Dating an Introverted Man

By on February 1, 2016

We all have introverted people in our lives- you know, the quiet individuals who don’t really like to go out TOO much but are really genuine individuals. But what’s it like to DATE a man who is introverted? We’ve come up with a list of must-know things and tips and even WARNINGS about dating someone who is introverted. You may be pleasantly surprised with what you find.


Things to Know About Your Introverted Man..

  1. He Enjoys His ‘Me’ Time

Someone who is introverted doesn’t like to be around people too often. They enjoy their ‘me’ time, time where they can be alone and doing what they want. Don’t get his seclusion confused with him not wanting to be around you- he simply likes and NEEDS his space to be himself.

  1. He Does Not Like Confrontation

When an argument arises, he will probably get very calm and try to leave. This can be a bit difficult at times, but he would much rather leave the situation, think about it, and come back with a cool tone then to raise his voice in an argument.

  1. He May Not Be Overly Flirty

Someone who is introverted has a hard time talking, and it’s even more difficult for them to be flirty. It doesn’t mean he isn’t interested, but a man that has an introverted personality has a hard time complimenting his woman and doing any type of goofy flirting. At least you can rest assured if he DOES give you a flirt, he means it to the fullest.


  1. He is an Amazing Boyfriend, Especially When it Comes to Listening

He’s quiet, gentle, and he LISTENS. What more could a girl ask for?

  1. He’s a Little Quiet

Introverted personalities don’t like to talk much. So when you go out to eat with your man and he’s letting you do most of the talking, don’t automatically think you’re boring him. He’s actually listening and taking it all in!

  1. He’s Loyal

Since he doesn’t really like to be around people (especially crowded areas like clubs or parties) and he doesn’t like to flirt, you won’t have to worry about him cheating. In fact, you won’t even have to really worry about him being put in a situation where he MAY end up cheating; he likes to be ALONE.


Tips on Dating an Introverted Man..

  1. Make Sure You Give Him Enough Space

Someone who is introverted needs their space. If you don’t give him enough space, he may end up letting go of the relationship as he feels overwhelmed and out of place. Make sure you’re giving him enough alone time, even if you don’t like it.

  1. Don’t Overdo It With Calls and Messages

I know, I know; you love to text your man all day every day and call him a couple times throughout the day to see how he’s doing. Men hate this- especially the introverted men. They don’t want to talk all that much, so go easy on the text messages. As for phone calls, you may do best to avoid them altogether; they HATE phone calls and it will undoubtedly be a one sided conversation.

  1. Let Him Open Up on His Own Time

Don’t force him to open up. Someone who is introverted has a hard time talking and they will open up when they are ready. Just be patient, because when they open up that means they are totally comfortable with you- which is AWESOME.


Warnings About Dating an Introverted Man..

  1. He Can Get Irritated Quickly

He doesn’t like to get too many texts, and he doesn’t like to go on a date more than a few times a week. If you’re continuously trying to text message and call him and every day you’re trying to get together, he could definitely become irritated at the fact that you’re incredibly chatty and outgoing and he prefers to be by himself in a quiet setting.

  1. He Won’t Want to Go Out All the Time

Like I said, the introverted man LIKES to be alone; so why would he want to go out all the time? You will probably see him once or twice a week- and that’s it. A lot of the time he will also prefer a simpler, casual date like dinner at his place or a drive-in movie.

  1. He May Be Hard to Talk To

You’re not likely to find yourself in a really heavy conversation with an introverted man; he prefers to sit back and listen to whomever he is with. This can be a good thing AND a bad thing, especially when it comes to discussing important things or getting over a bad argument. Definitely something to consider when you decide to date someone with an introverted personality.

  1. You Won’t Change Him- Don’t Even Try

Well, ladies, you should NEVER try to change someone no matter what their personality is. However, a lot of women think just because he is shy and not very talkative at first, doesn’t mean he can’t open up and become the lively individual they want to be with. No, someone with an introverted personality will always stay on the quiet side and you won’t catch them at any wild, lively events. They prefer to do something simple and crave their alone time more than anything. Trying to change them will only push them away- as it should! Either accept them for who they are or find an extrovert.

Have you ever dated an introverted man? What was it like? Share your experiences with us!


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    February 8, 2017 at 7:09 am

    I was in relationship with someone like this. We broke up around 1 week ago. I have never been with anybody like him before and the fact I am totally opposite made it really difficult. I just recently find out he is actually really shy. Didn’t notice that at first as he is working in night industry and as we all know they party all the time, so it never crossed my mind he could be one of those. Staying home, watching TV , not taking me on dates, cinemas etc that so like him. We had plenty of discussions about it. I broke up with him 4 months ago for the first time , we got back together. However I could not take it anymore as I never felt he has strong feelings for me. It was difficult for him to compliment me, and I just couldn’t understand why am I not worth spending time with. I am very sensitive person and took it personally. For me he just wasn’t that into me. Being with something like him is really difficult as they don’t express themselves, so most of the times you just need to figure out what they are actually thinking about. If only I knew how to deal with him earlier maybe we would be still together. I miss him. Patience is definitely something you need when you date introverted man.

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      February 8, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. Introverted people and extroverted people may have difficulties in their relationships. It is the responsibility of both parties to take action and to be mature with their deeds. Best of luck in your future relationships, Monika!

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    October 14, 2016 at 11:58 am

    Oh God, im in a similar situation. In the beginning he was kinda like me, an extrovert. But i guess once he was comfortable he slowly showed me who he really is. We hardly go on dates, and when we do we have so much fun. It will be 2 years on Oct 27, 2016 that we have been together.Im just now learning how to give him his space and not text as much. Ive had the break up conversation with him and we are still together. The most recent one he tells me that he is working on opening up it just takes time and he needs the oppurtunity to show me. At least i know he’s willing to try. But it breaks my heart becaus he is such a great guy and i really care about him. We will go a month without seeing each other but text everyday. I wake up to a good morning sunshine, or good morning babe text at least 3 times a week. At least i know he thinks about me. Im trying to hang in there but its hard.

    • web admin

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      October 15, 2016 at 10:38 am

      It sounds like a difficult relationship for someone who wants more closeness and time together. It sounds like you have found someone that you really care about though, so the time spent getting to know him and getting him to open up should ultimately be worth it. Good luck, Apryl!

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    September 8, 2016 at 4:44 am

    I’m dating an introverted man and it is incredibly hard because I am extroverted. He only wants to see me once a week and we never go out and do anything outside of my home and at home we just sit quietly and watch tv or something . I am very unhappy with meeting only once a week and feel like he doesn’t like me at all because he always wants alone time. He often rejects my date ideas and doesn’t like to go out with me (if I happen to get him out on a date he complains about being tired and wanting to go home.) we’ve almost broken up over him not spending enough time with me but lo and behold we are still dating … This article was really helpful and I guess he will definitely not be changing …

    • web admin

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      September 8, 2016 at 9:49 am

      Some people just naturally want to have more alone time, and this is especially true if they are introverted. He was introverted when you started dating, so it is unlikely that he will ever really change that. You just have to decide if that is the type of person that you want to be with and if you can handle being with someone who needs alone time to be happy. This is a very personal decision, so it is entirely up to you about what happens.

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      October 14, 2016 at 11:59 am

      Hang in there im going through this right now. The key is patience and space, LOTS of space. Lol!

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        October 15, 2016 at 10:37 am

        That sounds like excellent advice from someone who is been there–I am sure that she will appreciate the extra insight. Thanks for commenting, Apryl!

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    Favour John

    February 25, 2016 at 10:38 am

    Wow! This Tips on Dating an Introverted Man is wonderful. My Man is an Introvert, He does stay out at Night or even go out on Dates the relationship is boring. I feel to BreakUp!

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      February 26, 2016 at 11:35 pm

      I am glad to hear that you enjoyed the article, Favour John. Our writers take a lot of time to find the best topics and information. In this case, it looks like their hard work paid off. Thanks for commenting!

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