same favourite colours), I’m the “smart-one” and he’s the “dumb-one.” He’s not even stupid, he just doesn’t like school work, so he doesn’t do it. The girl that gave that reason said that another reason she ships us is that we can’t stay mad at each other for long. Sure, we get mad every now and then, and we argue, but we’ve never stayed mad for very long.

    My one friend, though, has been getting information for me, and is trying (of her own accord, I jokingly mentioned it, and she was like, “I already planned on doing that”) to get him to break up with his girlfriend. She’s not really playing “dirty,” though.
    She got him to admit to my face (well, the back of my head, but he knew I was there. He’d been bugging me the entire football game and I was literally less than an inch away from him.) that he’d date me “under certain circumstances,” and that his relationships are “always awkward.” I used the opportunity to ask, “Are they awkward because YOU’RE awkward or because you’re dating all the wrong people?” and he said, simply, “Yes.” He kept messing with me the whole first half of the game.
    He also didn’t take kindly to me showing attraction to another person that night. He didn’t really react until I rolled off his knee and onto my other friend while I was talking about the other person (The friend was not the person, but I think he might have been upset because he thought I was joking at first, but then when I actually stopped paying attention to him, realised I was being semi-serious.).

    I literally cannot tell if he likes me or not. Sure, him saying he’d probably date me is a pretty good sign, but I don’t know if he meant a serious relationship or not. And if he’s able to say something like that while in a relationship, I don’t even know if he’d be a worthwhile partner. I know, I know, “I’m only in 9th grade,” but I don’t want some three month relationship. That doesn’t appeal to me in the slightest.
    I have never been in a relationship before because I have never been attracted to someone’s personality enough to like them. I can look at a few boys in my grade and appreciate their face, but I don’t feel attracted to them in the least. I don’t understand the casual relationships my peers get into. They have no purpose other than a status on facebook.
    You can imagine it was pretty surprising when a boy moved to my school and I instantly knew we’d be friends. I didn’t really think I would LIKE him. I’d never liked anyone that way before, and I didn’t like the feeling (pun intended) at all.

    Oh, and I feel like I should mention that he seems to bring up his girlfriend anytime I’m around. He’ll ask for a phone when he wants to take a picture of her and him, and he’ll mention that he does “this” or “this” with her, and watches my face when he says it. He also looks at me a lot (even if it requires an odd position to do it. Like extreme leaning).

    But now I can’t tell if he only wants a friendship, or if there might be something else. Is it even worth it? I (and practically every person I’ve met) think it’s worth a try. Most of those people openly despise his relationship with my cousin, and say they’re a bad match. I agree, but I don’t know if we’re being biased because we ship me and the boy.
    I really can’t tell if I should even bother. I hear crushes aren’t supposed to last 3 years (I say 3 because I noticed that even when I was being “completely platonic” with him, I still liked him. I just didn’t want to because I assumed he didn’t like me.), but maybe I’m just super attached and/or desperate. The idea repulses me. Actually, I don’t like the idea of liking someone, but apparently people like having relationships with people they like. I wouldn’t know the feeling.

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 7, 2016 at 3:23 pm

      While the two of you have a long history and the two of you are friends, he is in a relationship with someone else. Do not try to attempt to break them up for your own personal gain. Do not have your friends attempt to damage his relationship. No good can come from such actions. You will lose the trust of your cousin and other people of your social group. You may lose the respect of the person that you are interested in. You may also have other negative fruits come back to you in the future as a result. At this time is would be wise of you to take this as an opportunity to look inward and determine what you truly want and desire. Look at the consequences of those feels, and determine what you should do in light of those truths. Remain positive as you move forward. Have a great week, Lillian!

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