How To Make Him Miss You

By on March 1, 2015

Want to make a man to really miss you? The best way is to make him crazy about you in the first place. Of course there is then some actual tactics for making him miss you. So let’s have a look at what you can do to create excitement when dating or in a relationship and how to actually make him miss you.

1) Never Be Too Accessible

Women have a funny tendency to reschedule their whole life to fit into their guy’s schedule. If a girl likes someone she wants to be with him. And especially in the beginning of a relationship it’s only too easy too reschedule everything you’ve got going on to make sure you get to see him, because you want to, right? Well, to make him want you, you might have to ensure you live your life.

Having your own life makes you attractive. First of all, because it makes you happy. You have time to further your friendships, career, do exercising and spend time doing what you love. It shows you have character and won’t bend to his every wish as well. Secondly, it gives him time to miss you. And even if he misses you every day, giving him a little extra time to do so just increases his wish to see you.

2) Don’t Text Every Second

Yes, sometimes it’s nice to get caught up in a deep, raunchy or flirtatious conversation with your guy over text, but again, it’s important not to loose track of everything else. Make sure you show him you have a life by sometimes being too busy to reply. Because let’s face it – you are. If you are at work, hanging with your friends, or at the gym, you don’t have time to text him every second. Whilst it’s nice to sometimes reply promptly and most certainly you shouldn’t wait an hour to reply to a simple question that needs answering, you have to focus on your life and what’s happening around you and then reply when you have a moment. Not constantly taking a moment to reply.


3)  Let Him Know You Have Friends

A guy will feel more special when you have time for him if he sees how many friends you have. Make sure to include him in a few outings with friends so he knows you have an awesome social life. And if you don’t have one – get one. Plenty of things to do to introduce you to new people, from dance classes to meet up groups and everything in between.

4) Make Him Know Other Guys Want You

If he knows other guys are interested in you, he will be sure to miss you even more. Why? Because you could be with all those other guys who have the hots for you and then he will be missing out and fearing they might win you over.

5) Wear Your Awesome Wardrobe

OK, so maybe he won’t miss you because of your wardrobe, but if you looked awesome last time he saw you, then he will seriously miss you when you leave. It’s just a thing guys have – look hot and they will miss you!

6) Have a Scent

This may sound a little weird but scent is a really powerful memory trigger. Ever dated someone who wore a specific perfume and then when you met someone else with that perfume you had a sudden flashback? Or a certain scent you’ve come across has suddenly pulled you back in time to a specific place you associate with that scent? Well, if you wear a certain scent, like a certain body lotion, an essential oil, or perfume, then he will remember you when he smells that. And if you stayed the night he will miss you when he smells the scent on your pillow.

7) Take a Vacation

If you’ve dated someone for a while, especially if you are living together, make sure to spend some time apart. Even if you both have busy schedules and need to take time off to spend time together, also do go away for a weekend on your own. It will give you perspective and a chance to truly miss each other, not just because of hectic schedules.

If you’ve broken up with someone who you’d like to get back, going away for a while can help you get perspective on your life and come back as a new, happier and more attractive person. The happier you become, the more someone will miss you as they think they are missing out on this new happy you.

8) Be Happy

As just mentioned – if you show you are happy, people will long to be with you. It’s natural. Whilst we can’t always be happy and we all go through challenging periods (and that’s absolutely OK), always focus on creating a life you are happy with, as well as building your inner confidence. If you are joyous then people will gravitate towards you and miss your company when you are not there.


9) Make Good Memories Together

Remember that guy who used to make you laugh? The perfect fling you had one summer that was such an adventure? Or the guy who it was just fun being around? The more incredible experiences someone associate you with, the more they will miss you because they do, indeed, associate you with happiness.

10) Spice It Up

All relationships get dull at times – work and life in general tend to throw in challenges and we lose focus on other things. Like just taking time off to have a good time. We are too caught up in the challenges. So set time aside to work on your relationship. Ensure you do go on those date nights, take a vacation together or simply get out to do fun things together.

If your relationship is spicy enough, or your date nights are, then there is excitement. There is a thrill. And men will come back for more of that sort.

11) Do Something New

When you do things that release adrenaline, like going paintballing, zip lining or surfing, you automatically fall in love easier (it’s scientifically proven – potentially something to do with rescuing princesses out of towers and slaying dragons could be related to this). Likewise, exploring new fields together, whether adrenaline kicks or not, make people bond. So ensure that you explore novelty with your guy. Habits are good, but don’t get stuck in a rut!

Needless to say the more you go on exciting adventures together, whether intellectual, spiritual, emotional, or physical the more your man will miss you when you’re not there.

12) The Bedroom

If you have a relationship that’s sexually active with someone, then explore that aspect too. Learn about how to increase intimacy. From having a candle lit dinner where you actually look each other in the eye to getting adventurous in the bedroom. There are many ways to be flirtatious as well that aren’t directly sexual. Play. Have fun. And spice it up. One of the reason men are so into getting it on is that it’s a way to bond. Whilst women bond through cuddling more so, men bond through sex. And for them to miss you, they first have to bond with you. Of course, that’s not an excuse to get sexual with someone you are unsure of though. if they aren’t your best friend yet, you probably don’t want them in the bedroom. Most long-lasting relationships start with a longer courtship with no sex.


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1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery


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    February 19, 2017 at 10:08 pm

    Ok so I have been talking to this guy for 6 months. He approached me and we have been talking several times a week. He lives in Alabama and I live in GA. His work schedule is the opposite of mine so we rarely get to see each other. I have seen him twice since we’ve been talking (but haven’t become bf-gf) Thanksgiving, Christmas and Valentines Day he texted me saying Happy _________ on each occasion. Well I mentioned to him that we had been talking for 6 months and I never got a reply. Long story short yesterday was my birthday and I didn’t receive a phone call, text, nor a fb post. I sent him a lengthy text saying basically my feelings was hurt and I blame myself because I liked him more than I should. I poured out my feelings to him and he didn’t reply which makes it hurt even more. I told him I didn’t call him because I had no voice. Am I overreacting? Or should I let it go? The only thing is I believe I am pregnant by him and I’m not quite sure what his response would be..

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      February 20, 2017 at 10:57 am

      If you believe that you are pregnant wit his child, then you should tell him. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. You will want to be especially clear with your thoughts about him being the father of your child. This will give him a strong reason to become closer to you both emotionally and physically. Best of luck, Reagan!

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    January 8, 2017 at 8:33 pm

    Hello- I met a guy and we instantly hit it off. We went on 3 dates before we slept together and the intimacy made us like each other even more. We would not talk everyday but when we did arrange to hang out it was so fun and charged with attraction. I spontaneously went on a 5 hour road trip and we stayed with some of my friends because he wants to move. He had an interview there and we had an amazing time and it was so fun. Total of 11 hours in a car and I felt closer than ever with him. It was comfortable yet still fun. We get home and he’s moving cities within 4 days I don’t hear anything from him for 2 days. We finally have small talk on snapchat and I told him I’ll miss him. He replied saying not to miss him(with winky emojis). We have been intimate over a dozen times and I want to be with him. But he’s moving 5 hours away. it’s so hard for me to just turn it on and off. I love with everything or nothing. I feel heart broken but I need to forget about it because he means what he says…right?

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      January 9, 2017 at 10:43 am

      He does mean what he says, and there is no way to know what will happen in the future. Long distance relationships are just as likely as in person relationships. The hard part is not getting to be around that person. Without their reassuring presence, it is easy to feel jealous of anyone–not just women–who get to spend time around him. Whether you want the stress of a long distance relationship or not is up to you. It is perfectly understandable if you don’t want to deal with the stress, but you could also just keep the relationship going for a while to see how things work out. My husband and I actually spent a year on opposite sides of the world when we were dating, and we ended up getting married–so distance relationships certainly can work sometimes. It all depends on what both of you want and if you want the constant sadness of being apart so much.

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        January 17, 2017 at 5:30 am

        I am in a ldr frm 3 yrs nothing is same how can i make him chase n miss me like the beginning of our relationship

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          January 17, 2017 at 10:36 am

          Long distance relationships can be difficult to maintain after three years. After three years in a any relationship, you will find that your partner will cease trying to chase you. They have already caught you and you have caught them. Your relationship should move onto the next level. At this point, the two of you should be happy with each other. However, you should attempt to be with him in person. Otherwise your relationship may run into difficulties in the future. Best of luck, Sana!

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    November 24, 2016 at 7:25 pm

    Im in high school and recently attended a youth leadership conference hosted by the KYYMCA. while I was there, I met this guy. he hugged me a lot and was very sweet. he even said “I love you” but Im pretty sure he was at least halfway joking. I followed him on Instagram and her followed back quickly. then he Dms saying “omg Abby hi how are you” and told me to add his Snapchat. so I did. we talked a lot and took a picture together. the conference ended earlier this week and we’ve stayed in touch, he said he loves me again and told me I’m pretty. I kinda maybe think he likes me but I’m not sure. I also kinda think I like him but Im kinda talking to this other guy. but the guy I just met is soo sweet and kinda cute and I really liked it when he hugged me and the guy I’m talking to doesn’t ever tell me I’m pretty or hug me it like about even having a little crush on me. I think my chances are better with the new guy but idk how I really feel or how he really feels. please help me

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      November 25, 2016 at 10:18 am

      It sounds like he likes you. Short of just asking you out, it would hard for him to be more obvious about his feelings than he already is. As for the other guy, it sounds like he could like you and is just shy. Before you make a move, you should decide which guy you are really interested in. Once you know who you actually want to be with, make a move and see what happens. Good luck, Abby!

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    August 21, 2016 at 1:56 am

    I met a guy through a foreign friends app. We clicked pretty quickly. We are only friends but I have developed strong feelings for him and I don’t know if he feel the same way. He is really sweet and caring. We have the some of the same interest as well. That’s why I fell for him. He would say things like I’m very kind person I’m glad we are friends, he has said I miss you,also that he wants me to be safe. He even told me about a personal matter he was going through. I was sad I couldn’t be there in person for him. Because we are so far apart. I have never developed feelings like this for a guy. I actually confessed to him that I like him and had feelings for him. When he reply back he said he like me too. But I think he means only as friend. It didn’t seem like he mean more then a friend. He didn’t say he had feelings for me. I never asked him either. I only have known him for about a month now. Our communication is only by text. So when we first talk he would text frequently but now he barely texts at all. He said he don’t have time for personal reasons. Also that he doesn’t have internet to text me so I have to wait. So,I don’t know what to do. Im always thinking about him everyday.I have tried talking to other guys and keeping myself busy just to be distracted from him but it’s not working. I don’t want to spam him with text messages. Do I just wait or let him go? I don’t think he has a gf right now but idk. He has only told me about a bad ex he once had. I’m so confused at this moment.

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      August 22, 2016 at 4:21 pm

      If you want to send him another message in a few days, then be certain to do so. He may be busy or going through something in his personal life. It is great that the two of you are friends, but it is likely that both of you are hesitant to develop a relationship because of the distance between the two of you. Speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings, and if he shares your feelings, then you know that you can develop a relationship with him.

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    July 25, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Thanks for your post. I need to let it out my thoughts. I met a guy on my holidays back home and we hit it off. he was a diplomat there and i live and work in another country. He visited me twice (it costed him a lot) and we had great times together although sex was not awesome coz of my first attempts. later sadly he got transferred to another country and he seemed not very attentive to my texts and I confronted him that if he did not have mutual feelings, I respect him. But he said our lives are far apart ( he is white and i am Asian) and he does not want to lead me on. So I said I understand that he could expect me stop contacting him. Then he sounded serious and he wanted to keep communicating with me. I told him not to be nice to me and he said ,he was not being nice that is how he was truly feeling about me. He pushed me to apply scholarship in his country and although 12 hours time difference, he was so helpful in details for my school application during his vacation in his country before he move to the next country as a diplomat. we said we missed each other so much. sometimes he called me. But after he got back to work , he becomes so silent, less respond to my texts (I dont text a lot), if i said i miss him, he would say miss you too. But never initiate conversation again. Less active on FB messenger where we communicate. He does not tell me his life like he used to do. when I asked him about moving to another country, he said he is busy building new relationships. now it has been one week , I dont hear from him. I try to less active on messenger as well and not using it a lot coz it hurts me seeing him active there but never text me again. is he cutting me off slowly? should I ask him straightly? why he did not agree when I tried to end the things with him totally first time and now he is fading away? please I need your help.

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      July 25, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      It is clear that you are having valid concerns about your relationship. He has told you that he is interested in keeping a relationship with you, but he has also made it clear that he does not choose to act in a relationship style manner. If he has seen your messages but has not replied for a week, then it is clear that he is choosing to not treat you in a respectful manner. Attempt to speak with him directly and honestly once again, but if he chooses to ignore you, then you know that your relationship may have ended without you realizing it. Remain positive and take this time to look inward.

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    May 24, 2016 at 2:06 am

    I am so confuse I don’t knw he actually loves me ,he scolds me a lot and says I am d list of people he trust,he is far from me iam in Nigeria he is in UK.we video call and chat at time bt we end up fighting each other yet he gets jealous whenever he sees a picture I snap with another man,he doesn’t me to date another man yet he calls me names

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      May 26, 2016 at 8:42 am

      It sounds like he likes you and wants you to be entirely his. Either he wants to play the field, or he likes to keep you in a state where you do not know if he is really yours or not. It sounds like he is a very jealous, somewhat controlling guy–are you really sure that you want to be with him? By not officially dating you, he can manipulate your feelings and keep you from ever feeling secure or valued in the relationship. You should really consider if being with him is what you want because his jealous behaviors and manipulations are unlikely to stop any time soon.

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    May 9, 2016 at 6:27 am


    There a guy i met in 2007, we been on and off due to one of us having a partner. We stopped talking for quite a long time. Last year he broke up with he ex and made contact with me, we met almost every week after he broke up with he ex, every day we would chat I would tell him I miss him and he would reply and tell me he miss me 2 but would never tell me how he feels about me . I had a boyfriend at the time he made contact with me and this year we broke up and I told him about it ever since then we not the same anymore. Whenever I couldn’t make it to see him, he would get upset. We got into a fight a week ago about me not seeing him and things got ugly that I end up telling him we are wasting one another time and I can’t do this anymore. I felt heart cause I really like this guy and I don’t know if he feels the sameway, we didn’t talk for a week after the fight and I was going crazy not talking to him. So I made the first move and told him I miss him and he said the same. But I feel that he don’t like me the same way cause whenever I asked him how he feels about me he couldn’t give me straight answer. What should I do?

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      May 11, 2016 at 11:56 am

      You guys fell for each other while you were in relationships, which means that jealousy issues are going to become even more likely. The fights and possessiveness probably stem entirely from this fact. While you both like each other, it is unlikely that these feelings will just change. You guys could try to be more open and honest in your communication, but it will be impossible to stop the jealous behavior until both of you can trust each other completely.

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    March 9, 2016 at 6:23 am

    I know a guy from tinder. He lives in between my city and ather city. About 2months he text me everyday and always flirt and said that he likes me. But I don’t have the same feeling before, so i always reply with jokes. He asked me a couple time to meet, but unfortunately our time didn’t match. Right now he is in another city, and not text me so often, but i miss chatting with him. I think i started to like him, but he is starting to get bored with me. What should i do? Can i make him like me again or should i just move on?

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      March 9, 2016 at 6:01 pm

      First, you should decide if you actually like him. If you like him for sure, then try talking to him again or ask him if he wants to meet up. If you are not sure how you feel, then getting him interested again is rather unfair because it could lead to his feelings being hurt. Once you know if you like him or not, you can make your next move. If he is still interested at all, I am sure that he will jump on the chance to hang out with you in person. Best of luck, Fei!

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    January 24, 2016 at 6:34 pm

    There this guy i was with for almost 5yrs, we leaved together then we seperated we didn’t see each other for 5 months. We had no communication until last month when he greeted me on my bday we then exchangd couple of texts not everyday twice a week atleast. He told me what’s new about him and he said he wanted to show me his new room. He invited me over their house, i slept over his place for 2 nights, then it happened a again the following week. I’m confused whether we’re all back together or that was only a booty call. He don’t communicate in a daily basis even if I text him he don’t reply but whenever he text his asking me to come over. I don’t understand what’s on his mind. Please enlighten me. Thanks

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      January 27, 2016 at 11:09 am

      I am not sure, but it does not seem like you are back together yet. It sounds like he misses you and the closeness he experienced with you. Since you had a relationship before, I would bet that he feels for you more than just a booty call. At the same time, it seems unlikely that he plans on getting back together. If you want to know what is on his mind and find out what could be possible, you should just sit him down and talk to him. For the moment, I am sure that he is more than happy with having the closeness and physical benefits of a relationship without worrying about where it is headed. You will have to talk to him to see what his plans are and find out what is going to happen.

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    January 18, 2016 at 3:23 pm

    My old boyfriend wants to get back together with me and we didn’t end very well. The reason I decided to break up with him was because he didn’t really communicate with me, and every time I tried to talk to him he’ll always find a way to sorta pick up a fight with me and leave. I have not met him in person but I can only be his friend, I know it is hard for him but it’s the only thing I can offer him right now. I am in a new relationship for almost 4 months. Sometimes I do miss him but I wouldn’t get back together with him. After we broke up he started being so depressed, he wouldn’t eat, he’d think about me all day, wish we were still together. He has recently been texting me saying how much he loves me and that he’d do anything to win me back. He wants to come and visit me this summer and I still want him close but I just don’t want him hurting anymore. I don’t know what to say to him anymore and I just need some help.

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      January 20, 2016 at 4:35 pm

      Unless you actually plan on getting back together with him right now, I would tell him not to visit. You should also tell him how you feel and let him know that you are in a relationship and do not plan on dating him again. By being so nice and continuing to talk to him, you may unintentionally be giving him hope for the future. For him to move on, he has to know that things are over and that he has to start rebuilding his life again. This is a difficult process to watch, but as the focus of his desire, you cannot really help him. All you can do is take a step back and let him move on without you.

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    January 17, 2016 at 9:40 am

    I met this guy on Tinder. we talked and I was hesitant to meeting him for obvious reasons. I also am guarded and don’t let just anyone get close. Once we met it was like a connection I never had with anyone else. After a month we grew closer and then two months into it he slowly faded away. He had a lot of personal issues throughout the time we were together but I never judged and was always there for him. He continues to follow me on social media but I had to block him on snap chat,hurts to see him looking at my stories. I just don’t understand why he left without an explanation? We haven’t spoke in a month and I still can’t seem to move on..

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      January 17, 2016 at 1:00 pm

      If he was working through a lot of personal issues, that might be the reason why he was just fading away. He could have also been dating someone else and ended up getting a little more serious. After all, going on a few dates does not mean you are exclusive. If this is the case, then it would explain why he did not talk to you as much and faded away. If the relationship did not work out, that would explain why he is still following you online. Another option is that he realized over two months of hanging out that, although you were a great friend and an attractive date, you were not quite what he had in mind for a long-term relationship. Whatever the reason is, it looks like he is not as interested anymore. Blocking him was probably the right thing to do since your first goal is to ensure your own emotional health. Right now, your best bet is to move on. If he does ever come back into your life, you can always ask why he disappeared. Good luck, Hope!

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    January 12, 2016 at 5:21 pm

    I have a long tym bf since 2010 we hav always been in long distance relationship.. few weeks back i came to knw he has been in relationship with nxt grl since a month.then i beeged him to continue with me and forget her..then he again started talking to me nicely..started calling me i find his previous grl is still in frnd in fb..and i can’t trust him in this situation..i have been trying to do no contact m scared if he will go back to the grl during ths time.. wat should i me out

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      January 14, 2016 at 4:56 pm

      Talking to you nicely and calling you every day may be happening because he is afraid of losing you and he wants to keep his options open. You need to have trust and commitment in a long distance relationship, and it will be hard to trust him again (even if he leaves her). The fact that are still friends on Facebook and you have no way to see what is going on because of the distance does not seem to be a good sign. You can try the no-contact rule, but I think it would save you a lot of stress if you just left him. After realizing he can get away with cheating this once, he may keep doing it until he finds someone near him to be with. If this happens, it will be much, much harder for you to get over the relationship. At the very least, you would spend a long time completely worried and paranoid as you learned to trust him again.

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    December 29, 2015 at 7:53 am

    So this guy I’m dating texted his ex 24\7 and she asked him if he would take her back and he said he would then he started deleting all their messages what does this mean??? I’m so confuses d

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      January 3, 2016 at 4:30 pm

      Oh, dear. I don’t think that this means anything good. It sounds like he is ready to take her back and get back together with her if she wants to. He probably deleted his messages so that you would not see them. That way, if it turns out she was just asking him out of curiosity, an ego boost or a desire to lead him on, he will still have you to date. You can either confront him and tell him that you will not be his second choice and ask what he plans on doing, or you can wait it out, do nothing and hope that everything ends up working out. Good luck, SamisBomb!

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    December 14, 2015 at 2:57 pm

    During school events he’ll dress up with me. I would get mad at him sometimes for the samething every time. Then he always does something to make me happy. One time he picked me up off of my feet and made me giggle, etc. Anyway one day he grabbed my hand. What does that mean??? He also tells me everything, and ask me everything about myself. What does that mean??? And about four five people tell me he likes me. Does he???

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      December 17, 2015 at 12:10 am

      If he is making excuses to touch you and to be around you, then he could like you. Trying to make you laugh, picking you up off of your feet or dressing up with you are all signs that he could be interested. As you mentioned before, he used to date your friend. This means that you may want to talk to your friend before you make a move just to make sure that it will be okay and she will not mind. Good luck, BabyGirl!

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    December 14, 2015 at 2:47 pm

    Sooo a while ago this boy claimed me as his best friend( but he’s my best friends ex boyfriend). He’s always hugging me by my lower back, and I hug him around his neck. When we have dress up days at our school, hel

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      December 17, 2015 at 12:09 am

      It could be possible that he likes you. Holding you like that and trying to be close to you could be signs that he likes you, although it could just be a sign that he views you as a friend.

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    December 8, 2015 at 6:25 pm

    So. I fell for guy i wasnt even planning on falling for. I used tinder to socialize and me and this guy matched, but when we texted, it wasnt flirtatious at all, since he’s a traveller and he was staying in my country for a few weeks, we were just chatting about his experiences and so on. When we finally met in person (we didnt meet at a bar or anything, we met at a crowded, colonial, central park) We clicked. But i was playing it cool. We walked around, went for some ice cream and then sat in front of the central park cathedral, laid on the grass and gazed at clouds, trying to figure out what each cloud looked like, funny huh? All of a sudden he rolled over and looked at me in the eyes, and said he couldnt hold back anymore and kissed me. It was…a weird and yet…amazing feeling. 6 months before I had just gotten out of a 5-year-long relationship that i thought destroyed me because he cheated on me only 1 month after my dad passed away in an accident. But this guy…made me feel things i never felt with my ex. I had never been crazier about anyone else in my entire life. Or happier. We spent hours just…cuddling and kissing and embracing each other. The city we were at is one of the most romantic and historical cities in the world. but here’s the thing: He’s a traveller. And he said, that he was falling for me since day 1 but that he promised himself he wouldnt fall for anyone on this trip (the trip is supposed to last up to 2 years). We hiked a volcano together, we took a trip to a beautiful beach and spent a long weekend together. We didnt want it to end. The way he hugged me. Never felt so safe in my life. The way he kissed me the way his eyes looked into mine, his voice when he sang jack johnson songs, and the way he called me his Baby Girl. But he had to keep travelling…and i thought i could make him change his mind regarding not getting into anything serious during his trip, but i couldnt. I left to Europe on a trip and he started growing distant, when i got back home i wanted to fly where he was but he said we had to take distance from one another to make things less painful. Couple of months later I found out he started travelling with this other girl whom he met during his trip aswell. It broke my heart, in a serious way. I feel empty since then…dream of him often. What am i supposed to do? I never felt this way with anyone, even my ex of 5 years. He messaged me this week just to check on me, but hes not showing any further interest. He’s a good person…and he’s fighting super hard his feelings for me because he wants to discover his own persona during this trip. And im just avoiding anything that regards awkward talks about us. I dont want to push him away! In a way, i think im waiting for him to finish his travels and go find him wherever he is. But what if he finds someone else during his trip? what if hes not the same person i fell in love with after this long trip? what if he doesnt want me anymore? Gosh this hurts

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      December 8, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Love is never an easy thing. In this case, he knows that he wants to take this trip, explore the world and learn who he really is. Although he might change a bit by the end of the trip, I am sure that he will ultimately be the same person that you fell in love with. At the same time, there is a strong possibility that he will not want to date once the trip is over. He will move back to his country and restart his life again, and you both will have moved on by that point. After all, two years is a long time. Your best bet is to stay friends with him and not push for anything else. If it ends up working out when his trip is over, then it was meant to be. In the meantime, do not stop enjoying life while he is gone. Go on dates, have adventures and live your life! I doubt that he would want you to remain stuck in the past, so live your life and hope that everything ends up working out for the best. Good luck!

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      December 14, 2015 at 8:10 pm

      Hey Yvette! This guy sounds super familiar. I might know him and be able to help you. What was his name? and what country are you from?

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        December 17, 2015 at 12:26 am

        Wouldn’t that be crazy if you do know him? I don’t know the guys name, but Yvette can always let you know. Thanks for commenting, Emma!

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    August 24, 2015 at 9:55 pm

    Admin reply me

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      August 24, 2015 at 10:58 pm

      I did… Did you read through the comments in response to your previous questions? Or did you have another question?

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    August 22, 2015 at 6:01 pm

    How can i make this relationship exclusive? I mean just tell me how can i make him miss me?

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      August 22, 2015 at 6:14 pm

      For a relationship to be exclusive, you will have to talk to him. Have an open and honest dialogue about what you want–you have been with him three years, so you should be able to talk to him openly. There is no way to make a relationship exclusive without talking to the other person. As for making him miss you, you can read the advice in the article and do it. I don’t know if making him miss you will really help anything though in your situation, but if you want to try it, the article covers how to do it.

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    August 21, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    Admin i have told him 1000 times my feelings nd he accepts that i am true nd he respects my feelings but he said if we will gwt married i will divorce you after few weeks or a month no matter how good you are. I feel that he loves me but suggest me how to make him realise that he loves me and i want him to miss me. Should i be disconnected to him?

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      August 22, 2015 at 5:51 pm

      I don’t think that disconnecting from him will work. If his main issue is with getting married, then that is fine–you guys could always live together, officially be boyfriend and girlfriend, and still have the same level of commitment as a marriage (without the title). After three years though, he should be willing to at least take the relationship beyond just sexual. Otherwise, you are just a convenience for him–and that is not fair to you at all.

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    August 21, 2015 at 8:42 pm

    Do you think that it will be helpful if i ask him to accept or just say that he loves me. In 3 years we discontinued many times like after every meeting we got separated.once i told him that i am thinking to get married and he was like not breathing properly nd his face colour was dark but he said ok move on. I want you to move on but stay in contact. Do you think that he loves me? What should i do to get him fall? Nd he says our chemistry understanding is just awesome.he feels happy when we are together

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      August 22, 2015 at 5:50 pm

      After three years, you should be able to expect more than just a casual sexual relationship together–it does not have to be marriage, but some type of commitment. Even though he seems really against the idea of marriage or commitment, at the very least, he should be willing to at least call you his girlfriend or move in together. You guys have been seeing each other for three years, and he still has not made any commitment or said that he loves you. He is happy around you, but it sounds like you need more than that. As for getting him to fall in love, I doubt that there is anything that you can do now that you have not already done in the last three years.

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