How To Get a Guy to Notice You
Here’s the good news ladies, guys are not that hard to figure out and we can get their attention without trying too hard. Here are some ways to figure out what will get their head to turn your way. If he likes you back, you’ll know when he goes out of his way to talk to you or catches your eye more than other people.
1. Ask Him A Question
One of the best ways to break the ice is to ask him a question. Depending on where you are, it could be asking him what he likes, asking for help with something, or asking his opinion about something. Questions are harmless as long as you don’t make them too personal. Remember, just because you think he’s cute doesn’t mean he will meet your standards, you’re going to have to actually speak to him to see if he’s a quality gentleman or just an arrogant jock.
2. Wear What You Love
We always hear that we should put some energy into how we look but how do you do that without being too focused on exterior appearance or feeling like you’re not yourself? Easy, just wear your favorite things that make you feel like thebomb.com. You want to feel fabulous but don’t try to be like anyone else. Wear colors you like and clothes you feel like you radiate in. Luckily most of us don’t radiate in sweatpants but hey if you’ve got a great body, rock those cute workout clothes. Go ahead girl, he will notice your sporty spice vibe.
3. Invite Him To A Social Gathering
You really don’t have to wait for him to make the first move. A harmless invite doesn’t necessarily mean you like him and is an open ended offer. Hey you still need to get to know him better anyway so it’s a good next step. Being confident and stepping out from the shadows to introduce yourself and invite him to join your friends is a great way to see if you two vibe in a social setting. You’ll know if he’s interested if he shows up and if he goes out of his way to talk to you at the event. If he’s just in his own world, he may be taken or not emotionally available. Pay attention to the way he talks to you, if he only talks about your looks, maybe he’s not worth it after all.
4. Find Common Interests
One of the easiest ways to get a guy to notice you is by finding your common interests. If you see he is wearing yoga mala beads, you can ask him where he practices yoga. If you see he has really nice running shoes, ask him if he’s a runner. You’ll pick up on his hobbies by the types of clothes he wears, his personal style and his accessories.
5. Plan an Event
If you want to stand out from the crowd, plan an outing such as a hike, a bonfire or a party and once you know people are actually going, invite him too. This gives him an opportunity to see you in a laid back environment where you’ll have the opportunity to talk and get to know each other. Even if he can’t make it, he will at least know who you are now and will maybe invite you to something in return later on.
6. Be Really Nice
Never underestimate the power of being really genuinely nice. I’m not talking about being fake or just doing things to make yourself look good, I’m talking about really spending some time doing things that help other people and not feeling like you need to brag about it. Be a good friend, offer your support, try to always brighten people’s day. Be nice to strangers, even when you’re in a rush and show your appreciation. The more we guard our words from negativity, the kinder we can be. This is one of the best ways to get a good guy to notice you. No one likes to be around selfish people who only think about or talk about themselves. Show and interest in his life and listen to him to actually see how he is doing.
7. Participate In Conversations
It’s ok if you get a little nervous around him but don’t just remain silent. Engaging in conversations with people when you’re around him can help him notice you. When you speak up, it will definitely draw some attention your way and it’s an opportunity to show him your warmth, intelligence and sense of humor.
8. Smile A Lot
If you are always smiling, he will definitely notice. You don’t have to plaster a huge fake smile on that no one believes and scares people away. Just always have even a slight smile so people feel like you’re a happy person. You’ll be surprised how people start smiling back like a snowball effect. They will notice that you’re always smiling and like to be around you. If you see the guy you’re interested in, don’t look at the floor, smile at him!
9. Shower Often
Are you in the habit of sleeping in until the last minute and rushing to school or work? Showering can give you that clean look and smell that might just catch his attention. Take the extra few minutes after the gym to shower off and and freshen up before you rush to your next thing. It’s also good to shower after exercising so the toxins you sweat out are washed off and don’t stay on your skin creating acne.
10. Be Super Healthy
As much as you can, be all about health. Eat healthy, exercise daily, think healthy and ooze healthy. Guys like girls that take care of themselves and have a healthy vibe. The cool thing is that the more healthy you become, the higher your confidence will be as well. As you start to radiate from all the healthy choices and endorphins you get from exercise, he will pick up on those good vibes.
11. Engage With His Friends
If you’re interested in a guy, a good way to get him to notice you is to talk to his friends. When you are in his circle of friends, it will be easier for him to approach you. There are a lot of people on this planet and if you make an effort to be in the places that he hangs out without being weird about it, he’s more likely to see you. Also getting to know his close friends will give you insight to the type of person he is as well.
12. Show Interest In His Goals
It’s always good to ask a guy what he does for work or what his dream job is. When you show support and encouragement to him he will like to be around you. Essentially this is helping him become what he wants. Everyone needs encouragement and if you can be someone that brings out the best in him instead of distracting him from his goals, he will like to be around you. You don’t have to talk about yourself, just let him ask you if he wants. But remember, if he only talks about himself and shows no concern for your goals, this boy is still a boy, not a man so keep looking mama.
13. Share Food With Him
If you see him eyeballing your dessert, offer him some. A good way to start a conversation is to either bring food and pass it out just to be nice or to just get a snack or nice bottled beverage that you could offer to him. You can always say, hey would you like this? There’s nothing wrong with being nice and this gesture might just brighten his day. Some people are afraid to go out of their way to do something like that for a stranger but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and be sweet (pun intended) .
Hopefully you now have some ideas about how to get that guy you’re crushing on to notice you. Try not to take yourself too seriously because you never know if you’re really going to like him once you get to know him right? Don’t build it up in your head or over think it. Just be nice, if you want to talk to him, talk to him but more than anything, listen to his words and give him the opportunity to prove that he’s a nice guy after you make the effort to get him to notice you. Aren’t you glad I didn’t tell you to put on uncomfortable heels and a miniskirt, bat your eyelashes and wear a push up bra? Those types of behaviors really attract the wrong type of guys and you should be sexy but not look desperate. Guys smell insecurity from a mile away and they will notice a girl with a healthy self esteem that they would be proud to bring home to their parents.