10 Signs of a Committed Relationship
At one point or another, every woman (or man!) in a relationship wonders about the level of commitment. Is it the real thing, or just a summertime fling headed towards an end? Watch for these 10 signs of a committed relationship to assess whether or not your significant other means business or not.
1. Being Honest-100 Percent of the Time
Honesty is crucial in a relationship, we all know that. But it’s even more important in a truly committed relationship. Your partner should be able to tell you the worst of the worst and feel comfortable doing so- even if it means coming clean to losing their job, being diagnosed with a severe illness, or even cheating.
2. Loyalty, Even When It’s Tough
We’ve all been in those situations where we’ve been tempted by a stunning woman or obnoxiously handsome man. And while someone who’s not in a committed relationship may stray for their desires to be met, someone who is fully committed will be able to resist the urge and head back to their partners, knowing their true love for them.
3. Talking it Out
Much like loyalty, honesty, and respect, communication is incredibly important in a committed relationship. Communication should be comfortable and happening at all times- from small talk at the lunch table to more serious conversations when needed. They key here is comfort and being able to talk through problems, instead of keeping important things inside and letting them ruin the relationship in time.
4. Meeting the Best Friends & Fam Bam
Let’s face it: nobody wants to bring their fling home to meet the family, so if you haven’t at least met your partners friends yet, it may be time to worry. When a man or woman feels committed to you and think you may be the one, they’ll be happy- and honored- to introduce you to their friends and family.
5. Talking In Terms of ‘We’
That is the goal, right? To become a couple and think of ‘we’ instead of ‘me’. If your partner discusses things that effect the two of you rather than himself alone, you’re definitely involved with someone who is committed. This could be something as simple as where his new job may take the two of you to actually moving in together.
6. Being There No Matter What
Your partner should be there for you no matter what- in your times of struggle, in your times of happiness- nothing should break your bond. If your partner is willing to ditch you after the first crises arises, it only shows he wasn’t committed.
7. Showing Love
If you love someone, you want to show them, right? That’s exactly the point of this sign of a committed relationship. If they truly care for you, they should shower you with love- even if it’s just a lovely love poem or roses here and there. As long as you’re showing your gratitude for the other person, it’s a win.
8. Moving In Together
One of the biggest steps a couple can make: moving in together. This is an obvious sign of commitment for obvious reasons. After all, the two of you are now bonded to a single place together and will be around each other a large percentage of the time. You’ll have to learn to deal with problems in terms of ‘we’, you’ll have to take the others consideration when it comes to decorating and house guests, and so much more.
9. Making Time
We all have commitments we must attend to- school, work, family- but if your partner is constantly making up excuses not to see you or never makes any time to spend with you, the commitment may not be there. In a committed relationship, the two will want to see each other as much as possible and even during hectic times they still find time- even if it means only a quick coffee downtown for a half an hour or a quick movie date.
10. The Proposal
Ah, the marriage proposal. Does this really need any explanation? If he proses, he is obviously very committed to you and wants to prove his love and loyalty to you. There is truly no better way to tell if someone is committed than with the act of marriage.
Don’t let your head spin with constant wonders about whether or not your partner is committed to your relationship. Simply asses each of the above listed signs of a committed relationship and see if, in fact, any of these pertain to you. If you find none of them do, you might want to have a one on one conversation with your lover to see where they stand. It’s better to simply ask your partner about what’s bothering you then letting it drive you mad on the inside.