Dating an Athlete
If you want your relationship with an athlete to work, you need to realize that the way they think is going to be different, not bad, but different. That affects how they spend their time, their moods, their food choices, the attention they receive from other women and the activities they choose to participate in. Let’s take a close look at what you can prepare yourself for in order to have a healthy relationship with an athlete.
The Upsides of Men Who Train
There’s one obvious upside to dating athletes which is that they will probably be very attractive. Since they train more than the average human, they may have chiselled abs and a pronounced jaw line which will make him easy on the eyes. Besides physical appearance, athletes are often very driven people who will excel at whatever they do because they are competitive and self motivated. You may find yourself getting more passionate about your dreams by seeing how dedicated they are to theirs!
Athlete’s usually will have a very strict lean diet to be able to perform at a high level. They may restrict calories or stay away from sugar and alcohol. Many athletes avoid grains, dairy and gluten as well. The healthy diet can rub off on you and help you learn about how to keep your body running optimally. If you aren’t familiar with healthy eating, you may get frustrated because your body might be addicted to cheeseburgers and processed foods. This can be a hurdle to overcome because it takes some time for your taste buds to enjoy natural foods because the flavors that are created in a lab, mask the natural flavor of food in your brain. Just tell him to be patient with you as you do your best and be patient with yourself. Try not to pressure him to eat fast food and check with him before you go cooking a meal for him because you don’t want to be offended when he kindly declines.
Don’t Feel Insecure About Your Body
If he uses his body as a tool to make his living, of course he will be in peak condition. If you work at an office, you may not have time to workout 3-6 hours each day and keep up with his rigorous training regimen. That can lead to insecurities about your own body but just notice them when they come up and remember it’s not your body that is important, it’s how you treat him and how you continue to be yourself. Don’t obsess over your body just because he’s an athlete, just pursue what you love and stay healthy! Look at this insecurity as a growth opportunity to become more confident in who you are. Remember, he may not always be in perfect shape. Our bodies change depending on what is going on in our lives and if he gets injured, he might not be able to stay in perfect shape so it’s important to like him for who he is, not what he looks like.
Don’t Put Up With Their Ego
We all know some athletes can have an ego that’s larger than life which keeps them aggressive in their game but can be hard to handle in a more personal setting. If he is constantly bragging about himself and making you feel ‘small’ don’t put up with it. He should make you feel comfortable and treat you with respect just like anyone else.
Don’t Change Your Whole Life For Him
Don’t let go of your dreams to date an athlete. Remember that relationships can be temporary and you don’t want to lose sight of what you have worked hard for because you’re a little star struck. Don’t let him convince you that his career is more important than yours. Even if he makes more money than you, you need to grow as a person and follow your passions to be happy. Happiness doesn’t come from money.
Be prepared for him to train a lot on a daily basis. He may not be one to sit around and hang out a lot like other guys. He is probably a busy guy and will protect his sleep as well. If you feel like he doesn’t have time for you just realize that what he is doing is a huge commitment and you shouldn’t ask him to change his training because you’re feeling lonely. Just accept that you may not have the same type of relationship you’re used to which doesn’t make it bad. Make sure, before you guys get attached that you can handle a lifestyle that might be totally different than your own.
Be Prepared For Exhaustion and Elation
Training and playing sports is very demanding of the mind and body. At night, he may be wiped out and not have much energy to share with you. Try not to get mad at him for that. You may also see that he has extreme highs and lows depending on if his career is going well or not and if his team is winning or losing. Just know this comes with the territory and try to support him. Don’t let him mistreat you though, even if he loses a game.
Don’t Become Jealous
Be aware that he WILL get more attention from women and all different people because he is an athlete. Don’t be intimidated by this because if you were an athlete, you would get the same attention. Jealousy doesn’t look good on anyone, it pushes him away from you and just remember, he is lucky to have you! Support him and be excited for his success! Remember his job is very challenging and the more you can motivate him with positive words the stronger he will be.
Don’t Be Starstruck, Take Your Time Getting To Know Him
If an athlete shows interest in you, remember that they are probably used to girls throwing themselves at him so just take your time getting to know him. Make sure you don’t think of him as any better than anyone else and give him an opportunity to prove that he is considerate and not just into himself. Save yourself the heartache and make sure he is genuine before you even consider a relationship!
You can definitely grow a lot when you date an athlete. Do take your time to make sure they deserve you. Be patient as you adjust to his lifestyle. You will love a man who can keep up with you too!