10 Signs You Can Trust Someone with Your Heart
You’ve been dating someone for a while and you want to know if you can trust them fully with your heart before you decide they are the one and only. What are the signs to look out for when making a decision like this? Read on to find out.
1. They Take Time Out for You
One of the first signs that someone is willing to be with you is that they take time out to be with you. That’s not to say you shouldn’t date someone who is busy, but have a look at where you are at on the priority list. It’s one thing having a job that takes up a lot of time, as well as an active social life and healthy workout regime, it’s another thing entirely to say that everything else comes before you. If you are high up on their priority list, chances are they really care about you, even if they are busy.
2. They Are Honest
Whilst most people have told a white lie or two, if someone is actively deceiving you about something, it shows a lack of respect. Some people don’t share all their secrets, but that’s different from saying they are going to their mom’s for the weekend, when in fact they are out partying with their friends.
3. They Share Intimate Details about Themselves
Some people are more comfortable than others letting people close, but if someone shares intimate details about themselves with you it generally means that they trust you and are willing to be vulnerable with you.
This is important when giving someone your heart, as if they aren’t willing to open up to you chances are the relationship won’t be very fulfilling. Also, it’s unlikely for someone to open up to you if they don’t intend to stick around.
4. They Show You Various Aspects of Their Life
If someone invites you to spend time with their friends and family it shows they want you as part of their life. It also gives you an opportunity to see that they are who they say they are. We’ve all met people who pretend to lead a life they don’t really lead.
5. They Show up for You
A big part of looking after someone’s heart is being there for them. Some people are ready to make that commitment, others aren’t. That’s not to say they are bad, it’s simply that in different stages of our lives we have different priorities. If someone makes having a relationship a priority, they will make it a priority to be there when you need them.
Before you give your heart to someone, make sure they are willing to show up for you through the good times and the bad.
6. They Go the Extra Mile to Make You Happy
Chances are that if someone is willing to plan an extraordinary date for you, or show up with chicken soup when you have a cold, it also means they truly care about you. A happy relationship is a lot about finding someone willing to make it amazing.
7. They Talk Well about You in Front of Others
If someone is constantly praising you in front of others, it means they are proud of you. It also likely means they aren’t going to do your dirty laundry in front of others when there are arguments.
Someone who praises you and makes you feel good is essential for a happy heart. So give your heart to someone who truly knows how to make it happy!
8. They Can Talk about Things
There will be ups and downs in every relationship. There will also be things you need to talk about in every day life – from who does the laundry to where to go for vacation. It’s essential that you can really talk about things, or sooner or later there will be massive disagreements.
For some it comes easier than others to talk about various topics. Especially emotions can be difficult for men to talk about. They also generally express themselves in a lot fewer words than most women. The important thing is that there is a willingness to discuss things. If someone refuses to talk about things it will be impossible to build things with them. After all, you need to discuss where you are going and deal with the challenges along the way.
9. You’ve Known Them for a Long Time
Some people feel like giving their heart away after having known someone for a very short period of time, because they feel so happy around that person. The truth is it takes time to get to know people. What is the person like in social settings? How do they deal with conflict? Are they able to handle loss? How would they behave if you were having a bad time with something – would they be there to support you, or would they leg it?
People have many different ways of being depending on what situation they are in. To know you are willing to give someone your heart, you should first know what they are like not just in good times, but in bad times too. Only too many relationships have fallen apart as people don’t know how to connect and work together when the bad times hit.
10. They Have Stamina
A person with a healthy sense of determination rarely give up when times get rough. Someone less determined might.
To trust someone with your heart you have to know they are determined to look after it. If they give up at the least setback they won’t be very reliable.
By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery