15 Things to Do When You See Your Ex

By on January 15, 2017

We can all agree that seeing an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend in public is not the most enjoyable experience in the world. The moment you see them your heart drops and you are suddenly at a loss for words. You don’t know what to say, you don’t know what to do; it’s almost like you’ve turned into a brainless blob for a moment. So how should someone really act when they see their ex in public? We’re going to run you through the 15 different things you should do when you see your ex in public.


Don’t Panic

Seeing your ex in public is not the most enjoyable thing in the world, in fact it can be downright scary or painful. The best thing to do when this situation arises is to remember NOT TO PANIC! Panicking will only make things worse and you may end up doing something you will regret later. So, girls, listen up: step 1 when seeing your ex in public is to remain calm one hundred percent. Take a moment to breath in and out and figure out your next move.

Be Confident

Confidence is the key to being happy and secure, and others WILL take notice; in fact, confidence is one of the most attractive things about a man or woman. Aside from looking and feeling like a million bucks, your ex will take notice and see that you don’t need them. You are perfectly confident on your own two feet, and they will feel like they are the ones who are missing out.

Even if you feel anything but confident when you see him, fake it till you make it girlfriend. Trust me, it will do wonders for this entire torturous event.

Be Independent

This goes hand in hand with being confident. There is nothing like a mature, independent man or woman that doesn’t have to rely on their significant other. Don’t come across needy, don’t run to him, and don’t stare at him with this look on your face like you’re broken. Continue to go about your business with a smile on your face, acting as if nothing has even happened. You’re independent- you don’t need them, so don’t act like it.


Don’t Be Flat Out Rude

I know it would feel nice to be totally rude to your ex; you may even feel like slapping them in the face. But for the sake of getting through this occasion the best way you can, don’t be rude. Yes, they may have hurt you terribly, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be at least decent in person. Be the bigger person and don’t be rude- you will feel much better about everything in the long run if you handle yourself like an adult instead of a bitter little child.

Don’t Make a Scene

This is probably the absolute BIGGEST piece of advice I could give to anything that ends up seeing their ex in public: do not make a scene.

I know it is difficult not to want to make a scene when you see your ex when you are out and about, but this will undoubtedly be the biggest regret you will ever make, and you will go home feeling like an absolute fool. Embarrassing yourself in front of everyone is an absolute no-no. Even if your heart is telling you to go up to him, yell at him, slap him in the face, and scream at him for another fifteen minutes, please hold yourself together. I know your emotions will be running ramped, but please refer to step 1: remain calm always.

Don’t Wear Your Emotions

Another great piece of advice is to not wear your emotions on your sleeve for everyone to see. Yes, it will be rather upsetting to see your ex out in public, but you need to keep that smile on your face at all times. Wearing your emotions on your sleeve will give your ex the upper hand, knowing that they hurt you so badly- and they probably won’t even care. Instead of giving them the satisfaction that you’re hurt, hide your emotions until later in the day when you are alone or with friends and family members. They probably aren’t having any sadness, so don’t show them how sad you are either.


You’re going to be upset; trust me, I know. You may be sad, you may be mad, you may be a whole hurricane of different emotions through your body. But no matter how you may feel on the inside, keep a smile on your face. This will show them that you are confident, independent, and HAPPY even when they are not around.


Make Small Talk

If you end up standing right next to your ex, why not make some small talk? Ask them how they are doing, and reciprocate when he finishes his sentence. This will show them that you can be a mature adult about the whole thing and you’re not keeping any pent up aggression. This shows absolute maturity in a way that is confident and independent. Like I said before, don’t be rude- so keep it small and simple and then go about your day.

Don’t Boast About Yourself

Now, you may be tempted to boast about yourself when you and the ex start chatting it up; but this is something you definitely want to avoid. Most people believe that someone who feels the need to boast about themselves is trying to show off and isn’t really happy, and that’s something to avoid. Not only that, but boasting about yourself is downright rude and childish, so if you end up talking to them, keep it simple like I mentioned in step 8.

Don’t Cry

Please don’t cry. I know you may want to cry, but please don’t do it. Crying is a big indicator that you’re still upset over your ex, and they will take notice of this. Rememebr: you want to come across as a confident, independent person, not someone who is still craving the love of another, and someone who may actually feel they NEED it.

Save The Tears for Later

Okay, let’s just be real: seeing your ex is going to be painful, and the amount of pain or sadness will depend on the way the two of you broke up; and it’s totally okay to feel these feelings. But you need to save the tears for later. After the event has occurred and you’ve went home, feel free to let those pent up emotions loose. It’s healthy for you and will also help you get over your ex even further. Call a friend and talk it out, hug your family members, do whatever you need to do when you’re alone to make yourself feel better.

Make Time for Yourself Afterwards

Since you are not in the best frame of mind after seeing your ex, why not do something special for yourself to help you get over them? Maybe you could go get your nails done, head off to the gym, or have a night out with your friends. Whatever YOU want to do, go ahead and do it.


Surround Yourself with Friends

Being alone and struggling with a break up can be seriously difficult. Instead of trying to deal with the pain on your own, try gathering up some of your friends for a fun night out where you can forget about the devastation altogether. You could also call up one of your friends just to talk it out and have your friends make you laugh with their silly jokes and memories.

And if you just so happen to be out with your friends when you see your ex in public, this will make everything SO much better. This makes it easier to forget what’s going on around you, and you may even forget he or she is there altogether. Let your friends know that ‘you know who’ is in the room, and they will do everything they can to help you stay calm and happy throughout the entire night. It will also make things easier if he ends up coming over and trying to talk to you- you will have backup.

Talk to Him if You’re Both Ready

We all know those couples that break up, only to run into each other’s arms the moment they see each other next. If you and your ex broke off but it never really felt right and there was always some unfinished business, you may find your ex coming towards you seeking a conversation. If you are both on the same page about talking it out and possibly rekindling the romance, then this is the time to do so; just make sure you are both on the same page before bringing anything like that up, or you may be heartbroken (again).

Avoid Him if Necessary

Hey, sometimes the pain is just TOO much. Instead of possibly causing a scene or being immature about the whole thing, it may just be best to save yourself the emotions and heartache and simply avoid him altogether. You have to do what you feel is right and if there’s any doubt that something may happen, just walk away ladies.


Seeing your ex in public is seriously hard no matter how the two of you may have broken up, but the key is to remain calm, don’t do anything you will regret later, and act as confident and happy as you can possibly be.

Have you ever seen your ex in public? What happened? How did you handle it?


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