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    Best Ways to Respond to the Silent Treatment

    By on February 21, 2017

    There is truly nothing more devastating than getting the silent treatment from someone you love. In all honesty, you would probably rather be yelling at each other for hours instead of being left alone without a single response to all of your efforts. It is one of the most treacherous things that someone can do to another person, but there are ways to get through it- and our helpful tips and responses will ensure you still have your pride and confidence, even when you are going through something as horrible as this.

    Is silent treatment abuse?

    You might be thinking that calling the silent treatment abuse is somewhat harsh. After all, there is a vast majority of individuals who only consider bodily harm as abuse. And this is somewhat true- bodily harm and injury is a form of abuse known as physical abuse, but there are two other types of abuse that are just as horrible, if not worse: physical and emotional abuse. And the silent treatment just so happens to be both.

    Think about how you feel when you’re getting the silent treatment from someone you love and cherish. You sit there feeling alone and sad, thinking that you do not deserve even a small response from them. You think you are completely deserving of being left in the corner lonely and miserable, because everything is your fault anyways. And aside from feeling like a worthless piece of dirt, you spend hours going through mental torture, wondering what the other person is thinking or doing during their time of absence and silence. This is why the silent treatment is considered a form of abuse.

    Gain Some Confidence

    We all know just how important having self confidence is, whether we are going through the silent treatment or not. But working on your self confidence will ensure you stay feeling secure, worthy, and happy, even when you’re going through tough ordeals such as the silent treatment.

    You see, the silent treatment is designed to make you feel like you are undeserving or everything, even something as little as a response from the one who claims to love you. It is designed to make you feel so small and belittled, that when you come back, you are under their thumb. It is a form of manipulation, control, and of course abuse. But to a happy and confident individual, the silent treatment will have absolutely no effect.

    One more thing to keep in mind is to continue to boost your confidence while the silent treatment is happening; this will help the time pass by more quickly and help you to focus on other things other than feeling upset or going crazy trying to figure out what is on their mind. Go out with your friends, hit the gym, get a massage- do whatever you need to do to keep yourself calm, happy, and most importantly, confident.

    Do Not Beg for a Response

    One of the most important and biggest pieces of advice anyone could ever give you is to NEVER beg for a response from someone giving you the silent treatment.

    Of course you want to talk to them. It is driving you absolutely crazy that they don’t respond. You’re becoming so desperate that you’re belittling yourself to begging them for an answer. Do you know how this makes you look? It makes you look like a complete fool. It makes you look like you NEED them in your life, like you cannot live without them. They are your entire world and you can’t take another second without them. This is something you want to completely avoid in every sense. Even though it is probably killing you inside that your beloved is not answering you, do NOT beg. Ever.

    Aside from looking like a weak worm begging for a response, another reason to completely avoid begging is because the narcissistic individual giving the silent treatment actually likes it. Yes, it’s sick to think about, but when you beg to a narcissistic person, it makes them feel even better about themselves and may actually prolong the length of time in which they give you the silent treatment. They know at this point they have you wrapped around their finger and they want to enjoy it even more, with the smuggest and most vile smile on their face.

    Never Let Them Know it Is Effecting You

    Another big piece of advice is to never let them know that their silent treatment is effecting you in any way. You see, to a narcissistic person, they feel good knowing they are getting to you. It is their main goal, and if you let them know it’s bothering you, they feel like they have won. In their controlling and manipulative head, they are the bigger and better person and they can mess with you any way they please. Letting them know that their tactics are working will only make them want to continue the silent treatment for a longer period of time, and they will want to use this treatment more often because they know it will work each and every time.

    This is obviously another reason why the silent treatment is abuse: they want you to hurt, and they want you to show it to them. This, in turn, makes them feel happy. It makes them feel like they’re the most important person in the world and they ‘own’ you and your mind.

    Whatever you do, do not show them that their silent treatment is effecting you. Even if it is, keep it to yourself and try to find something else to occupy you.

    Do Not Try to Argue With Them

    Someone who is giving you the silent treatment is probably someone who is incredibly angry with you to begin with. Whether it was something small or large, whether it was one sided or you both played a role, the fact of the matter is they are angry and the only way they know how to deal with it is to completely cut you off. That being said, trying to argue with them even further is not going to help the situation whatsoever. Sure, you may get a couple responses here and there, but they won’t be happy responses and they certainly won’t be responses that are leaning towards the two of you actually getting together and working everything out.

    Although you may also be upset about whatever has gone on, it’s best to not try and argue with someone when they are giving you the silent treatment. The best thing is to stay quiet and let things cool off a bit.

    Do Not Apologize for No Reason

    Sometimes people argue because they disagree about something, and if that is the case in your situation, do not apology if you truly meant what you said. Apologizing when you have absolutely no reason to, just to get this person to talk to you, is a very cowardly way to fix the situation. It also lets them know that they were ‘right’ and you were ‘wrong’; so whatever you were arguing about, forget about your argument. Apologizing completely rules out anything that you have said and they will believe they were right from here on out. Just because you miss them and want them to respond, does not mean you have to let down your own thoughts and opinions. Be confident and secure in yourself.

    On the other hand, there are certain times where you probably should apologize. For instance: if you cheated on your partner and they found out about it and they don’t want to talk to you for awhile, then you probably should send them a short text message to let them know that you are sorry for what you have done. But just simply state your apology and move on. Do not continuously message them with apologies. One sincere apology is enough.

    Do Not Keep Bugging Them

    Sending message after message is not going to get them to talk to you. If anything, all they are going to do is be completely annoyed with you and not want to respond. Instead, find some other ways to communicate with someone who is giving you the silent treatment:

    -Let them know that you want to try and communicate through the problem in a different manner. For instance: maybe you demanded them to do something, and they didn’t like feeling like you were treating them as if they were a slave. Let them know you acknowledge that you approached the situation wrong and you would like to try again in a different way.

    -Ask them only once if there is anything that you can do to help with the situation, or if there is any way you can help them to feel more open to communicating with you. Extending a hand can be very useful, especially if someone is used to completely shutting down after an argument.

    -If all else fails, you can use a more combative move to end the silent treatment. If they refuse to say anything to you at all, then simply telling them that ‘you were right since they can’t respond’ will almost always rev up a response. However, you DO need to expect the narcissistic person to become incredibly angry when you say something like that. They will come at you in a combative way, but this will open up the line of communication. When things start to become heated, you can tone it down and try and get the conversation back to a more subtle tone so it can truly be worked out.

    Find Better Ways to Communicate

    If your partner is the type to give the silent treatment often, you need to find better ways to communicate. Most of the time, simply working on finding better ways to communicate at home is enough and you can almost always find a good way to communicate to replace the silent treatment. However, some people are over-the-top when it comes to their narcissistic behavior and will need more professional treatment. This can be very useful, especially if trying to find better ways to communicate does not seem to work out on your own. Also note that there are some people out there who absolutely do not want to change, and if this individual cannot stop abusing you with the silent treatment, it would probably be best to leave them completely.

    Find Out the Deeper Issues

    Sometimes there is a deeper issue to the silent treatment. Think about it: what triggers the silent treatment most often? Sometimes it is something as simple as the way that YOU are communicating with someone. Perhaps you’re approaching situations much more rudely than you should, and taking a different approach could avoid the situation altogether. Perhaps the two of you do not know how to work and solve an issue together, immediately going into a rage the second something even small happens. Take a good look at what  before the silent treatment begins, especially if the silent treatment is something that happens rather often. Working with the one you love can be a huge help when battling the treacherous silent treatment!

    At the end of the day, the silent treatment just plain sucks. It’s mentally torturing and just an awful way to deal with any problem. The most important things to remember is that you need to maintain your confidence and dignity during the silent treatment. Do not bug them to respond, do not beg them for a reply, and absolutely do not try and argue with them. The best options are to be calm and in control, sending them a loving and caring message that intrigues them to calm down and talk it out. If nothing else works, wait it out and try and find better ways of communicating with this person.

    Have you ever been the victim of the silent treatment? How did you handle it? Have you ever given someone the silent treatment? Why? Share all your stories.

    36 Comments

    1. Stephany

      November 27, 2017 at 7:01 am

      I am currently experiencing this with my brother. My brother and I are polar opposites as human beings, but I deeply value the bond of family, so I have always tried to maintain a relationship with him. I decided to unfollow my brother and his wife on Instagram. His posts (i.e. constant bragging about all his material possessions when he claims he is broke, etc.) just stress me out and don’t bring me any joy. So I am trying to create some healthy boundaries. I honestly didn’t think they would even notice I unfollowed them. But I was prepared to have the conversation about why I did if they asked. My brother texted me Saturday to ask why I unfollowed him. I immediately called him on his phone because I cannot stand texting, especially when dealing with conflict. I tried to constructively explain my actions and he hung up on me mid sentence then blocked my cell phone number.

      My 40th birthday is Saturday and my husband and I are traveling and he, his wife and my niece and nephews were supposed to go on the trip with us. I know my brother and I know he now won’t make the trip and I am sure he won’t call me on my birthday. What’s worse is he involved my nephew in the matter. I follow my nephew on Instagram as well, but I did not unfollow him. However, I can now see that my nephew has unfollowed me. I cannot express how hurtful and disappointing it is that they would involve my nephew in this matter. I wonder exactly how that conversation with my nephew. Mind you, my niece and nephews just spent the night with me less than a month ago. And I try to be a good aunt and spend quality time with them on a regular basis.

      All that being said, I appreciate the article. It validated my feelings of extreme disappointment and hurt. My mom, dad and I have dealt with all kinds of instances throughout the years that are a direct result of my brothers complete lack of emotional intelligence. I also really don’t know how to move forward at this point. It is especially disappointing around the holidays. I feel it is completely useless to try to communicate. The silent treatment really does speak volumes.

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 27, 2017 at 5:32 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is regretful that actions were taken that led to him taking actions that have hurt you. Take this time to determine what choices were made and how they influenced the situation. If you find that this relationship is permanently damaged, then focus your emotional energy on your other family members and friends. Have a great day, Stephany!

    2. August

      November 26, 2017 at 2:58 pm

      Hi!
      I have a childhood once-friend who I have witnessed use the silent treatment to end many of his friendships.
      Recently I became one of those ex-friends.
      I had a seemingly straightforward text chat with this long time friend. I could tell he was irritated that I commented on the content of what a different friend of his said in regards to a discussion we were having about purchasing some concert tickets. When I asked for clarification as to whether he was just passing on, or did he actually believed the info…no response and no furthur contact.
      It has been close to 2 months.
      I feel sorry for the guy. He is either unwilling or unable to have any really difficult conversations. But I also refuse to be manipulated, by him, in this manner. I have returned his emergency spare house keys.

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 26, 2017 at 5:56 pm

        He has decided that he is no longer going to treat you respectfully. His actions should influence you to focus your attention on your other friends. Return the keys or deposit them in the garbage. There is no reason for you to attempt to establish a relationship with this person. If he reaches out to you in the future, then determine if you want to speak with him at that time. Have a great day, August!

    3. jo

      October 28, 2017 at 3:06 pm

      my boyfriend of 4 years will give me the silent treatment if i vent at all to him, or if i go into details of what is bothering me and why. like when i open up about how bad my cancer treatment was or discuss how bad my gtube hurts and that i suspect i have adhesion, infection, or hernia at gtube site and afraid i will be forced to call into work so many times i end up fired before the problem could be fixed. any kind of true emotion and he disappears, he also disappeared in the middle of my chemo and radiation, just stopped talking to me or wanting to see me for a month, i ignored him back for 4 mos. now the pattern seems to be starting again.

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 30, 2017 at 4:32 pm

        If your relationship was put on hold for more than a few weeks, then it is likely that your partner is not mature enough to treat you with the respect that you require. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. If you want to nourish your relationship, then decide what is acceptable for your relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Jo!

    4. Rose

      October 19, 2017 at 4:05 am

      Hi, I’m currently going through this, but I’m not sure if my boyfriend “giving up on everything” can be considered the same as a silent treatment.
      To put it into context, we’ve been dating for over 9 months. I admit I was demanding and dramatic in the beginning, and we had a big fight a few months back. Back then he “gave up” because it was too much. But after 2 days he said he forgave me and we took a short break to recollect ourselves. Things were fine again after that.
      My boyfriend has personal issues; lots of self-hate and low self-esteem. He hates how he looks and has lost a lot of confidence over the past few months (he’s probably having body dysmorphic disorder, if you will). Top it off with so-called friends who can’t stand his attitude and started to leave him (and no longer invite him to outings), parents who would give him anything (physical; expensive things, etc.) but never emotional support, an extremely stressful work environment with a horrible boss, and a girlfriend (me) who still makes some mistakes along the way. I noticed over the past month he has been very depressed.
      A few days ago we had a small issue and it lead him to giving up on everything. Now he won’t even message or reply me, only replies people when necessary (and sometimes give fake responses too like “I’m feeling great. Things are all good”), and has withdrawn himself to playing his video games.

      How should I go about this? I sent him a message 2 days ago saying I’ll respect his space, and I haven’t messaged him since. But what next?

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 19, 2017 at 8:47 pm

        If you told him that you would no longer speak with him, then do not continue to reach out to him. If he responds to you, then speak with him at that time. Take this time to determine what you want with your future. You will find that new opportunities will become available to you. Strengthen your friendships and familial ties. Have a great day, Rose!

    5. Sasha

      October 12, 2017 at 10:25 pm

      Hi guys so i had an argument with my boyfriend after he posted snapchat at dinner with two girls and his friend whilst on holiday. When i asked him he said it was innocent if not he woudnt have published. After that he hasnt spoken to me for a week.i tried ringing to sort this issue but he ignored me completely. Then after i told his friend he text me that we can talk another time and he was busy with work. He still has not apologised and i see him online all the time

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 14, 2017 at 8:26 am

        It sounds as though he is unwilling or unable to continue to nourish your relationship. His actions may have been innocent, and he may upset at you for not trusting him. He actions may not have been innocent, so he may feel negatively about his actions. Either way, you should allow him to reach out to you. Put thoughts of him out of your mind until he attempts to contact you. Have a great day, Sasha!

    6. Sherry

      September 27, 2017 at 12:04 pm

      My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for two years. I just discovered that he has not been honest about his marital status. When we met, he told me that he was divorced. I recently discovered that he is actually legally separated, and has been for seven years. He has used the silent treatment on me in the past when there have been strains on our relationship. I remain calm and try to discuss the facts and how his action affect my feelings. I try to look for solutions that would strengthen our relationship. Then he goes into hiding and I don’t hear from him. I told him he needs to follow through with the divorce if he wants to save our relationship. I truly believe that he has no emotional ties to his wife, and that he has not properly ended his relationship with her because of financial reasons. I have not heard from him for two days. I have called him twice and he did not pick up or return my calls. We alway talk at least once, usually twice a day when things are good. I think he is giving me the silent treatment so he doesn’t have to face the mess he has created. I do not know if we can save our relationship if we can’t have open, healthy conversations when issues arise. I have told him this too.

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 27, 2017 at 8:31 pm

        He either is no longer interested in nourishing your relationship or he is acting in an immature manner. Take this time to determine if you want to continue to develop your relationship with someone who is acting this way. You may want to attempt to reach out to him one more time. If he ignores your or chooses to treat you poorly, then perhaps look toward another lifestyle. Have a great day, Sherry!

    7. Sheila

      September 4, 2017 at 2:07 am

      I have been given the silent treatment for so long and so many times that it is a blessing to get away from him. I know the longer it goes on the harder it will be to admit defeat when he has to talk to me, and he has no choice to admit defeat if he utters a word.

      • web admin

        web admin

        September 4, 2017 at 8:28 pm

        If you find that your partner is being childish or immature, then your best option is to speak directly and honestly with them about your thoughts and feelings. If they choose to ignore you, then perhaps it would be wise to reflect on your relationship. This may bring your life in a positive direction. Have a great day, Sheila!

    8. Kat

      August 11, 2017 at 8:35 pm

      I have been with my boyfriend for over two years, Over the years he has given me the silent treatment after almost every disagreement. It can last anywhere up to 4 days.

      Two days ago I went to meet him in his break. I was happy and just wanted to have a nice lunch with him. However when I sat down he insisted he knew something was wrong with me and repeatedly asked what was wrong. I insisted and promised nothing was. Because there truly wasn’t. However he continued to ask even when I started trying to change the subject.
      Eventually I just said there was family stuff going on that I didn’t want to talk about. (there was but it wasn’t bothering me that day, I was really in a good mood)
      He then ignored me for 10 minutes refusing to even acknowledge I was sitting across from him. I then asked what was going, he said nothing.
      I went to the bathroom, and I admit I did cry. I was upset and confused. After 5 minutes I composed myself and sat back down. He looked at me and gave me this either disgusted or annoyed look (I think he could tell id cried) and just looked at his hands in silence.
      Several minutes later I tried again, he accused me of not trusting him to tell him what was going on. He said that I didn’t tell him what was wrong therefore he doesn’t have to talk.

      Another 10 mins went by in complete silence. I asked if he wanted me to leave. He just shrugged so I left.

      We haven’t spoken in two days now and I am not sure how to proceed.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 13, 2017 at 5:36 pm

        It seems as though he has decided that he can not respect you. He is not acting in a mature manner when he ignores you. His reasons for not being happy may be reasonable, but his actions are not. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he doesn’t respond, then your relationship may be questionable. Best of luck, Kat!

    9. Lisa

      August 7, 2017 at 3:12 pm

      i am married for 6 yrs. and i am still experiencing this type of silent treatment. it’s driving me crazy and it hurt deep inside.im a home stay mom. sometimes, i want to give up on this relationship but i dont have family and friends living here in USA. i dont know where to run to. and i have nothing even money. can you please give me some advice? TIA

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 7, 2017 at 7:47 pm

        Take this time to determine what you want for your future. It is clear that you no longer want to be in this relationship. Speak with your family about potential options. Make friends in your life. There are kind and compassionate people in the world. Someone may be willing to help you in the near future. Look around for opportunities that become available. Best of luck, Lisa!

    10. reg morris

      August 2, 2017 at 6:43 pm

      I am in a difficult stuation to being the leading authority in country to having lots of incoming business calls then the silent treatment began i was just getting same callers friends & family so i took out a extra line
      & it got worse with no business calls for over 6 years plus I am fighting back however it seems this conspiracy to defraud involves a lot of personnel and its cost me well over 6 figures. No one wants to talk to me no claim forms have been filled in by open reach. Its all very clever its the silent treatment from the top to bottom of BT group.Dont mention MP’s
      Ofcom or ombudsman or police all fail to act What can i do now?

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 2, 2017 at 8:28 pm

        If you have not worked with your company for six months, then you are no longer employed there. Check your bank account to determine if you are still being paid. If you are not being paid, then you are not employed. If you are being paid, then they kept you on as an advisor. They will call you if they need to speak with you. There is no reason to reach out to them unless you want to be more active. Have a great day, Reg!

    11. Gabby

      August 2, 2017 at 11:05 am

      Currently going through this, I want to apologize for what I did but not to sure when the right time is as he is giving me the silent treatment, should I wait until he is ready to talk to me or what would be the best approach?

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 2, 2017 at 8:14 pm

        If he is giving you the silent treatment, then you should determine if you want to have a relationship with someone who chooses to be immature. There is no reason to remain in a relationship with a disrespectful person. Determine if you have a reason to remain with this person. Speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. If he ignores you, then leave. Have a great day, Gabby!

    12. Jane

      July 31, 2017 at 2:05 pm

      I’ve been going out with a guy for over a year. I still have some contact with my ex (a relationship that was well and truly over before I went out with my current partner) , and by contact I mean that I bump into him occasionally and when I do I don’t ignore him, I say hi. But that is it. I told this to my guy, who said he wasn’t jealous of me and trusted me, so I was shocked when I ran into my ex and we had a civil conversation and my partner drove by. Bad luck? Maybe. But my partner has just refused to see or talk to me since then and has only sent a few texts – the first to say he didn’t need me; then to say how much it had hurt him; a few days silence. Then some texts saying he wanted me to smile, missed me, and is ‘planning our autumn’ (his words). He still won’t see me. All I would like is to get a chance to talk to him. I’m not pressing him, though. I’m just so upset and shocked. I know his feelings for me are pretty strong, but for him to know how much he’s intentionally hurt me, and to continue, is worrying.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 2, 2017 at 7:07 pm

        It is possible that he believes that it is possible that you were developing a relationship with your ex. You can understand why he would feel this way. You can explain to him that you walk by your ex and you have a conversation with him when you do. Your current partner may no longer want you to speak with your ex. You can make a decision about where you want the future of your relationship to go. Have a great day, Jane!

    13. Jane

      July 31, 2017 at 2:04 pm

      I’ve been going out with a guy for over a year. I still have some contact with my ex (a relationship that was well and truly over before I went out with my current partner) , and by contact I mean that I bump into him occasionally and when I do I don’t ignore him, I say hi. But that is it. I told this to my guy, who said he wasn’t jealous of me and trusted me, so I was shocked when I ran into my ex and we had a civil conversation and my partner drove by. Bad luck? Maybe. But my partner has just refused to see or talk to me since then and has only sent a few texts – the first to say he didn’t need me; then to say how much it had hurt him; a few days silence. Then some texts saying he wanted me to smile, missed me, and is ‘planning our autumn’ (his words). He still won’t see me. All I would like is to get a chance to talk to him. I’m not pressing him, though. I’m just so upset and shocked. I know his feelings for me are pretty strong, but for him to know how much he’s intentionally hurt me, and to continue, is worrying.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 2, 2017 at 7:05 pm

        It is possible that he believes that it is possible that you were developing a relationship with your ex. You can understand why he would feel this way. You can explain to him that you walk by your ex and you have a conversation with him when you do. Your current partner may no longer want you to speak with your ex. You can make a decision about where you want the future of your relationship to go. Have a great day, Jane!

    14. Renae

      July 27, 2017 at 12:56 pm

      THIS IS MY LIFE!!! I don’t know how to change it, fix it, or make it better. It is so uncomfortable being in the house and I don’t want our children to think this is a good way to deal with stress/problems. I also don’t want to feel like I don’t exist. I just don’t know what to do.

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 27, 2017 at 5:50 pm

        It sounds as though you are right to focus on your children. Take this as an opportunity to strengthen your relationship with your children. Speak with your partner about your thoughts and feelings. If he is unwilling to listen to what you said, then perhaps you should attempt to strengthen your relationship with your family and friends. This will help you deal with his behavior. Have a great day, Renae!

    15. Becky

      July 14, 2017 at 2:33 pm

      My husband does this every time he doesn’t agree with what I say.
      Sometimes it’s gone on for 4 days. He can’t take any criticism at all. But he thinks he can dish it out. He’s always right and won’t have it any other way and everything is has to be about him and how wonderful he is. I’ve got to the stage now after 6 years where I don’t care as much about it. I used to get upset but now I just let him carry on sulking while I go about my life. It does eventually make you feel differently about your marriage though.

      • web admin

        web admin

        July 14, 2017 at 7:09 pm

        Thank you for sharing your experiences. It is great that you shared advice on how to deal with the situation. It seems as though your partner need to speak about something in his life. It is also possible that you may not want to speak with him about his reactions. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Have a great day, Becky!

    16. mwiine sam

      June 25, 2017 at 2:27 am

      I best know how to deal with narcissistic people. just ignore their silence treatment and they’ll feel defeated though initiate a conversation and not concerning the problem that brought silent treatment, just talk about other things.
      am going through one currently and your article has helped me.
      Thank you.

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 25, 2017 at 9:47 am

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. You are right, narcissists feed off of people giving them attention and playing their games. You are doing an excellent job at avoiding this person’s games. You may want to remove yourself from this person’s life if they continue to treat you negatively. Have a great day, Mwiine!

    17. Archana Sonawane

      May 7, 2017 at 2:03 am

      Thanks a lot for this information.. i am married since 16 years. My husband gives me silent treatment… I have been saying sorry whether my mistake or not..Many times I feel k just hug him and sort out he problem, and this i do for many times..He never come to me.. after sometime of silence at hone i can not handle the silence and the atmosphere at home… Though my husband doesn’t talk/ discuss otherwise.. It’s really bad that you can’t complaint it.. cause they don’t say any word.. many time I take initiative to sort out things and tell him ti speak out.. but he always blame me that “you don’t listen” that’s it , but in reality i always take him chance ti speak i just put my points but he don’t like that too.. i always say hi you also put your point tl,tell me if I do anything wrong.. but he doesn’t take it sportingly.. and always tell that I am only one who does wrong and have a bad at heart.. though I respect my mother in law.. but if I complain anything about her he just make statement “tou don’t want my mother” it broke my heart because I don’t say anything her directly , i treat her good ,she also love me.. but my husband doesn’t take any single criticism against his family.. i am tired of it. All the judgments are made upon who’s family person is in argument between us…

      He never discuss things or his daily routine ,or his stories .. no ph calls during day ,in case I do call the call is for not more than 1 min. But he not even take initiative or discuss when we are at home.. just little conversation that’s it.. but he wants me to good in bed..
      I want to break this

      So want some suggestions to come out strongly with this silent treatment, what should I do ,cause when such happens i don’t will to cook food or clean home, and if I want to become normal should I speak with him at dinnertime or let him be silent..

      Second ,he doesn’t talk or discuss on the issue of fight . Just hug each other and start regular routine

      Sorry for poor english.
      Thanks a lot for giving your time. God bless you

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 7, 2017 at 11:07 am

        The only real solution is to get him talking. There is no way to solve your problems or get the changes you need unless he opens himself up to communication. All you can do is keep trying to talk to him and get him to listen to you. Make sure you emphasize how serious you are about this and that you need him to be a partner in this relationship as well. Hopefully, he will listen.

        • Archana

          May 8, 2017 at 3:39 pm

          Thanks a lot for reply …

          • web admin

            web admin

            May 9, 2017 at 1:36 pm

            No problem! Let me know if you have more questions. Thanks for commenting!

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