How To Get Your Crush To Like You
So maybe there is a guy you like – a guy you find yourself falling head over heels for. He’s cute, he’s funny, he’s handsome – in short he’s everything you want in a man and you’re crushing on him hard. All that’s good and well, but it poses one big problem, how on earth do you get your crush to like you back? This is probably not something you want to hear, but capturing your dream guy’s attention and his heart all at once is not always an easy feat to conquer…
Getting your crush to like you can be extremely frustrating and stressful. During the process there may be times you will just want to pull your hair out and scream because it can feel like he is looking right through you. That brings us to my first piece of advice in snagging your crush: Do not over-stress. You may be facing a daunting challenge, but worrying will get you absolutely nowhere in this game. Just stay calm and stay relaxed. If you follow these fool-proof pieces of advice, you’ll be set. If all goes to plan, your crush will be falling for you in no time at all!
Tip One – Make Yourself Visible
First and foremost, your crush isn’t going to fall for you (or even have the ability to fall for you) if he’s never met you or never gets to speak to you. Perhaps he is the type of popular guy who stands out at work or school, maybe he’s the shy, withdrawn, quiet type of guy who sits in the back row. Figure out which type he is and work with that information to help you figure out the best ways to get him to like you like you like him. To get him to fall for you, you first need to figure out how to approach him. After gathering this information, use it in your conversations.
Yes, we said conversations. Because at some point, dear reader, you will need to keep a consistent form of contact with this guy. Otherwise you will never be able to form a proper relationship or get him to see you like him as more than friends.
Currently, he is your crush. It’s not the other way around at this point, so you may need to make the first move. You may be thinking it’s hard putting yourself out there, which it totally is! But, be brave, you can do it. By no means do you have to ask him out… yet. You’re still quite a ways away from taking measures like that. All you really need to do for now is just speak to him. Introduce yourself, tell him about what you like, ask him if he’s got any hobbies, where does he go to work/school, etc.. See, it’s simple. This first tip is all about baby-steps, simple icebreakers to put you on his radar.
Tip Two – Don’t Be Afraid To Flirt
You’re probably thinking to yourself, ‘Duh, flirting is what it’s all about!’ and you’d be mostly right. As much of a cliche it is to tell you that flirting is important, it’s one of the most vital tactics in getting your sought after man to like you back. Don’t be nervous! Pretty much everyone has a strong fear of rejection in one situation or another. We subconsciously stop ourselves from feeling anything, just because there is an off chance we could get hurt! But all it takes are a few flirtatious gestures to hook the man you’ve been dreaming about. Once he sees that you are putting in all this effort, he might start to get the message and eventually want to be more than just friends.
Don’t come on too strong, but you can subtly make your crush aware of your feelings for him.
Flirting is easier than it seems, for most of us it’s in our nature. We just have to dig up the small amount of confidence we need to get going! The strongest types of flirting come from the way you are speaking to your crush. Let yourself keep the conversations light-hearted and playful. Try out some witty banter or maybe even some corny pickup lines to get a laugh from your crush!
Tip Three – Be Yourself & Act Natural
This is the most important piece of advice you will ever get when it comes down to relationships. Whether it be that they are just beginning or it is 50 years down the line, it’s important to stay true to yourself through it all. A lot of people will go to extreme lengths to impress the person they are crushing on. Our advice to you is to stick to being yourself. It is never healthy to try building a relationship based on falsities. It’s especially easy to get caught up in pretending to be something you’re not. Ask yourself: How can my crush like me if he doesn’t really know me? No one really appreciates a liar, so stay honest.
You definitely want your crush to like you for who you are and vice versa, right? Hopefully you answered yes to the question, because maintaining a strong bond built on truth is important. There is really no point in trying to be something you’re not. If you find that your crush doesn’t seem to be interested in who you are as a person, he probably is not the right guy for you anways. Stay true to yourself, be who you are and don’t ever let anyone stop you from doing so!
Tip Four — Use Body Language
Using your body language and being flirtatious go hand in hand with each other. There are only a few differences between the two, but many similarities. Body language will literally show your crush that you mean business. Go ahead and bat those eyelashes at him in playful conversations. Try twirling your hair through your fingers or even just flash a few of your sweetest smiles in his direction. Let him know your mind and body are interested in him by using both of them. When you two are chatting and it is his turn to speak, find yourself placing your hand on his arm or leg to show him that you are really listening to what he has to say to you and that you are interested in every word.
The most important part of body language is always maintaining a proper amount of eye contact. I can’t stress this part enough: Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact! Eyes are the doorways to the soul, or so we have heard. Eye contact brings an uber personal feel into your discussions. Using your eyes is a great way to get someone to pay attention to you, because once he sees your beautiful baby blues or browns, how could he possibly look away?
Tip 5 — Get To Know Him
Guys love when you pay attention to them and take the time to get to know them on a more personal level. This tip is all about figuring out what likes, what he dislikes, what his favorite things are, where he spends most of his time, what his basic interests are, etc. Your crush will truly appreciate you taking the time out of your busy day to try to understand him better. Asking him personal questions will also give you information to have more conversations in the future. Having conversation starters is super important in this process. You will need something to fuel your talks with him.
You taking interest in him will surely get him just as interested in getting to know you, too. Get a deeper look to discover if you and your crush have any common interests, Does he like nature like you do? Maybe he has a crazy uncle that always belts out karaoke at all the wrong times at family events like you do or maybe you will both find some excitement in the fact that you both absolutely adore german shepherds. Whatever the random facts, you will never know unless you do some deeper digging.
Tip 6 — Use Humor
What brings two human beings closer together than bonding over a few laughs? Very few things, it seems.. Do not ever underestimate the power of a laugh or the strength of a smile, especially when it comes to liking someone and getting them to like you back. Using humor is one of the most effective ways in getting your crush to like you.
First you can start off by talking with him about your favorite funny memories, such as your most embarrassing moments or funniest memories. Open up to him and tell him some of your favorite jokes and then try asking him to tell you some of his favorite jokes, too. Take the measures to create new jokes with your crush over time. Inside jokes are super glue in creating bonds with people. If you create new jokes with your crush, he is more inclined to remember them and think of you later when you’re not around. Maybe you will get a few giggles from him. Funny is definitely sexy. That is why people always say they are looking for a partner with a great sense of humor. Utilize this information to help you get the guy of your dreams!
Tip 7 — Keep It Classy
We know when you’re eager for someone to like you back, things can get out of control. Just a warning: Desperation is definitely not hot. There is no need to try too hard. Keep it simple when it comes to your crush. It is okay to send your crush a couple of texts, but absolutely do not bombard him every moment of the day. He probably saw the first one you sent, so it is up to you to develop and practice some patience. Don’t get overworked if he doesn’t respond right away, he may just be busy.
It is also okay to dress up to impress your crush, but there is no need to overdress or, shall we say, underdress. Try not to let your outfit give it all away before you are even sure if he likes you or not. Guys usually prefer a bit of mystery. Form fitting clothes, subtly low necklines and putting on some lipstick can only help. But stay away from fishnets, too much cleavage or excessive blush and eyeshadow. Overdoing it can seem desperate for attention and gaudy.
When it comes to your behavior try to not be too enthusiastic. Stay calm and collected. What we are saying is: Play it cool!
Tip 8 — Take Your Time
You truly cannot rush a good thing. Really getting this guy to like you for who you are does take a good amount of time and work. Putting everything out on the table immediately could leave you at risk of ruining everything that you have worked so hard for while pursuing your crush. No one wants anyone baring it all right away! Use time as your advantage.
The longer you take, the more effort you will find yourself putting in to the bond. The longer you take, the more he will start to get intrigued by you and want to get to know you more. Rushing could also give him the wrong ideas about your intentions. We are not saying take all the time in the world, we do not want your crush to get bored by any means. Get him to take you seriously in your efforts by keeping the pace steady and slow. In taking your time ensure you use your utmost confidence and maintain strong contact with him so he knows your interest in him is unwavering. Continuously try to apply the previous tips while doing so and you should have your crush hooked, no problem!
Tip 9 — Use Common Ground
Remember how we told you to really take the time to get to know what your crush is interested in? That was because finding those common interests is going to give you an advantage in getting your crush to like you back. Use that common ground to make yourself more appealing to him. If he enjoys cooking and you enjoy eating, ask him to cook for you sometime.
If he loves art, you can ask him to check out the sculptures you love with you sometime. Maybe he is in a special group at school that you have thought about joining before, like speech or photography club, get involved with those and he will appreciate you taking interests in these things. Do you both watch similar tv shows? You two can chat about how they killed off your favorite character in the series finale! Whatever it may be, use it to help you get the guy you like to like you back. If you two do not seem to share any common interests at all, then maybe he is not the right guy for you after all. But if you two do share quite a few common interests, then the task of getting his attention will be super easy!
Tip 10 — Build Up Chemistry and Wait
All you have to do now is use all of the previous tips to get your crush to like you back. Watch the tips work their magic. Remember: Do not rush it. Good things come in due time and if you really like this guy you will take time to do it right. It’s important to remember to stay true to who you are, because relationships seldom work built on lies. Use your flirtatious tactics to the max and input body language to build up chemistry between the two of you. Make your intentions clear with him or you may end up in the friendzone and we definitely do not want that, do we? At the very end of your pursuit of your dream guy, you have two options.
Option number one consists of waiting to see if your crush will ask you out, drop hints about your favorite places or activities and see if he catches on! Maybe he is a shy guy and can’t seem to find the gusto to ask you out. Maybe he finds you too intimidating! If you feel like that is the case, then please use option two. Option two tells you to go ahead and take the initiative to ask him out yourself! Don’t come on too strong, but definitely maintain a good amount of confidence. Use these simple, effective tips and you should have him wrapped around your finger in no time.
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just tryna be helpful
May 23, 2018 at 8:06 am
(THIS IS TO EVERY ONE READING THIS PAGE) I read somewhere that if a guy is really intrigued/interested in you, he’ll try to connect with you or pursue you. Guys where born to pursue but if you want you can still pursue your special guy. Guys don’t let girls do all the work so if a guy says he likes/loves you and does nothing with the relationship, he’s not really into it. When guys reallyyy like you, he’ll make sure you are his priority. So just watch for that in the guy you like
Sorry if this wasn’t helpful
web admin
May 24, 2018 at 10:37 pm
Thank you for sharing your perspective and insights. We always appreciate when our community supports each other. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Helpful!
HELP! Thanks.
May 23, 2018 at 7:55 am
Well, I can’t flirt (I don’t know how or even when someone is flirting with me), I can’t act natural cuz I really like him-a lot-and I always act shy or stupid even though I’m a really confident, non-shy, smart(ish) girl. And I try to be humorous because jokes are life, but I always mess it up or he doesn’t laugh which makes me discourages and not want to say jokes anymore…
I’m literally just an overall mess when I’m around the guy i like.
~HELP! Thanks.
HELP! Thanks.
May 23, 2018 at 7:57 am
Also it’s terrible because my best friend used to like him too, but she says she ships us and she doesn’t mid cuz she doesn’t anymore but I don’t think that’s actually what she thinks in her head, I think she’s just saying that so she won’t hurt my feelings and she just wants me to be happy because i’ve had it rough with guys.
What should I do? Should I ask her what I suspect?
web admin
May 24, 2018 at 10:20 pm
You are interested in maintaining your relationship with your friend. You have spoken with her about your mutual thoughts regarding this person. She has shared her viewpoint with you. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Have a great day, Help!
web admin
May 24, 2018 at 10:18 pm
It is clear that you want to develop a relationship with him. He is speaking with you, which may mean that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Continue to spend time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship with him. Share your hobbies and interests with him as well. Have a great day, Help!
Kayla
April 18, 2018 at 5:55 pm
Hey I’m 15 years old in 9th grade and I started “talking” to this guy who goes to my school. So we were texting and stuff cause i don’t really see him that much you know high school. So I thought we were getting pretty close and possibly going to date he kept asking me stuff like what if I wanted to “talk” to you, do you like me, heart eyes, hearts, and what if I wanted to date and I said that’d be cool and he sent a bunch of heart eyes. But recently he posted on his snap and said he pop out about to be real😍❤️💍 with those emojis. So I asked him what he meant and he said he been talking to somebody and they about to pop out or like be official. I didn’t bother to ask him who he was talking about I wish it was me but I guess not? I just wish i knew why this happened? Or am I over exaggerating could it still be me and I don’t know 😂? I really started to like him and would randomly catch myself thinking about him?!?!?
web admin
April 18, 2018 at 11:58 pm
It is possible that he was interested in developing a relationship with you. He may have been interested in developing a relationship with someone else. Their relationship may have moved more quickly. He is in a relationship at this time. Allow your emotional connection with him to fade. Determine what you want for your future without him. Have a great day, Kayla!
Mal
April 8, 2018 at 10:43 pm
I’m almost 14 and I have a crush on this guy and we are F•R•I•E•N•D•S we’ve hung out outside of school twice. One time was with a group of people and one time was by ourselves, we had only walked around the neighborhood. The only thing is, is that one of my F•R•I•E•N•D•S went out with him. They only dated for a little bit like maybe 2 weeks but I don’t want to be that person but I also don’t wanna just hold my feelings in. I don’t wanna ruin the friendship I have with him and I also don’t want to ruin things between me and my friend.
web admin
April 8, 2018 at 11:16 pm
Determine what you want for your future. Decide what is appropriate and viable. If you are concerned that this may damage your relationship, then determine speak directly and honestly with her about your thoughts and feelings. Give her an opportunity to share herself with you as well. Have a great day, Mal!
Mal
April 9, 2018 at 2:08 pm
Thank you sm
web admin
April 9, 2018 at 9:20 pm
Thank you for sharing your positive comment. Have a great day, Mal!
Sophia
April 1, 2018 at 4:50 pm
I am almost 13 years old and I have a crush on this boy, but the thing is, I have a boyfriend. the only reason I have a boyfriend is that he asked me out and I couldn’t reject him because it would make me feel terrible. This boy that I have a crush on is very confusing. I remember when I first met him I had a crush on him and I asked him if he wanted to go to the school dance with me and he said yes. The night was amazing, but I barely spoke to him. I spent most of my time with my friends. After the dance, I felt really bad, so I texted him and said “sorry, I’m just naturally shy.” and he never responded. a few months later, he asked me to the next dance, but as friends. I was heartbroken, but I said yes anyway. but then, This new boy caught my eye, and I decided since the first boy and I were going as friends, who says I can’t go with someone else not as friends? So I asked the other guy and he said yes. When I told the first guy I was going with another guy, he got mad. LIke, really mad. We had a really big fight, and it ended up destroying our friendship. I tried my best to apologize, and he finally took it. And the whole time, I still loved him, but I pushed the feelings down, knowing it was impossible for us to be a thing now. Now, we are just friends, but when we talk he never makes eye contact with me. And when we talk, it’s a rare occasion. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend’s feelings, but I still love this boy.
web admin
April 2, 2018 at 7:36 pm
You are currently in a relationship. Do not attempt to nourish a romantic with someone else while you are in a relationship. Determine what you want for your future and take appropriate action. Speak directly and honestly with your current partner about your thoughts and feelings. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with everyone in your life. Have a great day, Sophia!
Tiffany
March 17, 2018 at 8:12 am
Hey!! My crush is suuuuper shy and he’s very quiet, we’ve talked before and shared some laughs but I just don’t know how to actually show him that I’m interested, we’re in the same gym class and he’s very fit and we have some of the same friends, but I just don’t know how to start a conversation with him.
web admin
March 17, 2018 at 11:14 pm
It is clear that the two of you share a social and emotional connection. It is possible that you are going to make the first move. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Perhaps attempt to speak with him while you are running or playing a game. Have a great day, Tiffany!
Poppy
March 16, 2018 at 1:59 pm
Hey! I like this boy at school and he is like, Amazing. but Im not sure if he likes me back! I dreamt about him last night and I don’t know what to do! Help!
web admin
March 17, 2018 at 10:15 pm
Your dream is a reflection of your desire to establish a relationship with him. It is possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Poppy!
Luna
May 1, 2018 at 10:43 am
I have the same situation, Poppy. I need help, like, now.
He is really fun and I’m one of his best friends, but I keep dreaming about him and I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I legitimately hate being 12. Also he had a long relationship with my friend and I have promised my other friend not to date, and I am literally a mess, as you can tell.
web admin
May 1, 2018 at 9:50 pm
Your social and emotional relationships are developing at this age. You have many relationships that you are maintaining. You have promised your friend that you would not develop a relationship with him. You may want to speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. If you value this relationship and she approves of your actions, then you may attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with your crush. Have a great day, Luna!
Aubery
March 4, 2018 at 8:28 am
Hi can you help me? I like this guy who is super nerdy and critical and I dont even know why but I fell pretty hard and im pretty sure he hates me. Hes not very likeable but has some friends but everytime i try to talk to him he barely acknowledges me. We see each other all the time because we have super similar interests, and we have had some laughs. But now he ignores me. Maybe hes shy? I really like him though. Can you help me?
Aubery
March 4, 2018 at 8:30 am
We also have super similar personalities and talk only when he is in a good mood. I don’t know what to do.
web admin
March 5, 2018 at 1:52 pm
It sounds as though he is rude to you and not interested in developing a relationship with you. There may be more information that is influencing your feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Aubery!
web admin
March 5, 2018 at 1:51 pm
It sounds as though he is rude to you and not interested in developing a relationship with you. There may be more information that is influencing your feelings. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Aubery!
Jiya Sharma
February 11, 2018 at 3:06 am
I am crushing on one guy who used to know me he was in my building we used to play but never talk every one started to bully him and Me but then I started liking him but he left our building I am only in his touch by snap chat I put my stories he views it and I do the same when ever I try to send a message to him he sees but he dose not reply and he sometimes come in our building but dose not even look at me. What should I do
web admin
February 11, 2018 at 9:45 pm
It is possible that he is unable or unwilling to maintain a relationship with you. If he does not respond to you, then perhaps give him time to respond. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jiya!
SomeNerd
February 3, 2018 at 6:44 pm
I have had a crush on this guy for a while already and at first I thought that he’s a really interesting person and thought of him as a friend. Now it is clear that I don’t just see him as a friend but more..
We used to sit next to each other and joke around a lot but now we’re in different classes and I rarely see him. He’s shy and nerdy like I am and is kind of awkward sometimes. The thing that bothers me most is that he says he’s not interested in relationships. I mean we’re 16.. He doesn’t really talk to a lot of girls but he leaves me on read most of times when I send him messages.
This situation is so abnormal I don’t know what to do.
web admin
February 3, 2018 at 10:15 pm
Continue to spend time with him in person, as this may strengthen your relationship. Take this time to determine what you want with your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, SomeNerd!
Julia
January 30, 2018 at 10:27 pm
I’ve been crushing on this guy since 5 years now. At first he said he sees me like his sister but deep down I feel he likes me too but because of the fact he’s my brother’s friend he doesn’t want to show it. He always has something bad to say about the guys I go out with. He always tells my brother they’re not good for me so my brother can stop me from dating them. He lives in another country my hometown and he said if I loose wait when coming back to my hometown he’ll do anything for me. I want to use that opportunity to tell him to make love to me. What do u think?
web admin
January 31, 2018 at 6:29 pm
It sounds as though you have made a decision about what you want. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. If you are comfortable with returning at this time and you want to establish a relationship with him, then do so. Have a great day, Julia!
I'm not sure (help)
January 23, 2018 at 7:06 pm
OK so there’s this guy that I had a crush on for 4 years but I dont know if he likes me. My bestfriend likes him too but I haven’t told anybody that I like him. I dont know how to get close to him and it’s frustraing because I really like his personality.
web admin
January 23, 2018 at 10:21 pm
Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with your best friend about your mutual thoughts and feelings. It is possible that social issues may arise if one of you attempts to develop a relationship with this person. Have a great day, Sure!
Julia kim
January 21, 2018 at 1:52 pm
I‘m 17 years old and my crush is 28. yeah it sounds unusual but there is much going on between us. I just can‘t figure out what he is thinking. The problem is he lives in an another country, 5 hours with the plane away from were i live. He lives in my hometown so I met him when I visited my family. He is a friend of my cousin and 2 years ago, while I had summer holidays and visited my hometown we met at a birthday party. When I was there my cousin, my crush and two other friends explored the city, we also slept 3 days together in a villa in an another city. The 5 of us spent much time together in this 4 weeks. My crush tickles me often, put his arm around my waist or touch my leg while I sit next to him. He even held my hand twice. Since the summer 2 years ago I visited them 2 more times but nothing more happened. Sometimes he respond to my insta story saying that he misses me but I don’t know if this is even possible for us to work out or if he sees me just as a little sister and not as a women. I truly felt in love with him and miss him like crazy. I dont know what to do. We will see each other again in 6 months and I will be there for 4 weeks, spending my 18th birthday there.
web admin
January 21, 2018 at 10:07 pm
Long distance relationships can be difficult. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Attempt to spend time with him in person, as this will help to strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Julia!
Gerald Palvin
April 7, 2018 at 9:21 pm
I need your help.
I am a guy and my crush is a guy we don’t talk and I don’t know if he likes guys but he always checking me out(looking at me) I have a big crush on him but I fear to tell him and we work in the same company he’s not very friendly and never talked to each other but we see eachother everyday at work. What can I do because I don’t know if he feels same way.
web admin
April 8, 2018 at 9:15 pm
It is possible that his behaviors are indications that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. Determine what you want for your future. Decide what you believe is appropriate and viable regarding the situation. If you feel comfortable with speaking directly and honestly with him, then do so. Have a great day, Gerald!
Heartbroken girl
January 20, 2018 at 9:15 am
Ok so i have a crush for this guy i tryed forgeting but i just can’t get over him. He is very cute and popular. I first saw him in 4th grade. When i move into his school. I took soom time and realized i had a crush on him. By that time I had many times caught him staring at me.By that time i just thought that was his nature because like every girl liked him or his best friend. I had every class with him even homeroom. Then in 5th grade i still caught him staring at me but then i realized he had a girlfriend. We talked sometimes. But i was mostly shy and awkward around him. We had the same classes and homeroom. I caught him staring more frequently before i could meet his eyes he turned away. About a little after midyear he broke up with his girlfriend. My “friend” said she did not like him around the end of the year she said she always had liked him i was like i know. My crush very few times stared at me maybe because my 2 “friends” made me dirty minded. Then they moved. My crush got the same school as i did but different teams. Now i see him very few times in the day. Sometimes he glances at me in the hallway. I still have a crush on him but it decreased. Though sometimes i dream about him. What do i do help! Please
web admin
January 20, 2018 at 9:58 pm
It clear that you are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If your schedule would make a relationship impossible, then decide what you want the nature of this relationship to be. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Girl!
Anonymous(?)
January 12, 2018 at 8:41 pm
Well ya see, there’s this guy in two of my classes and I like him. It’s hard for me to talk to him because he seems like he’s very shy and doesn’t talk much to people who aren’t close to him. He’s a soccer player and I love soccer so I know I could bring up soccer in our future conversations but in order to have future conversations, I have to no be shy around him either. We don’t talk but I definitely know he notices me since we often make eye contact. How do I gather up enough courage to talk to him without it being awkward?
web admin
January 13, 2018 at 5:34 pm
It is possible that he is interested in a developing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. The best way to overcome shyness is to take action. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!
Alexanndra
January 12, 2018 at 2:43 am
So, I love him for about 5 months, and YES I said LOVE. And he has a girlfriend..I don’t know what to do about it, I even tryed forgetting him… Didn’t really work…. I want to be with him.. He doesn’t even talk to me anymore.. what can I do?
web admin
January 12, 2018 at 2:26 pm
He has a girlfriend. You should not attempt to establish a relationship with him at this time. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. There is no reason to attempt to establish a relationship with him. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him. If his relationship naturally ends, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Alexandra!
Milla Lam
December 26, 2017 at 5:54 pm
oh and before he left my tutoring class,he was very kind to me and helping me to open doors everytime.One time when i was trying to leave,he stuck his foot out and i laughed then kicked his foot.He looked like in pain for a while, then laughed too.I actually feel like i am bit cruel😓I should have the courage to ask him how did he
feel about me when he was still here.
web admin
December 27, 2017 at 8:49 pm
It is possible that you are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you are near each other in age and maturity, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Milla!
Milla Lam
December 26, 2017 at 5:31 pm
I am almost 12 years old and i have a crush on this guy for two years,who is in my tutoring class a year ago.He left my tutoring class already but i sometimes keep seeing him pop out at the places i am failiar with.Like i saw him at a house at the opposite direction of my school and at the mtr near my home.I always have dreams about him,but last night i dreamt of him kissing my cheek so i decided to check it out.I am not sure if he still likes me or not or even remembers me,but please help me out.
web admin
December 27, 2017 at 8:49 pm
It is possible that you are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. If you are near each other in age and maturity, then speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Milla!
Cassandra
December 16, 2017 at 1:02 am
Ummm…I’m 16 and I have a crush on this guy in almost 4 months and he is quiet popular in his province. Well he is my classmate, all of us in that school are transferees and only 1 girl is an old student in that school. I fall for him because our classmates is teasing us, they said that we are compatible to each other and with that I start liking him and he didn’t know that time. At first we aren’t close to each other because it’s awkward to us but as the months goes by I heard that he had an ex-girlfriend and they still talking to each other and it seem they still love each other….and I felt sad with that news, I even cry because all I know he doesn’t experience any relationship like me. After that I try to move on to him but it failed. And now we start talking often as a friend but I’m thinking or I felt there is something a bit different to us because the way he talk and actually his action too. I’m confused if he likes me or just a friend to him….
web admin
December 16, 2017 at 7:37 pm
If he is in a relationship with his ex, then do not attempt to establish a relationship with him. If he is available, then take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Cassandra!
Sylvia
November 16, 2017 at 9:03 am
I’m 17 and I have a crush on this guy for almost six years, I’m too shy to talk to him and I’m a very quiet person. One of the main reasons I don’t want him to know that I liked him, is that he has a girlfriend but now he actually knows I like him. I have no confidence in me but I also don’t want to be involved in someone else’s relationship… He’s very sweet and he cares, he used to tease me with love songs but only as a joke, he always shows kindness and he will be the one to help me out if I fall. It just gives me hope and it depresses me even more when I know that I’m never going to have anything with him, I can’t look at him anymore because now he knows I like him.. When he will talk to me (which is very rare cause he’s super popular) he always smile and he didn’t do that when he didn’t know I like him. Truthfully I am mostly nonexistent to him but the first years as classmates, he used to talk but now he’s too popular.
web admin
November 16, 2017 at 3:02 pm
It is clear that he cares for you and he views you as a friend. However, he is currently in a relationship. Because of this, you should not attempt to develop a romantic relationship at this time. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with him at all times. If his relationship naturally ends, then perhaps reach out to him at that time. Have a great day, Sylvia!