What Does It Mean When You Dream About Your Crush?

By on December 29, 2013

On average every one of us dreams seven times per night. We might not even realise it, but that doesn’t make it any less true. All too often people don’t realise this and claim to never dream, not realising how statistically unlikely that actually is. Since you’re reading this, I think it’s safe to say however that you’re not one of those people. I’m going to take a shot and say that you remember your dreams quite a lot, perhaps most nights, and I’m going to take another shot and say that a lot of them feature a certain, very special, someone.

But what does it mean when your crush keeps popping up in your dreams? Why is it that he just can’t contain himself to real life, why is he flaunting himself in your dreams too? Here’s your answer…

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The Why

‘The why’ in ‘why is your crush dream stalking you?’ is simple – you’re thinking about him in your waking hours and unable to forget about him when you switch off for the night. When we sleep our subconscious gets free reign and in that time it paints us pictures using the people, objects, places and scenarios we’ve been thinking of when we were awake.

There’s not much else to the why, like I said, it’s simple. You’re focussing on him while you’re awake and your subconscious is simply playing on that fact and creating a dream from it.

What It Means

Depending on your beliefs and whether or not you’re superstitious, dreams can either mean nothing or they can mean everything. They can hide clues to the future or your deepest desires or they can simply be nothing more than your mind playing a trick on you. If you don’t believe dreams hold clues to our futures or insights into our souls then I suggest you skip over this section, it may not be for you.

Here’s a few common dreams that may include your crush and what they are commonly interpreted to mean…

To dream you are kissing your crush symbolizes love, affectation and harmony. Your mind is expressing your waking desire to be close to this person and form some sort of attachment, in this case a relationship.

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Don’t panic if you and your crush were arguing in a dream. This doesn’t mean you aren’t compatible as a couple. Arguing in a dream can symbolize tension and that you are trying to resolve an internal conflict. In this case, it’s likely your mind trying to tell you how frustrated it is that your crush is nothing more than a crush. It could show that your mind is ready for the two of you to become more than friends.

If you receive a love note or letter in your dream means that there could be a new relationship ahead of you. It also however symbolizes that you are insecure about something and need reassurance about your feelings or relationship. My advice in this situation is to be hopeful but beware, don’t let your insecurities get the better of you.

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What To Do About It

On a whole, dreaming of your crush shows that you have an unresolved issue with him in real life, namely that he’s only your crush and not your boyfriend. You need to take action in the real world by attempting to get closer to him to see if a relationship is on the cards or not. Either way, your dreams about him are likely to grow fewer, if not stop altogether, as you start to live out your fantasy of speaking to him in everyday life. Chances are, you’ll be happier for it too. Instead of waking up feeling slightly hollow every morning seeing as your dream was only a dream, you’ll end each day feeling fulfilled that you spoke to him.

Try reading my article How To Get Your Crush To Like You for tips on how to interact with your crush in real life. As much as we’d all like to, we can’t go on dreaming forever. It’s time to stop dreaming and start living so go out there and make your crush fall head over heels for you!

4,626 Comments

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    Portor Graham

    June 15, 2019 at 9:07 am

    Me and my crush are like really good friends and we have dated before but we’re way closer now and all my friends thinks he likes me cause they all say he acts different around me and I don’t know if I should believe them or not what do u think I should do

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      web admin

      June 15, 2019 at 2:36 pm

      It sounds entirely possible that he could like you. Other people are often better judges of how someone feels versus the two people actually involved. I would go ahead and try talking to him a bit more, flirting or even asking him to hang out with you one on one. Good luck, Portor Graham!

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    Gabriela

    June 14, 2019 at 11:31 pm

    I have a crush who is very social to everyone, including me. I had a dream about him where he protected me to where he almost lost his life. What would my dream prove?

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      web admin

      June 15, 2019 at 2:18 pm

      The dream shows that you care about him. You may feel hopeful that he could one day be someone who provides unconditional love and support in your waking life, so you dreamed that he protected you. Whether this is actually possible in real life is anyone’s guess though. Best of luck, Gabriela!

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    Saggal

    June 14, 2019 at 7:28 pm

    I just had a dream last night.

    The guy in the dream is a long distance “date”, that we’re now in a no contact rule period, as I had to give both of us space to not scare him off further.

    So, the dream was that I was in Sydney his house (not the same as real life) and the 2nd night there i found out he has a girlfriend and i was so angry and urged to leave his house. In between the time i was walking around places with many dogs happily eating, and geese in water but very bad conditioned water, and I tried to walk in that water and walked out after. Then suddenly at his place again that but forgot what we were doing.

    I wonder, if these have any meanings, thanks x

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      web admin

      June 15, 2019 at 1:51 pm

      When you do things like the no-contact rule, it is normal to experience insecurities and concerns. If you are not technically dating at the time, it is also entirely possible that these insecurities are based on realistic worries that he has already moved on and started dating someone else. It is one of the reasons why the no-contact rule is often a bad idea and rarely helps a relationship. All you can do right now is wait to finish out the no-contact period you agreed to with him and then reach out again. As for the dreams, they are just connected to the subconscious thoughts and feelings you have going on in your mind right now.

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    Kiara

    June 14, 2019 at 7:41 am

    I know this boy for about a year and we started to get very close for the past 5 months we talk literally everyday and he sometimes said he liked me and cares about me but i dont know if he really means it in a love-way or a friendship-way. We also hang out quite some time in real life besides school for exemple going to the movies or just talk in the park for hours. When we were in the park he walked me home at +10PM or something and he asked for a kiss but i was too nervous and stupid lmao so i couldn’t, he asked it again the next day we hang out. Today i was dreaming about him and we cuddled and kissed and he said he loved me and then i wake up and surprisingly i didn’t forget the dream which is weird because i often forget my dreams. He got trust issues with girls in the past and i dont know what kind of relationship we are getting into. He is a good looking guy as well my friends rate them the prettiest one of my grade. I actually dont care if he was a good looking guy or not. My friends know i’m talking to him and they said that he just uses me because his friend used my friend for sexual intentions and thats why my friends think he uses me as well because they think that him and his friends planned to “hurt us” for some reasons. I dont know what to think about that as well. What does this all mean?

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      web admin

      June 15, 2019 at 1:23 pm

      While someone’s friends are often a good representation of who they are and what they are like, this is not always the case. Even though his friend just uses people, this does not mean that he will. It sounds like he likes you and may just be moving slowly because of his past relationship issues. The dream only shows your own feelings and that you wish that you could have that kind of relationship with him–although it definitely sounds like it would be possible to have a relationship with him in real life too!

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    Bobalina

    June 13, 2019 at 12:18 am

    So I just had a dream where my crush messaged me saying “You’re pretty cute”. Then after that, he totally changes and starts calling me out for stalking him. He basically called me cute then told me in a mean way that I was a weirdo that stalked him. Help, what does this mean?

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      web admin

      June 13, 2019 at 7:23 pm

      Your dream is not a reflection of his behaviors. It is possible that he is interested in you, and it is possible that he may not be interested in you. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Bobalina!

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    Grace

    June 10, 2019 at 11:09 pm

    I have a crush on this girl who happens to be my classmate i n college I told her how I feel about her on phone and she didn’t say anything, she ignored the story and talked about something else…she asked me out one Friday night but it was too late and was home already so I didn’t make it…last night I had a dream about her,we went out together and had fun,she was really concerned about me in the dream,does this mean she too might be interested in me?

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      web admin

      June 11, 2019 at 12:09 am

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional connection with this person. If you are interested in maintaining a relationship with her, then determine if this relationship is viable. If you are in contact with her, then speak with her about your thoughts and feelings. Share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Grace!

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    Karma flippen

    June 10, 2019 at 12:54 pm

    I have a crush but to him it’s like I don’t even exsits what should I do

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      web admin

      June 10, 2019 at 11:40 pm

      You are aware that you and your crush do not share a strong social relationship. If you want to maintain a romantic relationship with him in the future, then you need to maintain a social relationship with him at this time. Nourish your relationship with him by spending additional time with him in person. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times. Have a great day, Karma!

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    Selima

    June 9, 2019 at 5:26 pm

    I have a crush on this guy but.. We’ve met when we were grade 4.. It was pretty cool tho.. But, until now i cant stop dreaming him almost like 84 times!! , even tho i forgot about him. I did not expecting to dream about him. I didnt even thinking about him. In real life were just normal person nothing weird happen, we didnt talk alot like when were grade 4 like we used to.. But this dream is still on my thoughts its so confusing, even tho were not close and plus im too shy to talk to him. I dont know if he has the same feelings like i am. At grade 4,he always notice me and kindda flirt(in a good way) so that day i finally find my real crush.. But.. Even tho were not that close from npw on, but why am i still dreaming about him?.. Sometimes my dream is like: he always be my side, i always sees him around, i hugged him and he hugged me back, i kissed him and he kissed me back.. And we ever kindda arguing.. So can you please help me whats going on?…well we ever together when were in the same team. I was shock that time i didnt think about it to team up with him we are so far we are different classes. But he still notice me i just dont get it. He kindda looked at me, and no expression. I talk to him and it was cool. But, when were doing a quiz, i did not expecting that he would sit next to me, so we did the project and i just realized something.. My knees and he’s knees is touchinng all along?!. The weird one is he didnt let go of it.. So yeah…. Thats my story so can you help what’s going on??.. Or am i overreacting?

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 9, 2019 at 9:51 pm

      The two of you share a history and a strong social relationship. Your dream may be a reflection of your social and emotional desires in regard to your crush. Make a decision about what you want for the future of this relationship. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Selima!

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    Bo

    June 7, 2019 at 10:47 pm

    I have a crush on one of my friends. Lately we’ve been getting really close but I can’t understand if she has feelings back for me or not. It’s like sometimes she gives me too much attention and sometimes she doesn’t care about me. What does that mean for her? What do I do?

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      web admin

      June 8, 2019 at 1:39 am

      The two of you share a strong social relationship. It is possible that she is developing feelings for you. It is possible that she is uncertain or confused about her thoughts and feelings. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with her in person. Have a great day, Bo!

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        Milo

        June 10, 2019 at 7:16 am

        So I’ve got this weird thing where i dream about every boy i know but I’ve never dreamed about my actual crush. Last night I had a dream about me and this weird kid that hugged me from behind in the middle of class for no darn reason. This dream he just keep hugging me every time i saw him

        • web admin

          web admin

          June 10, 2019 at 11:30 pm

          This dream may be a reflection of a previous relationship. It is possible that the person in your dream is an amalgamation of various qualities that you find attractive in a partner. Ensure that you share your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Milo!

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    Melissa

    June 7, 2019 at 1:50 am

    I’ve a crush on this guy I liked him in like 8 montage now and been texting him for a year now. But We havent meet yet But in The summer We going to. Last night I dreams about him and I skimmer in a pool together and We had really fun and in the in dream We kissed 2 times. Even if I never have meet this guy irl I really like him and he likes me too and really wanna meet me. What does this dream means?

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      web admin

      June 7, 2019 at 3:33 am

      The two of you are going to meet in person this Summer. At that time, nourish this relationship by spending as much time as possible together. When your relationship is strong, speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Have a great day, Melissa!

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    Shane

    June 7, 2019 at 1:22 am

    Im a Man and i’m friends with my crush since i met her. i told her how i feel about her on the phone and socia media but she said no and we continue being friends because i wasn’t over her and she knew so after she finished her 12th Grade i lost contact of her and after that i was dreaming about her often not everyday. i lost her for two years with no contact of her now i find her again. and i keeping dreamig about her and it happened for three days. and we are good friends and i’m still afraid of telling her that my feelings hasn’t changed about her..

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      web admin

      June 7, 2019 at 3:21 am

      The two of you are good friends now. You may feel that revealing your true feelings toward her may potentially harm the relationship. Continue to share your kindness and compassion with her at all times. Nourish your relationship by spending additional time with her in person. This will increase your emotional connection. In the future, she may be interested in nourishing a romantic relationship with you. Have a great day, Shane!

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    sanaz

    June 6, 2019 at 7:08 am

    i’ve had a crush on this guy i used to work with since about 4 months ago and i let him know i liked him and he rejected me in a sort of way.i tried to forget about him but since a few days ago i dream of him whenever i close my eyes.different scenarios but it’s always him
    and it’s really really frustrating cause i thought i was actually getting over him and now i’m just depressed all the time due to these dreams.what should i do? how can i stop them?

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      web admin

      June 6, 2019 at 7:21 pm

      You informed him of your thoughts and feelings, and he informed you that he is not interested in maintaining a relationship with you at this time. Your thoughts are reflections of your social and emotional desires, and his presence in your dreams is simply an indication that you have been thinking about him. Focus your emotional energy elsewhere, and determine what you want for your future without him. You will find great benefit in sharing your kindness and compassion at all times, as this will draw positive people and energy into your life. Have a great day, Sanaz!

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    victoria

    June 6, 2019 at 5:05 am

    with the boy who i like we are not so good friends now.. we go out together with other friends and later i realized that he also liked me but in 2 -3 month later i understood that he has a girlfriend and i stop talking to him but now when he sees me he start to smile and annoy me in some way, and almost every night I dream of him and I dont think about him. And i stop crushing on him and then I noticed symbols that make me think of him…i cant stop it. pls help

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      web admin

      June 6, 2019 at 9:23 am

      You once had feelings for him, and these feelings are stored in your subconscious mind. From time to time, it only makes sense that they would reemerge. Each dream further cements these feelings within your memory bank, which is probably why they keep occurring. The dreams will eventually fade away, but the only way to make them disappear is to be patient and wait for it to happen naturally. Best of luck, Victoria!

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    Tori

    June 2, 2019 at 9:11 am

    Me and my crush Were friends but he moved away (I always had a crush on him) so we didn’t talk anymore but I recently saw him again and can’t get him off my mind and Last night I had a dream about asking him for his phone number but he “left” before I could ask him what does this mean?

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      web admin

      June 2, 2019 at 11:32 am

      Since you saw him again, it probably brought those memories to the forefront of your subconscious, even if you were not consciously thinking about them anymore. As a result, you dreamed about him. You asked for his number because you wish that you could just make a move, but he was not there in the dream because you feel as if you missed out on your shot with him in your waking life.

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      Madison

      June 4, 2019 at 5:33 am

      I had this same dream. Maybe it means that you’re still in love with him. You should go get his number.

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        web admin

        June 4, 2019 at 11:02 pm

        Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. We always appreciate when members of our community share their supportive comments. Have a great day, Madison!

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    Georgia

    June 1, 2019 at 4:32 pm

    Me and my crush, aren’t realy friends but aren’t aquantences either, we’re kinda in the middle. I hang out with a big friend group at lunch and he is usually there and sometimes we’ll have a small convo or two. He is also in my outside-of-School drama classes, and once when everyone went to get a drink (even the teacher) we had a long convo, we were both sitting in the tables facing eachother.

    The dream that I had was of me and him at drama class, and we were doing a skit of me being the bride at a wedding, at the reception party, and someone had to volunteer to dance with me, and he immediately stood up, and we danced for soo long.

    • web admin

      web admin

      June 1, 2019 at 9:10 pm

      Your dream is a reflection of your social and emotional relationship with him. It is possible that there two of you are developing a growing relationship. Make a decision about what you want for your future. Speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Give him an opportunity to share himself with you as well. Nourish this relationship by spending additional time with him in person. Have a great day, Georgia!

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