How to Flirt Using Body Language

By on December 10, 2013

 Body language can be a powerful flirting tool. Whether you’re on a first date, or trying to catch the attention of the hot guy across the room at a party, flirting by using your body language can be an effective way to let someone know that you’re interested in them. There are many tried and tested ways to flirt using body language, and we’ve listed a few of the best ones below for you to try out the next time you find someone you fancy.


Mimic his body language

Psychological studies have shown that when you subtly mimic someone else’s body language, the other person starts to feel more connected to you. So in theory, if you mimic the body language of your crush, he may start thinking that you are quite similar to him – which is an attractive trait for a future partner. Try to mimic his gestures without making it obvious that you are copying him – cross your arms if he has his crossed, or touch your own face a little while after he’s touched his, all whilst keeping the conversation going.


Angle your body in his direction

By turning your body towards your crush when you are sitting or standing together, you are showing him that you’re interested in what he’s saying, and that you want to be close to him. It’s been found that we point our feet in the direction in which we want to go, so when you’re together, make sure that your feet are pointing towards him! You can also try speaking a little softer, so that he needs to lean in closer to you to hear what you are saying. Sneaky, but effective.


Make lingering eye contact

 Your eyes can be your most powerful flirting tool. If you’re trying to catch that special someone’s attention from a distance, try this little trick: scan the room slowly with your eyes, and stop when you make eye contact with the guy you’re after. Let your gaze linger for slightly longer than normal, and then look away. Repeat this for extra impact, once again making eye contact to show him that you’ve noticed him, and smile to make a friendly connection. You can also use makeup to accentuate your eyes – try shimmery eye-shadow, dark eye-liner, and super-long lashes.


Touch him in a casual way

 If you’ve known your crush for a while and you are comfortable with each other, try breaking the touch barrier by touching him in a friendly, casual way. For example, if you’re trying to get his attention in a busy place, gently touch his arm or elbow, or touch him lightly on the waist and lean closer to speak into his ear. If he’s not uncomfortable with people entering his personal space, you could also give him a long hug hello and goodbye.


Play with your hair or earrings

 You may already do this when you’re nervous or shy, but playing with your hair or earrings is actually a great way to flirt. By drawing attention to your neck (an erogenous zone), you are sending a subconscious message to your crush that you want him to see you as a potential partner. Try wearing pretty, dangly earrings, and wear your hair loose so that you can tuck flyaway hairs behind your ears. Don’t overdo it, though, as constant fiddling can distract the person you’re talking to.


Draw attention to your lips

Drawing attention to your lips is a brilliant way of using your face to flirt. Apply lipstick or lip balm in front of your crush to subtly draw attention to your lips. You could also bite or lick your lips every now and again, to make him think about kissing you. Wear some bright, sexy lipstick on a first date to draw loads of attention to your lips.



 Nothing beats a big, genuine smile when flirting with a potential partner. Smiling illuminates the best features of your face, and makes you appear agreeable and friendly. Making eye contact and smiling with a guy you find attractive lets him know that you are interested. If he smiles back, chances are he feels the same way. You can even take a cheeky approach and give your crush a sly wink!


 Many of these techniques come naturally to us, although being more aware of them can help you out in your romantic endeavors. Remember to keep your body language subtle and clear, whilst focusing the majority of your attention on the other person and what they are saying. Once you feel comfortable with flirting, you’ll find that you won’t need to think about it as much – it’ll just be automatic. So put on your lipstick and pretty earrings, gather up all your confidence, and have some fun flirting with that special someone!

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