Are We Dating? Signs You’re Actually Dating Someone

By on April 29, 2017

Are you dating, or just hooking up? Have a  look at the signs below to figure out if he just want you for the booty calls and late night hook-ups or if he’s actually into you.

He Takes You On Dates

He doesn’t just call you at six pm to tell you he’s coming over – he invites you out for dinner, takes you to the movies and hangs out with you in public. In other words, he’s taking you out for dates as he enjoys spending time with you outside the bedroom.

He Spends the Night

After getting hot and heavy with you he doesn’t just up and leave – he spends the night with you, or let you stay the night at his place. He might even make you breakfast or take you out for breakfast the next morning. Oh and he’s cuddly. Totally cuddly.

He Introduces You to His Friends

He doesn’t just spend time with you, he invites his friends to spend time with you as well. This is a clear sign he’s showing you off, unless you’re friends with benefits, because then, well, then you’re still just a friend…


Public displays of affection (PDA) come natural to the two of you. You don’t only kiss and hold hands behind closed doors, but when out in public too. If you bump into friends when out, he doesn’t suddenly jump away from you and start acting all weird either: he firmly holds you just as close as when you were alone.


He doesn’t just text you when he’s turned on – he texts you to say good morning, good night and all sorts of cute things in between. He’s sweet. And he can’t stop talking to you. A sure sign he’s into you.

He Shares His Feelings

He shares his feelings with you when something happens in his life. He calls you just to tell you he did well at something, or calls you to get your support when he’s had a shit day. He’s not just in it for the sex – he’s in it for the emotions too.

He Talks About the Future

If he randomly starts talking about vacations you could go on, or that Christmas market you should visit two months for now…well, he clearly sees you as a part of his life! And it’s also very clear that he wants to spend time with you and share experiences with you.

He’s Being Cute

Does he constantly compliment you? Buy you little gifts, or leave you cute notes? Does he want to cuddle you rather than leave bed? If he is becoming increasingly cute, as opposed to sexual, chances are he has feelings for you. Which means he wants to date you, even if he isn’t right now. Unless, of course, his life is in some sort of flux and he doesn’t want to date anyone right now, feelings, or no feelings.

He Pays the Bill

To be frank most men above a certain age (the age when they start making decent enough money) pay the bill, but they’re more likely to offer to pay it if it’s a date, as opposed to a friendly meet up.

He’s Being a Gentleman

Does he hold the door for you? Offer to carry your bags? Pull out the chair for you? Then in all likelihood he’s trying to impress you. And if you’re already hooking up, he doesn’t need to impress you to get you in bed, which means he’s impressing you for some other reason. Of course, some men are just like that, just as some men give one hundred compliments to everyone around on a daily basis, meaning nothing with it. However, if he’s being a gentleman it’s probably yet another sign that he’d want to date you, or already thinks he’s dating you.

He Isn’t Seeing Anyone Else

If he’s stopped using Tinder and Match, he doesn’t go on other dates and he doesn’t seem to be looking for other dates, then he might just think he’s dating you! Exclusively.

The only reason this might not be the case is if he’s insanely busy and doesn’t want to date. He just wants a friend with benefits, or he wants to hook up whenever he feels like it, as opposed to seeing someone regularly. In that case, even if you’re the only one, it’s not a sign he wants to date you.

He Sees You a Lot

He doesn’t just see you once a week for sex, he plans to meet up with you in advance and you find yourself spending almost every night with him.

He Introduces You to His Family

If he takes you to meet his family and introduces you as his date…well, then he sees you as his date!

He Takes You on a Romantic Weekend Away

He doesn’t just take you to a hotel for sex, he plans a weekend he knows you’ll love. A sure fire sign that he cares about you.

He Reveals His Innermost Thoughts

He shares with you things he finds hard to share; things only a close friend would normally get to hear from him. Normally you don’t sit down and talk about deep, intimate, subjects with someone whom you’re just hooking up with.

So, if he’s doing late night talks with you where he reveals his innermost secrets, well, you mean more to him than a regular hook-up would. Unless, of course, it’s a once off after a bottle of wine…

He’s Jealous

When you go out together he prevents any other guy from getting near you. And if someone tries, it ruffles his feathers and he turns slightly green from jealousy.

On nights when you tell him you’re going out partying with the girls, or hanging out with other guys, he’s just a little bit too curious about what you’re going to do, or what you got up to. He may even try to convince you to come to his place afterwards, just to make sure that’s where you end the night…

He Shows You Off

If he starts parading you up and down the street, looking like he’s the proudest peacock around, then you know he wants to be seen with you by his side. As your date. You don’t usually show off people you randomly hook up with.

He Is Supportive

He wants to know how you did with that assignment at work and sends you encouraging messages before some ordeal or other you have to deal with. He may even show up to be by your side. Now that’s either serious friendship, or a serious crush.

He Doesn’t Mind Your Things Getting Mixed Up

You have a bottle of shampoo at his place and some wardrobe items. He’s claimed a drawer at your place to leave some of his clothes for when he stops by unplanned. By the looks of things you’re practically living at each other’s places.

He Calls You for Other Things Than Hook-Ups

He’s had a rough day and wants to see you, but he doesn’t want sex.

He calls you to talk about his new boss, instead of doing a booty call.

He comes round to your place to watch Netflix and cuddle, but isn’t in the mood for sex.

Either you’re friends with benefits, or he’s into you in more ways than one.

Your Emotions Don’t Freak Him Out

A man who doesn’t want to get emotionally involved usually doesn’t like a display of emotions, be it over your bad day at work, or your problems with your family. He will freak at the sign of emotions because he doesn’t want you to have them for him.

If, on the other hand, he’s totally cool with you being all emotional about things, chances are he’ll be totally cool about you having emotions for him too.

If you can show him how much you care for him, call him to talk about anything, and snuggle up with him just because, chances are you’re dating, not just hooking up.

He Says Uncomfortable Things

If you’re way out of your mind when it comes to something and he sits you down to talk about it in a supportive manner, knowing full well that you might end up getting your feathers ruffled and not like him very much for it he cares. He cares because he’s willing to do something uncomfortable to make you see reason.

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