How to Flirt With a Guy in Middle School

By on March 30, 2015

If there is a certain guy that catches you eye and you’re in middle school, here are some fun ways to get his attention and see if he likes you back! Remember, it’s important that you hang out with him in groups with other friends so you can see if he’s nice and if his friends are nice. While you’re not going to have a serious boyfriend in middle school, you still may develop a crush and it’s ok to be friends with them.


Don’t worry if you’re kind of shy, you don’t have to do anything scary to get a guy to notice you. If you’re not the most outgoing person in school, you will make friends with guys who don’t want to hang out with the loud girls. Also, remember to listen to him when you guys are chatting because no one wants to just hear about the other person all the time. The best way to talk to a guy is to ask him questions about what he likes and give him a few nice compliments too!

 

Have Fun Being Stylish

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You can have fun being a girl by wearing fun colors and changing your hair style. Guys aren’t impressed by way too much makeup so don’t worry about begging your mom to buy you some. Accessories can be fun though! Just be yourself and if you feel fabulous, a guy will probably notice you.

 

Invite Him To A School Sports Game

See if he’s going to a game and tell him to find you at the game. You will be able to talk to him during the game but it won’t be too awkward in case you don’t have anything to say since there’s a game going on. If you’re too nervous to invite him, go with your friends and you can all sit together.

 

Write Him Notes

Even though lots of kids are carrying cell phones these days, a fun note can still get his attention. You can give it to him yourself or have a friend you trust pass it to him. Just make sure you don’t pass notes in class and get him in trouble!

 

Give Him Your Phone Number

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Not everyone in middle school has a phone but it is pretty common now. If you don’t have a cell phone you can give him your home number so he can call you. If you both have cell phones you may also be able to text. Let him text or call you first so you can tell if he’s interested! Let him show you he likes you so you will feel more sure about it.

 

Sit By Him When You Can

Whether it’s at lunch, during class, on the bus, or at a sports game, you can offer him a spot next to you. Say it with a smile and if he’s shy he might not take it but that’s ok. You can also save him a seat when you can which will give him the hint that you like him.

 

Ask Him What His Favorite Movies Are

If you don’t know what to talk about you can always ask him what his favorite movies are. You could even tell him which celebrity he reminds you of. Who knows, maybe you or one of your friends can have a group over to watch a movie and you can invite him! Movies are always fun and will make good memories. You can share your popcorn with him too!

 

Invite Him To Your Birthday or Holiday Parties

Birthday parties can be a lot of fun and so can Halloween or Christmas parties. If you are having a party, make sure you invite him and wear something you really like! When you feel comfortable, you will be more laid back around him and he won’t feel like you’re being fake. It’s pretty easy to tell when someone’s being fake and if he doesn’t like the real you, it’s just not a great match. Don’t take it personal.

 

Ask Him To Play A Sport With You After School

If you know he plays basketball, ask him if he wants to play at a park after school. Try not to beat him terribly if you’re better than him. Just play to have fun not to make him feel bad about himself.

 

Go Swimming

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If it’s warm out and you know of a good place to go swimming, ask him if he wants to go. Maybe it’s an indoor pool with a diving board which would also be fun!

 

Bake For Him

If you ask him what his favorite dessert is, you can surprise him and make it for him! They say the way to a boys heart is through his stomach and he will get the hint that you like him when you do something nice for him.

 

Cheer Him On At His Game

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If he plays a sport, maybe ask a few friends to go to the game with you and cheer him on. You can make a sign for the team and wear the team’s colors. If he doesn’t play sports, maybe you can see a play he is in or invite him to see a school play with you. But Don’t go over the top with cheering for him so he feels embarrassed!

 

Make Him Art

You can make him something sentimental that he can keep in his room. Maybe try painting, drawing or painting ceramics. You could make a heart or something that will remind him to smile and be happy.

 

Always Have a Smile  

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Guys like to be around happy girls because they enjoy their company. If you like to tell jokes or just goof around that’s great. Try to be as happy as you can and don’t bring up things you are sad about or complain about ANYTHING. You also shouldn’t talk bad about other people to him because that just makes you look like a gossiper! Talk about what you love and what you’re grateful for.

 

Let Him Come To You

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Guys don’t need to be chased and often they like to feel like they’re fighting for you. You don’t have to start all the conversations. Maybe give him a smile or make sure he knows you’re looking at him and let him approach you. If he likes you, he will! If he doesn’t like you that’s ok, he’s not the only boy you will have a crush on, you’re only in middle school.

 

Remember, you’re not in any rush to have a boyfriend but it’s totally fine to have a crush on someone. You can talk to your parents about him so they know what’s going on in your life and maybe they will help you get to see him outside of school too. Every parents has their own rules about what age is appropriate for a girl to have a boyfriend so make sure you talk to them about it. In the mean time, just be a great friend and be as nice as you can! You have a great life ahead of you and while you’re in middle school just focus on having fun, being a good friend and being a good student. If a guy doesn’t like you back, don’t worry about it, there are plenty more!

132 Comments

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    Missnotsoperfect

    March 3, 2020 at 1:09 am

    hey, so I like this guy in my class. he asked me out a few months ago but I said no.but after that we flirted a lot with each other.it was like he was running after me. but 3 months later he ran off after one of my distant friends. he now says that he is over her, but I don’t know if he is telling the truth.pls, tell me what to do because I don’t want people to think I’m a playgirl.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 3, 2020 at 3:01 pm

      People can change their feelings, so it is entirely possible he likes you now. In addition, he may have changed his feelings even faster if the distant friend turned her down. If you are uncertain about how he feels, perhaps you could just tell him to wait a few weeks. If he genuinely cares for you, he will still feel the same in a couple of weeks and want to date you then. Good luck!

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        Missnotsoperfect

        March 3, 2020 at 9:28 pm

        but I am not actually sure if he likes me. I really like him a lot. I mean we talk to each other and share our lunches, we help each other in studies and we sing songs together and have fun.i don’t know whether I should ask him out or not? he is sending me mixed signals and i don’t want to ruin my friendship with him.we are going to a camp together this week with our friends, I think i should ask him out then. please tell me what to do.
        Missnotsoperfect

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    QueenNala1

    February 16, 2020 at 9:25 pm

    Hi. So,i like thus guy, and he knows I like him. He saud we can be friends, but he never talks to me. I really want him to like me. Sometimes I catch him looking at me, but I wonderif its just my imagination. What should i do? Pls help

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 16, 2020 at 9:42 pm

      If he never talks to you and said you can be friends, then that is probably the most he wants out of the relationship. Judging by your description, it doesn’t sound like he is going to like you back at any time in the near future. He knows you like him, so he could make a move if he liked you back. The fact that he hasn’t seems to indicate that he isn’t interested in you like that quite yet.

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    Anonymous

    February 7, 2020 at 2:27 pm

    So im in eighth grade and there’s this really cute boy i have had a crush on since 4th grade and he knows i like him and he likes me. My friends are kind of forcing him to date me but he’s too scared and is afraid i might say no and i’m too scared to ask him.What should I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 7, 2020 at 5:45 pm

      Just ask him! If he is afraid to ask you and you know he wants to, then there is no risk in asking him out! It sounds like the main thing stopping you is that both of you like each other so much that you’re afraid to make a move. If you want to achieve your dream and get to be with your crush, you may have to find the courage to make a move. Good luck!

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    EJ

    January 18, 2020 at 2:16 am

    I want to kiss someone but I am not ready for a boyfriend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 18, 2020 at 10:27 am

      Unless you are ready for a boyfriend, you’ll probably have to wait on the kissing someone. You’d need a partner if you want to kiss someone, so you’d have to be ready for that. Don’t worry–there’s plenty of time to learn about kissing, so there’s no harm in waiting.

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    Elli

    January 18, 2020 at 2:14 am

    I really like this guy who I thought liked me because we both off and on flirt with one another but then he started dating one of my distant friends, it was for only a week and it was a while ago, after she broke up with him i could tell that he really liked her and was sad. And I am only 13 so pretty young and I do like flirting with him I just am not sure if I am ready for a boyfriend. And our grade is still in that ewww boyfriends phase. I don’t know what to do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 18, 2020 at 10:31 am

      If you just like flirting and aren’t sure if you want a boyfriend or not, then just keep flirting with him. You can always wait to decide what you want by whether he asks you out in the future. If he doesn’t, you can keep flirting with him as long as you want. Good luck!

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    Minniie Mouse

    January 10, 2020 at 8:46 pm

    So I kinda like this one guy and he flirts back with me. But he already has a girlfriend

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 11, 2020 at 11:23 am

      You are aware that he is in a romantic relationship. Abstain from nourishing an emotional connection with him at this time. For now, this relationship is not viable or appropriate.

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    Kit

    November 23, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    My boyfriend and I play on the same soccer team (I play for a boys team) so our parents don’t think we should be dating. I really like him and I think he really likes me too, but we can never hangout because of our parents. I don’t know what to do!

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 4, 2020 at 12:14 am

      Your parents have decided that this relationship is not viable. Ask them if it is acceptable to maintain a friendship with him, as he is someone that you care about. When the season ends, you may want to speak with your parents about your desire to spend additional time with him.

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    Unknown

    August 13, 2019 at 7:23 pm

    I dreamed about my crush and in my dream it’s like we were playing tag and when he was chasing me, I fell and he fell on top of me and looked into my eyes and then the dream was over

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 13, 2019 at 8:49 pm

      Your crush and you are maintaining a social relationship, and you may be aware that each of you are interested in each other. It is possible that your social relationship is going back and forth. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Unknown

    August 13, 2019 at 7:22 pm

    I dreamed about my crush and in my dream it’s like we were playing tag and when he was chasing me, I feel and he fell on top of me and looked into my eyes and then the dream was over

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 13, 2019 at 8:48 pm

      Your crush and you are maintaining a social relationship, and you may be aware that each of you are interested in each other. It is possible that your social relationship is going back and forth. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Betty

    June 20, 2019 at 3:32 pm

    Hey, um… so there’s this guy and he knows I like him. But, he’s been off and on dating this other girl. So, when I asked him out, and showed interest, he refused because he was dating her. But he also said that if he wasn’t dating her, he would date me. It’s been awhile and they broke up… he says he still interested in her, but won’t give me a solid answer, no matter what I do. Please give me advice on what to do.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 20, 2019 at 4:14 pm

      Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. If he is single, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. If he is still interested in spending time with his ex, then you may want to determine if this relationship is viable and appropriate. Have a great day, Betty!

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    Kelsey

    June 14, 2019 at 10:55 pm

    I’ve had a crush on this guy for I’d say about half the year and i really want his number before summer so maybe we can hang out. How should I ask him I have 2 weeks

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 15, 2019 at 2:00 pm

      Nothing you do or say will make asking him for his number easier or less intimidating. Just ask him! If you have yearbooks to sign, you could also just ask him to add his number in your yearbook so that you can hang out later in the summer–or you could leave your number when you sign his yearbook. Best of luck, Kelsey!

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    Unknown

    June 12, 2019 at 9:29 pm

    I like this kid but I don’t know that he likes me and the worst part is that I’ve like him for like 3 years but it’s been on and off . Oh and he thinks it’s my friend who likes him. I’ve been thinking about it and I might tell him I like him on the last day of school. What do you think

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 12, 2019 at 10:14 pm

      You are interested in developing a relationship with this person. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Anon!

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        Unknown

        June 16, 2019 at 9:41 am

        But there is only three days of school left so is there even a point of trying to close to him

        • web admin

          web admin

          June 16, 2019 at 7:37 pm

          It sounds like you need to make a decision about what you feel is appropriate and viable. If you want to nourish this relationship, then spend additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Anon!

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    Gabriella

    May 14, 2019 at 12:06 pm

    There is a boy in my grade who I think likes me. He’s actually kinda clingy but nobody likes him. I don’t want to tell him that I’m not interested, but at the same time, the boy is making me angrier every time he talks to me.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 14, 2019 at 8:16 pm

      You are not interested in him, and you get angry when he talks to you. It is clear that you are not interested in maintaining a relationship with him. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and inform him that you are not interested in maintaining a relationship with him. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Gabriella!

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