Why Am I Still Single?

By on December 16, 2013

So you’re pretty, you’re funny, you’re smart and you’re bubbling with personality yet for some baffling reason you’re still single.You keep turning over all your personality traits in your head wondering exactly what it is that’s chasing guys away from you. Let me start by saying this – stop! It’s not you.

Before I met my fiancée, I was single for a year and a half. I wasn’t sure exactly where my last relationship had gone wrong and what it was about me my ex and every other guy out there didn’t seem to like about me. I’m not big headed, I never for a second thought I was the most beautiful woman in the world, but I didn’t think I was bad looking. While I wasn’t the smartest or funniest of people, I figured I had a pretty good personality and was a good natured woman. Surely I was good enough for someone! Yet still, no one seemed interested.

I have one key philosophy in life though and, when I applied it to the question ‘why am I still single?’, I knew I didn’t need to worry about anything. My philosophy? Everything happens for a reason. Yes, it really is that simple. Everything happens exactly when and how it should if you ask me so I knew there was no point worrying about the fact that I was still single. I’m pleased to say I was proven right too. I never went chasing after guys, I just enjoyed my time being single and finally Mr. Right just strolled into my life without any effort from either of us.

I can’t stress highly enough how important it is that you live your single life to the full and stop worrying about when you’ll meet someone. I know for a lot of you that won’t be enough however so I’ve come up with a few things to consider if you are single and don’t want to be. Here goes…


Are you putting yourself out there?

This one’s obvious really. You’re not going to meet Prince Charming if all you do is hide away at home once you’ve finished work. You’ve got to be in the game to win it, after all. It doesn’t matter where you go – bars, clubs, the library, parks etc – just so long as you go. I’ll admit I spent the first year of my singleton time curled up on my sofa reading but just a few months after I started discovering what lay outside of the fictional worlds I found love. It’s all good and well enjoying your own company but, if you do, just remember you can’t complain about being single.


Are you making an effort?

I don’t mean to be rude but this one has to be thrown in to the ring. You don’t have to go all out to impress guys, you don’t have to be something or someone you’re not, but you should at least make a little bit of effort with your looks if you’re trying to attract a man. You don’t have to give yourself the full works with a haircut and a makeover, just make sure you look neat and radiant. Natural looks are the best way to go, guys love that, just so long as you look presentable you’re set. Oh, and don’t forget the best makeup you can wear, your smile. Smile bright and guys won’t be able to resist.


Are you trying too hard?

Often the best things come to those who wait and when they least expect it and the same is true of relationships. If you’re all over every guy you meet and pestering him for a date (or at least hinting for one), you’re likely to scare men off. As silly as it sounds, the best way to attract a man is to stop looking for one. Mr. Right will pop up when you least expect him to but it will be for all the right reasons. It will be because he’s loved the way you look, and he’s seen your charismatic smile, not because he can see you’re looking for a boyfriend. To put it plainly, it will be because he wants you, not because he knows you want him. Take me for example, the night I met my guy I was out on a girls night. Meeting someone hadn’t even crossed my mind until suddenly this gorgeous man asked for my number. He’d seen me speaking to people and laughing away and there was something about me he just liked. I’d shown him the carefree, fun and friendly side of me without even knowing it – without even knowing he existed for that matter. Just be yourself and stop worrying about who’s watching, you’ll love the results.


Just remember, ladies, time is all it takes. Don’t panic because you’re single, you’re not doing anything wrong. Mr. Right will be along soon, just enjoy the single life in the mean time.


(All images courtesy of Pinterst.Com)