20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language

By on September 15, 2013
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When it comes to guys… well, let’s just say it can be pretty darn hard to figure out if he’s into a woman or not! At times, men and boys can definitely be hard to read. Their body language is different than ours and it can be troublesome to decode what they are really feeling. After doing some research, it turns out that guys aren’t really that hard to get when it comes to the signals they are sending out… If you know what to look for that is! Here are some tells to look for when it comes to decoding a guy’s body language and what he is really saying. Does he like you or not? Read the following tips to find out:

Sign # 1.) A guy who is interested in you may start touching, twirling or running his hands through his hair while smiling. This could be due to the fact that it’s a habit he has when he gets nervous around a lady, but is still showing strong intrigue. Be careful for head-scratching, tugging or a frown while he’s doing these hair-touching mannerisms, though. Those are two signs that he may be frustrated, confused or bored!


Sign #2.) A man who is licking his lips around you may be secretly signaling that he finds you delectable. Maybe he’s trying to tell you something… Wink, wink. Or, it could mean that lip-licking is another nervous habit he possesses. Sometimes, when people get nervous, their mouths go dry and cause them to lick their lips to keep them hydrated.


Sign #3.) A guy will usually unknowingly display his interest to a woman by directing his entire upper body (chest, head, shoulders) to his crush. He does this to show you that he is interested in only you. He is subtly positioning himself so that others know his attention is directed at one person and he isn’t open for anyone else to talk to steal the conversation at this point.

Sign #4.) You may find a guy is into you by looking to see if he is making consistent eye contact with you for long periods of time (more than 5 seconds!) to connect with you and show you that he is really intent on listening to what you have to say. He’s also focused on trying to get to know more of your body language, too. (Or, he may even just think you have beautiful eyes and can’t look away!)

eye contact

Sign #5.) Really want to find out if someone’s into you? Well, when a guy is attracted and intrigued by a girl, he will raise his eyebrows. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s interested in someone and if he’s talking to you, then you are the one he’s raising them for. Keep your eyes peeled, though, as this gesture is usually a pretty quick and subtle one.


raise his eyebrows

Sign #6.) Primal instincts will kick into a man when he is crushing on a woman. Because of those instincts he will, most likely without realizing it, spread his feet slightly apart and direct his hips and pelvis towards his person of interest. It’s just biological!


Sign #7.) The gesturing of hands is a significant thing to look for when chatting with a guy. If this certain someone digs you, he will use his hands a lot. Guys tend to use their hands to go along with their conversation a ton more when they are talking to a girl they really like. The reason they do this is to make sure you are understanding what they are saying on the same level they do and they are trying very hard to hold your attention to them. Sometimes, though, different people talk differently and not all guys will use large arm and hand gestures.

hand gestures

Sign #8.) To help you figure out if a man is really interested, make sure you are paying close attention to where he is placing both of his hands at all times. It’s more common that when a guy likes a girl, he will place his fingers through his belt loops or hook a finger on his waistband. He may also place his hands on his lap a lot or put them in his pockets. They do this to draw attention to their pelvic area…  I bet you can guess why? Don’t get the wrong idea! Some guys don’t come to a quick realization that they are doing such things with their hands. Once again, primal instinct sets in and forces their body to try to direct their person of interests attention to that area of their body.

hand in pocket

Sign #9.)  A guy who leans in while talking or listening to you is definitely interested in what you are doing and saying. This is a sign that tells you there is no doubt in him liking you. Men, for the most part, don’t like to direct their bodies towards just one person, especially if they aren’t interested. Leaning in is a sign that a man wants to be as close to you as possible.


Sign #10.) Does a guy have no problem placing his arm around your shoulder? Does he take no modesty in touching your arm or knee? Have you had a guy tuck a strand of hair behind your ear or push your hair out of your face? A man who touches you a lot, is only showing that he doesn’t want there to be boundaries between the two of you and wants to get as close to you as possible.

hand on shoulder

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  1. justJuicy

    August 26, 2015 at 1:49 am

    I havent seen my crush ever since and a bit afraid to talk to him when he has a temper though…shouldi just text him? Cant call him becuz im afraid of his parents…

    • web admin

      August 26, 2015 at 4:11 pm

      I do not think that this conversation could be that easily dealt with in a text message–it would be far too easy for him to confuse what you are saying or misconstrue a comment. If you can, I would wait until you can see him in person when he is not angry. Even a phone call would still leave too much to be confused–just wait until you can talk to him in person.

  2. justJuicy

    August 25, 2015 at 2:13 am

    Thanks for the advice.
    But even though my bff could possibly be interested in me it couldnt be becuz he himself said he doesnt believe in kissing, sex, etc until he was married or older.
    I wish i could avoid my bff but he gets suspicious if i get quiet. Sometimes wonder if my lover got upset becuz my bff might be telling lies tobrake us up…(becuz i noticed my lover was fine until my bff came along….)but should i just go ahead and try to talk to my crush? (I dont want my bff to talk to him becuz he might just get worse.and my lover gets into fights if hes upset.)

    • web admin

      August 25, 2015 at 9:13 pm

      It might be the best thing to just talk to your crush–you could explain that you have no clue what is going on in your bff’s mind, and really don’t want things to become strange between you and your lover. Since you already tried talking to your bff and that did not work, I think it may be time to leave the bff out of any decision or action process. You can still be friends with him so that he does not become suspicious, but you may want to hang out with him a little less until you get things really straightened out with your crush.

  3. justJuicy

    August 24, 2015 at 3:41 pm

    Hi..sorry its me again..
    This is about my bff (who is a guy)..
    Ever since i kissed my bff in front of my lover , my lover seemsquiet and tries to run off and acts weird.. i tried tellingmy bff that my lover is jealous but my bff keeps denying it…
    And when i try to tell my bff about my lovers behavior my bff would just be in denying it and say stuff like ‘i know himbetter than u’.
    Ismy bff lying to me becuz he is trying to brake my relationshipwith my lover or is my bff jealous also? And what should i do? Should i just not talk about this to my bff? And to make things worse my bff is always trying to be with my friend by acting nice and wanting totalk to him(the guy who is 24)for some stupid reason and idk why!! Does my bff like m too or what? Plz give me advice.

    • web admin

      August 24, 2015 at 11:42 pm

      Whether your bff is lying to protect you, to break you up or just because he is oblivious, it does not really matter. Your crush is most likely upset because your bff kissed you. As a side note, although you did not attach anything to the kiss, your bff probably did. If the “bff likes you secretly” reason is true, it would also make sense for him to talk to your crush a lot because he would essentially be warning the crush away from you. If you like your crush/lover, then you may have to take a step back from your bff for a while–and certainly avoid kissing him again. Good luck, JustJuicy!

  4. Noisy may

    August 22, 2015 at 7:38 am

    There is a guy in my office, he is my senior. He is in relationship with my bf.But when he is around me, he acts weird. During lunch he asks me to sit near him,when m working he occasionally stares at me. When he crosses my seat he touches me in my arm or my hair and goes.He makes fun of me and always checks how m I reacting to it.One time when I was drunk in party he took me to other room and kissed on my cheek and tucked my hair behind my ear. At times he asks me if we can go out for drinks but I always turn it down.But when we all 3 (me,him and bf) are there he gives all the attention to her and acts as if m his friend.I don’t know what to do.I too like him but it hurts me when I see them together.

    • web admin

      August 22, 2015 at 6:29 pm

      Hmm…he could be interested in the other person more, or he may be acting on a misguided impulse to make you jealous. All of the other things that he has done make it sound like he is interested in you and likes you–at the very least, he really likes having you as a friend. Have you ever tried to talk to him about it? Or have you ever asked him to hang out with you after work or go on a hiking trip? You would have a better chance to figure out how he feels if you had him alone outside of the workplace. Good luck, Noisy May!

  5. justJuicy

    August 22, 2015 at 3:34 am

    Hi..its me again…
    Theres this guy that i kissed (lips) on march then we started doing it like all the time (but we’re not gf or bf) but he has said once or twice that he loves me. But one day the guy’s relative kept on talking bad about my lover so i told him to shut up but he still wouldnt listen to me. And for some reason we started a conversation about kissing and asked if i ever did kiss someone and i said yes (i couldnt lie about it to him becuz hes my bff) and he kepted on forcing me to tell him who it is so i told him. Then i told my lover that my bff knows about the kissing thing and he got a bit upset. But then a few months later my lover acted okay when he met my bff and wasnt acting weird, but for some reason my bff and i started making jokes and suddenly we both started holding hands for a few minutes when we were walking in a garden and then my lover was very quiet and looked upset. Then when we were in the car we jokingly did a quick kiss in the lips in front of my lover and he got really quiet.but we didnt really mean it. Anwyay..We thought my lover would be ‘okay’ but that nite when we were walking in the mall my lover started hitting my bff as though he was just playing around but he literally was hitting my bffs back really hard. My bff acted normal but as for my lover he looked jealous but he didnt want to show it. Then after hanging out that day we never really met again until a few weeks later when there was a birthday party. My lover was always staring at me and wanting to approach me but suddenly he looked angry and started avoiding me like crazy and almost everyone started noticing it. I was so shocked about it and started to go to him to warn him not to act like that but he was upset and didnt want to hear me so he ran off. I was shocked.why would he act that way? Instantly i cried like crazy then told my bff about it. My bff said that he prob doesnt want to kiss me ever again, but i asked him why so suddenly he hated it? At first he always wanted tk stare at me but then suddenly he was avoiding me big time.. then i told my bff , maybe becuz we kissed in front of my lover..but my bff was like ‘he is not jealous for god sake!” But i explained to my bff that he never acted this way before and i dont know what to do. I tried to write to him in text messages but he doesntreply. I tried to tell my bff to talk to him but my bff doesnt want to yet becuz ‘his mood is not the right timing.’ So in other words is he jealous upset or what? And ever since the party i never met him becuz his parents doesnt come around our place often now adays. Plz helpme. I dont know what to do. (Sorry for writing a long message…)

    • web admin

      August 22, 2015 at 5:55 pm

      Kissing and holding hands with another guy in front of your lover/crush is a terrible idea–I am surprised that he took it so well, honestly. If he is jealous and upset about that (which is probably true, even if he does not say it outright), then having your bff talk things over with him will not help. The only thing that you can do is wait and hope that he gets over it. In the future, remember this lesson and don’t kiss someone else in front of the person you like! Good luck, JustJuicy!

  6. justJuicy

    August 22, 2015 at 3:07 am

    Thank u for the advice..

    • web admin

      August 22, 2015 at 5:43 pm

      No problem! :)

  7. justJuicy

    August 21, 2015 at 5:28 am

    If i talk to my friend (who is a guy) about my bff (who is also a guy and he gets upset or jealous what does that mean?

    • web admin

      August 21, 2015 at 4:30 pm

      I believe I previously answered your comment on this article. If you comment and the first message does not appear, that is because I have to individually approve and respond to each comment. This sometimes takes a while, so don’t worry if your comment does not appear right away. Read through my first response and let me know if you have any other questions. Thanks for commenting!

  8. justJuicy

    August 20, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    I am 17 and there is this guy who is 24 . He has a gf but his behavior is kinda weird from most people i know. The other week he kept on staring at me when i was busy talking to someone else .. and when i talk about my best friend (thats a guy), he sometimes gets quiet, angry, jealous, and wants to find out too much about my male friend. Is it a sign that he likes me or? When he has the chance to get my attention he would talk to me about a movie he justed watched (or in other words, want to talk to me.) And sometimes when i talk to his friend ( a guy) he cuts in from my conversation with his friend and acts weird..and then the week after when i try to talk with his friend he turns quiet and wants to avoid. ?? Is he interested in me or ?? I know he has a gf but he never acted this way when i first met him a few years back. We used to be in a car together (including my sis) and likes to talk to both of us ..but now its just me .what really bothers me is the fact that he keeps wanting to know about my best friend that is a guy and looks jealous all of the sudden. Plz help me..i really dont know what to do…

    • web admin

      August 21, 2015 at 4:17 pm

      Even though he has a girlfriend, he can still be interested in you. If he has not made a move on you yet, then it could be due to the girlfriend–and chances are, it is probably due to him being in a relationship. Everything else that you mentioned makes it sound like he is extremely interested in you. From being jealous of other guys to talking to you all of the time to asking about your relationship with male friends, it sounds like he is really starting to care about you. Now, you just have to wait for him to finally be single again. You don’t want to wreck his current relationship–plus, you would never be able to trust him if you knew that he allowed that–, so you will just have to wait for him to be single again. Good luck!

  9. Joe

    August 18, 2015 at 9:00 pm

    Okay this is weird… I have a family member who I think likes me.. The other night he was putting his hands through my hair, touching my ears, putting his legs on me and rubbing his feet on my crotch… I’m confused as to if he’s attracted to me.. I’ll list a few other things that’s happened; he has pushed me over onto the couch and laid on top of me… He has dragged me on to the couch to lie on top of him… He puts his arm around my chair… He does it secretly like so no one sees. He has like sat on top of me and grabs my arms to push me onto him… Like what does this mean? I don’t know his feelings toward me.. It’s weird.

    • web admin

      August 19, 2015 at 8:56 pm

      Those are all very weird, uncomfortable things to have happen to you. If you are not comfortable or interested (You never mentioned your age by the way), then you should either tell him to stop or tell an authority figure like a teacher, parent or other adult. His behavior shows more than just an interest in you–it sounds a lot like sexual assault. If you don’t want it to happen and don’t like it, then tell someone or tell him to stop. Be safe, Joe!

  10. kim96

    August 13, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    hello, it’s about my teacher again… one day I was busy doing something he was sitting infront of me and the distance between us was about half meter I kind a felt that he is trying to take my photo because he pretended like he is busy doing something in his mobile.. the mobile was directly to my face and when I realized immediately I turned my face …I talked about this with my friend but she says that It could be my imagination .. the way he was acting I am sure that he had something in his mind. when my friends wearing something new he congratulations them directly but when it comes to me he writes it on projector the way that only I notice that . in these days he put his coat on my chair I don’t know what does it mean? one of his gf called during the class he came to me and showed his mobile and asked me who is calling I saw her name and told him that (Michaela ..)is calling he said I saved her name like this to remember her I said ok . he talked with her and again he came and stood next to me and was checking how I react he always teases my freind for her look or something else but he always compliments me and says I am very smart girl …my friend says that he make us confuse by doing this kind of things. all I can say he is a very hard puzzle … hope you help me clear this please reply .

    • web admin

      August 13, 2015 at 7:30 pm

      I have no clue what his intentions are. It sounds like he could be interested in you, but he is also quite flirtatious with all of the girls in class. If you are not interested in him, I would not worry about it too much. And if you are interested in him, you can always try flirting with him or asking him out when the semester is over with. Good luck, Kim!

  11. Jozzy

    August 10, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    Thank you very much.

    • web admin

      August 11, 2015 at 1:06 am

      You are very welcome, Jozzy!

  12. Jozzy

    August 10, 2015 at 1:11 pm

    It’s me again. I know this guy who is staying in the same house but different apartment . Although we’ve not gotten into a serious talk but we do greet each other when we meet.Am nnormally shy especially if I haven’t talked to you before. So sometimes when I meet him, am kind of what shouldI do? Should I greet him or past by . He usually when driving, gives me a horn while he sees me. Due to that Iknow tthe sound of his horn. I once was invited to a party but saw him when entering the house. He was with his friends. He said hi immediately he saw me. Since then, his friends look at me when they see me but don’t utter a word. I was coming back from taking a stroll when I decided to take a certain root which is in our hood. I heard him horn all of a sudden. I looked at him and he just smiled. Thinking that he’s gone not knowing one of his friends stroll Ntag stays there. I noticed his friend telling him that am coming. So he looked at the side mirror of his car and smiled. I wanted to quietly pass by them since they were chatting. As I pass he stopped talking, turn to me and said hi. I responded with a smile and left. There’s is this bar near our house of which my friends dad owns it. We sometimes go and play there. He went home before me but I saw him coming out again right after talking to his friend. He didn’t close the door and also said hi with a smile before passing by me. That was cute thoug. My ffriend and I went to his father’s bar. We decided to play but an old man tagged along. Meaning we have two get one person for us divide ourselves into two. The old man called a guy near by. He accepted and we played. I smile alot so through out the game, I was just smiling and laughing since the old man I teamed with didn’t know how to play. When we finished, the guy said, I didn’t know you were friends. We just smiled and said goodbye. I was surprised to see him the next day in our house. Not knowing he is friends with the guy in my house . My mum’s friend brought his two sons for me to take care of them. I decided that we take a stroll in the house. I left them to play on their own. Not long after, I heard someone playing with them. He left because the kids can’t talk. I quickly grabbed one of them but the younger one was stubborn. He nearly uprooted his flower in a vase. So I gave him a pinch on the cheek. He came all of a suddenand hi. I responded and ask to forgive the destruction of his flower. He said its ok and ask whether they are my brother’s or not. I also asked his name and age. It started drizzling so I said goodbye and we left. Since then, he waves and say hello whenever he sees me. He really smile at me a lot. I saw him and said hi Paolo but he didn’t respond. I don’t know whether he didn’t hear me or not. But please any advice on this.

    • web admin

      August 10, 2015 at 5:04 pm

      Go ahead and start talking to him! At the very least, he seems interested in being friends with you. The only way you will find out if it could be something more than just friendship is to conquer your fear, go up and talk to him! From the sound of it, he would talk back to you and may even like you already. Good luck!

  13. kim96

    August 5, 2015 at 8:01 am

    thank you very much for reply I really appreciate that… but I forgot to write he always trys to know personal information about me ..he asks about my age, where do I live? where did I finish my school what position I had in my class ? he undirectly wants my mobile number but I didn’t give him. so many times he wrote his mobile number on projector but I didn’t note that lolz. and one thing he doesn’t have a lots of eye contact with my girls friends. he always says I am beautiful than any girl in my class always compliments about me … I know he is lying about his personal life sometimes he pretend that he is married but sometimes says he is engaged and sometimes says I want to get married with moon like girl lolz . one day he asked one of my best friends if she has beautiful girlfriend that he wants to get married with. he is keen to see what I wear one day I catched him looking at me. well all he does and all he says every thing is undirectly .when he does this kind of things I behave normal infront of him I pretend like that I didn’t get him by doing this kind of things .I don’t do anything that he think about it as a hint he is not sure if I like him or not that’s why he is doing this kind of things. actually I don’t like him I just want to know that what he has in his mind about me .

    • web admin

      August 5, 2015 at 8:08 pm

      I think that I would just go ahead and wait it out. He may be just super flirtatious, or he may just come across as a flirt. If his behavior makes you uncomfortable, you can always report him to someone else at the school. If it does not bother you, then just wait for this semester to be finished and move on. Good luck!

  14. kim96

    August 4, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    hello, sorry for making it long …it’s about my university teacher he always tells me that I am smart and perfect girl.. he always makes eyes contact with me… saying something funny and stares secretly at me if I laughed or not . once he said something funny I didn’t laughed he asked me the reason why I am sad or didn’t smile.
    sometimes I feel that he is staring at me while I study he always checks that what I am doing when I note somthing. yesterday on the board he wrote something in foreign language when he came to class he asked me what has been written on the board ? I translated (I am in the basement) he said welldone. because sometimes he stays in basement that’s why I doubt . one day one of his ex girlfriend invited him to her wedding he was happy and all of classmates including me doubted that something happened between them that time because we saw something on his face one of my classmates told him about that, he immediately asked me to give him tissue paper to remove that . next day he wrote again something on projector he waited for me to come to class… and translated that sentence to me in front of my classmates(the twinge of conscience doesn’t let me stay calm )then he told a story about this sentence that it was clearly unrelated to this sentence during translating and telling the story he was just looking at me and had eyes contact I felt he was undirectly explaining some thing to me. and he flirts with every girl i am confused if he likes me ?pleas reply.

    • web admin

      August 4, 2015 at 7:48 pm

      I am not sure if he likes you. He could make eye contact because he is a good teacher, and you could just be one of his favorite students. Additionally, he could be interested in you and just does not want to risk his position at the university. Either way, it would probably be best for you to wait for him to make a move or do anything else. At the very least, you should probably wait until the class is done for the semester and you have a new teacher before you do anything. Good luck, Kim!

  15. Jelyn

    August 2, 2015 at 11:20 pm

    Sry I made this comment so long! I work at an ice cream shop and last Sunday, this boy I have seen and have only said hi to him before(since he is friends with my sister)worked with me that Sunday for my 12-5pm shift. Even though I was supposed to work with this other girl who I usually work with on Sundays, but the guy told me that he was covering for her. That was our first time working together. During our shift he kept teasing me. I had to get something from a high shelf(btw I’m pretty short) But he stopped me and put his hands around my middle above my waist and tried to stop me from getting whatever I was supposed to get from the shelf and he just smiled and stared at me. I was kind of nervous so I pulled away and it was good timing because a customer had just come in. I worked with him again today and again he was still covering for that girl, but this time there was another guy working with him and me. To make this easier I’m going to say guy1(the guy who I’m not sure likes me) and guy2(the other guy working that day)So I noticed that guy1 was acting kind of weird whenever I talked to guy2. One time I asked guy1 to get me something from a high shelf and as I was showing him where to get it. Guy2 follows us and a customer comes in and guy2 tells me to get the customer while I was in the middle of showing guy2 what to get. Without thinking I rushed to help the customer, but as I looked back at the guys I saw guy1 complaining to guy2 about me trying to show him something and that guy2 interrupted him. Guy1 still kept teasing me and he played with my a hair lot. At work, girls have to wear visors and so I was wearing a visor and guy1 likes to pull the front of it to cover my eyes. One time he did it too rough and right away he said sorry and was touching my cheek to see if it was okay. There are only two seats in the back to sit and guy1 was sitting on one and guy2 on the other. Guy1 immediately looked up and said to sit next to him on the same seat he was sitting on. When guy1 was with a customer I was making some ice cream cones and guy2 called my name and I looked at him but I was a bit distracted cause I was trying to see of there were other customers coming and while I was looking away from him guy2 mumbles and says that guy1 likes me and as he said the word “likes” I looked at him cause I wasn’t sure if I heard him right and said to him, “Wait…what?” but then he said nvm so Im kind of confused. One time when I was writtng something down and I looked up and saw guy1 winked at me and smiled at me. He is two years older than me so I don’t know if he is just likes to play around with me and stuff. I’m not really sure he likes me. Our shift was about to be over and a girl comes in, ready for the next shift and as she walk in guy1 puts his around her shoulders and acts like he’s happy to see her while still looking at me. I tried not to look at them and eventually he stopped. When he was about to leave he said my name and asked if he could have a hug. He is older than me so I keep thinking that he is just being friendly and stuff and yet he still keeps hugging me, putting his arms aound my waist, and sruff. I don’t know I’m kind of confused. Does he like me?

    • web admin

      August 3, 2015 at 7:36 pm

      All of his behavior seems to indicate that he is interested in you. He flirts with you at work and goes out of his way to make excuses for touching you, helping you or having you sit next to him. Even hugging the other girl could have been his attempt at seeing if you liked him enough to get jealous. Plus, your other co-worker said that he likes you. I think that you have more than a 90 percent chance that he is interested. If you like him as well, why don’t you go for it? He is obviously interested in you, so I doubt he would say no to going on a date. And as for the age thing–two years is not really that much, and it does not sound like he is just trying to play with you. Everything that you said makes it sound like he genuinely likes you and is trying his best to flirt with you. Good luck!

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