Dating an Introverted Man

By on February 1, 2016

We all have introverted people in our lives- you know, the quiet individuals who don’t really like to go out TOO much but are really genuine individuals. But what’s it like to DATE a man who is introverted? We’ve come up with a list of must-know things and tips and even WARNINGS about dating someone who is introverted. You may be pleasantly surprised with what you find.


Things to Know About Your Introverted Man..

  1. He Enjoys His ‘Me’ Time

Someone who is introverted doesn’t like to be around people too often. They enjoy their ‘me’ time, time where they can be alone and doing what they want. Don’t get his seclusion confused with him not wanting to be around you- he simply likes and NEEDS his space to be himself.

  1. He Does Not Like Confrontation

When an argument arises, he will probably get very calm and try to leave. This can be a bit difficult at times, but he would much rather leave the situation, think about it, and come back with a cool tone then to raise his voice in an argument.

  1. He May Not Be Overly Flirty

Someone who is introverted has a hard time talking, and it’s even more difficult for them to be flirty. It doesn’t mean he isn’t interested, but a man that has an introverted personality has a hard time complimenting his woman and doing any type of goofy flirting. At least you can rest assured if he DOES give you a flirt, he means it to the fullest.


  1. He is an Amazing Boyfriend, Especially When it Comes to Listening

He’s quiet, gentle, and he LISTENS. What more could a girl ask for?

  1. He’s a Little Quiet

Introverted personalities don’t like to talk much. So when you go out to eat with your man and he’s letting you do most of the talking, don’t automatically think you’re boring him. He’s actually listening and taking it all in!

  1. He’s Loyal

Since he doesn’t really like to be around people (especially crowded areas like clubs or parties) and he doesn’t like to flirt, you won’t have to worry about him cheating. In fact, you won’t even have to really worry about him being put in a situation where he MAY end up cheating; he likes to be ALONE.


Tips on Dating an Introverted Man..

  1. Make Sure You Give Him Enough Space

Someone who is introverted needs their space. If you don’t give him enough space, he may end up letting go of the relationship as he feels overwhelmed and out of place. Make sure you’re giving him enough alone time, even if you don’t like it.

  1. Don’t Overdo It With Calls and Messages

I know, I know; you love to text your man all day every day and call him a couple times throughout the day to see how he’s doing. Men hate this- especially the introverted men. They don’t want to talk all that much, so go easy on the text messages. As for phone calls, you may do best to avoid them altogether; they HATE phone calls and it will undoubtedly be a one sided conversation.

  1. Let Him Open Up on His Own Time

Don’t force him to open up. Someone who is introverted has a hard time talking and they will open up when they are ready. Just be patient, because when they open up that means they are totally comfortable with you- which is AWESOME.


Warnings About Dating an Introverted Man..

  1. He Can Get Irritated Quickly

He doesn’t like to get too many texts, and he doesn’t like to go on a date more than a few times a week. If you’re continuously trying to text message and call him and every day you’re trying to get together, he could definitely become irritated at the fact that you’re incredibly chatty and outgoing and he prefers to be by himself in a quiet setting.

  1. He Won’t Want to Go Out All the Time

Like I said, the introverted man LIKES to be alone; so why would he want to go out all the time? You will probably see him once or twice a week- and that’s it. A lot of the time he will also prefer a simpler, casual date like dinner at his place or a drive-in movie.

  1. He May Be Hard to Talk To

You’re not likely to find yourself in a really heavy conversation with an introverted man; he prefers to sit back and listen to whomever he is with. This can be a good thing AND a bad thing, especially when it comes to discussing important things or getting over a bad argument. Definitely something to consider when you decide to date someone with an introverted personality.

  1. You Won’t Change Him- Don’t Even Try

Well, ladies, you should NEVER try to change someone no matter what their personality is. However, a lot of women think just because he is shy and not very talkative at first, doesn’t mean he can’t open up and become the lively individual they want to be with. No, someone with an introverted personality will always stay on the quiet side and you won’t catch them at any wild, lively events. They prefer to do something simple and crave their alone time more than anything. Trying to change them will only push them away- as it should! Either accept them for who they are or find an extrovert.

Have you ever dated an introverted man? What was it like? Share your experiences with us!


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