How to Get a Boyfriend in Middle School

By on April 1, 2015

Alright girls, so you are hoping to figure out how to get a boyfriend in middle school. Often some of the things we do can actually scare guys away so we are going to talk about those things. Luckily, it’s not that hard and if you just relaxed and focus on being a good person, the right guy will come along when he’s supposed to.


Don’t Smother Him

The number one thing you should never do is smother a guy. You shouldn’t talk to him every time you see him and you shouldn’t call or text him all the time. If you’re interested in him that’s great but if you become obsessed with him, he will not want to hang out with you. Guys are attracted to girls who don’t need them to be happy. Girls who have strong friendships, are involved in school activities and do their best at everything are more likely to attract a nice boy.


Have Your Own Interests

Don’t think about him all the time, make time to focus on your favorite activities and to hang out with your friends. If he sees that you are good at things, he will be impressed. If he sees that people like you because you’re really nice and fun to hang out with, he will want to hang out with you too. Don’t try to be make trouble in class or skip class to impress him. You don’t have to break the rules to get a nice guy to like you. If any guy tries to encourage you to do something against the rules, he’s probably not going to do well in school and he might not be that nice to you either.


Work On Building Your Friendships

If you really know how to be a good friend and have strong friendships, he will notice that quality and feel comfortable with you. If you don’t make an effort to be friends with people, he probably won’t want to be friends with you. We have to make an effort to be nice to people and treat them with kindness in order for people to also be kind to us.


Get To Know Him and Be Patient

Even if you think you like a guy, just get to know him better to see if you actually have some things in common. You may spend some time together with his friends and realize they are all jerks and you don’t feel comfortable with how they choose to spend their time. You want a boyfriend that is considerate and will try to be a good person. It’s important that you don’t rush getting a boyfriend so you don’t end up dating a dud.


Have A Fun Sense of Style

Make an effort to be stylish and comfortable so your natural beauty is highlighted. Guys love girls that smell nice and take pride in being put together. Again, don’t be desperate and wear really revealing clothing because the good guys don’t go for that look. They want a girl who is confident, smart and kind.


Chat With Him After Class

If you like a guy you shouldn’t ignore him completely. Just be friendly and sometimes (not all the time) chat with him after class. You don’t have to tell him you like him, just ask him how his day is going and how his classes are going. Try not to always talk about school work because we know that can be very boring.


Find Someone That Likes What You Like

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If you want to find a boyfriend, you should see which guys like the things that you’re into. If you love student government maybe you will find another guy in your class that does too. Think about it, if you’re in the band and always going to band practice, it will be easy to talk to him and hang out with him and you could help each other practice too.


Don’t Like The Guy That All The Girls Like

Here’s some advice to keep you from getting frustrated when you want to get a boyfriend. Don’t like the guy that all the other girls like. Often the guys that get all the attention end up with a big head and get so used to that attention that they end up just flirting with everyone. It’s not fun to date a guy that flirts with everyone.


Smile And Say Hi When You See Him

If there is a certain guy you have a crush on you can get him to notice you by smiling at him. It’s a very simple way to see if he likes you back and maybe once he starts to notice you more, he will start to like you. Sometimes boys are distracted but when you get their attention, they might realize how nice you are. Remember, if he doesn’t seem to notice you, don’t worry there are plenty of other guys out there that will appreciate you. Don’t hold onto the idea of dating someone too firmly because it will only make you unhappy if you sit around wishing he likes you back.


Exchange Numbers

Exchange numbers so you can get to know each other. You can text each other and talk on the phone but let him reach out to you sometimes too so you know that he likes you. If you’re the one always reaching out to him, he might not like you back. Also don’t call or text him late at night because you want to be respectful when he’s sleeping. If he’s not responding to you, he may not be interested so don’t keep calling. Also try to keep the conversations positive and don’t complain about things. Ask him how he is doing and encourage him. Maybe find some way you can help him with something but never gossip.


Always Speak Kindly About Others

It’s really important that you keep your words about others positive when you speak to your friends and to your crush. If people know that you are a gossiper it makes you look bad and can ruin your reputation.


Try To Be Happy and Fun

The more positive you can be, the more guys will want to be around you. If you can always have a smile and always have something nice to say about someone else, people will really enjoy your company. We can always choose to have a great day and help others keep smiling by being nice to them. Guys will notice how nice you are and you’re more likely to find a nice guy if you act like this.


Be Nice To Everyone and Don’t Just Think About Yourself

Thinking of other people helps others know that you are going to look out for them and helps them trust that you’re really a good person. Try to get involved with community service or volunteer and people will respect you. When you see someone struggling with their homework, don’t make fun of them, see if you can help them. Don’t be a know it all but just offer your kindness whenever you can. It’s just human nature that guys will like nice people and the more we show that we are a good person through our actions, the better our chances of attracting a high quality guy are.


Participate In Class

If you focus on your schoolwork and get good grades, a nice guy will like that you are smart. Girls that don’t pay attention in class and don’t care about their schoolwork aren’t really that impressive to guys. Remember if a guy only likes you because he thinks your pretty, the relationship will only be superficial but if he likes you because of who you are, it’s more likely to be a great bond.


Always Do Your Best

When we always put our best foot forward whether it’s in sports, art or math class, we show that we really care about doing our best. Putting in effort, even if we aren’t that good at things is a great quality to have. Don’t worry about what other people think of you, just know that you’re doing your best. A nice guy will notice if you go above and beyond in your school projects or work hard to be the best athlete so don’t be afraid to shine!


See If He Likes You Back

If you’re getting the feeling that he likes you, you’ll probably know. If he flirts with all the girls, don’t be fooled and think that he likes you. If he is different around you than around the other girls and goes out of his way to talk to you, chances are he likes you. Give him an opportunity to tell you by talking to him after school or going to a sports game together. You don’t ever have to force yourself to tell him you like it, just let it happen naturally and don’t worry about it. You’re in no rush!


Make Sure He Treats You Respectfully

If he says he’s going to call you but always forgets, that’s not very respectful. If he makes fun of you or is rude to you, don’t waste your time trying to get him to like you. Wait until there is a nice guy who you like and work on getting to know him. The boys that like to break the rules and show off usually don’t know how to treat girls well at all and they are immature and just want attention.

Just be confident in yourself and know that the right guy will come along. Don’t try to force anything and keep up with your friends because they will usually last longer than a boyfriend does anyway!


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    March 31, 2020 at 3:38 pm

    This is really helpful, asked my crush out and now my big sis is jealous, I got a boyfriend before her! But idk how to tell my parents cause they say I’m too young to date.

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      March 31, 2020 at 10:27 pm

      You are aware of the restrictions that your parents have put on your social life, so keep that in mind as you maintain your relationship. Be sure to nourish your connection with your sister, as you do not want her to feel jealous or sad. At the same time, strengthen your relationship with your partner by spending additional time together in person.

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    March 1, 2020 at 7:04 am

    how** not hoe

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      March 3, 2020 at 3:36 pm

      I understood, no worries!

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    March 1, 2020 at 7:02 am

    OK so idk what to do now. I have a tendency where all of the players, the dirty boys, and the jerks like me. I have really great grades and some really great friends. Im not supposed to be dating in middle school. but it is really hard. Im trying to figure out a boy that my parents would be fine that i dated. I have a really great personality. idc wat people think about me, but i still am nice and look put together. im really bubbly too. And i have a lot of guy friends and i really like one of them. And he texted me one time when i was really sad. He always is there when i need him, but i do not want to ruin that friendship. And i texted and asked him to tell me hoe crazy i was and he said abt a five, and i asked if that was good or if it was bad and he said its okay, but you have other things tht are higher. and i asked wdym and he never answered. but then i asked something different and he answered immediatley. i rly like him bc he is nice and not dirty or a player. and we already know eachother but idk what to say or do to get him to like me

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      March 3, 2020 at 3:36 pm

      Sometimes, the best partners are our friends. You are friends for a reason–you have compatible personalities and interests. If you don’t date him only because he is a friend, you could miss out on a really great relationship. And if he is as great a friend as you say, there’s a good chance he’ll want to stay friends no matter how a relationship ends. Go for it! Good luck!

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    February 4, 2020 at 8:37 am

    How do you get a popular guy to like back and reject you when you ask them out

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      February 5, 2020 at 3:25 pm

      Whether or not the person is popular or not isn’t the problem–people like you back if they like you and are attracted to you. The bigger problem is whether he likes you back or not. If he doesn’t like you or at least feel slightly attracted to you, then you can’t make him like you. If that is the case, the only thing you can do is move on and find someone who is interested in you to be with.

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        March 3, 2020 at 6:16 pm

        Did you know that when you tell a guy you like him there is a 86.4℅ chance he’s more likely going to like you back. Also I’m dating this guy and he’s not good with girls, or talking with girls any advice?

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          March 3, 2020 at 6:25 pm

          Thank you for sharing your feelings. It is certain that this article will provide you with insights regarding how to share your feelings with your partner. Other members of our community will provide their insights and experiences with you as well.

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    January 28, 2020 at 5:38 pm

    How do I get a popular guy to like me if he likes someone else but flirts with m e

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      web admin

      January 28, 2020 at 9:50 pm

      If he is not maintaining a romantic relationship with anyone else and he is flirting with you, then it seems that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship, and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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    January 11, 2020 at 11:06 pm

    how do u get a nerd to like u

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      web admin

      January 12, 2020 at 11:03 pm

      The same way you would anyone else–try talking to them, learn about their interests and get to know them better. Good luck!

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    December 18, 2019 at 7:00 am

    I want my crush to know that i like him but he goes to a differrnt school what do i do?

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      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 10:22 am

      You need to be able to speak with him, so take this opportunity to determine how to go about interacting with him. Share your thoughts and feelings with him in person.

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    December 15, 2019 at 7:09 am

    So I was with this guy, and well, I’m trying to get him back because I love him, and idk what to do

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      web admin

      January 5, 2020 at 10:45 am

      You are interested in developing a relationship with him, so take this opportunity to reach out to him and speak with him about your thoughts and feelings.

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    December 5, 2019 at 6:43 pm

    What if the boy does not like anything I like but I really like him. How do I find things to do together?

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      web admin

      January 14, 2020 at 12:34 pm

      The two of you have different interests, and you are interested in developing a relationship with him. Everyone eats, so you may want to have a conversation with him over a meal. You may find that you are interested in learning more about things that he enjoys.

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    Confused crush

    October 8, 2019 at 4:29 pm

    I think a guy tryed to ask me out but i didnt notice because he said in a way you wouldnt really understand now in front of crowds he says he doesnt like me and never did but im to scared to ask him what he meant i always remember to ask him but when i get the nerves to do it i get to scared and lose the nerves also i never really get the time to talk one on one with him because when we used to talk it was always around friends because we didnt really care but now i cant talk to him about this certain thing because i feel he wouldnt actually tell me in front of ppl also it would be akward. HELP IM SO CONFUSED

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      web admin

      March 1, 2020 at 2:15 pm

      It seems that you need to make a decision about what you feel is appropriate. If the two of you are still maintaining a relationship, then you need to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well.

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    October 2, 2019 at 6:56 pm

    my crush likes my best friend, but she doesn’t know so I can’t be mad. Please help!!!

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      December 30, 2019 at 10:17 am

      I’m not sure there is anything you can do. You can’t control who someone else likes anymore than you can control who you like. Unfortunately, all you can do right now is wait and hope for the best.

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    September 5, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    I’m trying to decide if I should tell my crush I like him or not, what if he rejects me basically!?!?! Please help!

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      web admin

      September 6, 2019 at 8:41 pm

      You are interested in maintaining a relationship with your crush. Determine what you believe is appropriate for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he rejects you, then you can make the decision to focus your emotional energy elsewhere. Draw positive people and energy into your life by sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Tatum!

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      October 8, 2019 at 4:13 pm

      I have never really had a bf but i have had a crush i wanted to tell very badly but then i moved, dont let fear hold you back because if this guy/girl is really worth your time and he makes you smile and laugh you have to tell him/her because in the end you will regret it if you dont tell them and if (s)he does reject you then you know you can still be friends and you at least can get the weight off your shoulders and if (s)he doesnt want to be your friend anymore (s)he wasnt right for you in the first place

      • web admin

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        February 25, 2020 at 3:55 pm

        Thank you for sharing your insights. It is certain that your comments will support many members of our community.

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      October 8, 2019 at 4:15 pm

      Thats just my way of saying it from another person who has the same problem

      • web admin

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        March 1, 2020 at 2:15 pm

        Thank you for sharing your supportive comment!

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