20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language

By on September 15, 2013

When it comes to guys… well, let’s just say it can be pretty darn hard to figure out if he’s into a woman or not! At times, men and boys can definitely be hard to read. Their body language is different than ours and it can be troublesome to decode what they are really feeling. After doing some research, it turns out that guys aren’t really that hard to get when it comes to the signals they are sending out… If you know what to look for that is! Here are some tells to look for when it comes to decoding a guy’s body language and what he is really saying. Does he like you or not? Read the following tips to find out:

Sign # 1.) A guy who is interested in you may start touching, twirling or running his hands through his hair while smiling. This could be due to the fact that it’s a habit he has when he gets nervous around a lady, but is still showing strong intrigue. Be careful for head-scratching, tugging or a frown while he’s doing these hair-touching mannerisms, though. Those are two signs that he may be frustrated, confused or bored!


Sign #2.) A man who is licking his lips around you may be secretly signaling that he finds you delectable. Maybe he’s trying to tell you something… Wink, wink. Or, it could mean that lip-licking is another nervous habit he possesses. Sometimes, when people get nervous, their mouths go dry and cause them to lick their lips to keep them hydrated.


Sign #3.) A guy will usually unknowingly display his interest to a woman by directing his entire upper body (chest, head, shoulders) to his crush. He does this to show you that he is interested in only you. He is subtly positioning himself so that others know his attention is directed at one person and he isn’t open for anyone else to talk to steal the conversation at this point.

Sign #4.) You may find a guy is into you by looking to see if he is making consistent eye contact with you for long periods of time (more than 5 seconds!) to connect with you and show you that he is really intent on listening to what you have to say. He’s also focused on trying to get to know more of your body language, too. (Or, he may even just think you have beautiful eyes and can’t look away!)

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Sign #5.) Really want to find out if someone’s into you? Well, when a guy is attracted and intrigued by a girl, he will raise his eyebrows. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s interested in someone and if he’s talking to you, then you are the one he’s raising them for. Keep your eyes peeled, though, as this gesture is usually a pretty quick and subtle one.


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Sign #6.) Primal instincts will kick into a man when he is crushing on a woman. Because of those instincts he will, most likely without realizing it, spread his feet slightly apart and direct his hips and pelvis towards his person of interest. It’s just biological!


Sign #7.) The gesturing of hands is a significant thing to look for when chatting with a guy. If this certain someone digs you, he will use his hands a lot. Guys tend to use their hands to go along with their conversation a ton more when they are talking to a girl they really like. The reason they do this is to make sure you are understanding what they are saying on the same level they do and they are trying very hard to hold your attention to them. Sometimes, though, different people talk differently and not all guys will use large arm and hand gestures.

hand gestures

Sign #8.) To help you figure out if a man is really interested, make sure you are paying close attention to where he is placing both of his hands at all times. It’s more common that when a guy likes a girl, he will place his fingers through his belt loops or hook a finger on his waistband. He may also place his hands on his lap a lot or put them in his pockets. They do this to draw attention to their pelvic area…  I bet you can guess why? Don’t get the wrong idea! Some guys don’t come to a quick realization that they are doing such things with their hands. Once again, primal instinct sets in and forces their body to try to direct their person of interests attention to that area of their body.

hand in pocket

Sign #9.)  A guy who leans in while talking or listening to you is definitely interested in what you are doing and saying. This is a sign that tells you there is no doubt in him liking you. Men, for the most part, don’t like to direct their bodies towards just one person, especially if they aren’t interested. Leaning in is a sign that a man wants to be as close to you as possible.


Sign #10.) Does a guy have no problem placing his arm around your shoulder? Does he take no modesty in touching your arm or knee? Have you had a guy tuck a strand of hair behind your ear or push your hair out of your face? A man who touches you a lot, is only showing that he doesn’t want there to be boundaries between the two of you and wants to get as close to you as possible.


hand on shoulder

Sign #11.) Any guy who offers you his hand while climbing up or down stairs, out of a car, opens doors for you or offers you a sweater or jacket when you’re cold… well, he is totally crushing on you. Men don’t always try to take care of people that they themselves don’t care for. They will only go out of their way to protect and ensure the safety and comfort of people they truly like.


Sign #12.) When a guy digs a girl he will always look at her first after saying or doing something funny or extraordinary. The reason he glimpses at you and awaits your reaction is to see what you think before he looks to see what anyone else thinks. That means your opinion is the most important and he totally is smitten with you.


Sign #13.) Is there a man who tries to quickly smooth out wrinkles when you walk in? Does he fix his tie (if he wears one) or fuss with his hair? He’s trying to make himself presentable for you and that is a definite yes when it comes down to if he likes you or not.


Sign #14.) Look to see if you can catch a guy mirroring your body language as you are talking.  The more he repeats what you do with his own body, the more he’s intent on paying attention to everything about you- from your words to your body. This gesture shows you that he is trying to make you feel more comfortable around him and he wants you to feel familiar with him, as well.

Sign #15.) A man who is trying to impress a girl he likes will suddenly stand up taller when she enters the room or area. He will try to make himself appear stronger, more protective and more masculine by doing this.


Sign #16.) Guys often touch or stroke their face when they are really listening to what you have to say. They are set on taking in the information you are putting out and trying to remember it thoroughly. If you find a guy that is stroking his chin (or beard), cheeks or nose, then he is more than likely into you. And, he’s a total keeper for being a good listener, too!

Sign #17.) Again we loop back to talking about men and their hands. When a guy stretches his hands, especially an upward palm, towards you, it is his way of signaling to you that he wants to get closer to you and for you to get closer to him. It’s almost as if he is putting them out there in a form of asking permission to break personal space.

Sign #18.) When a guy is hardcore into a woman, he will flick his eyes towards her as much as possible. If you catch a man frequently staring at you and darting his eyes away quickly, then he is totally into you. The reason he does this, especially if you are not right next to each other, is to see what you are doing, how you are doing and what you are feeling at this point. He is literally focused on looking out for you.


Sign #19.) If a guy sits next to you and leaves barely mere inches between you, it’s his way of showing you that he’s comfortable around you and likes being near you. Or, if you find him standing next to you, almost in your personal space, he is letting you know that he likes being close to you and prefers it over any other distance apart.

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Sign #20.) Always keep in mind that a man has instincts he isn’t even aware of most of the time. So, if you see a guy puffing out his chest to make it appear bigger and if he’s sucking in his gut, he’s trying to impress you. Some guys may only stick their chests out a little, but it’s still a most definite sign that he’s trying to prove his masculinity and stand out from all of the other guys in the room. He wants to prove to you that he’s the best and that he wants you!



  1. Rachel

    November 26, 2016 at 10:55 am

    I sometime find myself in doubt over this but here we go. So I have 3 classes with a guy I do think I like and I’m not aure if he likes me. During class or before it I would stea moments to scan the room and then look at him. One day one of his bazillion friends caught me doing it and told the guy I like. I have a very shy standoffish personality. My main problem is fear like what if I say something stupid or embarrass myself. So I avoid saying words to basically anyone. When my crushes friend told him I was looking I immediately looked away and shaded my face with my hand and hair. Still out of the corner of my eye I saw them both smiling and kind of laughing while they looked my direction. After that I took my time to avoid looking at him. However every once in a while it seemed I would catch him looking at me.Never for very long. One time during class we both sit in the back of the room however in different rows with a good 3 seats between us. During class we both looked at each other, turned away, and then looked at each other in the eye again.i have yet to say a word to him and he has yet to say a word to me. There has been quite a few times since that we have looked at each other always in the eye. Then one time going in the second class that I have with him which is literally back to back with the first class I have with him he kind od stopped me. When we first go in that class we have to stop at the door and grab a paper on the table at we walk in. That particular day he was in front of me and he grabbed his paper and scanned his eyes over it not moving out of the way. I just calmly waited behind him as I usually did but then he slowly turned around to look at me. I kept my eyes low to avoid eye contact because to me it only gets really awkward. But he didn’t move. Finally I looked up his eyes still burning at my skin. We met eyes for a while not saying a word to each other. A few people being him cleared and I maybe swiftly dodged around him after dropping my eyes. For a second he stood there and then headed to his seat. Before I had looked up it was like he was waiting or wanting me to look up and meet eyes with him. My nervous energymade my palms get drenched in sweat so as my last resort I dodged the awkward moment. But I still don’t know. Does he like me and was he testing to see what I would do when we met eyes. But when I dodged away I fear I may have made him think I don’t like him. The following well after that I avoided looking at him all together and unless I’m blind I think he did the same. But this past week it seemed like he began looking at me. He would snatch looks at me in every moment possible or at least thats what it seems. And I avoid all eye contact if he looks at me I try to dodge it. The thing I thought was odd about the whole thing is is best friend. His best friend would joke around with me saying I was his boyfriend and that we had known each other since first grade even though we literally just met when we started high-school. If the best friend wants me to date or some.thing with my crush why is he acting like I’m his girlfriend and not my crushes…..I’m so confused…help please

    • web admin

      web admin

      November 26, 2016 at 3:56 pm

      It is possible that he has feelings for you. If he did not have some level of thoughts about you, then he would not be attempting to maintain eye contact with you. You can attempt to spend additional time with him. You can also speak with him about your ideas and thoughts. If the two of you become closer, then speak directly and honestly with him about your feelings. This will give him a chance to share his feelings with you as well. Best of luck, Rachel!

  2. Yoojung

    October 31, 2016 at 4:10 am

    So i have this co-worker who shows signs #, 19,12,11,10,9, and 5 whenever we are together but i don’t want to look so much into it cause he’s the type who is touchy with everyone,i like him but i don’t know if he likes me also, does this actions of his can be considered if he’s interested in me or not?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 31, 2016 at 12:15 pm

      If he touches you and spends time with you, then he may have feelings for you. If he touches many people, then he may have feelings for many people or may just be a touchy person. That said, he has no reason to limit his gestures and actions until he is dating someone. He may be strongly desiring a relationship. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Thank you for commenting, Yoojung!

  3. emcee

    October 24, 2016 at 2:39 am

    i have a co-worker who is also a friend.we are both in early 30s.i am getting mixed signals from him.we are always together in the office.every saturday we hang out with friends i know all of his crushes but sometimes he acts as if he is my bf.he always tease me that i am a lesbian.he is always touching my hair arms and knee sometimes my face.whenever we are together he always sit beside me or standing next to me.but whenever a pretty girl walks by, he is staring.im just confused.i dunno what to make out of it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 26, 2016 at 1:08 pm

      It is likely that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you because he is so physical and spends a lot of time with you. The fact that he looks at other people may stem from his insecurity about how you feel about him. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. This discussion will help him better understand your feelings and will make him think about his own thoughts. Perhaps you can see where your friendship can go in the future. Remain positive and enjoy life, Emcee!

  4. jozzy

    October 20, 2016 at 4:49 pm

    Help please. There’s this guy I know in my hood, all he does each time we see each other is just stare deep into my eyes and sometimes my face. We’re both 19 and because of his behaviour I’ve also started staring back but I usually break the contact first. We of see each other in the bus, in the bar and almost every single day. The most shocking thing is that we’ve never said hello to each other, we just do the staring. The other time I was walking when I saw him on his motorbike coming, he just started scanning my face, I did same till he curved. Please help me cuz don’t really know what’s going on.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 21, 2016 at 5:50 pm

      It is likely that he has an interest in developing a relationship with you. The fact that he looks at your face and you look at his means that the two of you may have some sort of connection. Perhaps the two of you are shy or confused about how the other person feels. Maybe it would be wise of you to speak with him the next time that you see him. He probably wants to speak to you, but he may be concerned that you do not want to speak with him. Enjoy life and take a risk, Jozzy!

  5. Ladan

    October 10, 2016 at 8:45 am

    I like this guy We are not actually in the same class but I still like him when we pass by each other he looks at me weirdly way I Stare at him too but I don’t know if he is starring at me or just looking back
    And when ever he sees me he runs away from me I actually don’t know why maybe he hates me please help me I am confused

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 10, 2016 at 11:48 am

      I doubt that he hates you. If he did not like you, it would take a lot of energy to stare at you and avoid you. It is possible that he likes you and is just afraid to do anything about it. Or, he may think that you like him and he wants to try to avoid leading you on or something. Whatever is going on in his mind, it is out of your control, so there is no point in worrying too much about it. Good luck, Ladan!

  6. nguyen lynn

    October 9, 2016 at 12:36 am

    There is this guy in my school.We are in the same sports club he used to tease me a lot but now when we walk pass one another we only stare at each other.I dont know how to react to this or know what he is thinking.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 9, 2016 at 9:27 am

      He may like you and be afraid of making a move, especially since he does not have the sports club as an excuse to talk to you. Do you like him back? What do you want from him? Once you know how you feel, you can decide if you want to make a move or just leave things as they are. Good luck, Nguyen Lynn!

  7. Rang

    October 8, 2016 at 10:59 pm

    I have this guy friend who I met like 4-5 weeks ago. We got to know each other through a student organization at college. Despite a short time of knowing each other, I find his presence comforting and feel protected. He’d touch my forearm/knee casually while we are talking. At this one event, he introduced me to his friends and complimented on how smart I am while holding my shoulder. He’d have his hand on my back while he talks to his friends. He highfives me a lot on a daily basis and he would interlock our fingers at times. He ruffles my hair occasionally and pats me on the head at times, too. He once offered me his hand to get down from a stage which wasn’t even high (I could come down by myself even without his help). He stands really close to me when we are with others. There was this one night when he offered to walk me back home because it was late. Funny thing was that there was this other female member who lives on the way to my dorm and I was like, “Can’t you walk her back home too since she lives near my dorm?”. He blatantly refused, saying, “I don’t want to”. So we walked to our dorm (only two of us). I didn’t know he had to go the opposite route to my dorm to get back to his car so I apologized. He said, ” It’s okay. I wouldn’t have offered to walk you back home if I didn’t want to”. Also, during the cookout we had, I had to ride with him by chance. He was like, “Your friends can ride in the car behind too” when I asked him if we are all going together. But, my friends chose to ride in the same car as us and he somehow looked kinda uncomfortable with that (it could just be the result of overdramatizing the situation when he wasn’t really uncomfortable). Throughout the cookout, I wasn’t feeling well so I left the shelter and headed to the forest to rest instead. Somehow, everyone thought I got lost and two friends came looking for me. A friend of mine told me that he got really worried when I was assumed to be lost. He also stayed behind with the rest of few members when all of his friends left. i don’t know if he stayed behind because he’s worried about me but I could feel his gaze on me until I got into my friend’s car and closed the door. He offered me his jacket when I kept complaining to my friend about how cold I am. I was taken aback by his action because he’s not that kind of person who’d just lend his jacket to anyone. There was also this one night when he texted me while he’s drinking. He’d never text me first unless there’s something really important but he did that night. We just talked about little things throughout the night.

    He’s 23 and I’m 17. We only see each other like once or twice a week. He shared the same birthday as my cousin so he once told me that we could have cousin (brother-sister) relationship. i’m comfortable with that because I feel protected. The thing is that I overheard their friends talking about me and him. A: “He told me like they (me & him) are just brother-sister but you never know what will happen with a man and a woman you know” B: “Eh *shakes head* they have huge age difference”. Also, one of my friend told me that she thinks he’s interested in me because she noticed that he kept touching me. I used to consider him a brother and I still do, but it’s just that people’s opinions and sometimes, my feelings are confusing me. Do you think he likes me or he’s just taking care of me as a sister?

    Thanks in advance.

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 9, 2016 at 9:26 am

      It could be either, although it sounds like he may be starting to have feelings for you. As you get older, a six year age difference really is not that much. Once you turn 18, it should be a legal relationship regardless of where you live. He may be just be waiting to make a move until you are officially an adult, or he may really view you as a little sister. If you like him back, talk to him and see how he feels. If you don’t like him back, then you don’t have to do anything and can just continue the relationship as it is.

  8. Megan

    September 28, 2016 at 9:06 pm

    I like this guy, and I don’t know if he likes me. Whenever we make accidental eye contact, he’ll look away really fast. And when we do talk to each other, he’s always asking me questions and keeps the conversation going but we normally talk about work related things. One time when we were talking, he reached out and slapped a pole, so I don’t know if that’s a sign of nervousness? He also kept on looking at me but the second I looked over at him, he looked away. I don’t know if he’s just being friendly with me or if I should read into it.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 29, 2016 at 11:41 am

      It is likely that he has an emotional connection with you but is uncertain on how to act on it. If you determine that you want to develop a relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. You may find that his actions were signs of his shyness or confusion. It is likely that he has an interest in you. Remain positive and mindful as you move forward, Megan!

  9. His friend also likes me

    September 23, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    I like this guy and I hear that he likes me, but some of the girls in my class are warning me that I shouldn’t get involved. He’s really nice and funny and FREAKIN ADORABLE and i think I like him. He’s never been in a relationship with any of those girls, either. Question mark?

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 25, 2016 at 10:23 am

      It is possible that those other girls are jealous and it is possible that they have reasons to feel that way. Perhaps speak with him and spend time with him. If you find that he is nice and that you trust his actions, then you can seek a relationship with him in the future. Remain mindful of those other girls in your class, but also be aware that they may have your best interests in mind. Enjoy life and take a risk if you want to!

  10. need advice

    September 22, 2016 at 11:03 pm

    There this guy who sits next to me by assigned seating he always is touching me on the leg,arm,hand,feet to feet,and head. He has a girlfriend not me. His friend says he likes me but I don’t know if it’s true. He touches me constantly , jokes around, and stares and makes eye contact. Does he like me truthfully.

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 25, 2016 at 9:44 am

      He almost certainly has an interest in you. If you need him to stop touching you, then be clear and direct about your feelings. If you are fine with his actions, then continue doing what you do. If you want to develop a relationship with him, then take time to talk with him and get to know him a little better. You may find people asking you if the two of you are dating because of how he is touching you, so be prepared to possibly have to answer that question.

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