7 Signs He Is Interested in You After First Date

By on August 19, 2018

You went on a wonderful first date, and you think that everything went perfectly. The only problem is that you don’t know if he actually likes you back or not. Now, you are waiting to see if he calls you are not. As the hours and days start to pass by, you start to wonder if the date wasn’t as great for him as it was for you. Now, you want to now the signs he is interested in you after first date. Was he as into you as you were into him?

Foolproof Signs That a Guy Is Into You

Before you start to panic, think about your date. Do you really like him? Is there anything about his personality that you don’t like? It is easy to become infatuated with someone, but there may have been signs on the first date that he isn’t right for you. If you did notice indications that he wasn’t the one, then don’t worry about whether he likes you back or not. Most likely, he noticed those signs as well and is hopefully smart enough to realize it. You don’t want to waste a lot of energy on having a relationship if you realize from day one that you won’t end up with him forever.

If you did think that he was perfect for you, then you need to find out if he likes you back. The following indications are signs he is interested in you after first date and might end up calling you for a second date.

1. The Eyes

When someone likes you, they tend to look into your eyes. If you like someone, it feels like you cannot keep your eyes off them. Think back to your date. Did he gaze longingly into your eyes? When you walked away, did his gaze follow you wherever you go? If his gaze always followed you and he made a lot of eye contact, then he might like you. If he never focused on you or always watched everyone else in the room, then your chances are not looking good.

2. Mirroring

This happens when someone likes you as a friend, lover or family member. When you are interested in a conversation and like someone, you unconsciously mirror their body language. If they lean back, you lean back. If you cross your arms, they cross their arms. This type of mirroring is a sign that he likes you on some level. He might just like you as a friend, but he could definitely have stronger feelings than that.

3. Touch

Human touch is a key flirting technique. On a first date, this will often be a touch on your elbow or shoulder. He might brush your hair aside or try to hold your hand. Any type of touching like this is a sign that he subconsciously wants to be closer to you. If his touches are more forward like on your leg or something more sexual, then he might just want a one-night stand instead of a real relationship. Keep in mind that a shy guy might not touch you at all and could still like you, so you really have to account for his personality.

4. The Lean

Signs Your Date Really Likes You on Your First Date

Watch people talking at work or at the mall. Notice how they stand. When people are interested in the conversation, they stand closer to each other. If they are sitting down, they will even lean into the conversation. Likewise, someone who just wants to escape the conversation will often lean or turn away. If you keep your eyes open, you will probably notice a co-worker turn their feet toward the door when the boss is upset with them. Your date is the same way. If he is interested in you on the date, he will lean into the conversation with his body.

5. He Listens and Asks Questions

The conversation can also be a clue. If he is really interested in you, he will ask a lot of questions because he wants to know you better. He will also remember many of the details because he cares. If he only talks about himself or forgets things that you just told him, then his mind isn’t focused on the date. It is possibly that he is just really nervous or distracted by something at work, but it isn’t a good sign if he doesn’t seem interested in what you have to say.

6. He Tries to Impress You

If He Likes You On The First Date

In kindergarten, a guy might try to do a bike trick to impress you. As guys get older, their techniques for impressing a lady change. He might tell you about his great job or car. If he is still working on his goals, he might share all his hopes and dreams about what he is going to do. In most cases, a guy who likes you will want you to think well of him. He will try to frame all of his stories and achievements in the best light so that you like him.

7. Laughter

Laughter is a sign of enjoyment, but it is also a way to disperse nervous energy. Either way, a laughter-filled date is good news. He is either nervous around you because he likes you, or he laughs a lot because you two have a good chemistry.

Think about what happened at the end of the date to see if he is interested in you. Did he try to hold your hand or kiss you? Did he tell you that he really wanted a second date? If he avoided talking about a second date, then he probably doesn’t want one. If he tried to hold your hand or made it clear that he is going to call you within the next couple of days, then he probably likes you.

When a guy really wants a relationship with you, he will call you. If he doesn’t text or call within the first few hours, he is probably just afraid of looking needy. When your date does most or all of the things on this list, he probably likes you and wants another date. You just have to be patient, and it will happen!


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    November 25, 2019 at 7:08 pm

    hi there. so i met this boy on tinder and we’ve gone on two dates so far. after the second date, i stayed the night and in the morning, it was very sweet and loving. on the ride home though, there was no holding or talking and it felt really off. he’s very sweet and attentive and actually talks to me and listens but i don’t know if something switched overnight or if it was an early morning and he was tired?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 27, 2020 at 7:49 pm

      There may be various reasons for his decision to behave in this way. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and it is certain that he will share himself with you. If this relationship fails, then you may want to take other avenues when you nourish your relationships in the future.

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    November 17, 2019 at 8:26 am

    So i was talking this guy on tinder on and off. Then finally he asked me for coffee date/meetup and i agreed. Thinking maybe after we met we can understand each other more and see if we have a connection. But on the night before our coffee date he message me saying he can’t do it because his friends wanna hangout with him and he also wants to see them but he instead wants to reschedule our date for some other time. What should i do? Is it red flags?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 5, 2020 at 3:36 pm

      If he does this for every date, it is a red flag. If it only happens for just one date, it is entirely possible that a really important thing came up–or, perhaps, a friend is in town who he hasn’t seen for a while.

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    Alma Pineda

    October 27, 2019 at 4:45 pm

    I met this guy on line we met for dinner we had a fabulous time. We were schedule to meet again he had mention that his dad was in the hospital and had little time to live. The following day when we were suppose to meet he texted me saying he couldnt make it that his dad was not doing well. After that he never called or text me for about a week . After a week he text me to apologize for not communicating with me we met for breakfast since he was coming home to pick up clothes and go back to hospital. Again we had a great time. He send pictures of him being in the hospital but after that it’s been another week and I dont know anything of him i send him a message saying hoping everything is well and no reply. Should I just forget about him and move on? I’m confuse . I really liked him and felt he liked me 2 he even said he was going to make it up to me after all this passes.

    • web admin

      web admin

      March 5, 2020 at 10:54 am

      The two of you had not spoken for a week. You then messaged him, and he chose to not reply to you. If he has not reached out to you since, then it is clear that his attention has drifted elsewhere. Take this time to determine what you feel is acceptable, and take appropriate action.

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    October 15, 2019 at 1:17 am

    I met up with a guy who initially reached out to me as a way of getting in contact with my brother. (they used to be friends few years back) We ended up talking a bit and hitting it off, speaking about how I wanted to go on spontaneous adventures. He then said we could hang out and make plans from there. Our initial planned date he ended up cancelling because he was stuck in traffic, he apologised and said he would run super late and didnt want to cut our time together short. He then asked to reschedule for the following date so we stuck to that. I wasn’t really sure whether I should see it as a date or just a friendly thing. He met me on my street and we walked to town to get a drink and play pool. From the get go his eyes were locked on me. He just stared in my eyes like no one had before. THe date in itself went well, we spoke about a lot of random things and towards the end he asked if I was seeing anyone. We kissed at the end too. But it’s very strange because he doesn’t give away a lot. He doesn’t text much, and when he does he doesn’t mention the date at all. I don’t really know what to think but I feel like the signs point to the fact he’s interested, I just don’t know on what level. It’s so hard to understand men!

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 2, 2020 at 8:43 pm

      It is certainly possible that he is interested in you, though he may be uncertain about how to best share his feelings with you. Some time has passed, so it is likely that the two of you have determined what is best for the future of your relationship. If the two of you are still in a state where you don’t know what the future holds, then it would be beneficial for the two of you to have a serious conversation about what you want for your relationship.

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    August 20, 2019 at 12:46 am

    Hi. i saw this guys 1year ago in our campus when i was in college. He is a varsity player in basketball. We have different department , he belongs to business dept.and i’m into Information Technology dept. when the sports fest in our school comes, that’s the first time i saw him. I never get a chance to know him because i have a boyfriend back then. Present year, last first week of July my 6months boyfriend broke with me without a valid reason, and i just heard he has a new one. I just accepted it and move on with my life. August 13 present year, while scrolling on my newsfeed. I saw a post,or a confession in our CdmSecretfiles. The girl confessed about his feelings for this guy named A**** S*****. I was stocked in that confession when i saw the name she mentioned. I saw a lot of comments and most of the comments are mentioning that guy, so he can notice the confession. I don’t know what happened next,i just make my own comment “Gosh, He is crush either”. Then few minutes later. I saw my notification that this guy reacts on my comment just like “wow”. Then after that,i saw next that he accepted my friend request after a year hahaha. i chat him first saying , “Finally ! you accepted my request after a year”. Then he replied saying “my apology, when i saw your comment i stalk your account, and i saw that you already send a friend request to me,so i look onto it in my Friend requests.. and i saw it there so i accept it, I’m sorry”. After than we have a deep conversation that makes us up until 12midnight. After few days, talking to each other, he surprises me while i’m at work,he said he wants to meet me and that happens last friday (August 16) He said he’ll wait me at our meeting place early even though i already told him that my work end at 5:30 . He went there at 4pm and waited me (He’s excited to see me). When we first see each other we just laugh and getting shy . But as the time goes by , i notice that he stares at me a lot then laugh like an idiot, he faces his body towards me, he looked at me in the eyes all the time while i’m talking, while he is talking . He talks a lot and asks a lot of questions. He smiles a lot i don’t know why. When he looks at me , he next laugh that makes me feel like there’s something wrong in my face. But he say’s “Your cute”. He always say’s I’m cute that’s why his laughing, He also said that i have a lot of assets while staring at me (that makes me blush). When i got home, i received a textmessage from him that fast asking if i got home safely and to inform me that he got home already. On the second day, i have no work because it’s Saturday but he has classes. He texts me goodmorning message with emojies and he always inform me about what he is doing right now,where he is etc. He asks me a second meeting. In our first and second meeting i notice that he never uses his phone around. He even offer me his handkerchief when we eat, He even gave me a Jersey that many of his friends wanted. He cares a lot about me.
    But after that, my feelings are getting worsed.. i desperately asks him if he likes me or not . But he said he doesn’t want to answer that. What should i do ? how do i know if he likes me or not ?
    But after that, i feel that, he is worried and scared that one day i will not talk to him anymore. He is always concern about how i talked to him and messaged him after that . Is he just not ready? Is he just want to know me more ?.. How do i know?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 20, 2019 at 9:30 pm

      The two of you are maintaining a new social relationship. It is clear that the two of you are attracted to each other. He likely did not respond to your question because he is uncertain about your feelings toward him. Continue to nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. This is the only way that you can successfully navigate the future of this relationship. Have a great day, Mae!

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    August 12, 2019 at 2:16 pm

    Hi, So I met this guy on an online dating app two weeks ago. We’ve been chat every day (Not every hours, but like long messages with each other) and finally met up in a coffee shop last Saturday. We’ve had a lot of talk and questions for each other, also had a lot of eyes contact, laugh a lot. We had some silence during the meetup but it doesn’t seem awkward at all. Then like two hours later he’s the first one to suggest that we should meet up again. So I try and suggest if we can change our phone number. After that, I was thinking about shooting him a thank you note first, but surprisingly he sent it first and we had continuing texting after that. The thing is, his replies are getting slower…but the message still seemed that he’s engaging in the conversation, and we’re talking about the second meetup and he thought he didn’t know if I’d be interested if he attempts a plan so far in advance (Though he explained he’s busy this week).I would like to know about your opinion…perhaps I should have my options opened?

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 12, 2019 at 10:38 pm

      You met this person on a social media application. The two of you had an enjoyable and pleasant date. He is interested in going on another date with you, so make a plan. It is important to have a second date when possible. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Pearly!

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    Suki Yew

    May 17, 2019 at 9:40 am

    I mean this guy online and when for the first date today. We were at this brunch restaurant, ordered food and start eating while talking. He did have alot of eye contact, we talk about everything and laughed alot too (my cheek still hurts from it )!!! He offer to pay the bill and i let him. We didn’t know where to go after but i did say i dont want to go back home yet so he drive me to a outlook and we walk around. I was walking on rocks and he accompanied me and held my hand so i dont fall. Even when i was walking on a slope he held my hand like a boyfriend would!! But he didn’t held on to it tho.
    When we were on our way driving back, we joke around for abit and tickle him, he lock his arm close to my hand so i wouldn’t be able to pull away and eventually lock hands with me!!! He didn’t let go even until we are below my apartment!! he held on to my hand for a little longer and we kissed. I was so happy but i am not sure how he feels.
    I ask him to text me when he reach home and he did but the conversation kinda stay cold from there. Short reply and long waiting time and the worst is he looked at my msg and did not reply me…..
    I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THAT MEANS?? he is into me or what?

    • web admin

      web admin

      May 18, 2019 at 2:37 pm

      His behavior while you were together is an indication of his feelings toward you. When you were no longer spending time together in person, it is possible that he was working or doing something else that prevented him from messaging you. Take this time to determine what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings, and give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Suki!

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    April 28, 2019 at 9:55 am

    I met this guy on tinder and he’s super nice. The first date was honestly lovely and we ended it on a warm, long hug. He did all the signs, like look me in the eyes when we talk, move his body towards mine when we walked and even held his face closer to mine when I was saying something (but I’m kinda short and he’s super tall, I honestly don’t know if he can hear me up there). Here’s the thing thought, I’m getting mixed messages. I wasted 2 days worrying about why he wouldn’t text or anything, so I took the courage to write first. It turned into a sweet conversation, he even told me he really diggs talking to me, but the directness didn’t seem like his style. Still, Thank god he asked for the second date, so we agreed on meeting again. But it feels like I always have to inniciate conversation. It also feels like he’s way too into me for the time we talked. It’s a strange worry but it’s making me uneasy. We do have a lot in common, I believe our humour matches up nicely and it feels natural being around him(from the information I’ve gathered in the 4 hours we spend together). But I don’t know, I don’t trust it moving so fast. Am I being dummy insecure or is the guy being way too into me a red flag?

    • web admin

      web admin

      April 28, 2019 at 10:14 pm

      The two of you seem to have developed a strong relationship. You met on Tinder, which means that he may or may not be looking for a long term relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. You may find benefit in speaking with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Whothis!

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    October 6, 2018 at 8:54 pm

    Last Friday we went out for a movie. Supposed to be three of us but one if our friend couldn’t join. So, i thought that he will cancel the plan after class. I wait and wait but he didn’t mention it. After class, we walk together to the mall. Any one of us didn’t mention is that our first date or just a movie day out. While we walk, without realized I hokd his arm while walking. I thought he’s going to stay away bcs he don’t like i hold his arm, but whenever i accidentally grab his arm, he just let it happen. While in cinema, i sat close to him bcs it was so cold plus both of us didn’t bring any jacket. He also sat close to me. Idk if he likes me or not. But for sure we laughed a lot that day. While i wait for my car, we didn’t talk much bcs coincidentally i met my senior and she keep talking with me until my car arrived. We only say bye to each other. We didn’t text each other after that day bcs he’s not type of person that always on phone. Hmmmm… What u think?

    • web admin

      web admin

      October 6, 2018 at 9:44 pm

      He shared his thoughts and feelings with you. It is likely that he is interested in nourishing a relationship with you. You feel comfortable with him, and he is available for you for that security. Determine what you want for your future of this relationship. Spend additional time with him in person, as this will strengthen your relationship. Have a great day, Carrot!

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