How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work
Sometimes unexpected things happen in life that leave two lovers on opposite ends of the world. One may have a new and high-paying job up north, or one may have to move across the country for school. Whatever the reason, it’s no need to panic. Long distance relationships may be a lot of work, but they are the true test of a relationship to see just how much you love someone and how much your relationship can handle. These tips and tricks will help you not only make your long distance relationship work, but keep it happy and strong.
1. Talk Often
Communication in any relationship is absolutely important, but even more so when you’re in a long distance relationship. Find ways to talk to each other as often as possible. Text each other throughout the day, call each other when you can, send each other instant messages, or even go the old fashioned route and send something in the mail (which is very romantic also). The point here is to talk as much as possible EVERY DAY.
2. Video Chat
Talking to your significant other is utterly important, but if you’re able to video chat, we highly recommend doing so. Talking is one thing- but seeing your lover is another. You might not be able to touch them, but seeing their smiling face will certainly brighten up your day and make the relationship stronger. Try to video chat as often as possible either with your computer or smart phone.
3. Send Pictures
If you don’t have video chat capabilities, then take the next best option and send pictures. Send pictures of yourself or the world around you. Show your partner your new hairstyle, the new decoration you put in your bedroom, or show them that new sexy outfit you purchased for the next time the two of you are together. Pictures will make your relationship seem a little less far apart, so send them often.
4. See Each Other Often
We know this can be difficult, and depending on the circumstances you might not have the opportunity to see each other for several months. But as soon as you have the chance, you NEED to take it- even if it means only seeing your love for a few hours. Try to plan meet ups as often as possible, and spend every moment with your partner talking, hugging, kissing- just spending one on one time together doing what you guys love to do.
5. Have Combined Goals
If the two of you have something you’re working towards, time will fly by much quicker. For example: the two of you could have a goal that you’re going to move in together in such and such city within 2 years. You will both work towards this goal: finishing school, saving up money, planning decoration ideas or searching the area for the best homes etc. Before you know it the two of you will be together living happily.
6. Have Separate Goals
Having separate goals will also help time move along faster, not to mention being apart gives you plenty of time to focus on things YOU are interested in. Maybe you could take an art class like you’ve always wanted to, or spend the extra time bulking up in the gym. Maybe you could start brushing up on your cooking skills or finishing your degree. There’s so many things you can do with all this free time!
7. Send Gifts
There’s nothing quite like getting a gift from someone you love- especially if it’s something sentimental or cute. Maybe your man could leave his sweatshirt with you before he leaves, that way you can snuggle up with it and enjoy his scent. Maybe he could send you a sweet love letter in the mail with a special gift only you would enjoy. As for the girls, maybe you could send your man a cool sports item or other piece of equipment he might enjoy. No one knows our partner better than you do, so you know exactly how to surprise them!
8. Do Things Together
You’re probably wondering how on earth you’re supposed to do things together when you’re 2,000 miles apart- well, the answer is simple: you don’t have to be next to each other to do things together. For instance: you could both watch the same movie at the same time at home while talking on the phone. You could both go for a walk outside while chatting. You could take the same history class and work on homework together. There’s plenty of options!
9. Keep the Love Alive
Whether you’re right next to each other in the same town or a million miles apart, there is one thing every relationship needs to do: and that’s keep the love alive. So how can you do this? There’s tons of different ways to keep the love strong. Tell each other why and how much you love them, as often as possible. Compliment each other: tell her how beautiful she is, and tell him how handsome he is. Give more intricate compliments like what it is that makes them special or how much you love the way they do this, this, or that. Talk about your guys’ future and make plans together. Do the things you would normally do in a traditional relationship, just over the phone or computer.
10. Trust Each Other
If there is no trust, there is no relationship. It’s as simple as that. There are very few things that will break up a relationship faster than lack of trust. And when it comes to long distance relationships, trust is even more so important- even though it’s a lot harder. But you entered into this relationship knowing that you wouldn’t be next to each other constantly, so you need to trust your partner. The moment you start questioning each other, is the moment your relationship will start falling apart. Trust your love until they give you a reason not to!
11. Dirty Talk
Ok, so you might not be able to jump on top of each other whenever you want anymore thanks to the long distance. However, you can keep the spark going and get geared up for the next time you will see each other by doing a little bit of dirty talking. Send them some naughty text messages throughout the day that will make their jaws drop (or even send a picture with it for extra WOW factor), dirty talk to each other over the phone, or even get naughty during a video call. Anything to keep that sexy spark alive and strong!
12. Be Open and Honest
This goes hand in hand with keeping strong communication and having trust: ALWAYS be open and honest with your partner, no matter what. If you’re feeling down about distance and thinking the relationship might not work, talk it over with your partner so the two of you can work it out. If you are going out with your gal pals for the night, tell your man and let him know you’ll be a good girl while you’re out. Just be honest with them, from the minor details to the big ones. THIS will keep the relationship going strong!
13. Be Positive
It’s super important to stay positive in a long distance relationship, even when the going gets tough. And yes, we know how hard it can be to be miles and miles apart from the love of your life. But you need to stay strong and positive so the relationship can thrive. If you do end up sad or having depressed thoughts about the whole thing, refer to tip number 12 about being open and honest. Tell your partner when you start feeling down about the relationship so the two of you can talk through it and get back to that happy medium.
14. Talk About the Future
Talking about the future is imperative in a long distance relationship. It lets you escape the distance for a minute and drift off to a happy time where the two of you are together and sharing time right next to each other, which makes the distance seem a little less far. You could talk about near future events- like visiting each other on your next break in 3 weeks- or you could go even further and talk about what you’ll name your first son or daughter in 7 years. The point is to take focus OFF of being apart, and MORE on what you’ll do together.
15. Surprise Them
There are few things greater in life then hearing your doorbell ring, walking over to the door, opening it, and seeing the love of your life whom you haven’t seen in months standing in the doorway. It makes your heart burst out of your skin and your jaw drop to the floor. It’s an amazing experience, and if you can do it, we say DO IT NOW. However, if you’re not able to surprise them in person, you can surprise them in other ways like sending them a surprise gift in the mail or writing them a special handwritten poem that will make their heart melt.
16. Find Similar Interests
This is another fun (and easy) way to make your bond a whole lot stronger. Find similar interests you can share together. For instance, maybe the two of you could team up on an online game like Call of Duty or go one on one on a basketball video game. Or maybe you could both start watching old movies while talking over the phone. Or maybe the two of you could take up a fun cooking class and share delicious recipes with each other. There’s TONS of options out there!
17. Always Find Out More
Whether you’re in a nearby relationship or one hundreds of miles apart, you should always try to find out MORE about the person you’re with. After all, even if you’ve been with someone for 10 years, there’s ALWAYS something new to find out. Use this time apart to get to know your partner even better. Ask them questions, see how they react to stressful events, and see how good of a partner they are even from miles away. You might think the distance will make it harder, but in some ways it’ll make it even easier!
18. Make Time
You wouldn’t never make time for someone you’re dating in the same city, right? Well even in a long distance relationship, you need to make time for your partner. Distance shouldn’t mean they are of any less importance than if they were right next to you 24/7. Make time to send them text messages, call them, and video chat them. The moment you start being too busy for them is the moment they start thinking you’re seeing someone else or don’t want to be in the relationship any longer.
19. Plan a Trip
Sure, it’s great JUST to see each other every now and then. But you don’t always have to do the same thing time and time again. The next time the two of you have some spare time, why not plan an exciting trip together? You could visit a new state (or even a new country) and spend some fun time on the beach, romantic time in the mountains, or thrilling times in a new area you’ve never seen before. Who doesn’t love a getaway with their significant other? We think this will certainly be a HUGE hit!
20. Don’t Give Up
This might seem like somewhat of an obvious tip- and it pretty much is- but it’s one that some people tend to forget rather easily. We KNOW how hard long distance relationships can be. It’s stressful. It’s hard. You don’t get to spend a lot of time with the person you ADORE. But even when the going gets rough, you need to KEEP GOING. This is the ultimate test for any relationship, and if you can withstand these treacherous times you will be able to see just how strong your relationship is and how true your love for this other individual is- so keep going.