10 Subtle Signs He Has a Crush on You

By on November 18, 2015

How do you know if a guy has a crush on you? You can never be certain unless he confesses right out, but there are some signs to look out for that will give you definite clues. Just make sure you aren’t interpreting them to suit your view, as opposed to what’s really the case!

He Wants to Spend Time With You

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If he likes you, of course he wants to spend time with you! If he’s brave enough to show it is another thing entirely. Maybe he asks you to come along with your friends to something him and his friends are doing. Or he simply sits next to you in school, hang out with you at break time, or makes a point always to greet you in the corridor. If he’s a bit braver he might ask you to come out with him for something. Of course this can mean he wants to be friends too; it all depends on the intention behind what he’s doing. So check what he’s like when around you.

He Texts You 

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Another sign of interest is that he loves talking to you and when you’re not around – texting you. If he’s sending you funny texts he might want to impress you. Or if he’s asking you questions he wants to get to know you better.

He Flirts with You 

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If he’s complimenting you, teasing you and generally flirting with you, chances are he has a crush on you! The only thing to watch out for is that some men are generally flirtatious – with everyone. Those guys don’t need a crush to flirt with someone, they naturally flirt with everyone.

He Gets Nervous Around You

A telltale sign a guy has a crush on you is that he gets nervous around you. Why else would he be nervous? Unless he’s just awestruck by you in general, he likely has a crush on you if he gets nervous when you’re around.

He Looks at You

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Ever found him sitting looking at you when he thinks you won’t notice? Most guys who stare at you do so because they find you attractive. Why else would they ogle you? Maybe one day you have chocolate on your cheek, but that’s not every day, is it? And if it was the chocolate, everyone would be staring, not just him!

He Compliments You

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If someone compliments you, chances are that they mean what they say. For some it comes natural to compliment people, for others it doesn’t – for them it takes some courage to tell someone they like something about them. It’s simply a matter of how we were raised.

A compliment is just a compliment – we compliment friends, lovers, strangers, family and co-workers – but we don’t compliment everyone with a twinkle in our eye. If a guy is good at flirting he will definitively compliment you in a way that makes you blush. However, it doesn’t mean he has a crush on you. But if he goes out of his way to constantly compliment you, or he does so even though he isn’t a guy that normally compliments people, then he either really likes you as a person, or he has a crush on you.

He Pays Attention to What You Are Saying

Guys who like you will often pay attention to you. They might still remember what you said in class or at work two weeks ago because, well, they like finding out about you. I’ve had guys quote me on things I’ve said that I can’t even remember saying, because they were curious about me, so they paid attention.

Likewise, he might be asking your friends about you to try and find out more about you. This kind of curiosity is normally because of a crush.

He Teases You 

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A big part of flirting is teasing – if he’s got that glint in his eye when he teases you, he’s probably attracted to you. If he’s really into you or not is another matter entirely. Attraction is one thing, really having a crush on someone another.

He Gets Jealous of Other Guys

A sure sign of someone having a crush on you is that he gets jealous of other guys. Sometimes friends get jealous too if they feel you spend too much time with someone else, or they don’t like a new friend of yours, but often it boils down to attraction.

He Goes Out of His Way to Please You 

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Does he always bring you something nice? Or remember your preferences for something? Does he let you get ahead of him in the line, or always make sure to make your day better? Unless he’s an extremely kind and polite guy, his desire to go out of his way to please you means he likes you a little bit more than the other girls.

1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery


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    May 23, 2017 at 12:58 pm

    Me and my close male friend have been friends for the last 4 years, but I’ve known him for the last 7 years.
    I would like to get your thoughts on the things he does as mentioned below, however taking into account that he is telling everyone that we are only close friends. So with that in mind what are the chances of us being perhaps more than just friends, as that is the idea I’m having?
    1. Whilst I was out of town he used to phone me once a week and we would speak for about 2 hours over the phone, not really letting me phone him;
    2. He would carry my sportsbag for me without me having to ask for his assistance;
    3. We would hang out once a week participating in sports together. He even most recently bought himself a bicycle for us to get fit together and ultimately take part in cycling events together in the future.
    4. I’ve found him staring at me a few times over the last two years, each time not having much to say when I ask him what was on his mind;
    5. Since I’ve recently returned back home he would on each occasion we go shopping together let me go before him through the checkout point and also saying something along the line of “being a gentleman”;
    6. Very recently I’ve had people asking me whether me we’re an item and also saying that they think we should be an item. Some even referred to him as my husband;
    7. Within the last year I’ve had a few people either alluding to the fact that he may “pop the question” or us moving in together and so forth, one of them being my dad who, when I confronted him about what he knows and so on, still denies any knowledge of anything of what really might be going on.
    8. We would make eye contact whenever we are talking to each other and he would listen to everything that I tell him, even if it is to no particular interest to him and would give me his honest advise on issues that concerns me, i.e. health issues;
    9. Whenever we would spend time together he would pick me up at and drop me off at home and is always willing to help me with whatever I may need help with as far as possible; and
    10. If we sit around a table with other people he will always pull me up a chair for me to sit next to him or sometimes offer me his chair when no chair is available for me. However most of the times the two of us end up sitting separate from the rest of the people conversing whilst having a drink.
    Lastly is it normal for me to feel uneasy if another woman deliberately tries to show off her chest area (breasts) by the way she dress and appears in public and just by the way finds herself ever so often in me and my friend’s vicinity? I’ve told him before that she makes me feel uneasy and since then the uneasy feeling hasn’t gone away. Can I perhaps ask him if something happened where him and this lady were involved in some way during the period that I was away as she wasn’t around before I left. I don’t want to come across as being insecure or anything that can ruin whatever we are having, whether it be a close friendship or perhaps something more than just friendship.
    Your thoughts on this would be much appreciated.

    • web admin

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      May 23, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      It looks like you commented twice on this one. I have to answer and approve each comment before it gets posted, so it can sometimes take a little while. If you do not see a response right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my last response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting, Clarise!

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    November 12, 2016 at 12:24 am

    well i certainly need help.. i may be intelligent to pull gpa 4 but certainly i m not into relationship… one of my class mate always trying to help me though i really don’t need.. nd i hate that man but i know that he is kind and caring.. and then half uni knows he likes me and really i am no beuty.. just two stupid dimples which cant really show people i am angry… nd he is pitty case… i insulted him though i don’t like to.. and even mock a fake engagement but he is stubborn and won’t take that i love solitude…. so how can i make him hate me… though my friends told me to flirt.with other guys but i had done it without the result i want.. so tell me how to make him hate me

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      November 13, 2016 at 10:27 am

      If you truly hate this person and have no feelings for him, then do not pretend to be interested in him. If you are insulting him and he doesn’t get it, then perhaps he thinks that you are joking. It may be wise of you to take a moment and speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Explain that you do not want him to bother you any more and you need to focus on your education. If he understands, then he will leave you alone. If he does not understand, then make an effort to leave him whenever he gets close to you. Remain mindful as you move forward. Best of luck, Suzane!

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    Valerie Chua

    August 9, 2016 at 3:56 am

    I always see the guy looking at me i don’t know why. I thought already that he has a crush on me but it is imposible because he is the brother of my close friend. He is even 3 years older than me. He even tease me. One Sunday morning because we are both part of the choir and it is cold i wore my jacket unfortunately he is also wearing a jacket. The most embarassing part there is that both of us are the only one who is wearing a jacket. My classmates even tease me because they saw him look at me. He is little handsome and he is the crush of my bestie. He even make ways for us to be seatmates.

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      August 9, 2016 at 5:21 pm

      It is not impossible for someone to have feelings for you if they are the brother of a close friend of yours. And it is not impossible for someone to have feelings for someone else because of age differences. If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then speak with him directly about your feelings and desires. If he wants to develop a relationship, then you can move forward in your relationship. If he does not want to develop a relationship, then you can move on from him if you so desire.

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    Matthew Coast

    January 3, 2016 at 3:58 pm

    Here’s another one: He ignores all the negative things about you and is always focusing on your positive aspects. That’s a sure sign that he likes you!

    • web admin

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      January 5, 2016 at 5:46 pm

      That is a very good sign that someone is interested–I am sure that it will help some of our readers out. Thank you for commenting, Matthew!

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    December 14, 2015 at 12:59 am

    I really like this guy and we’ve been friends for a very long time now and he doesn’t know I like him but I’m pretty sure he doesn’t like me even thought he flirts with me all the time. He always teases me and looks at me. We go to different schools so we don’t see each other a lot but when we do he always looks and smiles at me. We are very close friends and we’ve always been able to have conversations about stuff that’s usually hard to talk about. I never want to lose him as a friend so I don’t know what to do. Please help!

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      December 14, 2015 at 9:23 pm

      Oh–why don’t you think that he likes you? When you like someone a lot, it can appear impossible that they would like you back. In reality, it is entirely possible that they are interested and are just as nervous about showing their feelings as you are. In your case, you have someone that has enough common interests with you to already be a close friend. He looks at you all the time, flirts, teases you and smiles at you. These are all signs of being interested. If you want to see if he likes you for sure, just ask him. Before you ask though, make sure that you emphasize that you want to remain friends no matter what his answer is. Best of luck, Kyra!

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    November 29, 2015 at 4:40 am

    Also he lives halfway across the world but we have the same goals. And both know what we want to do and where we want to go and stuff. But is it worth it since he lives far away? I don’t want to waste my time and get attached unless it’s likely to work out

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      November 29, 2015 at 4:50 pm

      Long distance relationships are just as likely to work out as in person relationships, especially if you both plan on living in the same place someday. Only you can decide it is worth the effort and the time apart in different countries to be with him. There is never a way to know in advance if a relationship will work out. Falling in love is all about taking a risk and hoping for the best–it is up to you if he is worth enough to you to take this risk.

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    November 29, 2015 at 4:37 am

    I know this guy since I was a baby and now we’re older and earlier this year he told me he liked me but then a few months later I stopped talking to him. We recently visited him and I started talking to him again. We have deep conversation and some meaningless like what are you doing conversation too. Lol do you think he still likes me? He said he didn’t really like texting in genral but he only texts me and his friends Levi? So idrk please help. Haha

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      November 29, 2015 at 4:49 pm

      He could still like you. The fact that he is talking to you means that there could still be some feelings there. Plus, you are one of the only two people that he texts, so you must mean something to him. It will probably be hard for him to express his feelings this time around since you rejected him and stopped talking to him in the past. If you do like him, you may be the one who has to do the asking out or flirting first. Good luck!

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