How to be a Submissive Wife

By on February 8, 2017

In this day and age, people believe that being submissive means being used and stepped all over. There is a powerful movement going on where women should be completely equal to men; and I will tell you this right here, right now: women are equal to men and should have the same treatment and equality in every aspect of life. However, there is one aspect of human nature we are forgetting about: and that’s that men are designed to be protectors and providers, while women are meant to be lovers and nurturers. It’s human nature. It doesn’t mean a woman can’t have a career or be the head of the household, but it is more common for men to do so. That leaves us with one big question: why would a woman want to be a submissive wife?

I will tell you this much: a submissive wife is, nine times out of ten, able to have a better relationship and marriage. Submissive wives give their husbands what they need emotionally and physically, and return get the same respect in terms of protection, being provided for, and of course heard and loved like no other. Granted the submissive lifestyle won’t be a good choice for all the ladies out there, and that’s perfectly okay, but if you’re curious about the submissive lifestyle or simply want to try something new to see if it works for you and your partner, you’ll want to learn how to be a submissive wife.

First things first: This does not work for abusive relationships. Although you shouldn’t subject yourself to an abusive relationship in the first place, it can be even more devastating if you choose to become more submissive to your man. An abusive man WILL take advantage of you and make you feel more of a slave than a loving girlfriend or wife. Only respectful, caring men with a good heart and mind will be able to truly appreciate a submissive wife. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship or with someone who simply doesn’t appreciate or respect you, leave them immediately- especially before trying out the submissive lifestyle.

There are a lot of reasons why one may want to be a submissive wife. Statistics show that when a woman is submissive to her husband, the divorce rate and infidelity is lowered because both partner’s needs are being met; remember, it’s not just about doing everything for your man, he will need to reciprocate the love and respect to you as well. It’s also proven that a submissive wife is more likely to ‘get her way’, without any fighting, nagging, or annoyances. Sounds like something that might work for everyone, right?

You are not a slave. Always remember: a submissive wife is NOT a slave and she is NOT being used. A submissive wife is someone who is ALWAYS respected and adored by her partner. She is not a slave and she is NOT putting down the female sex by choosing this lifestyle. If you do not want to be a part of the lifestyle, then do not put others down for choosing it. There is nothing wrong with a submissive lifestyle, if it done properly and everyone involved is receiving what they want and need. At the end of the day, if you feel like you are being treated unfairly or not right while choosing a submissive lifestyle, it is obviously best to discontinue or talk it out with your partner to get on better terms.

Now let’s talk about the how.

As with everything in life, discovering a new lifestyle or making your life better takes practice and a little bit of help. We are going to break down a few of the steps and tips and tricks to becoming a great submissive wife to your husband.

Listen to him. When your guy is having an issue at work or is frustrated with a friend, he wants to turn to you to let these feelings loose. The best thing for you to do is simply listen and hear him out. He doesn’t need you to offer up any advice- unless of course he asks for it. But at the end of the day, if he is mad about something he doesn’t want you to tell him he was wrong or what he should have or could have done. This will only make him feel worse about the situation. Say the least possible and just let him know that you are there for him with listening ears and comfort when he needs it most.

Ask him for help. Men LOVE to help their lady out. They see you as a ‘damsel in distress’ and they want to be the hero. If anything goes wrong- whether it is the car needing a tire change, the sink needing some simple fixing, or you need help getting through a recent death in the family, always look to him for help. He will love feeling like a big, strong man- perhaps even a hero- to his lovely little lady. I’m sure there are more than enough things you CAN do on your own, but what’s wrong with giving your hubby an ego boost and letting him feel like a million bucks while you sit back and watch?

Let him be the provider. If his job can be enough financial stability for the two of you, then let him be the provider. Men thrive on being able to provide for their families, and you allowing him to be the provider will make him feel like a big man again- and maybe even your hero, again. Of course this won’t always work for all family situations, but if he has the means to provide, then let him provide for you. That’s his dream, whether he wants to admit it or not.

Don’t nag. Nagging is not feminine, it is not enjoyable, and is probably the worst way to try and get what you want. I mean, lets face it ladies: nobody likes to be nagged and a husband feels annoyed and terrible when his wife is nagging him about something. He is less likely to do it after he has been nagged or yelled at. You need to come at him in a more feminine manner, and make it seem like you need him to do this for you. You need to make ti seem like you’re his little lady and you need him to fix something. So instead of yelling and nagging, try asking him as sweetly as possible. Rub your hand through his hair or caress his cheek. Finish off your request with a kiss on the lips or cheek. Come at him in a feminine way and he WILL respond. If all else fails, you can also shed a couple of tears so he feels he HAS to do it to make you feel better. He won’t mind at all- as long as it makes you happy!

Attend to him. Once again- this isn’t you being a slave or becoming any less equal to him. Remember: being submissive should be respectful and great for everyone involved. That being said, your man is attending to all of your needs. When you ask for something, he obliges. When you need him to be your hero, he is happy to do so. He works hard all day every day to provide, and has vowed to protect you in every situation imaginable. The least you could do is attend to his needs and wishes when he asks. When he wants something simple like a beer out of the fridge or for his pants to be washed for work tomorrow, simply say ‘Okay, honey’. There’s no need to tell him to do it himself or simply tell him ‘no’. Attend to HIS needs, and he will be more than happy to attend to YOURS as well. It goes both ways, ladies!

Look nice for him. You are always beautiful to him, whether you’re in your sweat pants and loose t-shirt or that sexy little black dress and heels. But you need to make sure you are keeping up with yourself so he doesn’t lose interest. It may sound a little bit shallow, but that’s how most men are. I’m not saying you need to curl your hair and walk around in high heels and a sexy outfit all day every day, but keep up with yourself. Make sure your hair isn’t an absolute wreck, your eyebrows are done, and your face is freshly washed and moisturized. Try to keep up with your body as best you can. Take pride in yourself and he will be grateful. And when it comes to date night? Really shake things up to make sure all eyes are on you for the entire night. He will certainly enjoy that.

Keep the house cleaned. If you’re not working, then your job is to take care of your home (and children if you have them). While your husband is at work making money to provide for you, make sure he is coming home to a nice, organized home. And if you’re really in the mood to make him overjoyed and appreciative of you, toss in some dinner and dessert. He will love coming home to his beautiful wife, a lovely home, and a delicious meal that’s sure to satisfy his cravings.

As you can see, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a submissive wife. In fact, it can be a huge game changer for you and your husband as you see the both of you reaching new levels of happiness and respect towards on another.

Are you a submissive wife? How do you like it?


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    January 11, 2020 at 10:30 pm

    It took a really long time for me to accept becoming submissicve. Who even thinks that way? Yet my fiancee told me he wanted that while I was working a high profile career. He began to say not only did I need to be submissive, I would be. It took a lot of patience on his part while I tried to accept his need. Now my job is domestic. I am not financially dependent yet he takes care of the majority expenses of the house. I still struggle with the concept of being submissive and he will correct me when I do. I wish I could accept in a more natural way. Helpful article and comments. Thank you.

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      January 12, 2020 at 11:04 pm

      Every relationship is different, so you just have to find a balance that works for you. Thanks for commenting and good luck!

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      February 14, 2020 at 7:05 am

      Hello I would very much like to be a submissive wife but don’t know how to begin. We have been married for 35 years and I feel this would really help our relationship and boost my husbands confidence as I always seem to be rejecting any ideas or advances from him. Any help on how to start

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        February 14, 2020 at 1:00 pm

        If you are interested in nourishing your relationship in this manner, then you may want to share this article with him. Look around for advice that may support your desires. If you find a counselor who is supportive of your needs, then perhaps ask your husband to join you in a session.

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    LexiAnn W.

    October 30, 2019 at 5:22 am

    Thank you so much for this article. I am a submissive wife to my husband and he treats me like a queen. I make sure I work out everyday and have my nails and makeup always maintained. It’s the little things like that which keep him happy. When hubby is happy, his queen is happy. It makes for a pleasant existence at home, and life is in balance. He also has access to my body whenever he desires me; I believe it’s the duty of all wives to be sexually available to prevent infidelity.

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      March 3, 2020 at 4:02 pm

      Thank you for sharing your insights and experiences. It is certain that your comment will support many members of our community in the future.

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    October 5, 2019 at 5:48 am

    I am a submissive wife and love to take care of my man and he takes care of me. Right now we are having a hard time since he is away working and I’m lost at home without him here to care for. I have started talking back and getting frustrated with him away. I know he is providing for our family but I need him home. Any suggestions on how we can work through this and don’t lose the relationship?

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      January 27, 2020 at 2:56 pm

      Your partner has made the decision to live away from you, so it is clear that he is not behaving as his role requires. It seems that the stress in your relationship is directly related to his actions. It seems that the two of you need to speak with each other about what is appropriate for the future.

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    October 2, 2019 at 10:23 am

    I would love to be a submissive wife, but I’m taking care of everything and everyone. When I ask my husband for help, he’s always annoyed. Friends sometimes say it’s like I’m a single mom to a toddler and a teenager (husband). Any advice?

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      December 30, 2019 at 10:07 am

      I would speak your mind and ask for help. Your husband won’t know that you need help and support unless you ask (nicely) for it. Also, he is a part of the family too, so it is only fair that he should pull his own weight.

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      December 30, 2019 at 7:42 pm

      Going down on your knees and praying for him always works out..

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    April 14, 2019 at 1:31 pm

    I am a submissive wife npw new to the game. The only thing i do is talk back. Which i am trying to work on. I know its from my past partners cause they beat me and yelled at me for no reason. I can say this relationship is far better then i ever been in. But since i have use to yelling back its hard to stop but i can say i am trying. Need help to stop. Any advice

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      April 14, 2019 at 7:20 pm

      If you are currently in a relationship that is neither abusive or neglectful and you are happy with your partner, then nourish this relationship. If you are no longer interested in talking back to your partner, then make the decision to no longer do so. If your partner is unreasonable or behaving in a way that you do not feel is appropriate, then speak with him about your thoughts and feelings. Have a great day, Cherish!

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      May 24, 2019 at 3:53 pm

      the best way I learned to totally respect my husband and not talk back was simple. we started w me having to have his permission to even talk for the first six months. also when my husband and I were both inside our house and nobody else was around I spent the first six months living in our house without ever wearing any clothes. being nude all the time was the best way for me and any wife to learn.

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        May 24, 2019 at 5:20 pm

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        October 29, 2019 at 3:54 am

        Men and women should be equal and women should not be submissive to anyone. Respecting each other certainly and loving and giving by both the man and the woman.

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          March 3, 2020 at 6:53 pm

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    Lavonda Nelson

    September 22, 2018 at 12:08 am

    I really struggle with being submissive. I’m getting married soon and would like to stay married for the rest of my life. We bicker at times and I think following your steps will help a lot. It will be a challenge to change my ways.

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      September 24, 2018 at 1:15 am

      Your thoughts and feelings are valid, and your relationship is your own. You may be interested in becoming more submissive, but you may not feel comfortable in that position. Determine what you want for your relationship. Please share your thoughts and feelings in the future, as this will help support our community. Have a great day, Lavonda!

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        April 3, 2019 at 8:04 pm

        It’s almost like we’re NOT in the 21st century..

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          April 4, 2019 at 11:58 pm

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          M Walsh

          April 8, 2020 at 6:19 pm

          Lol. This is the best comment here. Yes we are in the 21st century but unforunately the nature of men have truly not evolved nor kept up. Women who are self confident, comfortable in their own skin also would like to feel loved and cherished by a wonderful man regardless. So if you want to have your cake and eat it too, you have to face those facts and play the game until you tire of it. It is kind of ridiculous but then, i am all these things and also in a relationship with such a man. I must say it makes me very happy to be treated like a princess but do keep your own private life nourished as well for your own health and wellbeing.

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            April 8, 2020 at 8:21 pm

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    August 8, 2018 at 11:45 am

    I truly have learned a lot from this. I desire to be a submissive wife but never knew the steps or how . This was so informative n thanks to my guy friend for sending this to me. Thanks so much. I will put this in use .

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      August 9, 2018 at 12:27 am

      Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Sara!

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    August 8, 2018 at 11:42 am

    I desire being a submissive wife but never knew how. Thanks to my guy friend for sending this to me. This information is great n I have learned so very much. I am so ready n waiting.

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      August 9, 2018 at 12:27 am

      Thank you for sharing your positive and supportive comment. Please feel free to share more of your insights and experiences in the future. Have a great day, Sarah!

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    April 30, 2018 at 3:59 pm

    Yes I too am a submissive wife and I love not having to be the strong one to always need to give guidence and leadership.
    I enjoy caring and making a home for my husband, he is my hero and my world. I try and be the best possible wife for him. In return he makes me the center of his universe and make me fell truly loved

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      May 1, 2018 at 9:26 pm

      Thank you for sharing your supportive comment. We always appreciate when members of our community that their experiences and insights. Each person should feel comfortable in their relationship. Have a great day, Sandra!

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    March 23, 2018 at 8:07 pm

    I’m new to the submissive relationship but I must say, I’ve never been happier. I submit completely to him and I’m ecstatic to do so, I’ve never been loved and adored like he does me. I feel like a princess.

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      March 23, 2018 at 10:24 pm

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      May 18, 2019 at 2:41 am

      I have just commited myself to being in a submissive relationship. I’ve always been more of the dominant type in my relationships and always had an answer for everything but I never was happy. Since making the decision to submit to my new boyfriend, life had become so much better. I am happier, he is happier life’s great. I always wanted to just be a mom and housewife but let’s face it… It’s 2019. But after my boyfriend had explained what he was looking for in life and reading your article, I would never turn back. I love my man and he is my hero. All I want is for him is that he never have to worry about not being taken care of. I’ve had alot of bad relationships where I never felt loved and I always made sure my man was satisfied, fed, clean and somehow they still were never happy. After using your advice in my daily life things have never been easier. You gave me all the tools I needed to be the perfect submissive partner for my man and I can’t thank you enough!

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        May 18, 2019 at 4:41 pm

        Thank you for sharing your experiences and insights. We always appreciate when members of our community take the opportunity to share how our articles have supported them in their life. We look forward to you sharing your more of your supportive comments in the future. Have a great day, Tiana!

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        March 24, 2020 at 3:00 pm

        is the only difference between your bad relationships and your good one is the man? I keep my man satisfied, fed, i clean and etc, he still isn’t rly happy. Any advice?

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          March 25, 2020 at 1:35 pm

          You will find that many members of our community have shared their insights and experiences. You may find that their comments may give you additional information. Please share more of your thoughts and feelings in the future.

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    Ryan mathis

    August 27, 2017 at 12:24 am

    I’m a guy who is a “submissive wife” to my wife. I stay home and take care of the house, cooking, cleaning. She is the provider and wears the pants in the family. We couldn’t be more happy! Your advise can go both ways

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      August 27, 2017 at 9:12 pm

      Thank you for sharing your experiences. It is great that we live in a world and culture that allows each person to be whoever they want to be in their relationship. Taking care of the home is an important part of the relationship. Be sure that your partner respects you and treats you with kindness an compassion. Have a great day, Ryan!

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