How to Tell if a Guy is Gay

By on October 6, 2014

Have you ever wondered if your boyfriend is gay? Most women would answer this question with a very quick and confident “no”, but for others, the answer isn’t so simple. Maybe something just doesn’t “feel” right or you are starting to get curious by the way he acts. Well, now you can finally get the answer to this important question and put your worries to rest by putting your boyfriend through these 10 signs on how to tell if a guy is gay.


1. He Checks Out Other Men

Your boyfriend will check out other women, whether he is with you or not. It is simply a subconscious behavior that every man does throughout the day without realizing it. But you say your man has never looked at a woman? Well the next time you’re out, pay close attention to where his eyes are roaming. If not women, is he checking out other men? That’s a definite sign he may be gay.

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2. He Seems Flirty With Males

Of course your guy has guy friends. But we all know how men act around their buddies. They’ll joke around and try to be the tough guy as much as possible. But does your guy seem a little out of place with his guy pals? Does he seem to be a bit more flirty than masculine? That could definitely be a sign that he’s playing for the other team.


3. He Primps Like a Female

It’s certainly a well known stereotype that gay males tend to be a bit more conscious about the way they look and try to look “perfect” the majority of the time. Is your guy just a little too ‘perfect’? Is his hair always done nicely, his face perfectly shaven, and his outfit is as fashion forward as it could possibly get with matching shoes, scarves, and all? Does he spend more time than you in the bathroom every morning? Sure, he might just be very metrosexual and care a lot about his looks- but at least ninety percent of males aren’t like that. So pay attention to this!

4. He Idols Over the Top Celebrities

Gay men love celebrities who live lavish, over the top lifestyles. They love it because these individuals aren’t afraid to be “out there” and have all of the finest things in life. If your man seems to idol celebrities with incredibly lavish lifestyle, for instance Cher or Whitney Houston, then he may be gay.

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5. He Watches “Girly” Television Shows

I don’t know about you, but most of my boyfriends have never wanted to sit through another episode of “The Real Housewives of Orange County” or “Glee”- or any other stereotypical “girly” show on tv. But if your guy seems to be up to date on all of these female shows, it may be a sign that he’s gay.

6. He Defends Gays

Most gay men will go out of their way to make it apparent that there is absolutely nothing wrong with gay men and they should be treated equally. And while this is absolutely true, most men won’t make this a usual topic of conversation. So, if your guy seems to bring up the gay community often and goes out of his way to make sure you know how okay it is, it may be a way for him to justify his sexuality.

7. He Hates Gays

On the other hand, some gay males (especially ones who are not ‘out of the closet’ yet), will go out of their way to show how much they despise gay males and the gay community altogether. It’s simply a way for them to try and hide their true feelings and make it seem like they are, in fact, straight. That being said, if your man tends to bring up the gay community in a negative way, and often, he might be trying to hide something from you- and maybe hide something from himself, too.

8. He Doesn’t Give You “Normal” Compliments

When you wear a new dress or get your hair done, most men won’t even notice. And if they do, they’ll most likely say something like, “Wow, you look sexy” or “You look beautiful”. Those are just the normal things men say- they aren’t really ones for going overboard with hundreds of adjectives thrown into every compliment. But if your man tends to throw out compliments that are simply not masculine and way too fashionable, you may have a problem. For instance, your man probably shouldn’t be complimenting you on how well your black Gucci dress matches with your gorgeous high heels and how it would look even better if you threw on a leather jacket to tie the look together. He shouldn’t tell you that your hair looks lovely but you might want to go with a blunt cut since your hair is on the thin side. Hair and outfits are two things most men aren’t interested in nor know a thing about- unless he’s gay.

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9. He Isn’t Interested in Sex

Okay, let’s just be honest for a second: every straight male on planet earth is on a never ending mission to have sex with females. They love it! (Okay, we do too, but you get my point). If he is totally uninterested in having intercourse with you and doesn’t even attempt to make a move on you after several dates, he is either extremely, extremely shy or he just isn’t into girls altogether.


10. He Spends the Night at His Guy Friends Often

As men get older, the idea of having a slumber party gets less and less exciting. In fact, the thought of having another guy spend the night is almost repulsive- unless they are best friends and one will be snoozing on the couch. If your guy is spending a lot of his time at a guy’s house- and overnight, too- he may be ‘seeing’ this guy in much more than a usual friendly manner.


Have you ever dated someone who turned out to be gay? What were the signs?


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