How to Start Dating Again

By on October 13, 2015

Getting back into the dating game can be a real struggle, especially if you’ve been out of it for several years. After a lengthy relationship, you’re probably left feeling nervous or even scared about finding a new partner or simply going on a relaxed date with someone. We’re here to help with this handy guide on how to start dating again, whether it’s been 3 months or 30 years!

1. Make Sure You’re Over Your Ex
You can’t move on if you’re still holding on to your last relationship. Yes, it’s okay to still have a special place in your heart for your ex and look back on old memories with a smile, but if you’re not OVER this individual and the relationship you had, you won’t be able to last in a new relationship. Make sure you’re mind and heart are free of any strings attached.

2. Take Enough Time for Yourself
After a breakup (or even losing a partner due to some other reason), you need to take time for yourself. It’s an important part of the healing process. Make sure you’ve taken plenty of time to regain your self esteem and happiness within yourself so you don’t end up looking to someone else to fill the empty void. Join a gym, start a new hobby, go back to school- whatever YOU want to do for you, now is the best time to do it; before you try dating again.

3. Be Confident and Outgoing
Confidence is so important in every aspect of life, especially when it comes to dating. If your last relationship left you feeling insecure and down about the outcome, you probably won’t attract a nice person to be a potential partner. As mentioned above, take time to yourself and regain your confidence. When it comes time to start talking and flirting with new people, show them how confident and outgoing you are. A potential date doesn’t want to go out with someone who is closed off and lacking strength due to a recent breakup!

4. Know What You Are Looking For
It is really important to know what you are looking for before entering the dating scene. Your last relationships failed for one reason or another, so before you start dating you need to reflect on the individual you were with and WHY the relationship failed. At that point you can decide what’s important to you and what you want to find in your next mate and partnership. Having this list of ‘must-haves’ will help you to find the ideal individual that could potentially lead to a very long and strong relationship!
Enter into the scene without a clue on what you want, and you may end up choosing the wrong person- yet again.

5. Don’t Jump Into Anything
It’s the golden rule everyone knows: never, EVER jump into a relationship soon after a breakup. This type of situation never ends well! Instead of entering the dating game solely looking for your future husband or wife, take your time. Enjoy the process. Date a few different people and just have fun. Get to know these individuals for who they really are before you decide to settle down. A strong relationship takes plenty of time to build, and you want to make sure you’re building it with the right person. So my BEST advice is to take things SLOW and enjoy every minute of it. Some dates will be incredible, and others may leave you falling asleep at the dinner table. But hey, that’s all just part of the fun.

6. Spend Time With Your Single Friends
If you’re having trouble getting back into the dating scene, who better to call then your single friends! They will know exactly where to go, how to act, and may even have a blind date ready for you. Go out and have fun with your single pals and just enjoy the time you spend together. Not only will they be able to let you ‘in’ on the new dating rituals, you’ll also get to work on your confidence and outgoing personality in the process. Win-win situation!

Getting back into the dating game is easier than you think, huh? What advice would you give your newly single friends trying to date again?


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    January 18, 2016 at 5:09 pm

    So i have been thinking about dating again with a guy that i have liked ever since last year in may. He likes me back to and we have gone to one date at the movies. I really want to date him, but the one thing im scared about is telling my parents about it. They told me that the dating age for me is 16. I currently am 16, but im so nervous on letting them know who im dating because they can be so judgemental. Do i tell them that i want to date him? Do i not? What is your advice on making your date meet your parents? When should i let him meet them? Since i am the youngest in my family my parents can be so over protective on letting there little girl grow up.

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      January 20, 2016 at 9:55 am

      I think that it would be fine for you to go on a date or two because it will give you a chance to see if it is worth it to continue the relationship and tell your parents. After a couple of dates, you will want to tell them so that they do not think you are hiding something. If they demand to meet him, let them meet him. And if they do not demand to meet him, you can always have them meet the guy after a month or two of dating. Normally, guys meet the parents once the parents ask or once the relationship is starting to be serious, so just wait for one of these things to happen. Good luck, Ruby!

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