20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language

By on September 15, 2013

When it comes to guys… well, let’s just say it can be pretty darn hard to figure out if he’s into a woman or not! At times, men and boys can definitely be hard to read. Their body language is different than ours and it can be troublesome to decode what they are really feeling. After doing some research, it turns out that guys aren’t really that hard to get when it comes to the signals they are sending out… If you know what to look for that is! Here are some tells to look for when it comes to decoding a guy’s body language and what he is really saying. Does he like you or not? Read the following tips to find out:

Sign # 1.) A guy who is interested in you may start touching, twirling or running his hands through his hair while smiling. This could be due to the fact that it’s a habit he has when he gets nervous around a lady, but is still showing strong intrigue. Be careful for head-scratching, tugging or a frown while he’s doing these hair-touching mannerisms, though. Those are two signs that he may be frustrated, confused or bored!

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Sign #2.) A man who is licking his lips around you may be secretly signaling that he finds you delectable. Maybe he’s trying to tell you something… Wink, wink. Or, it could mean that lip-licking is another nervous habit he possesses. Sometimes, when people get nervous, their mouths go dry and cause them to lick their lips to keep them hydrated.

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Sign #3.) A guy will usually unknowingly display his interest to a woman by directing his entire upper body (chest, head, shoulders) to his crush. He does this to show you that he is interested in only you. He is subtly positioning himself so that others know his attention is directed at one person and he isn’t open for anyone else to talk to steal the conversation at this point.

Sign #4.) You may find a guy is into you by looking to see if he is making consistent eye contact with you for long periods of time (more than 5 seconds!) to connect with you and show you that he is really intent on listening to what you have to say. He’s also focused on trying to get to know more of your body language, too. (Or, he may even just think you have beautiful eyes and can’t look away!)

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Sign #5.) Really want to find out if someone’s into you? Well, when a guy is attracted and intrigued by a girl, he will raise his eyebrows. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s interested in someone and if he’s talking to you, then you are the one he’s raising them for. Keep your eyes peeled, though, as this gesture is usually a pretty quick and subtle one.

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Sign #6.) Primal instincts will kick into a man when he is crushing on a woman. Because of those instincts he will, most likely without realizing it, spread his feet slightly apart and direct his hips and pelvis towards his person of interest. It’s just biological!

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Sign #7.) The gesturing of hands is a significant thing to look for when chatting with a guy. If this certain someone digs you, he will use his hands a lot. Guys tend to use their hands to go along with their conversation a ton more when they are talking to a girl they really like. The reason they do this is to make sure you are understanding what they are saying on the same level they do and they are trying very hard to hold your attention to them. Sometimes, though, different people talk differently and not all guys will use large arm and hand gestures.

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Sign #8.) To help you figure out if a man is really interested, make sure you are paying close attention to where he is placing both of his hands at all times. It’s more common that when a guy likes a girl, he will place his fingers through his belt loops or hook a finger on his waistband. He may also place his hands on his lap a lot or put them in his pockets. They do this to draw attention to their pelvic area…  I bet you can guess why? Don’t get the wrong idea! Some guys don’t come to a quick realization that they are doing such things with their hands. Once again, primal instinct sets in and forces their body to try to direct their person of interests attention to that area of their body.

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Sign #9.)  A guy who leans in while talking or listening to you is definitely interested in what you are doing and saying. This is a sign that tells you there is no doubt in him liking you. Men, for the most part, don’t like to direct their bodies towards just one person, especially if they aren’t interested. Leaning in is a sign that a man wants to be as close to you as possible.

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Sign #10.) Does a guy have no problem placing his arm around your shoulder? Does he take no modesty in touching your arm or knee? Have you had a guy tuck a strand of hair behind your ear or push your hair out of your face? A man who touches you a lot, is only showing that he doesn’t want there to be boundaries between the two of you and wants to get as close to you as possible.

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Sign #11.) Any guy who offers you his hand while climbing up or down stairs, out of a car, opens doors for you or offers you a sweater or jacket when you’re cold… well, he is totally crushing on you. Men don’t always try to take care of people that they themselves don’t care for. They will only go out of their way to protect and ensure the safety and comfort of people they truly like.

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Sign #12.) When a guy digs a girl he will always look at her first after saying or doing something funny or extraordinary. The reason he glimpses at you and awaits your reaction is to see what you think before he looks to see what anyone else thinks. That means your opinion is the most important and he totally is smitten with you.

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Sign #13.) Is there a man who tries to quickly smooth out wrinkles when you walk in? Does he fix his tie (if he wears one) or fuss with his hair? He’s trying to make himself presentable for you and that is a definite yes when it comes down to if he likes you or not.

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Sign #14.) Look to see if you can catch a guy mirroring your body language as you are talking.  The more he repeats what you do with his own body, the more he’s intent on paying attention to everything about you- from your words to your body. This gesture shows you that he is trying to make you feel more comfortable around him and he wants you to feel familiar with him, as well.

Sign #15.) A man who is trying to impress a girl he likes will suddenly stand up taller when she enters the room or area. He will try to make himself appear stronger, more protective and more masculine by doing this.

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Sign #16.) Guys often touch or stroke their face when they are really listening to what you have to say. They are set on taking in the information you are putting out and trying to remember it thoroughly. If you find a guy that is stroking his chin (or beard), cheeks or nose, then he is more than likely into you. And, he’s a total keeper for being a good listener, too!

Sign #17.) Again we loop back to talking about men and their hands. When a guy stretches his hands, especially an upward palm, towards you, it is his way of signaling to you that he wants to get closer to you and for you to get closer to him. It’s almost as if he is putting them out there in a form of asking permission to break personal space.

Sign #18.) When a guy is hardcore into a woman, he will flick his eyes towards her as much as possible. If you catch a man frequently staring at you and darting his eyes away quickly, then he is totally into you. The reason he does this, especially if you are not right next to each other, is to see what you are doing, how you are doing and what you are feeling at this point. He is literally focused on looking out for you.

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Sign #19.) If a guy sits next to you and leaves barely mere inches between you, it’s his way of showing you that he’s comfortable around you and likes being near you. Or, if you find him standing next to you, almost in your personal space, he is letting you know that he likes being close to you and prefers it over any other distance apart.

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Sign #20.) Always keep in mind that a man has instincts he isn’t even aware of most of the time. So, if you see a guy puffing out his chest to make it appear bigger and if he’s sucking in his gut, he’s trying to impress you. Some guys may only stick their chests out a little, but it’s still a most definite sign that he’s trying to prove his masculinity and stand out from all of the other guys in the room. He wants to prove to you that he’s the best and that he wants you!

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    Jo

    July 27, 2019 at 3:03 am

    Hi I believe I may have someone crushing on me at work. At last year’s Christmas party I caught him out of the corner of my eye looking down the back of my dress as I passed in front of him and he got very standoffish with me when I was chatting to other guys, even ones he’s friends with, he will even watch me like a hawk when me and another guy chat. He has held doors open for me, he blushes when I talk to him, he has glanced at my legs and butt then when he realises I catch him doing it he gives me this big Cheshire cat grin. He peers over his shoulder at me, even from a distance and when he is with other people at work he will glance at me, sometimes for as much as a minute and watch me get up from my desk. When we speak he sits very close to me, almost touching with his legs apart and he’ll put his hands in his lap. We chat more when it’s just him and I, too, and he doesn’t really chat at work at all!
    If I am at my desk and he is waiting to go into a meeting room just opposite he will peer over at me and if he approaches me when I am near my friends he will backtrack and go a different way.
    One day when I was working I saw him glance at me and I could feel eyes on my body as he passed. When I turned to look at him (he didn’t see me) I noticed him with a small smile, he was blushing and he started licking his lips and touching his mouth! If he sees me once during the morning he will then frequent the places I sm near to or go to, maybe to “bump into” me?
    I find his behaviour so confusing and I don’t know what to make of it all! We are on friendly terms but I’ve never known anyone behave like this with me at work!

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      web admin

      July 27, 2019 at 8:17 pm

      His behaviors are clear indications that he is attracted to you. It is certainly possible that he is interested in developing a relationship with you. He may be uncertain about your feelings toward him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunities to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Jo!

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    Cancerlove21

    July 25, 2019 at 2:28 am

    I have a friend who always acts overly friendly, by this I mean he likes to touch me a lot. He’s naturally a very touchy-feely type of guy. He’d do things like wrap his arms around me everywhere, touch my face, tackle me and always wants to pick me up. He also always genuinely interested in my love life. Recently, I was convinced he was in love with me but he ended up hooking up with my friend instead. Even to friends they think there’s something going on but when he’s asked he denies feelings.

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      web admin

      July 25, 2019 at 12:20 pm

      Feelings are complicated, so hooking up with your friend does not necessarily mean that he isn’t interested in you. He might just think that he has no hope with you and also happens to find your friend attractive as well. I probably wouldn’t make a move if I were you because he has denied his feelings to friends–this means he may or may not like you, but he definitely isn’t ready for a relationship with you yet. That could always change in the future though. Good luck, Cancerlove21!

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    Lisa Alger

    July 9, 2019 at 9:10 pm

    I’m seeing a Catholic divorced man. He makes it clear we are only friends and “massage girl” (me). A friend said, “He’s all over you!” touching me as we ride in boat. He loves giving me massages which are heavenly! And i give them back. Why does it go no further? Been less than a month, but we are “older” (50s and 60s) and I haven’t felt like this for someone in over 12 years! Am I too impatient?

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      web admin

      July 9, 2019 at 11:10 pm

      The two of you share a strong social relationship. He may feel uncertain about describing your relationship as a serious relationship, which explains why he calls you a friend. If you want this relationship to grow, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time together in person. Have a great day, Lisa!

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    Maureen

    June 20, 2019 at 1:37 pm

    There is a guy I like, every time I drop in on him in his office he always has the biggest (seemingly) smiles for me, is very experessive. The only thing that has me confused is how he sits. He leans back in his chair, one foot on his knee, lets spread far apart. his hands are either behind his head, rubbing his head and neck or rubbing his knee while making eye contact with me.

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      web admin

      June 20, 2019 at 4:12 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you, as he is attempting to be attractive for you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Maureen!

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    Liz

    May 31, 2019 at 9:54 pm

    Hi, I like this guy that I work with at work, he winks at me and smiles at me whenever we make eye contact but he does that to every girl co-workers. I told him that I like him but he doesn’t like me back but after a few months the guy suddenly ruffles my hair twice on separate days and it was in front of customers as well. Does the guy that I like is starting to like me back?

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      web admin

      June 1, 2019 at 2:44 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is attracted to you. It seems as though he may be a flirtatious person. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Liz!

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    Winner

    April 29, 2019 at 7:37 am

    I like this guy.we both haven’t spoken to each other but when I see him he keeps grooming his hair and he also puffed his chest out while walking towards me.when I say something about him in class he looks down and smiles. (Shy one).Never speaks or seems interested in other girls but I am scared after he qualifiesaid the exam he wI’ll not be there with me and in future if he falls for any other girl.
    Ifa shy guy is flirting is he serious!

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      web admin

      April 29, 2019 at 6:46 pm

      His behaviors are indications that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. It is certain that he wants to impress you and wants you to be attracted to him. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Winner!

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    lil

    December 28, 2018 at 2:20 am

    There’s a guy at church that I’m attracted to but I’m not sure if I should pursue more because we haven’t introduced ourselves. The first time I got to see him up close he was walking pass me and I make intense eye contact that my eyes are looking/following him and he noticed and started to fix his hair while walking straight(I think he was nervous). The second time i sat near him and he noticed me again looking at him-he fixed his collar&rubbed his fingers for a few seconds. We attended the next day on Christmas Eve and this time I couldn’t stop looking at him because I sat close to him. He noticed me the moment he walked in. He fixed his collar and shoes/socks? Then he walked across the room to stand in front of the alter, his eyes lingered to check the others were aligned with him and he founded me making eye contact with him and we finally locked eyes/gaze at each other for a few sec, both of our mouths opened then we had to break it. Back to seat, I noticed him fixing his fair again quickly. Then brushing it back slowly again because he knew I kept looking at him. He looked back at me but I got so nervous and looked away. When I passed by he looked over his shoulder to see me. I don’t know what else I should do???

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      web admin

      December 28, 2018 at 12:39 pm

      The two of you maintain eye contact. You share similar religious beliefs. You are aware that he looks at you often. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Decide what you believe is viable and appropriate for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Lil!

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      Beastfriend💖

      April 18, 2019 at 3:42 pm

      Ooo I have this like this but it’s not like this like my crush I have only 5th period with him and then after what happens is i always look over and somtimes he would look back at me Then he always stares at me outside
      And I and always moves his hair out of his face everytime I’m looking at him and he smiled at me today outside

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        web admin

        April 18, 2019 at 9:14 pm

        His behaviors are indications that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Take this time to determine what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Beast!

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      Ashley's💖

      April 18, 2019 at 3:58 pm

      So yesterday when I was in 4th period and class was almost over and then I just happened to look over at my crush and he looked back at me and then looked away quick what does that mean he likes me see I’m so confused rn??

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        web admin

        April 18, 2019 at 9:15 pm

        It is possible that he is interested in maintaining a relationship with you. You should make a decision about what you want for your future. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will nourish your relationship. Have a great day, Ashley!

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    Robert Wayne

    November 22, 2018 at 10:17 pm

    Great piece of writing friend. I have met the girl of my dreams. she is fun, lively and most importantly has a superb dressing sense. when we talk, she touches her hair a lot but she does not seem confused or anything when we talk. she goes out with me but it is not any sort date or something due to outdoor work, we go together two 2 to 3 times in a month. I have a question; can she really be into me? I am afraid to make a move what if I have been assuming it this whole time? Could you help me by sharing some advice? I do need it at this point.

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      web admin

      November 23, 2018 at 10:05 pm

      The two of you share a strong social connection. It is possible that she is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. Continue to spend additional time with her in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Determine what you want for your future. Speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Robert!

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    Nina Ingram

    November 22, 2018 at 12:44 am

    If all the signs are there but the guy avoids to make eye contact at least most of the time so what does it show? is he still into the girl or all the other signs are just a misunderstanding? super confused at this stage. need your expert advice!

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      web admin

      November 22, 2018 at 9:54 pm

      There may be a variety of reasons for his behaviors. Other indications re available for you to look through. Determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. The best way to avoid confusion is to speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him a chance to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Nina!

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    Cee Cee

    November 7, 2018 at 2:31 pm

    For 2 years this guy seems to pop up out of nowhere whenever we are at our social group which is Sundays and Tuesdays. For two years I’ve tried to show no interest( yet still be polite). We are both in relationships. He’s in my classes,he always seems to pop up out of nowhere, tries seemingly to be in my view when across the room,stares into my eyes sometimes for a few seconds without blinking while smiling but never says anything. He can’t seem to sit still when close to me even with a room full of people. And even though he does all this he will walk right up to my man and shake his hand with me standing there. I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t having an effect on me but I have to do right by my man and his woman. He never says anything other than hi or something along those lines. This has been going on for 2 years! So I’m beginning to wonder, is this a game to him?

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      web admin

      November 7, 2018 at 9:18 pm

      He is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. He is sharing his kindness and compassion with you and your partner. He is aware that you are in a relationship. Do not attempt to nourish a romantic relationship with him. Spend additional time with your partner, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Cee Cee!

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    Hannah

    October 18, 2018 at 2:13 pm

    Hi ! I’m really confused by a guy I met in a mall he works there. Why I was first interacting with him on the counter I could see he was a little bit nervous. I could see him a little bit trembling. But I just acted normal. Not long after I went away and came back before I reached there he already noticed me from far and the moment he spotted he moved around nervously while he was just standing straight there. Ok then next few days, I happened to be there again for some reason, and I was passing the place then again the same thing happened when from standing straight he started to move around nervously *the moment he spotted me. When I reached by there he walked away and it happened that he told the co-worker to go to the toilet. I mean like why he was being like that. I mean like it’s a bit defensive, no? could he be interested or had I offended him in anyway without me noticing ?

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      web admin

      October 18, 2018 at 11:21 pm

      His behaviors may be normal for him, or he may be nervous around you. He may have been so nervous around you that he felt like he needed to leave. His nervous behaviors may be an indication that he is attracted to you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future. You will find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Hannah!

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    Hannah

    October 18, 2018 at 2:11 pm

    Hi ! I’m really confused by a guy I met in a mall he works there. Why I was first interacting with him on the counter I could see he was a little bit nervous. I could see him a little bit trembling. But I just acted normal. Not long after I went away and came back before I reached there he already noticed me from far and the moment he spotted he moved around nervously while he was just standing straight there. Ok then next few days, I happened to be there again for some reason, and I was passing the place then again the same thing happened when from standing straight he started to move around nervously. When I reached by there he walked away and it happened that he told the co-worker to go to the toilet. I mean like why he was being like that. I mean like it’s a bit defensive, no? could he be interested or had I offended him in anyway without me noticing ?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 18, 2018 at 11:20 pm

      His behaviors may be normal for him, or he may be nervous around you. He may have been so nervous around you that he felt like he needed to leave. His nervous behaviors may be an indication that he is attracted to you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future. You will find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Hannah!

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    Penelope jilly

    October 18, 2018 at 5:38 am

    I like this guy from my church confirmation group and I not sure if he likes me, he sits next to me when his twin and friends are in a different row a lot of the time and will give me the paper handouts if I forget them or pick stuff up when I drop them. He also tells jokes and laughs at mine. Does he like me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 18, 2018 at 11:09 pm

      He likely feels a strong social connection with you. You share similar religious beliefs, and this may help connect the two of you. You may find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps spend additional time with him in person. You may want to nourish this relationship by sharing in additional religious activities. Have a great day, Penelope!

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