20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language

By on September 15, 2013






When it comes to guys… well, let’s just say it can be pretty darn hard to figure out if he’s into a woman or not! At times, men and boys can definitely be hard to read. Their body language is different than ours and it can be troublesome to decode what they are really feeling. After doing some research, it turns out that guys aren’t really that hard to get when it comes to the signals they are sending out… If you know what to look for that is! Here are some tells to look for when it comes to decoding a guy’s body language and what he is really saying. Does he like you or not? Read the following tips to find out:

Sign # 1.) A guy who is interested in you may start touching, twirling or running his hands through his hair while smiling. This could be due to the fact that it’s a habit he has when he gets nervous around a lady, but is still showing strong intrigue. Be careful for head-scratching, tugging or a frown while he’s doing these hair-touching mannerisms, though. Those are two signs that he may be frustrated, confused or bored!

handsinhair

Sign #2.) A man who is licking his lips around you may be secretly signaling that he finds you delectable. Maybe he’s trying to tell you something… Wink, wink. Or, it could mean that lip-licking is another nervous habit he possesses. Sometimes, when people get nervous, their mouths go dry and cause them to lick their lips to keep them hydrated.

lip-licking

Sign #3.) A guy will usually unknowingly display his interest to a woman by directing his entire upper body (chest, head, shoulders) to his crush. He does this to show you that he is interested in only you. He is subtly positioning himself so that others know his attention is directed at one person and he isn’t open for anyone else to talk to steal the conversation at this point.

Sign #4.) You may find a guy is into you by looking to see if he is making consistent eye contact with you for long periods of time (more than 5 seconds!) to connect with you and show you that he is really intent on listening to what you have to say. He’s also focused on trying to get to know more of your body language, too. (Or, he may even just think you have beautiful eyes and can’t look away!)

eye contact

Sign #5.) Really want to find out if someone’s into you? Well, when a guy is attracted and intrigued by a girl, he will raise his eyebrows. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s interested in someone and if he’s talking to you, then you are the one he’s raising them for. Keep your eyes peeled, though, as this gesture is usually a pretty quick and subtle one.

Advertisement


raise his eyebrows

Sign #6.) Primal instincts will kick into a man when he is crushing on a woman. Because of those instincts he will, most likely without realizing it, spread his feet slightly apart and direct his hips and pelvis towards his person of interest. It’s just biological!

puffchest

Sign #7.) The gesturing of hands is a significant thing to look for when chatting with a guy. If this certain someone digs you, he will use his hands a lot. Guys tend to use their hands to go along with their conversation a ton more when they are talking to a girl they really like. The reason they do this is to make sure you are understanding what they are saying on the same level they do and they are trying very hard to hold your attention to them. Sometimes, though, different people talk differently and not all guys will use large arm and hand gestures.

hand gestures

Sign #8.) To help you figure out if a man is really interested, make sure you are paying close attention to where he is placing both of his hands at all times. It’s more common that when a guy likes a girl, he will place his fingers through his belt loops or hook a finger on his waistband. He may also place his hands on his lap a lot or put them in his pockets. They do this to draw attention to their pelvic area…  I bet you can guess why? Don’t get the wrong idea! Some guys don’t come to a quick realization that they are doing such things with their hands. Once again, primal instinct sets in and forces their body to try to direct their person of interests attention to that area of their body.

hand in pocket

Sign #9.)  A guy who leans in while talking or listening to you is definitely interested in what you are doing and saying. This is a sign that tells you there is no doubt in him liking you. Men, for the most part, don’t like to direct their bodies towards just one person, especially if they aren’t interested. Leaning in is a sign that a man wants to be as close to you as possible.

looking

Sign #10.) Does a guy have no problem placing his arm around your shoulder? Does he take no modesty in touching your arm or knee? Have you had a guy tuck a strand of hair behind your ear or push your hair out of your face? A man who touches you a lot, is only showing that he doesn’t want there to be boundaries between the two of you and wants to get as close to you as possible.

hand on shoulder

Sign #11.) Any guy who offers you his hand while climbing up or down stairs, out of a car, opens doors for you or offers you a sweater or jacket when you’re cold… well, he is totally crushing on you. Men don’t always try to take care of people that they themselves don’t care for. They will only go out of their way to protect and ensure the safety and comfort of people they truly like.

crushing

Sign #12.) When a guy digs a girl he will always look at her first after saying or doing something funny or extraordinary. The reason he glimpses at you and awaits your reaction is to see what you think before he looks to see what anyone else thinks. That means your opinion is the most important and he totally is smitten with you.

fun

Sign #13.) Is there a man who tries to quickly smooth out wrinkles when you walk in? Does he fix his tie (if he wears one) or fuss with his hair? He’s trying to make himself presentable for you and that is a definite yes when it comes down to if he likes you or not.

hair

Sign #14.) Look to see if you can catch a guy mirroring your body language as you are talking.  The more he repeats what you do with his own body, the more he’s intent on paying attention to everything about you- from your words to your body. This gesture shows you that he is trying to make you feel more comfortable around him and he wants you to feel familiar with him, as well.

Sign #15.) A man who is trying to impress a girl he likes will suddenly stand up taller when she enters the room or area. He will try to make himself appear stronger, more protective and more masculine by doing this.

taller

Sign #16.) Guys often touch or stroke their face when they are really listening to what you have to say. They are set on taking in the information you are putting out and trying to remember it thoroughly. If you find a guy that is stroking his chin (or beard), cheeks or nose, then he is more than likely into you. And, he’s a total keeper for being a good listener, too!

Sign #17.) Again we loop back to talking about men and their hands. When a guy stretches his hands, especially an upward palm, towards you, it is his way of signaling to you that he wants to get closer to you and for you to get closer to him. It’s almost as if he is putting them out there in a form of asking permission to break personal space.

Sign #18.) When a guy is hardcore into a woman, he will flick his eyes towards her as much as possible. If you catch a man frequently staring at you and darting his eyes away quickly, then he is totally into you. The reason he does this, especially if you are not right next to each other, is to see what you are doing, how you are doing and what you are feeling at this point. He is literally focused on looking out for you.

smiling

Sign #19.) If a guy sits next to you and leaves barely mere inches between you, it’s his way of showing you that he’s comfortable around you and likes being near you. Or, if you find him standing next to you, almost in your personal space, he is letting you know that he likes being close to you and prefers it over any other distance apart.

sit next to

Sign #20.) Always keep in mind that a man has instincts he isn’t even aware of most of the time. So, if you see a guy puffing out his chest to make it appear bigger and if he’s sucking in his gut, he’s trying to impress you. Some guys may only stick their chests out a little, but it’s still a most definite sign that he’s trying to prove his masculinity and stand out from all of the other guys in the room. He wants to prove to you that he’s the best and that he wants you!

smile





398 Comments

  1. Liliah

    July 22, 2016 at 8:46 pm

    Hi, so I have my guy friend. Whenever we’re alone, he actually does a lot of things like holding my hand, eye contacts, puts his finger on my lips, or touches my knees when we’re sitting next to each other. I’m just confused because he only shows that when it’s only us, but when we have our other friends with us it’s like he only treats me like a normal friend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 23, 2016 at 4:31 pm

      I noticed that you posted the same comment twice. I have replied to your first comment and decided to inform you here. Remain positive and have a great day!

  2. Liliah

    July 22, 2016 at 8:46 pm

    Hi, so I have my guy friend. Whenever we’re alone, he actually does a lot of things like holding my hand, eye contacts, puts his finger on my lips, or touches my knees when we’re sitting next to each other. I’m confused because he only shows that when it’s only us, but when we have our other friends with us it’s like he only treats me like a normal friend.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 23, 2016 at 4:30 pm

      It is clear that your friend is showing an interest in you. The extensive physical contact is a a sign that can not be dismissed. He may be concerned about his friends seeing him show such a physical interest in a person, and that may be why he only acts in that manner in private. He also may not be interested in public displays of affection. If you want to develop a relationship with this person, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings.

  3. Thalliea

    July 19, 2016 at 9:06 am

    My crush was my student teacher and I got to see him in my homeroom and 5TH hour. I said hi Mr. Meadows. And he said hi. And the next thing I know he had his hand on my shoulder! But it felt really good. He would stare at me in class and when I looked at him he looked away but one time he was looking at me for a long time and he was smiling. Once I asked him to sharpen my pencil and we touched fingers and I was blushing but my hand was shaking! Another time I asked him to sharpen my pencil and he forgot but he remembered and he took it and sharpened it but he kept going on and on about how he was sorry and he said my name. He also would touch my binder a lot when I was blushing and once I was getting nervous and I took a deep breath and let it out slowly and he put his hand on my binder I think he was saying “It’s ok don’t worry” A few times I handed him my paper and he put his hand close to mine. He kicked my chair which felt really good. Mr. Meadows would use this soothing seductive voice which made me feel really good I think that was his “bedroom voice”. Sometimes when we where alone he would make sexual noises like moaning and breathing heavily. Our other teacher Mr. Russle and Mr. Meadows and Mr. Russle told him to resist “her”. Mr. Meadows would flirt with me in class like point his feet at me and stand In front of me. Once he used me as a example and he got close to me! I have had a few dreams about him.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 19, 2016 at 3:44 pm

      Speak with your teacher’s bosses about their inappropriate behavior. As a student, you should not be on the receiving end of sexual advances, sexual sounds, or sexual touches. It is not their place to act in such a manner and you should have them removed from teaching. If you find yourself welcoming these advances, then you should request to be moved to a different classroom. Do not support these actions or request them as they will have incredibly damaging consequences to your teachers and to yourself.

      • Thalliea

        July 21, 2016 at 11:41 am

        He is not our student teacher anymore.

        • web admin

          web admin

          July 23, 2016 at 3:36 pm

          I apologize for misreading your comment. If he is no longer your teacher while you are a student, then feel free to do whatever it is that you seek to do. Remain positive as you move forward.

  4. Anna

    July 19, 2016 at 6:16 am

    Hey there! So I had a crush on this guy classmate of mine. I was wondering f you could help me determine whether he likes me or not.(This is quite long. Sorry ’bout it.)

    -He’s really nice towards me. When I just let him fill up a form or give him his change, he never forgets to thank me. (which was odd for me since most guys i encountered are not like that).
    -He’s friendly, too. When he gets a chance, he will tease/motivate me. He also tried to initiate a conversation with me while we were checking out awesome artworks by my old classmates. He even assumed that I was also good in drawing!
    -He noticed my absence. That’s why I was touched, especially when he asked me why I was absent (even though they knew).
    -One time, my friends and I were talking and he was doing something at the back. When a friend mentioned that I still like Crush 1, I thought I saw him stare for a moment until I denied it. Also, when we had an open forum (all girl classmates only) about our crushes in the classroom, I also denied the fact that I’m starting to like him. My bestie made me confess that “I’m still into [Other crush’s name]” so loud that our boy classmates must’ve heard it. When the game ended, I saw him sitting by the window and I thought he was playing with his phone. Turns out, he was staring at nothing in particular. He also looked devastated but I just ignored him, thinking he was just in deep thought since he was oddly quiet. A classmate noticed him and asked him what’s wrong. He didn’t answer her so she tried to cheer him up. He smiled, but I think it was just fake. I don’t know why but I suddenly felt guilty.
    -The next day, I was with my other bestie. We had no class and I was super bored so I decided to take a nap and let her wear my glasses. I tried to sleep but I really can’t so I turned to my bestie, who was just using her phone. Suddenly, he passed by and LIFTED HER CHIN TO LOOK AT HER. I decided to just ignored it, tho. When dismissal came, I had to wait for my friends outside since they were still cleaning when I felt his presence behind me. I didn’t dare to look back because I was afraid to face him especially when he was just really close behind. Anyway, he entered the classroom and that’s when my bestie came out. He also did after a few minutes. When I turned to face my bestie, he suddenly puts his arm around her for a split second. And it’s crazy to think he’s tryna make me jealous…

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 19, 2016 at 3:40 pm

      Lying in public groups about who you are interested in will always have a negative effect on your love life. If you told everyone that you had feelings for someone else and he overheard, then it is normal for him to feel devastated. Because of your lie, you may have destroyed the possibility of developing a relationship with this person. As you move forward in life, it would be beneficial for you to remember that lies hurt other people and yourself. If he put his arms around someone else after you publicly declared that you are not interested in him, then you have no reason or right to concern yourself with his actions. Learn from your mistake and try to not harm people in the future.

      If you would like to clear up the confusion that you made, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. This may be your only chance, so you should take it. Remember to stop lying.

  5. Carol

    July 14, 2016 at 2:20 pm

    Hi, so well there is this one boy… We have always been on good germs even tho right now we dont see each other often, only when there are some kind of events with our other friends.
    we were on a camping site and had to sleep in the tents. I happened to sleep in the same tent as him. It was really cold when we went to sleep. At some time of the night I woke up because it was so friggin cold, i think he woke up because of me too. We both said to eachother that it is so cold, some time went by and he asked if i wanted to get closer to him. I was like ‘okay yeah’ because it was cold. So he placed his arm over me and pulled me closer. I was still so cold and soon I began shivering so bad that he just took off his hoodie and placed it over me. It was better after that but i was worried that now he might get cold so after a while i placed the hoodie back to his body. He woke up and asked if im not cold anymore, i just said that ‘no, you can take it, you are gonna get cold’. With that he just took my hands and was like ‘but your hands are cold’, so he pulled me more closer and held my hands.
    The next day everyone were saying farewells and when i got to him his first reaction was to hug me.
    Im really confused about him. Was it just a friendly act or something else?

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 14, 2016 at 11:48 pm

      His action and yours were spawned from the same need of warmth. It is possible that he is interested in you, but there is no reason to be certain that he has an interest in you. That said, it is likely that if the two of you were sharing a tent and he hugged you when you were leaving each other, then it is possible that he has feelings for you. There is no way to be certain other than speaking with him directly and honestly about your feelings and your questions. If he reciprocates your feelings, then you know that you can develop a relationship with him.

  6. Jackie

    July 9, 2016 at 1:47 pm

    Theres this guy that I started talking to. We have never really met. He just messaged me on Facebook about a week ago and gave me his number and told me to text him. And he asked me 2 or 3 times for my number. So I texted him. And we had texted every day. A couple of days ago, he texted me and asked me if I was married and if I lived alone or if I lived with anybody. And told me that he lived with 2 kids. So I asked him if they was his kids cause he ever never mentioned nothing about having kids before. And he asked why and asked if it mattered. So I told him that I was just wandering. After that, he aint texted me in the past day or 2. Do u think he likes??? Why has he stopped talking to me since I asked if they was his kids??? I need answers. I really like this guy.

    • web admin

      web admin

      July 9, 2016 at 3:14 pm

      If he has stopped speaking with you after you told him that you have children, then it is likely that he does not want to cultivate a relationship with you for that reason. Count yourself blessed. You do not want to be with someone who is like that. Putting yourself aside, it is important to focus on the most important thing in your life – your children. Ignore him and move on as you do not want someone in your life who has no interest in children. It is harmful for children when their parents enter relationships with people who do not like children. Put them first.

      • Jackie

        July 11, 2016 at 6:13 pm

        He is the one that has the children. He told me that he lived with 2 kids. So I asked him if they was his kids. Cause he has never mentioned to me that he has kids. And after I asked him if they was his kids, he stopped texting me.

        • Jackie

          July 14, 2016 at 5:38 pm

          I finally talked to him today. He told me he was working. I asked if he was working hard. And he told me “YEA JUST TO MAKE U HAPPY”
          So what do u think he means by that??? Does this sound like he is interested in me or wants a relationship???

          • web admin

            web admin

            July 19, 2016 at 4:50 pm

            It sounds like he is just joking around with you, so I would not worry about it. It sounds like he is interested in you, so it is way too early to tell what he could want from you in this relationship (or if he wants a relationship). Just relax, don’t read too much into things and play things by ear. Best of luck, Jackie! I hope that everything works out for you!

        • web admin

          web admin

          July 19, 2016 at 4:48 pm

          I’m sorry–I must have read that wrong. Perhaps he thought that you were uncomfortable with the idea of children, or he might just be busy. Whatever the case, just wait it out. The ball is in his court at the moment, so just wait for him to make the next move. If he doesn’t text in the next couple of days, send him a text and see how things are going. Good luck, Jackie!

  7. Jason

    June 28, 2016 at 9:51 am

    So there’s this young women at my work place and I have a huge crush on her. Every time whenever we look at each other we always smile at each other all the time. Is it possible that she has a huge crush on me too?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 30, 2016 at 12:46 pm

      It is possible that she has an interest in you, yet it is also possible that she is a friendly person who smiles. If you are interested in developing a relationship with her, then there is no reason not to be a good friend to her and talk with her. If, in time, she seems to show increased interest in you or seems to be giving you hints, then tell her how you feel. If she reciprocates those feelings, then ask her out and see where the relationship goes from there. For now, be a good friend to her.

  8. Jenna

    June 26, 2016 at 11:33 pm

    Hey again!
    I just wanted to include a story that might help decipher whether or not my crush actually likes me back…I don’t have much experience with guys and my intuition is giving me positive receptions, I just don’t want to feel like I’m crazy for thinking so because some of my acquaintances say so. So here’s the story. I’ll call my crush Jake because I don’t want him to ever find out about this if we date. AHHH! That would be the worst, but I’d probably end up showing him this and laughing hysterically about my paranoia. So I was looking for Jake after our choir rehearsal and saw his best friend and asked him: “Hey, do you know where Jake is?” to which he responded, “Your boyfriend?” Yeah. Jake also happened to introduce me to this best friend of his earlier while we just happened to be together. After he jokingly asked if Jake was my boyfriend, he kept saying we should date, or even make out. I confidently asked if Jake liked me, and his best friend (who I’ll call Bob from now on) paused for a moment and just asked if I liked him. I out my best poker face on and said no and left. As I waited for my ride home, I saw Bob walking and Jake behind him. Bob immediately saw me and told Jake we should make out or date or something. Jake immediately responded with a “noooo.” They then went into like a 2-minute convo about who-knows-what (but I’m assuming it was about Jake and me lol) while their other friend Tom was distracting my friend and me from trying to listen in to the conversation. They then said their goodbyes and continued walking home, end of story.
    Do you think there’s a possibility “Jake” likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 27, 2016 at 1:19 pm

      Why did you tell Bob that you did not like Jake? That is a mistake because it was a lie. Do not lie, as it makes people feel and react in a counter productive manner. It is possible that Jake liked you, but I am concerned that your actions may have shaken that. Always be honest, never lie, and try to be respectful of the person that you claim to have an interest in.

  9. Jenna

    June 26, 2016 at 11:14 pm

    So I am crushing super hard on this guy but it’s kinda hard to tell if he likes me back. Sometimes, though, he’ll text me randomly (and we don’t talk often). Other times he just won’t reply but I know that he’s not used to texting as he is a pretty hardcore gamer. Recently he texted me: “Happy Father’s Day?” I sort of felt as if he was finding an excuse to talk to me because I can also tell he’s pretty shy, and why would he text me, a teenage girl, happy father’s day? The question mark especially made me skeptical because it was intentional.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 27, 2016 at 1:15 pm

      It is clear that he is interested in speaking with you. Speak to him as well and attempt to develop your relationship if you would like to. If he is a gamer, then try to show interest is what he is interested in. Be direct with him and establish a relationship with him.

  10. jade

    June 21, 2016 at 1:42 pm

    if I catch him stare at me three times on the same day. Does it mean he likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 22, 2016 at 9:37 pm

      Probably, either that or you had some spinach in your teeth. You could talk to him, that would be the best option. If you are interested in developing a relationship with him, then it would be good of you to try to do so. If he does not feel the same, then you have an answer to your question, and you will be better off knowing.

  11. Makayla

    June 15, 2016 at 5:46 pm

    So this guy I like he sign my yearbook he put his first name and last name

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 15, 2016 at 5:53 pm

      He either wants to share more information about himself with you, or he it just a person who likes to write his last name as well. If you two are close, then maybe ask him to hang out.

  12. Makayla

    June 15, 2016 at 5:44 pm

    So this guy sign my yearbook and he put his full name not middle but last and first

  13. Rebecca

    June 6, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    There is a boy in my fifth grade class. Heres what he always doing to me
    1. Stares at me and smiles
    2. Always hitting me
    3. Touches me softley with his soft hand includes (hugging putting arm around me shoulder and waist always and i mean always touching my hair pokes me and touching my body parts)
    4. Him and his friends are always looking for me and my friends
    5. Always making up stuff that me and him are better friends than my best friends
    So does he like me or not

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 7, 2016 at 7:02 pm

      It sounds like he likes you. It is not for sure yet, but touching you, hitting you and smiling at you are all signs that he could be interested. Now, you just have to decide if you like him back or not. Are you brave enough to make the next move and ask him if he likes you? Or do you just want to wait and hope that he becomes brave enough to make a move?

  14. Heaven Millerkj

    June 4, 2016 at 12:05 pm

    So theres this boy in my daughter’s class who puts his arm around her, always hitting her, being so close to her being there, around her and always looking for her. What does that mean?
    By the way, they’re in 5th grade.😄😄

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 6, 2016 at 7:29 pm

      It seems like you have commented twice on this article. I have to answer and approve each comment manually, so it can sometimes take a little while for a comment to appear. If you do not see your comment right away, do not worry because you will. Read through my last response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  15. Heaven Miller

    June 4, 2016 at 12:04 pm

    So theres this boy in my daughter’s class who puts his arm around her, always hitting her, being so close to her being there, around her and always looking for her. What does that mean?
    By the way, they’re in 5th grade.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 6, 2016 at 7:29 pm

      It sounds like he likes her and has no clue how to show her yet. I wouldn’t worry about it too much–if she does not like it, she can just tell him that she is not interested and wants to be friends. It seems like he has quite a crush on your daughter though–they grow up so fast, don’t they?

  16. Savannah

    May 26, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    Hey,I have this one friend he is not my boyfriend though and he offered me to wear his hat!!! Do you think he likes me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 3, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      It is possible that he likes you. If you guys are friends, he may just be afraid about making a move and scaring you off. At the same time, offering you his hat is not enough to know for sure if he likes you or not. Try flirting with him and see how he responds. Good luck, Savannah!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *