How to Not Care What Others Think
Caring too much about what others think is a great way to lower your confidence and upset you; but how can you stop caring so much about their thoughts and opinions? It’s easier than you would think. Follow these 12 easy steps to not caring and live a happy and fulfilled life that’s practically stress-free!
We’ve all been in this situation before: maybe a friend’s told us that her friend doesn’t like her, or we hear it right from someone’s mouth that they don’t like us for a certain reason. Yes, it’s pretty upsetting at first. You think, ‘Why? How could they not like me?’ If you’re tired of feeling upset from other people’s judgement, you need to learn how to not care. Trust me- you will feel a million times better.
Realize Everyone is Going to Judge You
It’s rather unfortunate, but it’s human nature for humans to judge one another. We always do it, all the time, even when we might not even realize we’re doing it. The first step in learning not to care what others think about you is to realize that you’re always going to be judged by those around you, and there really isn’t anything you can do about it. Whether they’re judging you by your looks, your personality, or your past, at the end of the day you will be judged for something big or small.
If Someone Doesn’t Like You, Move On
Even if you don’t do anything wrong to someone, there will always be that person that doesn’t like you because you’re you. It could be something as (stupid) as them not liking the sound of your voice, that you joke around too much, or your hair is a color they don’t like. The best thing to do when someone judges you and not like you for whatever reason is to simply move on. They don’t like you, there is nothing you can do about it, and they are not worth the time or energy. Forget about them and move on to step 3.
Surround Yourself with People that Love You
When you are surrounded by people that do nothing but love you and like you for who you are, you won’t feel so bad when you find out someone is judging you and not liking what they have seen or heard.
Being around those who lift you up instead of tear you down is a sure-fire way to raise your confidence and allow you to focus more on the happy and joyful things in life, rather than the negativity someone may have when they judge you.
Talk it Out with Friends and Family
Aside from simply being happy and fulfilled being around the people who love you the most, another reason why surrounding yourself with these people is that it gives you the opportunity to talk about your problems and insecurities in a safe and confidential manner.
If you are struggling with the fact that people are judging you, open up to a friend or family member and allow yourself to speak freely about the issue. The person you talk to will certainly offer up some good advice and remind you to not care what others say. They will probably also lift you up by speaking about the positives in you and your life.
Realize the Past Will Never Change
One thing people love to judge about others is their past. But what can you possibly do about that? We have all made mistakes in our lives, whether they were tiny details or big explosions. But at the end of the day, we all have this in common: there’s a part of our past we aren’t proud about. If someone judges you about your past, you need to realize that it is in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it now. You can’t change the past, but you can certainly make the future brighter and better. If someone wants to judge you and break you down about your past, let it go. It’s done and over with!
Do Not React to Their Judging and Comments
Reacting to what people have to say or think only shows them that you’re not confident enough in yourself to realize that they don’t matter. All you need to do is shake it off and don’t let it bother you. This shows them (and everyone else) that you don’t need to waste time and energy on them, and that you are happy with yourself no matter what anyone else thinks.
Don’t Be Around Negative People
We mentioned earlier how you should only be around the people that love you the most and don’t judge you; well, this step just reiterates the fact that you should ONLY be around these individuals. If you find out someone is judging you negatively and they are having a negative impact on you, delete them from your life completely.
Getting rid of toxic people in your life is an easy way to not care about what other people think, as you will be too overjoyed with fulfillment and confidence from your circle of uplifting friends and family. Notice a huge weight lifted from your shoulders simply by getting rid of that excess ‘weight’ in your life; it truly is a lifesaver and you will be glad you did.
Understand You’re Not Perfect
Thinking that you are someone who should not be judged is just ridiculous. I think we can all agree with the statement that ‘nobody is perfect’; and yes, that includes you.
Dreaming that you’re a perfect person and nobody has anything to judge you about is a recipe for disaster. Realize right here, right now, that you are not perfect. You have never been perfect and you never will be. Becoming aware of this fact will allow you to understand why someone may judge you, even if you don’t like it.
Gain Some Confidence
Confident people do not care what others think about them; it’s as simple as that. But if you’re lacking confidence, every single word or thought someone has about you is going to effect you greatly. In fact, when you have no confidence you may even start thinking people are being negative towards you- when they aren’t.
So how can you build confidence when you’re lacking in that department? It’s simpler than you think:
- Say something nice about yourself in the mirror every single day. Write these comments down and keep them nearby where you can read them often. Make a new positive comment about yourself every day and soon you will find out that you love yourself for a multitude of different reasons, and you have no reason to feel bad.
- Work on the things you feel you need to change. Maybe you aren’t the best friend in the world, you need to study harder for better grades, or change your eating habits to feel your best. Whatever you feel you need to work on, start working on them so you can feel even better about yourself.
- Occupy your mind with fun activities with your friends. Having fun, enjoying life, and laughing often is the best way to feel absolutely amazing about yourself. Get out of the house more often and enjoy life! You will have less time to be unconfident with yourself and less time to worry about other people’s opinions.
- Try something new as much as you can. If you want to take a new class and learn a new skill, do it! If you want to do something daring to get your thrills on, do it! Whatever you accomplish in life will only add to your confidence levels, so aspire for new things and try and do as much as you can in life.
Know that Life Goes On
So he or she doesn’t like you, and they judge you about the smallest things. Oh, and that other guy over there? He judges you because of your past. But at the end of the day- life goes on no matter WHAT they think. So go ahead, let them talk or think whatever they want about you. The world keeps on turning and the days pass by. There’s nothing you can do about it anyways, so don’t let it get to you.
Stop Thinking You are so Important
I hate to say this, but if you are one of those people who constantly think people are judging them for every little thing they do, you may have a problem; and that problem is you think you are WAY more important than you really are.
And trust me, I am not here saying that you aren’t important and special- because you ARE! But you are not SO important that nobody has anything better to do than sit around and judge you for whatever you’ve done or what you look like or how you act.
The fact of the matter is, people are always going to judge you, we’ve discussed that. But half the time, it’s all in your head. People are more occupied with their own lives to do nothing but be negative about you.
Ask Yourself Honestly: Why Should You Care What Others Think?
It’s time for you to sit down and have a realization with yourself. If you want to learn to not care about what other people think about you, you really need to ask yourself this prying question: WHY should you care what others think? You’re a great person and do your best in life, right? You may have made mistakes along the way, yes, but even then, does it matter? Of course not!
Think about it long and hard and you will soon realize that it shouldn’t matter what other people have to think. It is a waste of time, energy, and emotions, when you could be using all of that on people who care about you.
Not caring what others think is actually simpler than you thought, huh? Stick by the people who care about you and invest your time and energy on yourself and on them. Gain some confidence, realize judging is a part of human nature, and learn to simply say ‘Who cares’?!
How do you feel about people judging you? How did you stop caring about what others thought about you? Share your stories below so we can find out even more ways to not care!