What Do You Do if Your Crush Likes You Back?
Heavenly heavens – the guy looked at you. Spoke to you. Smiled at you. Flirted with you. He might even have asked you out. So what do you do?
Warning: Keep Your Cool
Enjoy his attentions. Don’t rush headlong into it.
Hormones will make you see stars as soon as he looks your way. That’s attraction for you. Trouble is you could be attracted to a total jerk. To get to know a) if he’s a great person and b) if he’s great with you in particular, takes time.
To stop yourself from falling in love too quickly, keep a busy life in general. Have clear goals for your social life, fitness and career. And work them. It will stop you from spending all your time swooning over Mr Potentially Right. It will also stop you from giving up on your long term dreams in favor of spending some time with him.
Men Like Cool
Another reason to keep your cool? Guys love a woman who shows she won’t just date anyone. If you rush into it, he will think he can get away with anything.
You have a life. It doesn’t stop just because he texts you. Wait to reply until you’re actually free to reply.
Take your time to find out if he’s actually worth it.
For him to keep paying interest to you, you have to keep flirting. If you become too friendly he’ll start seeing you as a friend. And if you’re never available, he will give up.
Give him compliments. Send him flirtatious texts. Tell him what it is you like about him. Dress up to make him cross eyed. Don’t overdo it. See it as teasing – just enough to drive him wild.
Also, be sure to touch him ever so often. Like touching his arm when making a point.
Knock Him Out
Ever so often, make sure he sees you in a knock-out outfit. Don’t overdo it – dress in a way that’s suitable for wherever you know you’ll bump into him, but make sure it’s still extraordinary.
Encourage Him to Ask You Out
He should really do the asking. It doesn’t stop you from dropping hints though. If he asks you what you are doing during the weekend you could say that for once you are actually free. Or say you have something cool on all day Sunday, but haven’t made plans for Saturday.
You can, of course, also suggest him and his friends join you and your friends for something you’re doing. That’s not a date, but it will hopefully give him the courage to get closer to you!
So to sum it up…here are the steps to follow:
- Keep It Cool – make sure you have a life you love and don’t change your schedule around for him. Make him work for you.
- Be Flirtatious – show you like him by sending flirtatious text messages, giving compliments and touching him when speaking to him.
- Knock Him Out – keep the attraction going strong by showing your sexy side ever so often.
- Encourage Him to Ask You Out – drop hints about when you’re available and up for doing something in general, or invite him and his friends to come along when you’re doing something with your friends.
Warning: do not decide how much you like him too soon, or let him distract you from your life. He’ll like you more if you show him he needs to earn your attention.
By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery