How to Kiss a Guy for the First Time

By on February 12, 2016

The first kiss. The more awkward, frustrating, and thrilling moment when dating someone new. You’re extremely excited to finally touch his lips, but don’t know where to start. Your mind is racing wondering if it’s the right time, how he will respond, and if it will even be GOOD or not. If you’re itching for that first kiss and need a little help, check out these 7 handy tips on how to kiss a guy for the first time.


Fresh Breath is a Must

Seriously, don’t even attempt leaning in for a kiss if your breath is bad! That’s an instant turn off and I guarantee you won’t get the kiss back, leaving you with an incredibly awkward moment. Pop a mint, chew on some gum- do whatever it takes to ensure your breath is nice and inviting.


Engage in Some Flirty Touching

Breaking the touching barrier before going in for the first kiss will make it a LOT easier. Before you decide to go in, engage in some flirty touching. Touch his arm and giggle, run your hand through his hair, give him a nice big hug, throw your legs over his while the two of you are watching a movie- there’s seriously a million things you can do to break the barrier!


Have the Right Location

Your first kiss is special, so make sure you choose a location that’s nice and romantic. A place where it’s just the two of you so you can really set the mood perfectly. It will certainly be a first kiss to remember!


Make Eye Contact Before the Kiss

You know that sultry ‘I want you look’? The one every woman was born with? The one where you meet eyes with your lover and he instantly knows you’re dying to place your lips against his? Make eye contact with your boyfriend before leaning in for the kiss. This will let him know exactly what you want and you’ll be able to find out whether the two of you are on the same page or not. You see, if he sees you giving him ‘the look’ and he turns away, you probably won’t want to lean all the way in for the kiss; him turning his head away is a clear sign he isn’t ready or he isn’t interested altogether.


Lean in- to the Side

So the two of you are looking deep in each others’ eyes and the mood is PERFECT; what now? Start to lean in towards him, and he will do the same. However, make sure your head is slightly tilted at an angle so the two of you don’t end up bumping noses- that’s one quick way to ruin a first kiss moment!


Have Your Mouth Open SLIGHTLY

Unless you’re planning on going in for a peck- and that’s it- I highly recommended opening your mouth ever so slightly. This creates a warm, inviting atmosphere where he’ll feel comfortable and allured by your kiss. This also suggests you’re interested in a more ‘in-depth’ kiss that may or may not include tongue. Just take things slow and let him take the lead if you need to, or stay in charge. Just go with the flow and if it starts to get too heated for you, softly release from the kiss and smile at him. You don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable either!


Don’t Be Stiff as a Board

There’s something just plain weird about kissing someone that doesn’t use their hands. I mean, the two of you are just there, with your faces planted against each other, but the rest of your body is completely stiff? That’s just plain strange! Ladies, to really make this kiss memorable AND remarkable, use your hands! They don’t need to go in any personal places- simply wrap your arms around his neck, run your hands up and down his arms and shoulders, run your hand through his hair and across his cheek to his chin; there’s lots of different places to touch and put your hands, just do what feels right. Relax and GO WITH THE FLOW!

Ladies do you remember your first kiss? How was it? Did you engage in the kiss first, and if so, how did you do it? Share your stories!


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    September 11, 2018 at 7:22 am

    I’ve already kissed someone before but I’m not good at it.My boyfriend never kissed anyone before and he even addmited that he’s very nervous about it.
    We’re supposed to meet next month(we’re in long distance relationship)and I’m always very nervous and shy so I probably won’t even be able to set the right atmosphere or to kiss him by myself even though I want it really badly…
    And he’s really a shy guy so he probably won’t go for it first too.

    I’m really afraid of messing things up because I want our first kiss to be a good memory.

    Could you give me an advice how to set the right atmosphere or how to get more confident even when I’m very shy and nervous?

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      September 11, 2018 at 10:49 pm

      It is important that each of you feel comfortable. Perhaps go somewhere quiet and secluded, as nervous feelings may increase in a public setting. Natural settings are always beneficial to calm emotions. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Please feel free to share your insights and experiences. Have a great day, Vali!

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    May 16, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    i’ve never kissed anyone before (i’m 15) but my boyfriend has and he keeps asking me if i’m ok with it but i really don’t know if i want to have my first kiss yet because i want it to be really good and i feel like my braces will mess everything up

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      May 17, 2018 at 11:46 am

      Do not allow your partner’s desire to rush you into kissing him or developing a physical relationship with him. It is unlikely that your braces will cause major problems with your kiss. It is more important for you to feel comfortable and secure during your first kiss. Share your thoughts and feelings with him. His behaviors may chance in time, so be aware of his behaviors. Have a great day, Natalie!

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      June 27, 2018 at 9:34 pm

      Girl don’t even worry, u got this. I had my first kiss with Braces. He is obviously already attracted to you and is fine with kissing you with or without braces. Go for it. I promise it’s not bad!

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        June 29, 2018 at 12:35 am

        Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is always beneficial when members of our community support each other. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Ross!

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    January 23, 2018 at 11:17 am

    Me and my boyfriend have been dating for just over 2 months and we just kissed for the first time a week ago. It was very awkward for me afterwards idk why. He asked if he could kiss me which I respect a lot but it was my first kiss and it wasn’t his. We both aren’t a huge fan of pda so when we see each other in school we don’t kiss. We haven’t kissed since last week and I am going to his house Thursday. His brother is going to be the only one there. It makes me nervous for if he tries and kisses me again. But I really hope we do.

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      January 23, 2018 at 10:15 pm

      It sounds as though you are interested in kissing him more. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Spend additional time in person, as this will strengthen your relationship with him. Have a great day, Haleigh!

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    December 27, 2017 at 4:04 pm

    I have only kissed one time when I was in like 5th grade now I’m in ninth grade my boyfriend and I haven’t kissed yet but last week we made a bet that the first person to fall asleep would have to kiss the other one and he lost so I’m super nervous of what to do or say after the kiss and I really need some tips

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      December 27, 2017 at 8:57 pm

      Take this time to determine what you want with the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If you feel as though the two of you have a moment together, then you may want to kiss him at that time. Have a great day, Caeleigh!

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    April 1, 2017 at 3:24 pm

    well i had my first kiss with my first boyfriend. it was ok and i liked it until i kissed other guys. i feel that i don’t like the way he kisses

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      April 2, 2017 at 9:20 am

      If you are not with your boyfriend anymore, then it isn’t a problem. If you are still with your boyfriend, then I think the bigger problem is that you are kissing other guys while in a relationship. As for the kiss itself, this type of feeling is normal. To start with, it takes time for both people to learn how to kiss well. Also, different people have different kissing styles. Over time, your styles will gradually start to blend closer together, so this problem generally goes away after a few months. If you still don’t like how he kisses, then just tell him and help him change.

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    September 26, 2016 at 3:32 pm

    My first kiss was with this really amazing guy… but now every time we see each other… it’s extremely awkward… especially since both 13?

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      September 28, 2016 at 4:03 pm

      If you want to develop a relationship with him, then it is certain that your kiss will still be in his mind. It would be wise for you to seek a conversation with him instead of avoiding him if possible. If you see him in the hallway and want to have a discussion with him, then be direct and honest about your feelings. It is likely that he wants to talk with you as well. Remain positive and enjoy, Kylie.

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    June 14, 2016 at 2:23 am

    It was really awkward… Well I’m awkward and I had no idea what I was doing I said no at first but he kept asking everyday so I was like .__. Anyways to all of u who don’t know how just relax and just get in the mood I guess? don’t make him feel awkward giggle a little bit smile have a good time they think it’s cute if u ladies do that lol anyways make sure u don’t have too much saliva btw… trust me it’s kinda gross xD but if u do don’t worry as long as they know it’s your first they will understand GOODLUCK TO YALL AND DONT MIND THE AWKWARDNESS OWN THE AWKWARDNESS
    ~sincerely a very awkward person who kissed another awkward person 😉

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      June 14, 2016 at 10:02 am

      Tori, awkwardness is a great tool if you use it properly. Great insight.

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    March 20, 2016 at 5:26 pm

    I had my first kiss yesterday. It came out of nowhere. It was my best friend. IDK how it happened.

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      March 23, 2016 at 11:44 pm

      That is very exciting! Do you like your best friend back? If you like him and want to be with him, ask him out! Congrats on having your first kiss! 🙂

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    March 10, 2016 at 4:59 pm

    I have a boyfriend who has never kissed anyone but i have. He knows i have kissed someone but he has told me he doesn’t know what to do and if he wants to. I think he is more nervous than not wanting to kiss. We are both 16 and i don’t really know how to make it happen. Any advice on how i can get him to use the tips from this article?

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      March 11, 2016 at 10:47 am

      I think that he is probably just nervous. Most people are nervous before their first kiss. Since you have been kissed before, he may be afraid that you will know exactly how to kiss and he will look foolish. If you want to kiss him, go ahead and make the first move. Hopefully, it will make him feel more comfortable and take the pressure off of him a bit. There is no reason that the girl can’t make the first move, and considering how nervous he is, it would probably help to move things along a lot. Good luck, Ella!

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    March 3, 2016 at 8:04 pm


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      March 4, 2016 at 9:36 am

      You seem to have commented twice on this one. I have to answer each comment and approve it individually, so it can sometimes take a little bit to get an answer. If you do not see a response immediately, do not worry because you will. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

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    March 3, 2016 at 8:02 pm

    Ive never kissed anyone and neither has my boyfriend and were both nervous and my boyfriend tried and I gt scared and pushed away.What do I do?

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      March 4, 2016 at 9:36 am

      Just tell him what you told me: you have never kissed anyone, and you pushed him away because you were scared. Then, you can try again. Telling him the reason is important because, otherwise, he may think you do not want to kiss him or something else. Just be honest with him and ask if he wants to try to kiss you again.

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    Marsha L Harper

    March 2, 2016 at 1:22 am

    I remember kissing this guy that was absolutely amazing. So full of passion that I did not want him to stop. I think about him every day every hr. I want more from him.

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      March 2, 2016 at 8:13 am

      If you want more from him, what is stopping you? He kissed you once, so chances are high that he could be interested in kissing you again. Did you guys break up or stop talking? If nothing happened to stop the relationship, try reaching out to him and talking to him again. It could get him re-interested in you and get you a second date. Good luck, Marsha!

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    February 22, 2016 at 8:30 am

    I’ve never had a first kiss either, and neither has my boyfriend.. we are both new to this!!

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      February 26, 2016 at 8:25 pm

      Don’t worry! It tends to come naturally as you get used to it. It is awesome that your boyfriend has never had a kiss either because it will give you a chance to learn together. Good luck and enjoy! 🙂

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    February 21, 2016 at 2:49 pm

    Very helpful. I love this site and look at it whenever. Usually to look at names or tips. Thank you!

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      February 24, 2016 at 8:25 am

      You are very welcome! If you liked this article, there are a number of other ones like it on Her Interest. Make sure to check them out if you have the time. Thanks for commenting!

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    February 16, 2016 at 6:05 am

    Never had a first kiss

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      February 16, 2016 at 9:48 am

      Don’t worry, it will happen! And with practice, you will even become good at it! 🙂 Good luck, Misst!

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