Why Guys Never Approach Me
In this day and age, it’s easy to think that you have to start approaching guys. However, there are many people out there who are still very traditional in their ways of dating and would prefer for a guy to make the first move. This is especially true if you’re the type to be way too shy to even think about going up to a guy and talking to him.
But what happens when guys never approach you? Does it mean you’re doing something wrong or putting out a bad vibe? More than likely, there are a few things you can do to make yourself more approachable to guys. Sometimes it has more to do with them than you. However, if you find yourself saying, “how come guys never approach me?” it may be because of these things.
What You’re Doing Wrong
Let’s face it, if guys really aren’t approaching you, it has to be for a reason. Here are some of the things you may be doing wrong that discourage guys from approaching you.
- Your body language reads as unapproachable.
If you’re turned away from people and your arms are crossed and you don’t look very happy, nobody will want to risk approaching you. Guys don’t like being rejected, either. If they think you’ll just shoo them away, they won’t approach you.
- You have a very strong personality.
If you’re very loud and have a strong personality, it can be a little intimidating. Guys have to prepare themselves to handle someone who’s very bold and if you’re this way, it may be making guys not want to approach you.
- You act like you’re unavailable.
If you’re hovering around a single guy during the night – even if you’re just friends – it’s going to look like you’re not available. If you act like you have a boyfriend, no guy will want to approach you because they don’t think they’ll have any luck.
- Guys think you’re out of their league.
This may not happen much, but if you’re naturally a very attractive person, it can be difficult for a guy to approach you. If they think you’re too hot or out of their league, they won’t even bother trying because they don’t want to get turned down. It may not seem like a likely reason, but you’d be surprised.
- You’re never alone.
If you’re constantly surrounded by your friends, you’ll never be approached. Guys get nervous and scared to approach a girl and if you’re surrounded by friends, it’s even harder for him to get the courage to go through with it. He won’t want to be rejected in front of a ton of girls and therefore, he won’t approach you and risk embarrassment.
- You don’t look like you want to be bothered.
Again, if you’re huddled over by yourself or even with friends and you just look like you don’t want to be approached, nobody will approach you. Even if you do want someone to come talk to you, looking like you don’t want to be bothered will make people continue to avoid you.
- They do approach you, but you don’t realize it.
Maybe guys are approaching you all the time and you never notice that they’re interested in you. If you have a lot of guy friends who talk to you a lot, you may be ignorant to their advances. Pay attention to who is coming up to you and what vibe they’re giving off with their body language.
How to Fix it
Luckily, there are solutions to all of the issues you’re having with guys never approaching you. If you do these things, you’ll be approached far more often than you were before.
- Remove yourself from your friends for a minute.
You have to be alone if you want a guy to approach you. They aren’t fans of going up to a girl in a big group of girls. They don’t want to embarrass themselves if you turn them down. But if you’re alone, it’s far more likely that they’ll walk up to you and try to get a conversation going.
- Smile at guys you want to approach you.
If you see a cute guy and want him to come talk to you, then smile at him. Give him a sign that you’re into him and want him to come say hi. Guys are sometimes clueless and often need a sign like this in order to feel better about going up and talking to a girl.
- Dress to impress.
This isn’t to say that you’re not already dressing great, but dress in a way that guys feel comfortable approaching you. If you’re underdressed, guys will begin to think you have a boyfriend and won’t want to come talk to you. But if you dress too inappropriately, they’ll feel awkward talking to you. Find that happy medium where you look and feel great.
- Have open body language.
Turn yourself toward the guy you want to come approach you. Make sure you’re displaying open body language. Smile more. Don’t cross your arms. And just look like you want to be approached. Doing this can help a guy feel much more at ease when coming to talk to you. It also helps to look like you’re having a lot of fun because all guys want to be a part of that fun.
- Don’t look TOO good.
This may sound like odd advice, but if you’re someone who is naturally very beautiful, you may want to tone it down a bit if you want guys to approach you. If you’re someone who looks incredible with minimal makeup and a simple outfit, then you shouldn’t make yourself look even better. If guys think you’re too good looking for them, they’ll avoid you.
If you feel like guys never approach you, it could be for a few different reasons. If you’re someone who doesn’t feel like you can go up and talk to them, fixing these issues can help you seem more available and guys will want to approach you.