20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language

By on September 15, 2013

When it comes to guys… well, let’s just say it can be pretty darn hard to figure out if he’s into a woman or not! At times, men and boys can definitely be hard to read. Their body language is different than ours and it can be troublesome to decode what they are really feeling. After doing some research, it turns out that guys aren’t really that hard to get when it comes to the signals they are sending out… If you know what to look for that is! Here are some tells to look for when it comes to decoding a guy’s body language and what he is really saying. Does he like you or not? Read the following tips to find out:

Sign # 1.) A guy who is interested in you may start touching, twirling or running his hands through his hair while smiling. This could be due to the fact that it’s a habit he has when he gets nervous around a lady, but is still showing strong intrigue. Be careful for head-scratching, tugging or a frown while he’s doing these hair-touching mannerisms, though. Those are two signs that he may be frustrated, confused or bored!


Sign #2.) A man who is licking his lips around you may be secretly signaling that he finds you delectable. Maybe he’s trying to tell you something… Wink, wink. Or, it could mean that lip-licking is another nervous habit he possesses. Sometimes, when people get nervous, their mouths go dry and cause them to lick their lips to keep them hydrated.


Sign #3.) A guy will usually unknowingly display his interest to a woman by directing his entire upper body (chest, head, shoulders) to his crush. He does this to show you that he is interested in only you. He is subtly positioning himself so that others know his attention is directed at one person and he isn’t open for anyone else to talk to steal the conversation at this point.

Sign #4.) You may find a guy is into you by looking to see if he is making consistent eye contact with you for long periods of time (more than 5 seconds!) to connect with you and show you that he is really intent on listening to what you have to say. He’s also focused on trying to get to know more of your body language, too. (Or, he may even just think you have beautiful eyes and can’t look away!)

eye contact

Sign #5.) Really want to find out if someone’s into you? Well, when a guy is attracted and intrigued by a girl, he will raise his eyebrows. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s interested in someone and if he’s talking to you, then you are the one he’s raising them for. Keep your eyes peeled, though, as this gesture is usually a pretty quick and subtle one.


raise his eyebrows

Sign #6.) Primal instincts will kick into a man when he is crushing on a woman. Because of those instincts he will, most likely without realizing it, spread his feet slightly apart and direct his hips and pelvis towards his person of interest. It’s just biological!


Sign #7.) The gesturing of hands is a significant thing to look for when chatting with a guy. If this certain someone digs you, he will use his hands a lot. Guys tend to use their hands to go along with their conversation a ton more when they are talking to a girl they really like. The reason they do this is to make sure you are understanding what they are saying on the same level they do and they are trying very hard to hold your attention to them. Sometimes, though, different people talk differently and not all guys will use large arm and hand gestures.

hand gestures

Sign #8.) To help you figure out if a man is really interested, make sure you are paying close attention to where he is placing both of his hands at all times. It’s more common that when a guy likes a girl, he will place his fingers through his belt loops or hook a finger on his waistband. He may also place his hands on his lap a lot or put them in his pockets. They do this to draw attention to their pelvic area…  I bet you can guess why? Don’t get the wrong idea! Some guys don’t come to a quick realization that they are doing such things with their hands. Once again, primal instinct sets in and forces their body to try to direct their person of interests attention to that area of their body.

hand in pocket

Sign #9.)  A guy who leans in while talking or listening to you is definitely interested in what you are doing and saying. This is a sign that tells you there is no doubt in him liking you. Men, for the most part, don’t like to direct their bodies towards just one person, especially if they aren’t interested. Leaning in is a sign that a man wants to be as close to you as possible.


Sign #10.) Does a guy have no problem placing his arm around your shoulder? Does he take no modesty in touching your arm or knee? Have you had a guy tuck a strand of hair behind your ear or push your hair out of your face? A man who touches you a lot, is only showing that he doesn’t want there to be boundaries between the two of you and wants to get as close to you as possible.

hand on shoulder

Sign #11.) Any guy who offers you his hand while climbing up or down stairs, out of a car, opens doors for you or offers you a sweater or jacket when you’re cold… well, he is totally crushing on you. Men don’t always try to take care of people that they themselves don’t care for. They will only go out of their way to protect and ensure the safety and comfort of people they truly like.


Sign #12.) When a guy digs a girl he will always look at her first after saying or doing something funny or extraordinary. The reason he glimpses at you and awaits your reaction is to see what you think before he looks to see what anyone else thinks. That means your opinion is the most important and he totally is smitten with you.


Sign #13.) Is there a man who tries to quickly smooth out wrinkles when you walk in? Does he fix his tie (if he wears one) or fuss with his hair? He’s trying to make himself presentable for you and that is a definite yes when it comes down to if he likes you or not.


Sign #14.) Look to see if you can catch a guy mirroring your body language as you are talking.  The more he repeats what you do with his own body, the more he’s intent on paying attention to everything about you- from your words to your body. This gesture shows you that he is trying to make you feel more comfortable around him and he wants you to feel familiar with him, as well.

Sign #15.) A man who is trying to impress a girl he likes will suddenly stand up taller when she enters the room or area. He will try to make himself appear stronger, more protective and more masculine by doing this.


Sign #16.) Guys often touch or stroke their face when they are really listening to what you have to say. They are set on taking in the information you are putting out and trying to remember it thoroughly. If you find a guy that is stroking his chin (or beard), cheeks or nose, then he is more than likely into you. And, he’s a total keeper for being a good listener, too!

Sign #17.) Again we loop back to talking about men and their hands. When a guy stretches his hands, especially an upward palm, towards you, it is his way of signaling to you that he wants to get closer to you and for you to get closer to him. It’s almost as if he is putting them out there in a form of asking permission to break personal space.

Sign #18.) When a guy is hardcore into a woman, he will flick his eyes towards her as much as possible. If you catch a man frequently staring at you and darting his eyes away quickly, then he is totally into you. The reason he does this, especially if you are not right next to each other, is to see what you are doing, how you are doing and what you are feeling at this point. He is literally focused on looking out for you.


Sign #19.) If a guy sits next to you and leaves barely mere inches between you, it’s his way of showing you that he’s comfortable around you and likes being near you. Or, if you find him standing next to you, almost in your personal space, he is letting you know that he likes being close to you and prefers it over any other distance apart.

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Sign #20.) Always keep in mind that a man has instincts he isn’t even aware of most of the time. So, if you see a guy puffing out his chest to make it appear bigger and if he’s sucking in his gut, he’s trying to impress you. Some guys may only stick their chests out a little, but it’s still a most definite sign that he’s trying to prove his masculinity and stand out from all of the other guys in the room. He wants to prove to you that he’s the best and that he wants you!



  1. Sophia

    February 6, 2016 at 3:59 pm

    My best friend, (who is a boy) I think likes me. I’m still trying to know if he does bc yesterday at school I pretended like I wasn’t watching him when I believe he was inching his hand toward mine. Also whenever I pass by him he stands up tall. Also, he is ALWAYS the one to start our texting convo and he is also always the one who asks to hang out. Anything else I should look out for??

    • web admin

      February 7, 2016 at 12:15 am

      It sounds like he could be interested in you. Trying to touch your hand, making sure he looks good around you, initiating texts and asking to hang out are all signs that he could be interested. If you still are not sure, we also have an article on Her Interest that covers “How to Tell If a Guy Likes You”. It goes into a lot of the different signs that a guy could be interested, so you could check it and see if it likes you. From your description, it sounds like there is at least an 80 percent chance that he is interested, so it sounds like a promising situation. If you think he does like you, why don’t you ask him on a date? There is no reason why the guy has to make the first move, and you would be able to find out how he feels much faster. Good luck, Sophia!

  2. Janjan

    January 31, 2016 at 2:46 pm

    I also forgot to add that he quietly told me, “You’re a beautiful person”, and sometimes he jokes with me on social media.

    Like this:
    KJ: “…We are all not as talented as you are.”
    Me: “I never said I was!”
    KJ: “I said it, so that’s that.”

    Help? :)

    • web admin

      February 6, 2016 at 9:01 am

      It sounds like he is trying to flirt. Plus, telling you that you are beautiful is a direct way of complimenting you and flirting with you. Have you tried to ask him to hang out outside of work? You guys could grab a cup of coffee together, and it would give him a chance to make a move if that is what he wants. It seems like he likes you, so you just have to find a way to ask him out or get him to ask you out. Good luck!

  3. Janjan

    January 31, 2016 at 2:39 pm

    Thank you for your post! I thought it was good!

    I have a question: If a guy leaned on my shoulder like an ‘armrest’, playfully punched my arm, stares into my eyes for about 4 seconds, and types SUPER fast when I message him, does he like me?

    P.S. We work together in a restaurant.

    I’ve been giving myself doubt that I might be overreacting, but I just wanted to ask the wise of the Web! I mean, he usually replies from one word to one 6 or 7-word sentences; I don’t mean to annoy him by any means!

    Sorry for the long question, but I’m dying to know!

    • web admin

      February 6, 2016 at 9:00 am

      It sounds like he could like you. All of those signs that you mentioned make it seem like he could be interested in you, although nothing is for sure quite yet. He may be afraid to make a move though because he might not want to mess things up in your work relationship. If he asked you out and was rejected, things would become extremely awkward. You might have to encourage him a bit so that he sees that you are interested and would say yes if he asked you out. Good luck, Janjan!

  4. aakriti parashar 0902

    January 30, 2016 at 9:15 pm

    he doesn’t do some signs but he is always around me

    • web admin

      February 6, 2016 at 8:47 am

      He might like you and just be too shy to do anything about it. His feelings are not for sure yet though, so you will have to wait things out and see what happens. Good luck!

  5. aakriti

    January 30, 2016 at 9:13 pm

    he doesn’t do some signs but always around me every time

    • web admin

      February 5, 2016 at 10:31 am

      It looks like you may have commented twice on this one. If you do not see your comment right away, do not worry because you will. I have to approve each comment manually, so it can sometimes take a little while for all of them to be posted. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  6. aakriti

    January 30, 2016 at 9:10 pm

    he doesn’t do some of the signs but when in the recess he is always around and when he can’t see me he finds me

    • web admin

      February 5, 2016 at 10:30 am

      He might be interested. Always trying to be around you and looking for you when you are gone are both signs that he could be interested. It is not enough to assume that he is interested though, so I would probably wait it out and see what happens. Good luck, Aakriti!

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