20 Signs A Guy Likes You: Decoding His Body Language

By on September 15, 2013

When it comes to guys… well, let’s just say it can be pretty darn hard to figure out if he’s into a woman or not! At times, men and boys can definitely be hard to read. Their body language is different than ours and it can be troublesome to decode what they are really feeling. After doing some research, it turns out that guys aren’t really that hard to get when it comes to the signals they are sending out… If you know what to look for that is! Here are some tells to look for when it comes to decoding a guy’s body language and what he is really saying. Does he like you or not? Read the following tips to find out:

Sign # 1.) A guy who is interested in you may start touching, twirling or running his hands through his hair while smiling. This could be due to the fact that it’s a habit he has when he gets nervous around a lady, but is still showing strong intrigue. Be careful for head-scratching, tugging or a frown while he’s doing these hair-touching mannerisms, though. Those are two signs that he may be frustrated, confused or bored!


Sign #2.) A man who is licking his lips around you may be secretly signaling that he finds you delectable. Maybe he’s trying to tell you something… Wink, wink. Or, it could mean that lip-licking is another nervous habit he possesses. Sometimes, when people get nervous, their mouths go dry and cause them to lick their lips to keep them hydrated.


Sign #3.) A guy will usually unknowingly display his interest to a woman by directing his entire upper body (chest, head, shoulders) to his crush. He does this to show you that he is interested in only you. He is subtly positioning himself so that others know his attention is directed at one person and he isn’t open for anyone else to talk to steal the conversation at this point.

Sign #4.) You may find a guy is into you by looking to see if he is making consistent eye contact with you for long periods of time (more than 5 seconds!) to connect with you and show you that he is really intent on listening to what you have to say. He’s also focused on trying to get to know more of your body language, too. (Or, he may even just think you have beautiful eyes and can’t look away!)

eye contact

Sign #5.) Really want to find out if someone’s into you? Well, when a guy is attracted and intrigued by a girl, he will raise his eyebrows. This is a tell-tale sign that he’s interested in someone and if he’s talking to you, then you are the one he’s raising them for. Keep your eyes peeled, though, as this gesture is usually a pretty quick and subtle one.


raise his eyebrows

Sign #6.) Primal instincts will kick into a man when he is crushing on a woman. Because of those instincts he will, most likely without realizing it, spread his feet slightly apart and direct his hips and pelvis towards his person of interest. It’s just biological!


Sign #7.) The gesturing of hands is a significant thing to look for when chatting with a guy. If this certain someone digs you, he will use his hands a lot. Guys tend to use their hands to go along with their conversation a ton more when they are talking to a girl they really like. The reason they do this is to make sure you are understanding what they are saying on the same level they do and they are trying very hard to hold your attention to them. Sometimes, though, different people talk differently and not all guys will use large arm and hand gestures.

hand gestures

Sign #8.) To help you figure out if a man is really interested, make sure you are paying close attention to where he is placing both of his hands at all times. It’s more common that when a guy likes a girl, he will place his fingers through his belt loops or hook a finger on his waistband. He may also place his hands on his lap a lot or put them in his pockets. They do this to draw attention to their pelvic area…  I bet you can guess why? Don’t get the wrong idea! Some guys don’t come to a quick realization that they are doing such things with their hands. Once again, primal instinct sets in and forces their body to try to direct their person of interests attention to that area of their body.

hand in pocket

Sign #9.)  A guy who leans in while talking or listening to you is definitely interested in what you are doing and saying. This is a sign that tells you there is no doubt in him liking you. Men, for the most part, don’t like to direct their bodies towards just one person, especially if they aren’t interested. Leaning in is a sign that a man wants to be as close to you as possible.


Sign #10.) Does a guy have no problem placing his arm around your shoulder? Does he take no modesty in touching your arm or knee? Have you had a guy tuck a strand of hair behind your ear or push your hair out of your face? A man who touches you a lot, is only showing that he doesn’t want there to be boundaries between the two of you and wants to get as close to you as possible.

hand on shoulder

Sign #11.) Any guy who offers you his hand while climbing up or down stairs, out of a car, opens doors for you or offers you a sweater or jacket when you’re cold… well, he is totally crushing on you. Men don’t always try to take care of people that they themselves don’t care for. They will only go out of their way to protect and ensure the safety and comfort of people they truly like.


Sign #12.) When a guy digs a girl he will always look at her first after saying or doing something funny or extraordinary. The reason he glimpses at you and awaits your reaction is to see what you think before he looks to see what anyone else thinks. That means your opinion is the most important and he totally is smitten with you.


Sign #13.) Is there a man who tries to quickly smooth out wrinkles when you walk in? Does he fix his tie (if he wears one) or fuss with his hair? He’s trying to make himself presentable for you and that is a definite yes when it comes down to if he likes you or not.


Sign #14.) Look to see if you can catch a guy mirroring your body language as you are talking.  The more he repeats what you do with his own body, the more he’s intent on paying attention to everything about you- from your words to your body. This gesture shows you that he is trying to make you feel more comfortable around him and he wants you to feel familiar with him, as well.

Sign #15.) A man who is trying to impress a girl he likes will suddenly stand up taller when she enters the room or area. He will try to make himself appear stronger, more protective and more masculine by doing this.


Sign #16.) Guys often touch or stroke their face when they are really listening to what you have to say. They are set on taking in the information you are putting out and trying to remember it thoroughly. If you find a guy that is stroking his chin (or beard), cheeks or nose, then he is more than likely into you. And, he’s a total keeper for being a good listener, too!

Sign #17.) Again we loop back to talking about men and their hands. When a guy stretches his hands, especially an upward palm, towards you, it is his way of signaling to you that he wants to get closer to you and for you to get closer to him. It’s almost as if he is putting them out there in a form of asking permission to break personal space.

Sign #18.) When a guy is hardcore into a woman, he will flick his eyes towards her as much as possible. If you catch a man frequently staring at you and darting his eyes away quickly, then he is totally into you. The reason he does this, especially if you are not right next to each other, is to see what you are doing, how you are doing and what you are feeling at this point. He is literally focused on looking out for you.


Sign #19.) If a guy sits next to you and leaves barely mere inches between you, it’s his way of showing you that he’s comfortable around you and likes being near you. Or, if you find him standing next to you, almost in your personal space, he is letting you know that he likes being close to you and prefers it over any other distance apart.

sit next to

Sign #20.) Always keep in mind that a man has instincts he isn’t even aware of most of the time. So, if you see a guy puffing out his chest to make it appear bigger and if he’s sucking in his gut, he’s trying to impress you. Some guys may only stick their chests out a little, but it’s still a most definite sign that he’s trying to prove his masculinity and stand out from all of the other guys in the room. He wants to prove to you that he’s the best and that he wants you!



  1. Lovergirl

    November 26, 2015 at 5:03 am

    There’s a guy in my homeroom and I really like him his locker is right next to mine and everytime I go to my locker hes there and he always says hi to me and I was playing piano and he walks in and says to mo to play that again so he could record it and he does then he posts it on youtube. and today my friend told him that a girl with my name likes him but with blue eyes and blonde hair and he said that he realy wants to now who it is but its me and then he tells me that and then he puts his hand on my shoulder and says well see you tomorrow but the thing is he had his hand on my shoulder for 10 seconds. Does that tell me he likes me or are we just friends?

    • web admin

      November 26, 2015 at 5:26 pm

      It sounds like he could like you. Video taping for YouTube, trying to be close to you all the time and making an excuse to touch your shoulder makes it sound like he is interested in you. Would you like to date him or become more than friends? You could try getting his number or messaging him online. Or, you could just ask him to hang out after school someday so that you can get to know him better. Good luck, Lovergirl!

  2. Hopeless

    November 26, 2015 at 3:35 am

    Okay I need a advice. I think this guy might like me or he being friendly.

    1. He first time we met, one of my friends was friends with him and know he like heavy metal. She let it “slip” that I like that type of music too. So when he saw me with my headphones in listening to music he made his way to me and ask what I was listening too. Me being me I said music. He ask me what type of music, not accepting my answer. This time I shrugged and walk away, but he seem determine to figure me out I guess and speed-walk to catch up with me and blurted out if I like heavy metal. I was dumbfounded because I was expected to be asking so many questions so I just stare at him and he name different types of bands he was into but soon realized I wasn’t talking to him or answering his questions he left.

    2) I was at working at my part time job ringing people up until I saw him walk in the door, holding a star wars pillow and some rainbow socks. (For his gf I didn’t know he had until later on) he wanted to return both items..I guess cause he didn’t like them and I was being polite and business-like as much as I can. As started taking his returns back in the middle of the process our store always need a address and number to clarify the item(s) are no longer in your care and return to the store if not wanted. So I ask for his number and address, he smirked at me and ask why are you trying to find out where I stay and keep my number if u wanted u should have of ask. Is he flirting with me?

    3) when I was went to my dads store to help him out and he work there too. So yeah..this would be fun right. So in the middle of the day I got thristy and gotten a energy drink and he was working at the cash register I told him I wanted to buy a drink and he needed to punch my work number in so I can pay for it. As he ring it up he ask for my number (work number)he stop for a second and look so dead serious it scared me..and he was like no ur phone number. But I just stare at him wide eyed in shock and he just shrugged and ring me up give me my drink and went back to work..

    4) I was stacking stuff on the shelf and he was finish with a customer and saw me.on the other side of the shelf and bend down into eye level with me and make funny faces distracted me. I laugh trying to ingore him but he kept following me until he stop in front of my dad on the other side of the shelf and stop looking embrassed.

    4) he was chilling outside cooling off and I was inside inside I forgot to bring in some shopping carts back into the store and he was listening to music and when he saw me he started to dance and said u missing all the fun out here. I ingnore him and grab both shopping carts and try to push them inside but it was kinda hurt with one hand he saw me having a rough time and offer to help me I protest and say no I got it..he ingnore my protest and open the door for me while push the carts inside..I thank him and he smile sweetly at me and say anytime.

    He friendly with everyone and has a gf. And all but does he likes me more as gf material than he’s actually gf. Or just being friendly. I dont want to break them up but I cant get him off my mind. Please help


    • web admin

      November 26, 2015 at 5:13 pm

      It sounds like he could like you, but he is not going any farther because a) he has a girlfriend and b) you have done a lot, at least initially, to put him off. For the moment, I would not expect this relationship to go any farther because he has a girlfriend–and out of respect for him, his girlfriend and relationships in general, you should not do anything more than just be friends. Go ahead and become friends with him though because it will put you in a good position to date him if he does break up with her. Plus, it seems like he does like you, so he probably would be interested in dating you if he became single in the future.

  3. Anomynous

    November 24, 2015 at 4:14 am

    i know this guy and everytime i look at him he looks at me back and i look away i think he likes me cuz i was showing a girl this paper that my friend printed out for me and it said my crushes name and he saw it and immdiatly told the guy and after that he hasnt talk to me so much is it possible that he could be jealous or is he just not have had the time to talk to me yet

    • web admin

      November 26, 2015 at 2:34 am

      He could be jealous or he might not have the time to talk to you. There is also a chance that he is not sure if the note was for real, or he might not like you back. Whatever the option is, I would just wait for a bit. If he does not do anything within the next week, I would just ask him if he likes you or if he would like to try going on a date. The only way you will know what is possible between you two is to ask.

  4. Resolute

    November 21, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    Alright,I’ve got a big problem here and I don’t know if it’ll be answered,but I really need to say what’s on my mind,because I need help. XD So,I’m a freshman in high school. I was in public school in kindergarten,1st grade,and 2nd grade. Then,I was home schooled for the rest of my life up until this year. A bunch of stuff happened,so now I’m in public school,once again. On the first day of school,I was SUPER nervous. Something that you need to know about me is that I am a very shy,anti-social person with a very low self esteem. It sucks. Anyway,back to the story. I thought I wouldn’t make friends,but I made two new friends. They were two boys (they’re best friends). But they’re REALLY immature and stupid. XD So they were really nice to me and my younger brother (he’s a freshman,too) and then payed a lot of attention to me. But I liked one more than the other. They’ve been my friends ever since then. So,now I’ll get down to the real problem. I can’t stop thinking about him. One day,I was leaving the school to get to the bus,and he came up behind me and hugged me. He was being really serious (which is unlike him) and he told me to hug him back. I hugged him back,and then he just left. SO confusing. But here are some things about him: He’s really annoying and he’s a troublemaker. He’s always getting into ISS (In-School Suspension/Detention/Etc).
    Here are some reasons that I think he might possibly like me:
    •He always holds my hand
    •He hugs me a lot
    •He compliments my clothes a lot
    •He always moves his desk RIGHT next to mine (with no space at all)
    •His calf is always pushing against mine (but he doesn’t seem to notice)
    •He loves to play with my hair
    •I always catch him staring at me
    •He often gets a little too close to me when we talk
    Reasons that I think he doesn’t like me:
    •There’s this girl in my classes named Chloe and he really seems to like her. I often see him hugging her or walking to her desk to chat with her. But she has a boyfriend.
    •He is only in two of my classes,so we don’t see each other much
    •He teases me a lot and sometimes it feels like he’s too harsh (but he apologizes)
    I’m just really confused…I don’t know what to think about him. Yesterday,at lunch,I (very shyly) sat at his table with him and a few of his friends. They all told me to leave and go find another table. I was about to cry and I didn’t want them to see me cry,so I got up,but he stopped me and told me not to go. His friends looked at him like “Why?” but he told me to sit closer to him,so I did. One of his friends flirts with me (A LOT) and he usually tells them to back off. I don’t know what to think. I don’t know if he likes me or doesn’t or what. :( Please reply. -Resolute

    • web admin

      November 22, 2015 at 3:05 pm

      It sounds like he could like you. All of the things that he does like playing with your hair, hugging you and looking at for you make it seem like he could be interested. The fact that he may like Chloe does not necessarily mean that he is not interested–after all, it is entirely possible to like two girls at once. My main worry would be that trying to date him could end up ruining your friendship. Since you only have a couple of friends at your new school, losing one of them would make your life rather difficult. If he makes a move, I would go for it. Otherwise, I might wait until you have more friends to decide to take the risk.

      • Resolute

        November 22, 2015 at 5:05 pm

        Ok,thanks! I’ll try my best. -Resolute

        • web admin

          November 22, 2015 at 6:38 pm

          Good luck, Resolute! I hope that everything works out for you!

  5. Noor

    November 16, 2015 at 3:20 pm

    I see my trainer weekly. Everytime he comes to me during class and makes at least one joke. He leans in to me, but he’s very tall and i’m petite, so I don’t really want to read anything into that. He calls my name a couple of times during class, mostly to chear me on. He also does it with others, but i have a feeling that he calls my name more. Maybe this could be because he wants to keep his class full (a lot of participants). I don’t know. In class he once said: “I’m going to touch you in a minute, so don’t panic. This was to show me something that i was doing wrong. Last week i was at a party and he came up to me to say hi. I hadn’t seen him, so he took initiative. Immediately after I recognized him, he stood with his arms widely open (like he would hug me, or when you would say “here I am”) and we simultaneously grabbed eachothers forearms, while i leaned in to him to give him a kiss on the cheeck (what i never did before). We talked a little and then he said goodbye and he said he was going to come back to dance with me. I think h’s quite a touchy-feely-kinda-guy so i try not to read to much into anything. That evening i ran in to him a couple of times, everytime he touched me. Once when i passed by him, he touched my upperarm softly, while smiling but not saying anything. The other time i didn’t see him and i wasn’t facing him. He drew my attention by touching the back of my neck, twice. After that he made a joke (again leaning in, but he’s way taller). The last time i ran into him, i was waiting in line and wasn’t paying attention. He raised his voice and introduced me to one of his lady friends who was standing in line right before me. He was telling her i was a great athlete (refering to his class)and talking me up (although i have no talent for that class, and i don’t think i’m any good), meanwhile putting his arms around my shouders very briefly. I have no idea if he’s interested for real. (at the party i saw him dancing and he was very popular with the ladies). What do you think? Thanks.

    • web admin

      November 16, 2015 at 5:53 pm

      He could just be flirtatious or he could be interested in you. From your description, both options seem equally likely. Since you are taking a class with him, I would wait until the class ends to make a move. Otherwise, your training class could become incredibly awkward. Who knows? He may end up asking you on a date before the end of the class, and then you would not have to decide what to do. At any rate, I think that your best option right now is just to wait and see what happens. Perhaps he will do something else to really show that he is interested, or you will find out that he is interested in someone else. Either way, waiting seems like your best move for the moment. Good luck, Noor!

    • Noor

      November 17, 2015 at 10:26 am

      Thanks for your reply! That’s actually what i was thinking.
      But i just think it’s strange, one time he warns me in advance that he will touch me, the other moment he tries to draw my attention by touching the back of my neck (strange place, right?), while he was talking to another girl. He could’ve just left me alone because i didn’t even see him in the first place..

      Also, I took someone (a guy friend) to class with me, so i would be more at ease. He always picks out someone, a regular, to show the rest of the class some moves. My friend never took the class and was a beginner but he did pick out just him. I don’t really want to get my hopes up, but it seemed like he was trying to make himself look better or something.. I’m going to take you up on your advice and wait it out :) (sorry for my english, it’s not my first language).

      • web admin

        November 20, 2015 at 4:40 pm

        Don’t worry about the language–I actually understand your comment better than some of the native English speakers. :) It sounds like he could like you–the neck is a rather personal place to touch, although not as intimate as some areas. Waiting it out still seems to be the best option, although it is certainly starting to seem like he is interested.

        • Noor

          November 24, 2015 at 12:06 pm

          So, last time i saw him, he came up to me (i was in a group though), refering to the party, asking if he didn’t say anything too embarrassing because he was so drunk he couldn’t remember anything except that he saw me and talked to me. I teased him a bit, stating that i wouldn’t tell him. When class began he came up to me and asked me if i had stayed long at the party. I said that i said goodbye to him when i left and teased him again about him being so drunk. He said he was really drunk but had a good time and said again that he hoped he didn’t say anything too embarrassing. When i left, i saw him looking out the window when i got to my car. Later that night i couldn’t resist sending him a funny message about him being drunk. He immediately replied, saying he had been thinking about the things he could’ve said to me. I asked him in a joking way about it, but he hasn’t reacted to it. Don’t really know what to do now when i see him again later this week. Now i feel kinda foolish :) Secretly hoping he just doesn’t like typing or something…:$

          • web admin

            November 25, 2015 at 9:54 pm

            Hmm . . . he may just be worried about ruining his relationship with you as a trainer, or he could have worried that he ended up letting you know about his feelings. He could also just be worried that he may have led you on when he was drunk and does not want things to go any further. I am really not sure what he is worried about right now, although I think that it is most likely that he is interested in you and was afraid that he said something that let you know about his feelings while you were at the party.

  6. Priscilla Leiva

    November 15, 2015 at 2:37 am

    I know this boy and we have a lot in common. He tries to avoid contact with me. We still talk now. We actually talk alot. I like him. And he remembers alot of what happened to us last year, like funny random thinggs. He and I have a special bond. He stares at me the same way he stares at my friend, who he still likes. HELP ME please!!

    • web admin

      November 16, 2015 at 4:33 pm

      It is possible that he could like you. Although he likes your friend, there is no reason why he could not like two girls at once–it is actually rather common. Keep talking to him and see where things go. If you are feeling especially brave, you could always try asking him out. That way, you could find out immediately if he has feelings for you or if you are just wasting your time. Good luck, Priscilla!

  7. Human

    November 14, 2015 at 1:09 pm

    so there is this guy who ive know for a couple of months and hes really nice. whenever i talk he kinda just turns toward me and leans in, usualy with his hand on his chin or something. i noticed he doesn’t do it to other girls/people. and when we occasionally meet in the hallway (at school) he casually straightens up and looks at me. we also hug a lot and he refers to me as cuddle buddy through text. does this mean he’s into me?

    • web admin

      November 14, 2015 at 4:47 pm

      Leaning in, hugging you, calling you his cuddle buddy and looking at you are all signs that he could be interested in you. It is not enough to be sure, but it certainly sounds like it could be possible that he likes you. Have you tried asking him to hang out or getting his phone number? Do you know if he is single right now?

  8. monalisa

    November 9, 2015 at 6:24 pm

    my comment has not appeared yet????

    • web admin

      November 11, 2015 at 3:25 pm

      Don’t worry–it appeared already. I have to approve and answer each comment manually, so it can sometimes take a little bit. Let me know if you have any other questions!

  9. mona lisa

    November 8, 2015 at 4:08 pm

    hi… i have a deep crush on a guy in my class… i want to know if he likes me.. we talk casually everyday. i have seen him looking at me and he keeps complimenting me that i am a nice person. i dont know if he really means it. we smile a lott and whenever i enter my class we lock eyes… so plzz tell me if he really likes me????

    • web admin

      November 10, 2015 at 11:55 pm

      It is entirely possible that he likes you. Talking to you, complimenting you, being nice and locking eyes with you are all signs that he is interested, although it could also be completely random coincidences. I would guess that you have more than a 50 percent chance that he likes you. Perhaps you could try to see who he likes from one of his friends or talk to him online and see where things go!

      • Mona lisa

        November 14, 2015 at 1:20 pm

        thank you… you did gave me some satisfaction and a direction

        • web admin

          November 14, 2015 at 4:26 pm

          I am glad to hear that I could help. Let me know if you need anything else, Mona!

          • Mona lisa

            November 20, 2015 at 6:05 pm

            hey.. actually it turns out that he likes someone else and he might be in a relationship.. it also turns out that all the signs were just random coincidences. my classmates and my crush went for a school trip recently. i couldnt go. but i did get gossips that he and some other girl we together all the time. and in every picture of the tour, they are standing together close. many of my classmates do think that there might be going on something between the two. both of them are also not telling anything. i do think that my crush might be crushing on her. i dont know what to do. i am experiencing the same situation second time and i dont want to keep waiting for someone who will never come. so please tell me what should i do??? i really need help…

  10. Chia

    November 8, 2015 at 5:49 am

    Hey so there’s a guy I met several months ago. We started off as a pretty close friends but there’s nothing more. Until one day we were assigned for a task together for several days. He insisted to pick me up eventhough he lives far far away from my place. We got much closer afterwards. He asks me out for several times like going to the cinema, coffee shops, or having dinner together. He often accidentally touches me. But he doesn’t contact me intensively. He texts me once in several days but once we talk, we will end up talking until very late at night. I wonder if he is interested in me or not because he shows the signs but he doesn’t contact me a intensively and he haven’t done any significant further move until now. Does he like me as more than just a friend or is he just being nice because we are somehow close? Thanks!

    • web admin

      November 10, 2015 at 2:45 am

      It sounds like he could be interested–he might just be afraid to make things uncomfortable at work. The fact that he keeps talking to you late into the night and deliberately goes out of his way to see you makes it sound like he is interested. Are you also interested in him? Would it be possible for you to ask him out?

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