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    What To Do When Your Man Starts Taking You For Granted

    By on September 6, 2016

    Relationships are definitely difficult, and there’s plenty of problems that can arrise. But one thing you should never settle for is being taken for granted. That’s one of the worst feelings in the world, and nobody should ever feel that way from their partner. Fix this situation with one of these 11 things to do when your man starts taking you for granted.

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    1. Make Yourself Busy

    If he is taking you for granted, you need to start worrying less about him and focus more on yourself. That being said, pursue your passions! Go out and do something nice for yourself, like getting your nails done or your hair done. Take up that dance class or art class. Do things for YOURSELF and keep yourself as busy as possible.

    2. Forget About His Birthday

    His big day is coming up, and maybe BEFORE you had big plans to make him feel special. But why should you go out of your way to make him feel great when he’s making you feel so insignificant? Forget about his birthday. He will be mad, but maybe this is what you need to do to show him he doesn’t deserve anything special until he starts treating you right.

    3. Hang Out with Your Gal Pals More

    So he didn’t make plans for the two of you this weekend- who cares! Go hang out with your girlfriends and have an absolute blast. When he calls you last minute to hang out on Saturday night, simply let him know you’ve already made plans with your gals.

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    4. Cancel on Him

    If he is always expecting you to make time for him when he wants to do something last minute, then you need to CANCEL on HIM. Let him know you’re not just waiting around for him when he snaps his fingers and expects you to show. Let him know you’ve got a life of your own and you’re not going to be taken for granted and then be expected to show up on every date. YOU call the shots!

    5. Hang Out with Your Guy Pals

    Your boyfriend won’t take you somewhere you want to go? He’s not giving you the attention and affection you deserve? I’m sure there’s a few guy friends of yours that would love to take you out and make you the center of attention. Make it an innocent hangout with a guy friend, and let your guy know why you’ve decided to hang out with him instead. This is a surefire way to let him know you’re tired of being taken for granted and he can either step up or let another man do the job.

    6. Don’t Tell Him Everything

    Maybe you just got a new promotion- DON’T TELL HIM. Let it come into the conversation casually a few days later. He will be surprised when you tell him, but you can just let him know that he didn’t seem too interested so you didn’t think it would matter much anyways.

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    7. Don’t Put Out

    Ladies, if he is taking you for granted, absolutely do not put out! He doesn’t deserve to explore your mind, body, and soul, unless he is treating you the way you deserve to be treated- hands down.

    8. Make Him Make the First Move

    He is probably used to YOU making all the moves, whether it is in private or in public. If you’re always reaching for his hand to hold when the two of you go out, DON’T. Let him hold YOUR hand. When you’re hanging on the couch watching a movie, make him kiss YOU first. Don’t do anything to him and he will get the hint real fast that he needs to step it up.

    9. Go on a Trip By Yourself

    Before, you may have wanted to go on a trip with your boyfriend. But your boyfriend simply isn’t treating you right, and you need a break. You need to focus on yourself and pamper yourself. So go ahead and take a trip by yourself. He will be shocked that he wasn’t invited, but you can let him know exactly why he won’t be accompanying you on this little vacation.

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    10. Talk To Him

    The best way to get through to someone and solve an issue is to TALK TO THEM. They may NEVER know what they’re doing wrong unless you speak up! Have a deep, heart to heart conversation with your man and see if the two of you can come to a conclusion about what needs to be changed and fixed. He may be very apologetic and completely unaware, and fix the way he is treating you immediately.

    11. Dump Him

    You know what? If all else fails, you need to dump him! Don’t waste your time with someone who is taking you for granted when you can be with someone who treats you like a precious jewel.

    22 Comments

    1. Ankita

      April 19, 2018 at 2:43 pm

      My boyfriend.. He chased me for mre dn years.. N whn I told him yes.. He was good for 1year..now he taking me granted n he is not even accepting it.. He ignores me Al the tym.. He dnt call me.. Nor txt me. N whn I complain he just tell me you cn break up with me.. But seriously I really love him n cnt live without him.. But now he dnt need me.. Tell me what should I do

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 19, 2018 at 10:31 pm

        He no longer is treating you with respect. He is not interested in continuing to nourish this relationship. He is choosing to harm you and he does not regret his actions. Allow thoughts of him to fade. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere. It will benefit you to leave an emotional neglectful and abusive relationship. Have a great day, Ankita!

      • Andrea

        May 19, 2018 at 7:03 am

        My boyfriend has been taking me for granted for 5 months. Every time I ask him to take me places, he always come up with excuses. He I’d always busy with work, sports or his friends. He stops helping out and around the house. There are things in the house that have been broken for months and need to be repaired and he hasn’t done them yet til now. He even refused to get groceries. When I complained, he said that I was always nagging and over reacting. The last straw was when I had a birthday. I was off work that day and I asked him to take a day off do we could spend quality time together as we haven’t done it for months, but he refused. I was disappointed and feeling rejected which led us into a fight. So he decided to “punish” me by not coming home at all and I had to spend my birthday and day off on my own. I’m so hurt at this moment that I feel like breaking it off. We’ve Bern together for 3 years end he was very attentive, loving and caring instill about 5 months ago.

        • web admin

          web admin

          May 19, 2018 at 1:50 pm

          He has chosen to neglect you and ignore your feelings. He may no longer be willing to treat you with the respect that you deserve. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. If he ignores you or treats you poorly, then you are aware that this relationship is no longer viable. Strengthen your relationships with your family and friends. Have a great day, Andrea!

    2. Fatima

      April 8, 2018 at 5:00 pm

      My boyfriend spend time with his friends more then the way we use too
      No sex for month now
      I always make the moves privately or publicly holding his arms kissing him
      He always push back
      I ask him what the problem is ,He will always tell me nothing is wrong and I love u
      But I still feel like there is something going on

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 8, 2018 at 10:10 pm

        His behaviors may be influenced by a variety of forces. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what actions you believe are appropriate. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Fatima!

    3. anwesha

      March 3, 2018 at 10:24 pm

      since a few days my boyfriend is kind of ignoring me….dont know what to do..all my friends are telling me to move on and break up with him,,but i really cant..i love him so much…still he goes on ignoring me

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 5, 2018 at 1:43 pm

        Your friends have hared their insights with you. He is ignoring you. It sounds as though this relationship is at a point where it may end shortly. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Anwesha!

    4. Yhan

      January 6, 2018 at 8:26 am

      In my case, im always the first one who makes moves to fixed our problem, im the one who sacrifice, who understand and yet, he dont appreciate it. He always told me how much he loves me , after that, we fight again and again over petty things.i love him very much thats why i dont have the courage to leave him, because i dont see myself with other guy .

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 6, 2018 at 6:15 pm

        Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Determine what actions you believe are appropriate for this relationship. Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Yhan!

    5. Brenda Forbes

      December 22, 2017 at 2:51 pm

      My boyfriend and I decide on things together until his brother and him hang out, than my boyfriend totally switches on me about every thing what should I do?

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 23, 2017 at 6:44 pm

        Speak directly and honestly with him about your thoughts and feelings. Speak with him alone, as he may be more interested being more direct and honest. His relationship with him brother is also important to him. It is important that you give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Brenda!

    6. Johnson

      October 22, 2017 at 9:33 pm

      Me and my boyfriend have two kids together but we aren’t staying together yet we were before but some things happen but anyways he doesn’t want me to work he wants me to be at home wife . Yes he plans to marry me soon , but another problem is I feel like I’m always wrong with him I feel like I’m being taking for granted like my feelings and emotions don’t matter to much anymore and when I do express myself he barely listens or he says that he can’t deal with how I feel basically..when I text him bout how I feel he forgets to reply or he will call me once when he has made me feel some type of way and then he will blame me for being emotional
      .. can someone help i am always their for him I’m always texting and calling him.. whenever he needs my ear I’m their .. I never forget to text or call him back .. I am at home with two kids so ion do much of anything but sit in house .. I need help because this relationship is making me bitter and I’m sad depressed and feeling taken for granted it’s starting to become overwhelming. He basically blames me for how he treats and does me .

      • web admin

        web admin

        October 23, 2017 at 8:53 pm

        It sounds as though your partner does not respect you and treats you poorly. Take this time to determine if you want to continue this relationship. Spend additional time with your family and close friends. Speak directly and honestly with your boyfriend about your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck, Johnson!

    7. bae

      March 18, 2017 at 4:58 am

      People soon often get irritated by love nd affection … Someday they will realize our importance ..life is too short plz dnt get waste it by getting ignored

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 18, 2017 at 6:59 am

        Thank you for sharing your positive insight. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Bae!

    8. bae

      March 18, 2017 at 4:58 am

      People soon often get irritated by love nd affection … Someday the will realize our importance ..life is too short plz dnt get waste it by getting ignored

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 18, 2017 at 6:58 am

        Thank you for sharing your positive insight. Please feel free to share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future. Have a great day, Bae!

    9. bae

      March 18, 2017 at 4:56 am

      Thank you…

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 18, 2017 at 6:58 am

        Thank you for your comment. Have a great day, Bae!

    10. felecia kofa

      January 30, 2017 at 4:22 am

      I am fixing a very serious problem in my relationship and really need your help how to go about.

      • web admin

        web admin

        January 30, 2017 at 12:33 pm

        Feel free to ask your question! Have a great day, Felecia!

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