Dating Mexican Men
Cultural traditions, customs and roles are applicable abroad or at home. Whether you are in Mexico or dating Mexican men in your own country, it is important to realize that cultural norms he grew up with may remain within his fiery blood. While it is important to keep in mind that stereotypes are often incorrect, it is doubly important to be prepared for what you may experience. It may be beneficial to have an understanding of what to expect before you begin courting your Mexican man.
Mexican Gender Roles
The macho man and the influence of machismo culture may be apparent, especially if you are dating a man who grew up in Mexico. Mexican men who live in other countries may have their rougher edges softened by outside cultural influences. It is important to note that many Mexican men do not have this ingrained attitude, though many of them do. This cultural attitude may be more apparent with the more religious or conservative men.
Mexican men feel as though they should be providers, bread winners and protectors. This may cause a feelings of seriousness and firmness in their actions and words. Being dominant is a trait of strength, not abuse, to a Mexican man. These feelings are trained from birth as Mexican men often grow up in households where the father works outside the home and the mother cares for the children and house. It is not uncommon, however, for the wife to hold the purse strings. This cultural phenomenon may be unusual for those who are raised in cultures where the maker of the money is the holder of the money.
For women, the roles are much less influenced by modern feminism. Except for the control of household finances, women are placed in a much more traditional role. Women are expected to care for the house, children, food, and shopping. From a stereotypical perspective, she is submissive and accepting of her partner’s macho tendencies. She is to be forgiving of his more macho behavior. That said, the modern relationship is evolving. It is more common to see an equal relationship than it used to be.
It should be said that a relationship should not be confined to these prejudices. Make your relationship your own. Do not allow cultural norms prevent you from creating the relationship that you desire. Speak with your partner and determine what can be given and what be taken. Compromise is key, though you may find it difficult to establish at first try.
Because of their reputation for their passion and fiery temperaments, dating Mexican men can be exciting and potentially overwhelming. Because of traditional gender roles, men are expected to be assertive to the point of aggressive in their behaviors. Being a strong mate is important, and the male ego can be an extremely fragile thing. Expect potential confrontations between your partner and your other male friends. Be observant for his possibly unacceptable actions toward other women. Though loyal, Mexican men are known to be flirtatious in their words and actions.
Shouting, whistling and yelling may be common occurrences, especially in Mexico itself. This may be a sign of appreciation of beauty, but it may be unsettling to those of us who live in a more harassment-conscious society. These vocalizations are not meant to cause fear, but rather to bring attention to the fact that they are interested. That said, you may find that men who are seriously seeking a relationship will act in a much more respectful manner. They are often extremely physical, though not necessarily in a sexual manner. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and other forms of physical interactions are common. Public displays of affection are normal and may cause problems for mixed relationships where the woman is not from a culture that supports public displays. Communication is key and will certainly alleviate many concerns.
Loyalty is important to the Mexican man. When in an established relationship, most Mexican men will not have a problem being faithful until the end. They will expect this in return. You may find that jealously and unruly behavior may be the result of friendly conversation between you and other men.
Men and women of all cultures may cheat, and Mexican men are no different. It is important to observe their actions, rather than their words. Mexican men can get caught in the moment, especially when around a woman who has peaked their interest.
Be willing to compromise your cultural norms with his. It is normal for culturally mixed relationships will have their problems, but these are easily overcome by direct and honest conversations. Be on the lookout for certain indicators and signs. For someone interested in dating Mexican men, the follow list of advice may be beneficial to look over.
1, If you have close male friends, then be clear about your intentions and conversations with them.
2. Words are words. Compliments and promises may be nothing more than attention seeking. Do not believe everything you hear.
3. Try not to have sex on the first date. Promised of love may only extend until the end of the evening.
4. Be mindful of machismo and the macho man. If you are not prepared to sacrifice the blessings of modern feminism, then you may want to seek a relationship with a more liberal-minded man.
5.Seek a female-friendly man. Notice how he treats his mother, sisters and family. He will let you speak without interrupting you or putting you down.
6. Push the limits in your relationship. It make seem to cause problems, but his natural cultural tendencies of dominance may develop over the course of your relationship. Don’t allow this to happen.
7. Keep an eye out for other women and his reactions toward them.
8. Demand personal space if you need it. Mexican men can read your mind no better than any other man.
9. Most importantly, it is important that you make your feelings clear and demand respect. This is true in any relationship. Never allow your feelings or words to be ignored. Make your presence and thoughts known. Remember that a man is a man, regardless of culture, and know that he wants nothing more than to be a good partner to you and for you to be a good partner to him.