7 Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

By on August 20, 2015

It’s the words nobody wants to hear: “I don’t love you anymore”. Yes, it’s heartbreaking, and it will probably leave you feeling crushed, disappointed, and beyond sad for several weeks. But knowing the signs before it gets to that point can really help you out and prepare you for an inevitable terrible conversation and breakup.

1. He Doesn’t Talk as Much
I’m sure you and your partner are used to talking for hours on end, even about the most random conversations. You’d spend all day texting each other (even though you might be at work or school!) and chatting on the phone until the wee hours of the morning. But suddenly that’s stopped. Suddenly he barely ever responds to your texts, or sends a one word answer. He never calls, and he seems incredibly distant when the two of you talk face to face. Sure, there might be some troubling times going on in his life, but that’s no excuse to completely cut the communication- especially if he’s not giving you an incredibly good reason for his behavior.

2. He’s Not Interested in You
Remember when he used to compliment your gorgeous hairstyle or new dress? Remember when he would ask you out to see a movie he knew you’d adore or take you to that restaurant you can’t get enough of? It seems like lately you could change your hair from blonde to purple and blue and he wouldn’t take a second look. In fact, he’s acting completely disinterested in everything about you. He doesn’t even ask about your day or how you’re feeling!


3. He Doesn’t Care About What You’re Doing Without Him
When you’re in a relationship, you always wonder what he or she is doing when you’re not around, and you definitely don’t want your partner living it up at the club or getting knocked-out-cold drunk at a party without you. But if he suddenly seems to not worry OR care about what you are doing or who you are doing it with, this is a BIG red flag.

4. He’s Busy All the Time
A man will ALWAYS make time for his lady. I don’t care if he’s working 80 hours a week, going to college full time, and working on his car in his spare time. He WILL make time for you, even if it’s just a few hours here and there. But oh, wait, he suddenly can’t find a few minutes to come see his girlfriend? Definitely something wrong with this picture. Remember girls, if there is a WILL there is a WAY. And if you’re man is constantly giving you excuses as to why he can’t hang out or is too busy to even respond to your messages, it may be a sign he’s fallen out of love with you. (Why would you want to stay with someone who has no time for you anyways, right?)

5. He’s Argumentative
Every relationship has arguments; trust me, I know that. But if every little thing turns into an instant argument, this is definitely a problem (for more reason than one!). Pay attention to what he’s getting irritated or angry about. If a simple “Hey honey how was your day?” is sending him into a fury, this could certainly be a sign he’s not into you like he used to be. And arguing that much just really sucks, so I’d probably suggest leaving him before he leaves you.

6. He Stops Doing the ‘Little Things’
Whether you have been dating a month, a year, or 38 years, the little things are important in a relationship. They are the things that make your partner feel extra special and show them how much you care about them. Now, I understand not all guys will do the little things (ever), but if your man has been notorious for showing you he cares via ‘little things’ and suddenly stops doing it, he’s either falling out of love with you or needs a friendly reminder you miss it. If the little things have slowed down considerably, bring it up to him and gage his reaction. If he’s incredibly sorry and wanting to start back up right away, then he probably just got lazy. If he’s defensive and doesn’t want to continue, he may have fallen out of love.
7. The Flame Has Died Off
No longer holding hands. Kisses feel awkward. Romance in the bedroom? Forget about it! If the two of you have completely lost your spark, this could be a major sign he’s ditching the love scene. I mean, what’s a good, loving relationship without sparks? Sounds like a dull flame that needs water thrown on it immediately!

Falling out of love is hard, especially when you’re the one still swimming in hearts and romance. Have you ever been in this heartbreaking situation? What were the signs?



  1. Rita

    October 6, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    I met this guy online and I felt so happy, he was everything I could’ve dreamed of. He loved everything about me and he made me feel wanted again. We haven’t met but we’ve been talking for 2 years now; we are planning on meeting next summer since he is in a different country. Since about May of 2016, he stopped caring as much as he used to. He doesn’t reply my text messages sometimes and he doesn’t compliment me as much as he used to. If I send him pictures, he doesn’t say anything about them…he ignores it. He never asks me about my day and when I try to talk to him about his day, he is really short with me. He still tells me he loves me, he still gets jealous if I post pictures with my male friends and he always says he can’t wait to see me. But our conversations are forced and i’m the only one putting in any effort. We are both in school so the workload and the time difference plays a role in when we talk but we used to stay up for hours and talk even when we have class the next day. The last time we talked, he wasn’t paying any attention to what I was saying. He was playing a video game and he wouldn’t reply whenever I asked him a question, it was cringy. I don’t know what is going on, I’m trying.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 6, 2016 at 3:59 pm

      The workload and time difference could be the reason why it is more difficult to stay in touch now. Plus, there is normally an infatuation stage that lasts for up to the first year where couples end up spending all of their time together. Now that you are leaving this stage, it could just be a natural change in your relationship. It is also possible that he is growing tired of the long distance aspect, so that could be an issue. Only he can really say what is going on in his mind though. :( Good luck, Rita–I hope that everything ends up working out for you guys!

  2. mary

    August 30, 2016 at 8:48 am

    one word answers……if u dnt contact him he doesn’t bother he humiliates you in public freely talks about your sex scenes to others. he doesn’t respect you or care about you .gossips about you. comes when he needs help.these are all horrible signs.and you spend the rest of ur time wondering what’s wrong with me?.what is it tht the other girl has am I too loose tht I let him touch me?.or was I destined to be worthless and rejected Everytym?.those are questions u ask urself over and over again and u feel bitter and ur heart starts hurting and sinking in ur chest.but someday someone will love you dearly coz u worthy

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 30, 2016 at 12:35 pm

      These are stirring questions. What is most important is to realize that you should always respect yourself. Nothing anyone else does to you should make you lose your self respect. You are never worthless, loose, or bad. Anytime someone makes you feel this way on purpose, it is up to you to realize that they are the one who is immoral and bad. Remain positive as you move forward.

  3. Maris

    August 2, 2016 at 7:18 pm

    I’m not sure if my boyfriend is falling out of love but the signs are actually there 5/7 he’s too busy with his work, spend too much with his friends, and he doesn’t comfort or annoy me anymore whenever I’m sad or feel like not ok the routines we had before has changed. He doesn’t call me oftentimes now he doesn’t ask me how I am. I asked him if he’s falling out of love but he told me he still love me. And now I’m loosing my mind about this situation it feels like I’m not happy anymore with this but I’m afraid of losing him, I love him soo much.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 2, 2016 at 10:40 pm

      If he is no longer showing you affection, then you are correct in reading the signs that are there. Speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If he does not understand your needs, then you know that your relationship must come to an end. Take this time to look inward and determine what you want for your future. If you think that you can take action to reconnect with him, and you want to, then make an attempt as you see fit. Remain positive as you move forward.

  4. Kelly Burley

    July 26, 2016 at 4:14 pm

    My boyfriend passed his driving test about a month ago. Before this, he used to message me and ring me 24/7 and get upset with my if i didnt reply in a couple minutes. He used to show he loves me. When he passed his driving test was the first day he took ages to reply. He started going out and hardly talking to me. I cried to him on the phone that it was difficult for me and we arranged a time in which he would ring me every night. He did this once. For the past month i have been the one texting to hardly ever get a reply. I NEVER get my promised phone call. Every night he apologises and every night he has a new excuse and the same thing happens the next day. Ive tried multiple times to talk to him about it, i’ve cried to him, told him i cant put up with it much longer but nothing changes. We don’t live close to eachother (about 100 miles apart) but we usually see eachother every weekend. We havent seen eachother in 3 weeks because his work shifts are so long and he “would be tired after”, yet he spent every moment he could with his friends – i just didnt see the point in making the journey to not spend time with him. He argues with me everytime i point out that im not happy and tries to justify his actions. Now, if i dont text him or ring him, we dont talk at all because he’s “busy” with his friends. Despite all of this, he still claims he loves me at the end of every phone call and hangs up when i say i dont believe him. He still claims he cares, yet when i ring him crying, he asks to talk another time when i’m not crying because he’s “busy”. He’s gone from the type of boyfriend that all of my friends wanted to the boyfriend that they wont stop telling me to leave yet he claims ive done nothing to provoke his behaviour.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 26, 2016 at 7:56 pm

      It is clear that he is choosing to ignore you and push you aside. Speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If he chooses to accept your feelings, then he will make a strong determination to be better toward you. If he does not decide to treat you the way that you need to be treated, then it would be best for you to end your relationship. At that time, you can look inward and determine where you want your future to go. Keep your head up and be bold.

  5. bs

    July 26, 2016 at 1:59 pm

    I met the funniest kindest man almost a year a go… it felt like a fairytale the way he made me feel, I couldn’t believe that this man loved me so much…too much. Contact texting calling me for no reason, we would spend hours on the phone laughing and talking about nonsense. He wasn’t shy about letting everyone know how much he loved me. I still feel in love and overwhelmed just as much if not more… but even though he still tells me he loves me I feel it’s just not the same for him… he doesn’t make time for me anymore, well not as much he’s always busy…the texts feel forced and don’t flow like they used too. He’s always tired. .. he makes me feel like I’m intruding when I call him so I’ve stopped as much… then out the blue he will be all loving again… doesn’t last though. We quickly go back to him picking at me. And making me feel unworthy of anything… this is a problem because I don’t know where I stand anymore and it consumes my mind.. can’t concentrate on anything when he’s like this. Lately all the sweet chat we used to have feels forced and not genuine…bi know what is happening I’m not stupid I just don’t know how to cope when all I want is the man I fell in love with back.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 26, 2016 at 7:53 pm

      If you are concerned that he does not share your feelings anymore, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Your best option is to be sure that you speak with him. If he shares your concerns, then he will make an effort to change his ways. If he does not listen to you, then you know that your relationship is over. Remain positive as you move forward and look inward to determine your future.

  6. Helena

    July 24, 2016 at 10:31 am

    I am with someone who was previously in a 10-year relationship. Our relationship started great, and we were open to talking about a possible future (I was initially unsure whether I could see one with him, which I expressed, while he wanted to eventually live together and settle). It’s been a year, and I can see a future with him. He, however, is unsure if he does. He has even said he thinks he loves me, but isn’t sure of that either. He has gotten colder as well but I know his work has become more stressful lately. I don’t know what to do in terms of staying with him. Will our relationship work? I can’t seem to act like how things were before. I have tried talking to him but he said it is his problem and he doesn’t know the cause for his feelings. I am heartbroken.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 25, 2016 at 10:32 pm

      Speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. If you are concerned that he does not want to put forth the effort to establish a future with you, then let him know that you can not remain in a relationship that is insecure. He will either respect your directness and make a decision, or he will continue to remain without making up his mind. Be clear about what your needs are. Take his feelings at their word and take the action that you need to take.

  7. busybee

    July 22, 2016 at 11:11 am


    • web admin

      web admin

      July 23, 2016 at 4:16 pm

      You have been through an emotional struggle with your ex. I am sorry that you had to deal with someone cheating for so long. If you are able to leave him in your past and take care of your children, then that would be the best option. What is most important is your intellectual and emotional security. Remain positive as you move forward and determine to take care of yourself and your children. If you must speak with him, then do so honestly and directly. There is no time for indirect communication with someone who chose to act in such a manner toward you.

  8. Cj

    June 21, 2016 at 7:55 pm

    I’ve been in a relationship for 5 yrs and pretty much all of these signs are there. Whenever I’ve tried talking to him he gets furious and says how many times do we have to have the same discussion, that he loves me more than ever and doesn’t want to end the relationship. However none of his actions have changed if anything they’ve gotten worse. If I text it’s common for him to nvr read it let alone respond. We pretty much nvr have sex and he won’t confide in me. Or talk to me about things that are “stressing him” he says its bc he’s so stressed. He’s always getting mad at me even for things that I try to do to help. I know all the signs are there but it’s so hard bc I still love him so much plus we both have kids which also makes it hard bc it effects them as well.he says when the stressed in his life get better things will get better I just don’t know how long is too long and if I’m just fooling myself

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 22, 2016 at 9:46 pm

      If you have found that your relationship has become unmanageable and her refuses to change, then it is time to look for a way to end the relationship. There is no reason for you to torture yourself for someone who refuses to listen to you. Try again to have a serious conversation with him and explain that it is a matter of respect at this point, and if he chooses to continue to ignore your concerns, then it is time to end the relationship. Be firm.

  9. joy

    June 7, 2016 at 3:06 am

    I really don’t know if my boyfriend is falling out of love he doesn’t text me frequently like before he rarely calls me and whenever we chat he would tell me he is tired because of work I just feel a lot of loneliness in me have tried explaining this but he doesn’t seem to listen what should I do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 8, 2016 at 9:29 am

      He may just be bad at texting or calling, or he could be extra busy right now because of work. He told you that he is tired from work, so that would probably be the reason. If you are still worried about his behavior, try talking to him about it again. Let him know that you appreciate his texts and calls, and for you, they equate to how much he loves you. Hopefully, he will be a little less busy so that he can call you more frequently. Good luck, Joy!

  10. Tiki

    June 6, 2016 at 1:12 pm

    My story is little awkward, I have never shared my personal life online before.

    We met in NL, then we got along well, we skyped a lot, it was obvious we liked each other much. We met in another country again after. From my studies I got scholarship to do internship in any EU countries, so I found a project and moved to NL.

    We started living together, it was very quick, we were good in all ways, I was very understandable and he was caring. Sometimes we had hard times, because it was not easy for me to adapt again another situation of life, however, i was very motivated. He was sometimes angry at me for small reasons and was very impulsive. I was not arguing, I was quit and listening to him. He tried his best to bring flowers or so, but when we were at home, in the evenings, he was not giving us time.. he was interested more into news, games etc. Then he became distanced and I felt myself blocked out, I was not myself anymore. I had weird feeling if i was about to hold him, that i was bother him. is that healthy? I don’t think so..

    The day i finished internship he left me, saying he can’t be happy if he does not make me happy. He said, he could not handle if my face could not be smily and sad at times (when he rejected me to hold him for example)
    I think he simply did not love me. And I let him go… it was hard!..it is hard..

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 7, 2016 at 6:54 pm

      That does sound very hard. It sounds like he gradually started to drift away from you and fall out of love. Although you may have been able to change this, it does not sound like there was really anything that you could have done about it. On the bright side, at least you now have a chance to move on and get over him. Hopefully, your next relationship will not be so confusing.

    • sam

      June 21, 2016 at 9:25 am

      I know exactly how you feel. I started off my relationship with someone I studied at college with , who was working overseas. We used to skype, messenger all hours of the day and night. I moved to the country he was in, and suddenly everything became distant. Although he was caring and considerate, he really gave me very little attention in the home. The romance was almost lost. He was more interested in his games, and would spend hours playing games, literally ignoring me. He really spoke to me when it was about him. Eventually after a silly misunderstanding, he finally told me he didn’t care about us, it’s not worth anything to him, that he is happy living a separate life from me. I became very shocked as the truth was uncovered. my heart hurts and i feel ashamed and disappointed that i allowed myself to be led on.

      • web admin

        web admin

        June 21, 2016 at 1:52 pm

        It is better that the truth was revealed as early as it was. Count yourself lucky, many people live entire lives while hiding that secret. It is best to move on and find someone who does care about you.

  11. Mia

    May 27, 2016 at 8:07 am

    I’m in a terrible situation right now. I only knew my boyfriend for 6 months when we moved to a different country together. We are fighting a lot as i am finding the move hard and I am paranoid that he is really frustrated with me for struggling instead of having fun.but we can’t break up because I have no friends or family here and no where to live if not with him.
    If we fight he will go off drinking and invite me but it’s obvious he does not want me to come and if I did it would be super awkward anyway. I don’t drive here and can be dangerous for females to go out alone at night so I’m stuck in the house on these nights thinking and upset while he’s drinking and socializing.
    What we fight about is so small but I will say something and he will roll his eyes or call me strange. It’s so tiny but it makes me feel bad about myself and I feel like he is stuck with me here and he hates it.
    I’m so lonely. He says he hates when I get offended so easily and I know that I do …but I can’t help it!

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 3, 2016 at 1:53 pm

      Have you thought of just moving back to your home country? Moving to another country is difficult, and people experience culture shock in different ways. Rather than stay depressed and lonely inside by yourself, your best bet may be to just move on by moving home. You have already tried talking to him about how you feel, and his response is to just leave and drink with other people. While you could always try taking a taxi somewhere else with friends, it can be hard to find new friends in a foreign country to spend time with. If I were you, I would try talking to him one more time and just move home if you cannot figure everything out.

  12. nomsa

    May 11, 2016 at 11:27 am

    im crazy in love with a married man.always wen I want to end things I doesnt go well .its
    been eight years going around on the same circle.sometimes we broke up for months but always one of us find a way to mend things .then we pick up were we left.I’ve been trying n praying so hard to leave this but it doesn t happened. please help I need n advice.

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 13, 2016 at 9:31 am

      It might be time to stop praying and just leave. You have been together for years and he has never left his wife, so he is not going to do it now. You have wasted so much time on him in the hopes that things will change and you can just be with him, but it does not look like that is ever going to happen. All you can do is cut your losses and move on. If he divorces her in a few years, you can always reconsider coming back. Unless the divorce is finalized and he has moved into his own place, your best course of action is to break up with him and move on to someone who is actually available. Good luck, Nomsa!

  13. Rosey

    May 7, 2016 at 12:08 pm

    These are the exact signs i get from my boyfriend.. We’ve been dating for 5yrs now and we are now in a LDR because of college and him working. Earlier this year we used to text each other non stop, love was there but whenever I was home and wanted to see him he’d say he’s busy i mean we’ve spent 7 Months away from one another but he can’t make time for us, he stoped texting and calling me like he used to he’d take days without checking me up. Whenever I text him It’s like I’m boring him and he’d get mad at me and start an argument.. I stopped texting him and calling him then suddenly he said he doesn’t like the tension between us and he realized how he was treating me and that he was sorry I forgave him things were good for a week between us and then things changed again He stopped texting and calling it was like he was just checking if he still has me in his corner.. I tried several times talking to him about the way i feel, our relationship and how we used to be. But no matter what i say nothing changes. A part of me wants to break up with him and the other part wants to take a break so he can figure out what is it that he wants.. Please tell me what I can do and the best option

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 9, 2016 at 8:25 am

      Hmm . . . he could just be busy, but it sounds like he is already checked out of the relationship. The only reason he calls and tries to make things normal again is to make sure that he still has you as an option if he needs you. It would probably be best if you just broke up with him for good and moved on, but what you do at this point is entirely up to you. Best of luck, Rosey!

  14. lili

    May 5, 2016 at 2:08 am

    hi there, i also have the same problem and most of the signs mentioned above is what i’m experiencing from my boyfriend,he always tells me that he is busy and i always try to understand that, but every time i’m trying to break up with him he tells me that he don’t want a break up but he is very cold to me now not like when we were new, we always chat even he was at work but now he always said he is busy. i tried to break up with him again and he didn’t reply to all messages that i sent him, he said he will better to sleep than arguing with me. what should i do?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 9, 2016 at 7:48 am

      If you want to end things, just tell him it’s over and stop texting him. If he is cold to you and will not even message you about your feelings, then it sounds like it is time to move on. Tell him its over, delete him from your life and move on. Good luck!

  15. kwinny

    May 4, 2016 at 3:43 am

    what does it entails when a guy wants you to come spend weekends with him?

    secondly,a guy that doesn’t call frequently but chats constantly with you

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 9, 2016 at 6:59 am

      If he wants to spend an entire weekend with you, he certainly wants to be more than friends. As for the second question, he may just be bad at talking on the phone. If he always talks to you in person, I would not read too much into his lack of phone calls.

  16. Kaydy Nicole

    April 28, 2016 at 2:37 pm

    I feel as though our spark has left. Kisses are awkward, he doesn’t show any PDA even in private, I barely get a kiss before we lay down for bed, sex is rare and a bit cold. He always turns everything into a fight, he doesn’t do the little things anymore, and he doesn’t care what I do if he isn’t around. He tells me he loves me, but I feel like I have to say it first. If I go in for a hug or kiss, all he does is sigh and begrudgingly kiss or hug me back. He has basically become a touch me not. Are we pretty much over or is there anything I can do to fix this? If I bring it up to him, he gets angry and denies it or blames me for messing up.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 29, 2016 at 8:47 am

      If he is blaming you or getting angry when you try to talk to him, then you should probably just move on. If he wanted to be in the relationship, he would be more loving toward you and care about how you feel. Try to talk to him again, and if that does not help, end the relationship and do not look back. Sometimes, you just have to cut your losses and move on, no matter how hard it is. All of his actions make it sound like he is no longer really in the relationship, so you are the only one who is working on the relationship who cares. Focus on ending the relationship and moving on. Hopefully, your next boyfriend will be more attentive. Good luck, Kaydy Nicole!

  17. Lexi

    April 9, 2016 at 2:59 pm

    I’m not sure if my boyfriend is falling out of love with me, to be quite honest. Some of the signs are here, except a little different in some ways. The part about always being busy.. he has been texting less. When we first began dating, he would always text back within a few minutes, and got upset when I didn’t. But lately his replies have been less active. 20-30 minute late replies, and when I mention something he has an excuse for everything. He says he has been busy with college, and keeping up with recording videos for his YouTube channel, he has also been stressed by his family members. I feel as though our relationship has lost the spark when it comes to kissing, he kisses me less, and for shorter periods of time. We’ve cut back on the sex, because we would have sex like there was no tomorrow, but he’s still open to other things. We hold hands, and he has nothing against that, he’ll also put his arm around me. But his hugs, just like kisses, have grown shorter and colder. I’ve ask him if he’s happy, and having fun, he’ll give me a highly-pitched “yes” or “yeah”. He has always done that, but it doesn’t sound genuine anymore. He doesn’t look at me the same way, doesn’t talk to me the same way. I am slowly losing my mind over this whole situation and I’ve been trying to seek guidance everywhere possible, but I can’t find it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 10, 2016 at 8:25 am

      He says that he is happy–for the moment, just listen to him. It is normal to pass out of the infatuation stage of an early relationship to the affection stage. This normally happens after a few weeks or months of dating. Basically, you are creating a different type of bond that is designed to last longer than the early infatuation of the relationship. At the start of the relationship, it is normal to be more into sex, answering texts and PDA. If you are still worried, just sit him down and talk to him about how you feel. Tell him that you love him and are worried by some of the things he does. Overall, it seems possible that he is losing interest–but, it seems equally likely that he is just busy and the relationship is fine. Unless you have another reason to worry, I would probably just relax and enjoy your relationship. Good luck!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *