How To Make A Guy Want You Back

By on March 5, 2016

If you’ve read any of my articles, you know I tell you the truth. The reason I write articles is to empower women to live a truly happy life without giving their power away and without feeling like they have to be anyone but their true self. Our fake culture has created a lot of lies about the dating world and how we should present ourselves and I’m here to give you good news that will hopefully help you for the rest of your life. This isn’t airy-fairy ideas but real ways that you can increase your own personal confidence and magnetism that really does attract men and we are talking good men, not boys. If you want that dream man who will treat you like gold to like you, apply these ten tips to your life today and watch the magic unfold!

  • Be Supportive of Your Friends

Be Supportive of Your Friends

Guys don’t like selfish women. Guys like women who are nurturing and caring. A man will not feel safe with you if you are only looking out for yourself. Luckily, it’s fun to spend time thinking of your friends and family and how you can help support their goals and encourage them. If we are always thinking about how to bring out the best in each other, we spread good energy and subconsciously we will be proud of who we are. This increases your own self worth and guys can feel that inner confidence.

  • Always Be Positive

Always Be Positive

Our culture is not good with being careful with our words. We fall into gossiping and complaining and it’s an ugly characteristic. You will outshine the rest if you make it a point to always be grateful, never complain and stay optimistic about the future. No one likes a Debbie downer and luckily, this is something that is entirely within our control. Mediation is a great way to learn how to keep your mind positive and the more you practice, the easier it will get. Remember, the only person who can keep you happy, is you, not your dream man. You will only get him to like you back if you can train yourself to notice your thoughts and words and really direct them towards love and gratitude.

  • Always Wear A Smile

Always Wear A Smile

People look better when they smile and smiling is contagious. If you make smiling your go-to move, people will subconsciously feel better around you. Life is all about a search for happiness and if you are pumping out smiles like a smile factory, chances are people are going to crave your energy. Just start practicing smiling everywhere you go. Smile to strangers when you get gas or your morning coffee and you’ll realize there’s an unlimited amount of happiness available to you that you can share with others. If you’re a joyful person, that guy is going to eat it up girl!

  • Get Healthy

Get Healthy

Please don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you need to be stick thin. We all have a natural body type and sometimes that means we have sexy badass curves! Getting healthy is about self love. If you give your body premium fuel (good food) and take care of it by getting regular sunshine and movement, you will get all the endorphins that naturally release from those activities. Endorphins raise your vibe and people will notice you just light up the room. When you love yourself, it’s easier for people to love you back. It’s actually pretty simple! So don’t give in the next time your girlfriend caves in and goes to the drive through, set an example and choose a healthy smoothie or salad! Encourage your friends by inviting them to do healthy activities like dance classes or yoga!

  • Contribute to The Big Picture

Sometimes we get so caught up in our lives, we forget to contribute to the big picture. We can actually get very depressed when we start to focus on what we don’t have (like a man). What can easily keep you from giving off that victim, woe-is-me vibe is just simply switching your focus. Start looking for ways to help the world by educating yourself about things like climate change, community issues and human rights. We can always find someone to help and this will give you a strong self esteem that no one can shake. He will admire your altruism and feel addicted to your massive compassionate heart! But do it for the right reasons, not to get a man!

  • Love Your Natural Beauty

Love Your Natural Beauty

This is a huge one! We are programmed to hate our thighs or our nose or other body parts because we are trained to compare ourselves to other women. The truth is, guys are more attracted to natural beauty than contrived beauty. That means, they would rather you in jeans and a t-shirt with no makeup than all dolled up with hair spray, bobby pins and fake eyelashes. Tell your body that you love it, literally. If you have issues with your thighs, say to yourself, “I love my thighs.” You will radiate when you fix your body image issues which we call dysmorphia. Remember, a tree is naturally beautiful and it is completely unique. We are also naturally beautiful. When a woman is comfortable in her own skin, she is like a magnet.

  • Be Wicked Smart

Be Wicked Smart

Guys like a girl with something upstairs. If you only read Cosmo, chances are, a smart guy is going to be intellectually frustrated with you. You don’t have to know about everything because let’s face it, some of us don’t like politics or geology. At least have a subject matter that you know well, that you’re passionate about and can speak to. It’s important to keep our brains active and not rely on our looks because chances are, the brains will last longer. In this modern era, if a guy is intimidated by your intelligence (as long as you aren’t cocky) he’s probably not worth your time anyway. If you’re trying to impress a guy, get some books, a good cup of tea, and start reading! Staying informed can be fun too. You can attend seminars, conventions, watch documentaries or take classes. There are many ways to stimulate your brain that you will find enjoyable. Just find what suits her personality.

  • Be Responsible

Be Responsible

There’s no bigger turnoff than a girl who can’t take care of herself. Guys don’t like to feel used. They will be more inclined to want to date you if you budget your money, manage your time well and show that you actually think about the future. Being responsible in your life shows maturity and is a turn on for men who are worth a damn. Pay your bills on time, have a job and know that being responsible is also super badass. Just be careful not to get too serious because we have to keep a balance with our serious side and our playful side just as we expect the guys too right?

  • Be Independent

Be Independen

What does it mean to be independent? It doesn’t mean we can’t accept dinner from a guy, it means we don’t rely on him financially or emotionally. We need to have other  friends who are a part of our lives that we engage with regularly so we don’t smother our men. We need to make sure we give our energy to our friends and most importantly, we need to have our own goals that we are working towards. So think about what your major goals are and have some hobbies/passions that drive you. Without this, you could become codependant which is not the road you want to go down girlie.

  • Choose High Quality Friends

Choose High Quality Friends

Finally, we have to mention that we are known by the company we keep. If you surround yourself with solid women who have their head on straight, it will reflect and amplify your own good traits. We are truly known by the company we keep mostly because we are influenced by them. Think about the people that you spend the most time with. Are they good people with good intentions? Remember, when we have friends who are trustworthy, a guy is more likely to trust us. If our friends are productive and hard working, chances are, we will be too. These are all easy ways to impress a guy that also benefit you!

The bottom line is, the better you treat yourself and others, the easier it will be for someone to fall madly in love with you. If they see you are genuine and vibrant, they will feel good around you. It’s really much easier than we once thought ladies, all we have to do is be ourselves!


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    Gyasi Cecilia

    November 25, 2019 at 10:32 pm

    Please I really love this guy so much but he don’t chat me nor care about me I should say bcox at times even if I chat him he finds it difficult to reply n we are in a long distance relationship I can’t stop thinking about me so I asked him to tell me if he is not interested in me again n he told me since I have asked him that then he is not interested in me … please how do I get him back bcox I don’t want to lose him or what should I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 27, 2020 at 7:37 pm

      You can’t force a person to do anything, and it is especially hard to force someone to feel a certain way when they are far away. Your best bet is to take a step back and give him some space. If he has the space he needs to realize that you are the one for him, then it might work out. Giving him space will definitely work better than trying to push him into something he doesn’t want right now.

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      February 22, 2020 at 5:58 pm

      Please let him go, a relationship with out communication, attention and love from both sides can be so frustrating, pls don’t go through so much trouble, you are worth more than he’s taking you. Plstake care of yourself and consciously work on yourself you’ll find true love.
      Be blessed if the love

      • web admin

        web admin

        February 25, 2020 at 4:20 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. It is certain that your insights will help many members of our community in the future.

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    June 24, 2019 at 11:11 am

    I enjoy what you guys are usually up too. This sort of clever work and reporting! Keep up the good works.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 24, 2019 at 7:56 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. We look forward to more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Girlfriend!

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    Hannah Marie Tippett

    December 29, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    So i have a guy that i really like and he says he likes me and all but i’m not so sure. We talked talked for a month and then he says that he cant talk to me anymore cause i was mean but i was never mean to him. He said that i was short and didn’t pay attention to him but all my time went on him. And it kills me because he asked if we can start talking again but all he does when he talks to me is talk about sexual stuff and i don’t like that. I don’t know how to tell him i’m over him cause once upon a time we were saying i love you to each other and i don’t know if he still has those feelings but i know i do. What do i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 30, 2017 at 6:51 pm

      He has shared his thoughts and feelings with you. Take this time to determine what you want with this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If the relationship can flourish and you are interested in maintaining it, then nourish this relationship. Have a great day, Hannah!

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    June 13, 2016 at 1:21 am

    So I have an Ex and honestly I do still have feelings for him. We are still in contact with each other because HE wanted to be, and I agreed because it was the mature thing to do. Anyways I found out I do indeed still have feelings for this boy. Although it seems nothing has changed we still argue over dumb stuff such as video games and who’s smarter ya know little stuff. We even still remember past stuff we would argue about and still argue about it till this very day (such as the stuff I mentioned before) Anyways, honestly even before we dated we would argue like this all the time, and then eventually told each other how we felt. So what I’m trying to figure out is if he still likes me or what? is he too scared to admit he likes me still? Or is it actually nothing and I’m just wanting to believe what I hope to hear? And actually about a month ago 1 of his close friends asked if I still liked him but I didn’t give a definite answer just in case they would tell the guy I like that I still do like him, his friend also said “In my opinion I feel that he does still like u, just a vibe I get from him” and ya. So I don’t know what to think! sometimes I still ask him to go places with me and he agrees to go is this something as well? we even still talk thru Skype! this is all just confusing I want to know how he feels, but I know he is super shy and kinda stubborn so idk if he wants anything to do with me anymore 🙁 I do miss him tho. But I can’t tell if he hates me or just wants to be my friend ;-; and what sucks is bc I usually have to initiate talking and such but maybe it’s bc he’s shy? but from time to time he will randomly text me “how are you doing” text ya know? Idek i just need to know how he really feels or am I a hopeless romantic??? ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 13, 2016 at 5:29 pm

      If his friend was asking about your feelings toward your ex, then it is safe to assume that your ex still has feelings for you. And if he is reaching out to you over texts, then he overcame his natural shyness just to speak with you. I think that if you want to rebuild your relationship, then he is more than ready. That said, be sure that the reason that you two ended your relationship the first time has been rectified. Small arguments over video games and who is smarter can be normal, but if the arguing is constant there is a deeper problem. There seems to be no reason not to try again, just be mindful of arguments.

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    May 25, 2016 at 9:41 am

    My ex-boyfriend said that he loved me, but i didn’t say it back. I tried to say it, I do love him except now he has another girlfriend. The thing is is that after he said he loved me and i didn’t say it back he went to another girl with out breaking up with me. He tried to tell me that we wern’t dating, but honestly we were flirting and we were getting close and he said it and i panicked. I don’t know if this is a sign that it should be over or if i still try. I just don’t know what it means. Can you help me?
    If you end up answering this can you email me the response please and thank you. I forget which ones I post on so I don’t get to see the response.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 25, 2016 at 9:48 am

      If he is with another girlfriend, then it sounds like the relationship is probably over. He only considered the relationship to be casual, so he did not think that he was doing anything wrong by going out with the other girl. Originally, he may have planned on actually having a relationship, but when you did not say that you loved him, he may have felt rejected and ready to move on. You can try reaching out to him to say how you feel, but it sounds like he has probably moved on at this point. Maybe in a few months or years, you will get another chance. Good luck, Destanee!

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