Dating Finnish Men

By on April 1, 2015






As I come from Sweden I have met a Finnish man or two in my life and my dad’s girlfriend of over ten years is Finnish, so I have some knowledge about the Finns. If you re curious, read on…

They Aren’t Latinos

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Right, this is obvious, I’m sure. The point I’m making is that whilst Latin guys tend to get physical within five minutes of making your acquaintance and shower you in hugs, kisses and compliments, Finns are quite the opposite. It’s been said that even making a Finn talk is quite a feat.

Now, this is a gross generalization, I have to admit. Not least because my dad’s girlfriend is very, very chatty. Once you get to know her. The same can be said for many Finnish men, but on the whole they are not the most talkative men you’ll ever come across. Something about long, cold, dark winters maybe?

On the upside Finns tend to make friends for life and when they do say something they mean it. This is not necessarily the case for the Latinos.

There’s Always Vodka

If you want to make a Finnish man talk, there’s always vodka. Don’t overdo it, just give him enough to get him to open his mouth.

They Love Ice

If you date a Finnish man it might so happen that you learn to ice skate. After all, there are a lot of frozen lakes in winter in Finland. If you are a bit unstable on your feet, he will surely help you learn to skate better, which can be romantic as you will hold onto him for dear life making your way on the ice.

What’s more, is that the Finns like saunas. This in turn means that they love running into icy lakes in winter after having had a sauna. Sometimes they also roll around in the snow. And here’s the catch: they are often naked when they do it. Being naked is not something one makes much of a fuss about in Scandinavia. It is, as we say, natural.

If your man starts beating you with a branch of birch or similar in the sauna he is not trying to abuse you. It’s merely an old tradition of getting the blood flowing even more in the hot air.

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They Won’t Be Pushy

Chances are if you meet a Finn he is not going to rapidly approach you and chat you up. You might have to be fairly persistent to get him to make a move. You see, in the Nordic countries there is this idea that men who approach women are trying to impose themselves on them, which is seen as sleazy and rude. So if you see a man you like, don’t be scared to really flirt with him. Don’t throw yourself at him, however. Remember that the Finns aren’t the most “warm” people you will ever meet. He will consider you crazy if you launch yourself at him like a missile.

If he’s had some vodka however he might approach you. Or just start dancing with you on the dance floor. It’s just a far cry from the American men who will march up to you and offer to pay for a drink.

They Won’t Pay

Equality in the Nordic countries is humongous. So just as a Finnish man will consider it rude to take charge and approach you, he will think it rude to constantly pay for you. From time to time it might be a gesture of kindness to offer to pay, but as a general rule, you pay for what you bought.

There Isn’t a Dating Culture

In general you meet, you hang out and you become an item. The idea of taking someone on dates till time immortal just doesn’t occur to the Finns. Just because you are a couple though, it doesn’t mean it’s serious. It simply means you are trying it out.

It also happens people meet in a night club and a one night stand turns into something more. You then usually meet for coffee a few days later. In general if someone is interested in you, chances are they suggest you meet up for a coffee. This doesn’t mean it’s a date, nor that it isn’t a date. It’s a coffee. To see where things go.

1507760_10152392614860079_8379465670289960282_n copy 2By Maria Montgomery – Maria is a freelance writer, director and social entrepreneur. She’s also the spokesperson for The Little Angels Community Center and an avid blogger. You can find her somewhere between Cape Town, London and L.A., where you will most likely find her in the hills, looking out over the city she loves. @OhMyMontgomery





54 Comments

  1. Bianca

    January 15, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Hi 🙂 Need your opinion 🙂 I’ve been communicating with a Finnish guy for several years, we met once and really liked it other. We live in different countries, so it’s difficult to meet often. Usually he is very attentive and caring, but he speaks about his feeling directly only when he is drunk 😀 What do you think, will it be always like this? I told him about my feelings so he knows that he is my beloved one.

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      January 16, 2017 at 11:07 am

      It is possible that he feels more comfortable when he is drunk. You may find that with people from a wide variety of cultures. If he is kind and respectful to you when he is drunk, then it is not a problem. Try to speak with him again, but take charge of the conversation. He may be too shy when sober to share his feelings with you. Best of luck, Bianca!

  2. Jane

    January 3, 2017 at 3:22 am

    Hi, it is so nice to read comments about the Finnish, I am from Africa, Zambia and I have been chatting with a Finn guy since a now on facebook and our communication has been very good even when am asleep he still drops me messages and pictures of what his doing and bla bla 😅. Only 2months ago he mentioned he wanted to invite me to Finland and that he feels so comfortable chatting with me and that he really likes me. what I have noticed about him is that he gets so chatty when his drunk and less chatty when sober so my question is would he still behave the same when I visit him?
    I have had friend requests on facebook from his sister and brother, would that mean he really likes me?
    Thank you in advance xx

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      January 3, 2017 at 11:58 am

      It is likely that he is interested in developing a relationship with you, especially if his siblings are adding you to their Facebooks. Try to meet up with him if you are able. Meet his family if you feel comfortable doing so. It sounds like you have a great relationship at this time. Best of luck, Jane!

  3. Confusedbuthappy

    October 21, 2016 at 9:56 am

    Hello! I really need an advice.. I’m falling head over heels for this Finnish guy.. We met just a week ago on tinder. I honestly was not expecting anything to happen especially cause I live in another country. We texted for a day then met for a few glasses of wine. Everything went really well but at the end of the ‘date’ instead of coming up to the flat I’m staying at he left. After less than 10 minutes since he left he texted me apologizing for leaving, saying that he would have loved to spend way more time together, but had to do some work, and if we could see each other again sometime. After this we spend an entire day texting and after 2 days meet again.we talk about everything, he shows me around, but nothing physical happens until I agree to sleep at his place. We spend a great night, but the day after he behaves as before spending the day together. When we say goodbye he tells he wants to see me again. He asks me out for dinner and yet again until we get to his place nothing happens, then another great, he tells me a lot about himself. Everything is super nice, but when we leave his place he is colder (just physically speaking, no kisses, no holding hands) but then when it’s mie to say goodbye he tells me that he wants to see me once again.
    I don’t know what to do because he seems really into me, he texts me s lot, he’s always either asking me to see each other or up for it if I ask him to, but he just doesn’t show it physically expect in the bedroom.
    The ,main problem is that I’m leaving soon and really don’t know how to behave next time I see him (which might be the last time)… Any ideas? Thank! xx

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      October 21, 2016 at 6:31 pm

      If you are finding that he is not moving as fast as you want him to, then perhaps it would be wise for you to make the first move. Cross cultural relationships can have many problems in communication, especially in non-verbal communication. Cultural stereotypes suggest that Finnish men are not aggressive and overly assertive regarding physical advances. That said, it is never wise to judge people based on stereotypes. Of course, there is no reason for you to require him to make the first move. Perhaps give him a long hug or a quick kiss the next time that you see him. You may see his mood brighten immediately. Remain positive and mindful of cultural differences!

  4. Kim

    September 19, 2016 at 3:29 am

    I met Finnish guy in the park. He was jogging and I was walking with my bicycle. And he approached me and say “hi” and he told me that I’m super cute and he want to say hi to me. He also ask me to go out for coffee and ask my phone number. We’ve met twice. But I think he don’t like texting or calling, he only texting when we make appointment to meet up and he reply me so late(6hours…). So I told him that I don’t like it and stop meet anymore and he text me that he really like me and forgive me something like that. He told me that he likes me in texting but when we meet and talk, we’re just like friends! And He invite me to his house, there are some special meaning?

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      September 19, 2016 at 1:31 pm

      He likely wants to spend time with you and may not have the same interest in communicating by texts. Many people do not like text or phone based communication. If he wants to meet you in person, then it would be wise of you to spend time with him. If you do not spend time with him, then he may be confused and concern that you do not like him. That said, be sure to be respectful of his desires for your relationship as well as your own. Remain positive and mindful as you move forward, Kim!

      • Kim

        September 19, 2016 at 9:53 pm

        Thanks a lot♡♡!!!

  5. sachee

    August 18, 2016 at 10:02 pm

    Hii im Sachee from Sri Lanka, And im looking a Finnish guy to marry, could u please help me?

    • web admin

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      August 20, 2016 at 12:18 am

      You may just find someone here! Feel free to use your energy in finding a Finnish partner. Perhaps find on on social media or on a relationship comment thread. Be friendly as positive.

    • Henu

      September 22, 2016 at 10:05 am

      Yes sure pls send me mail and we can talk! 🙂

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        September 22, 2016 at 5:13 pm

        Thank you for attempting to create close relationships through our site, Henu. We appreciate respectful, mindful, and positive discourse through the use of our community forums.

  6. Heisca

    August 5, 2016 at 11:51 pm

    So happy to find this site ..maybe I can find sort of advice here, I met a Finnish guy at work , I liked him immediately, but as a foreigner who used to men approaching her first I kept my distance, things got worst the guy distanced him self from me , then when I got the picture a bout Finnish men I started to hit on him , he responded immediately, he was touching me most of the time trying to show he likes me in every possible way , though I had to say first I like him then he said he likes me too, after that there was craziness and kissing hugging all the time , he went crazy many times at work he risk it coz he wanted to kiss and hug all the time , yet it was so hard to meet him out ! He is always busy , when he is with me I feel he is really genuine ,but when he is far it seems cold , he said he is an old fashion person he doesn’t like to chat and he is bad when it comes to that , he said he is this kind of person even with his friends he say to them ( soitellaan ) then dissapear for two weeks , when I text him he respond always but mostly breaflly , he doesn’t start texting , few times , I noticed he does it late at night in Friday’s when he go out to the bar then when he comes back he always write to me before he pass out and he write nice things , once when he was on a vacation he wrote me a long text ( that he likes me and he wants me badly , he feels like a teen around my , he is on his 30 s , I drive him crazy and it’s not just fisycal cos even when he sew naked beautiful women he doesn’t feel as hot as with me , with me he is in different world ) he even wrote to me ( my! love ) in English on that day .. ( he never say it again )
    He wrote I wish you are here .. After that he jus became different , cold I don’t know he had ups and downs sometimes really close sometimes he just dissapear, but he always respond when I write to him , we met out twise , was romantic many kisses and hugged and hands holding , always when he is with me he is so close , yet again I go back home then nothing !
    Is that a Finnish men thing , why would he write my love to me ? He said he likes my and that I’m ( hänelle rakas ) he said he cares about me and he wants me physically too but he wants more than just that .. We haven’t slept together yet , he is taking things very slowly, when we met last time he drove the car we stopped at many parks there , he wanted me badly but yet he said he doesn’t want to do it like this he wants to enjoy me peacefully not in the car or a park ..
    Again everything seems good but the communication thing is annoying I don’t understand him ! Will Finnish guy say they like u just to get into your pants ? Yet again the guy is crazy about having sex with me but he is taking it very slowly like he is the women not the man lol ..
    Any ideas ?

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      August 6, 2016 at 1:28 pm

      Thank you for your comment! It looks like you have posted this same comment three times, so I have responded to your first comment. We appreciate your readership and your questions!

      • Heisca

        August 7, 2016 at 4:23 am

        So sorry for that I didn’t know it takes time to respond and for the comment to be shown so I reposted ..
        I tried to delete them but there is not such an option here ..
        So kindly delete them for me if you can ..

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          August 7, 2016 at 1:22 pm

          I apologize if I sounded curt in my comment. I meant it to be more positive. We will work to make it more clear in the future for our readers. Thank you for understanding and thank you for being such a positive force on our comment board!

  7. Heisca

    August 5, 2016 at 3:33 pm

    So happy to find this site ..maybe I can find sort of advice here, I met a Finnish guy at work , I liked him immediately, but as a foreigner who used to men approaching her first I kept my distance, things got worst the guy distanced him self from me , then when I got the picture a bout Finnish men I started to hit on him , he responded immediately, he was touching me most of the time trying to show he likes me in every possible way , though I had to say first I like him then he said he likes me too, after that there was craziness and kissing hugging all the time , he went crazy many times at work he risk it coz he wanted to kiss and hug all the time , yet it was so hard to meet him out ! He is always busy , when he is with me I feel he is really genuine ,but when he is far it seems cold , he said he is an old fashion person he doesn’t like to chat and he is bad when it comes to that , he said he is this kind of person even with his friends he say to them ( soitellaan ) then dissapear for two weeks , when I text him he respond always but mostly breaflly , he doesn’t start texting , few times , I noticed he does it late at night in Friday’s when he go out to the bar then when he comes back he always write to me before he pass out and he write nice things , once when he was on a vacation he wrote me a long text ( that he likes me and he wants me badly , he feels like a teen around my , he is on his 30 s , I drive him crazy and it’s not just fisycal cos even when he sew naked beautiful women he doesn’t feel as hot as with me , with me he is in different world ) he even wrote to me ( my! love ) in English on that day .. ( he never say it again )
    He wrote I wish you are here .. After that he jus became different , cold I don’t know he had ups and downs sometimes really close sometimes he just dissapear, but he always respond when I write to him , we met out twise , was romantic many kisses and hugged and hands holding , always when he is with me he is so close , yet again I go back home then nothing !
    Is that a Finnish men thing , why would he write my love to me ? He said he likes my and that I’m ( hänelle rakas ) he said he cares about me and he wants me physically too but he wants more than just that .. We haven’t slept together yet , he is taking things very slowly, when we met last time he drove the car we stopped at many parks there , he wanted me badly but yet he said he doesn’t want to do it like this he wants to enjoy me peacefully not in the car or a park ..
    Again everything seems good but the communication thing is annoying I don’t understand him ! Will Finnish guy say they like u just to get into your pants ? Yet again the guy is crazy about having sex with me but he is taking it very slowly like he is the women not the man lol ..
    Any ideas ?

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      August 6, 2016 at 1:06 pm

      Thank you for your comment! It looks like you have posted this same comment twice, so I have responded to your other comment. We appreciate your readership and your questions!

  8. Heisca

    August 5, 2016 at 3:20 pm

    So happy to find this site ..maybe I can find sort of advice here, I met a Finnish guy at work , I liked him immediately, but as a foreigner who used to men approaching her first I kept my distance, thinks got worst the guy distanced him self from me , then when I got the picture a bout Finnish men I started to hit on him , he responded immediately, he was touching me most of the time trying to show he likes me in every possible way , though I had to say first I like him then he said he likes me too, after that there was craziness and kissing hugging all the time , he went crazy many times at work he risk it coz he wanted to kiss and hug all the time , yet it was so hard to meet him out ! He is always busy , when he is with me I feel he is really genuine ,but when he is far it seems cold , he said he is an old fashion person he doesn’t like to chat and he is bad when it comes to that , he said he is this kind of person even with his friends he say to them ( soitellaan ) then dissapear for two weeks , when I text him he respond always but mostly breaflly , he doesn’t start texting , few times , I noticed he does it late at night in Friday’s when he go out to the bar then when he comes back he always write to me before he pass out hhhh , once when he was in a vacation he wrote me a long text ( that he likes me and he wants me badly , he feels like a teen around my , he is on his 30 s , I drive him crazy and it’s not just fisycal cos even when he sew naked beautiful women he doesn’t feel as hot as with me , with me he is in different world ) he even wrote to me ( my love ) in English on that day ..
    He wrote I wish you are here .. After that he jus became different , cold I don’t know he had ups and downs sometimes really close sometimes he just dissapear, but he always respond when I write to him , we met out twise , was romantic many kisses and hugged and hands holding , always when he is with me he is so close , yet again I go back home then nothing !
    Is that a Finnish men thing , why would he write my love to me ? He said he likes my and that I’m ( hänelle rakas ) he said he cares about me and he wants me physically too but he wants more than just that .. We haven’t slept together yet , he is taking thinks very slowly, when we met last time he drove the car we stopped at many parks there , he wanted me badly but yet he said he doesn’t want to do it like this he wants to enjoy me peacefully not in the car or a park ..
    Again everything seems good but the communication thing is annoying I don’t understand him ! Will Finnish guy say they like u just to get into your pants ? Yet again the guy is crazy about having sex with me but he is taking it very slowly like he is the women not the man lol ..
    Any ideas ?

    • web admin

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      August 6, 2016 at 1:01 pm

      It is wise to not judge someone based on their nationality, as each person is influenced differently by their national culture. It seems that he is a private person in public and at a distance, yet is extremely affectionate in person. If he says that he has strong feelings for you, then it is likely that he has those feelings and is not lying to you. If you want to further develop your relationship with him, then speak with him directly and honestly about your desires. If he shares your feelings, then you know that you can further develop your relationship. Try to close the physical distance gap and it is likely that you will experience his strong attachment and positive feelings.

      • Heisca

        August 7, 2016 at 4:15 am

        Thanks you do much for your respond , of course I’m not trying to stereotype( ing), but I belive that every calture is different and has its effect on people, like in my culture when a woman paroch the man she considered impolite! Crazy but true hhhh..
        All I’m trying here is to understand how the average Finn man think and behave in general so I can know how to react because Finns the men seems to think differently from others and it’s a fact.. And cos I care about that person I really want to understand him ..
        Again I have to ask .. Writing to me ( my love ) what it would refer too? Cos I know Finns are serious and they don’t repeat these words a lot they say it once and you have to get the point right ?
        After him saying that to me he backed off a lot , I have to be the first to write most of the time , I wonder if he ll wrire to me if I dissapear for a week without writing hhh.
        Plus the guy is not stable sometimes I feel he loves me deeply , others he goes cold..
        And one last question .. Could it be just physical attraction ? and how important for men to have sex ? I mean I know it’s important for all I’m general hhhh , but in Finland will people lie just to have sex ?
        Thanks a lot again ..
        I appercete your help , I really do like the guy and I need serious help 🙁

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          August 7, 2016 at 1:22 pm

          I am not an expert of Finland or Finnish people. However, I am fairly certain that in every culture a certain level of physical closeness is required for any long term relationship. People are capable of lying to have sex, however I would not assume that anyone is doing so unless you have strong reason to believe so. If you find that you are unable to determine what he wants and are unsure about where your relationship is going, then speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. It would be most wise to explain to him that you want to take the next step in your relationship, if that is what you want to do. It seems like you are at a precipice in your relationship, and you must either take it to the next level or you must find a way to end it. Remain positive as you move forward.

  9. Karina

    July 13, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    I’ve been communicating with a Finn for several years, just like friends, via internet (I am from Latvia). I used to have a boyfriend but some time ago we broke up with him, and since than the Finn started writing me every day (he always writes me first), sometimes (not very often really) he makes me some compliments (says that I am lovely or have a beautiful smile) and he is very kind in general. When I was ill, for example, he sent me some medicines. I am planning to visit Finland soon and he offered to meet and go together somewhere, and even live at his home to save up money and not to pay for hotel. There are also some details about him and I would think that he has fallen in love with me, but in his social network he has a stutus that he is in love with a girl, she is from another country too. He lives alone and has never mentioned her, and it just drives me mad – if he has a girlfriend why he is behaving like this? The thing is that I am starting to fall in love with him too and don’t know what to think. Is it just a Finnish friendship? Or what to think?

    • web admin

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      July 13, 2016 at 5:07 pm

      If he has a girlfriend, then you need to speak with him directly and honestly about your feelings. Explain that you can not continue to harm his girlfriend, and explain to him that you are willing to develop a relationship with him if you are not the cause for someone being harmed. If you find out that your assumption is wrong and that he is actually in love with you, then there is no reason to not nourish relationship. Speak with him directly about your feelings.

      • Karina

        July 14, 2016 at 2:42 am

        Thank you, actually I want to do it when we meet, not via text messages… But what do you think from his behaviour: does he really like me? I am afraid to look silly if I ask him and it will turn out that I am only a friend for him

  10. Jean

    June 26, 2016 at 8:43 am

    Have this finnish BF, who happened to be here with me in my country(philippnes) 2014..But before that, we have ups and downs… 4 months that he not want to chat with me.. Till September came, we back to normal and he met me here.. Right now, we are in the situation where, he not again talk to me while, the past days, we were happy. Don’t know what is going on but..I am being patient. I’ll wait till he spoke to me. Not sure, is this normal to Finnish men?

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      June 27, 2016 at 12:39 pm

      It is unfair to classify the actions of any person by their nationality. It seems as though your relationship has normal ups and downs, so if you are concerns are that your relationship is unstable, then speak with him directly about your feelings. If he shares your goals and desires, then continue the relationship. If he wants to end the relationship, then respect his desires to do so.

  11. BG

    April 8, 2016 at 12:29 pm

    well, I met my Finn a few years ago, we talk every day, last year I went to Finland and long story short, he asked me to be his girlfriend, he introduced me to his family and friends and now we just celebrated our first anniversary.
    He’s the sweetest, kindest, and loving boyfriend I’ve ever had. He’s very shy, yes, and he has been struggling with his feelings a bit, but he’s trying real hard to be more open. And I most say that this has been quite a challenge since we’ve been traveling as much as we can (I’m from Mexico) but we’ve been talking about moving out together. So my opinion about Finns? I’m lucky I guess!
    I’m totally in love with him, and he even says “I love” you more than once per year…

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      April 8, 2016 at 4:29 pm

      That sounds like a wonderful experience, BG! Are you guys considering which country you want to live in together? Would you move to Finland, Mexico or a third option? Congrats on finding the right guy and thanks for commenting! 🙂

  12. ritah

    March 16, 2016 at 1:49 am

    i have met a finnish man on a dating site, he is the one who first contacted me that am beautiful and he likes my profile, for real i was suprised because he came from no where and started, he has asked me whether theres an embassy for finland in my country, Does that mean that he want to come to me soon? i am really shy to ask him this…
    am from africa

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      March 19, 2016 at 9:30 am

      If he asked you where an embassy is in your country, then it sounds like he is thinking of visiting. He may be combining the trip with business or tourist attractions, so don’t panic quite yet. 🙂 Like any online dating situation, make sure to meet him in public areas until you get to know him better. If he is thinking of visiting you abroad, then he must like you a lot. 🙂 Good luck, Ritah!

  13. agata

    February 3, 2016 at 12:25 am

    Hey there! I met this 40 year old finn 4 months ago. I’m from UK and he lives in Helsinki. This whole ‘friendship’ has various of stages which I just cant get. At the very beginning he was really careful with what he did and what he said (we got to know each other via the internet). When we met, he was simply amazed, and he actually opened up. And now there is this time where he stopped writing to me/calling. Just nothing. He replies when I write, but I dont want to impose myself, of course. ( And let me add, we are not a couple officialy or anything. Still seeing how the things go). My quastion is…is it just a normal stage in such relations, that finnish guy may stop contactong or is it just simply the loose of interest towards me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      February 6, 2016 at 12:55 pm

      Perhaps he realized that you guys were not as good of a fit and is trying to back off. It is also possible that he is just quite busy at work or school, so he forgets to send a message unless he receives one from you first. He could also feel like you are not interested and be hesitant to do anything until he knows how you feel. If you still like him, keep messaging him and see what happens. You will not know the real reason for his sudden distance unless you stay in touch with him and see how things ultimately end up working out. Good luck, Agata!

  14. CG

    January 19, 2016 at 10:07 pm

    I’ve been with my Finn for 18 months we live together and have built a house too. My problem is he’s not very affectionate. He doesn’t hold hands or hug or cuddle. On the other hand he talks a lot. He’s not good with saying how he feels about me. Yet he says he loves his dog and kids and hugs them. Is this a cultural thing that he’s not affectionate or is it just him. It’s hurting me and I don’t know if I should stay. He’s the one who asked me to move in by the way.

    • web admin

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      January 21, 2016 at 9:31 am

      I think it is more of a cultural thing. Finn guys tend to be a bit standoffish. You can always just tell him how you feel instead of leaving. It sounds like he must really like you if he is building a house with you and wants you to stay. Just tell him how you feel. Whenever you date someone from another culture, it is important to communicate constantly to prevent misunderstandings. It is most likely just his culture that keeps him from being as expressive to a partner, and not a lack of feelings because he genuinely seems to care for you.

  15. cinderella

    January 13, 2016 at 9:32 pm

    if a Finnish guy gives you his calling card and says maybe you can recommend a place to stay – does that mean he is interested or just needs an information?

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      January 14, 2016 at 5:48 pm

      It looks like you may have commented twice on this one. I have to answer and approve each comment individually, so it can sometimes take a little while. If you wait a couple of hours after posting it, your comment should appear. Thanks for commenting!

  16. cheezes

    January 13, 2016 at 9:24 pm

    if a Finnish guy gives you his calling card? and says maybe you could recommend a place to stay…what does that mean? is he interested in me or just needed an info from me?

    • web admin

      web admin

      January 14, 2016 at 5:47 pm

      It means that he might be interested in you and wants an excuse to get to know you better. This does not mean that he will just ask you out on a date. Most likely, you will hang out together for a while as you get to know each other better and find out if you two are compatible.

      • cheezes

        January 18, 2016 at 11:39 pm

        thanks for that. so hanging out does not mean dating for Finns? When can you call it dating? Do they have boyfriend – girlfriend stage?

        • web admin

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          January 20, 2016 at 9:57 am

          It gradually transitions into dating, and I am not sure the exact point when it would be called dating. After hanging out for a while with him, you guys will eventually be an item, just be patient.

  17. Achat Gallute

    December 16, 2015 at 1:29 pm

    I must confess that I would love to marry a man who behave like finnish men. I hate men who talk to much, because they end up saying what they don’t mean. I live in Finland, but I have just opened my heart for a Danish guy who don’t talk to much as well. Hopefully it will last longer

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      web admin

      December 18, 2015 at 8:12 pm

      Good luck! I am glad that you have found the type of guy that works for you. Now, you just have to hope that your relationship with the Danish guy is the one that you are looking for. I hope that everything works out for you!

  18. Luchie

    December 13, 2015 at 3:03 pm

    Hello, I’ve been with a Finnish guy over a year now. What push me to search over Google about Finnish men is that I have this confusion about him just recently, I cannot send a message on his email as well as his Skype. It’s very unusual though im really used to understand how busy his work is, I just really want to have some advice if did I offend in him somewhat because any of his accounts are already deactivated. By the way im an Asian woman and we met already and have some time here in our country. Hope to hear from your responses soon. Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful information.

    • web admin

      web admin

      December 14, 2015 at 5:56 pm

      Hmm . . . that could be caused by a number of things. He may have stopped being interested and decided it was easier to just close his accounts, he may have a problem with his Internet connection, he may have started dating someone else or he may just be really busy at work. At the moment, it looks like your only option is to wait things out and see what happens. If he does not message you in the next week or so, it probably means that the relationship is over. If he does start messaging him again, you can always casually ask if everything is okay. If you say, “I didn’t hear from you, so I was worried that you were hurt or that something happened. Is everything okay?”, you will be able to find out what happened without sounding like you are being needy or clingy. 🙂 Good luck, Luchie!

  19. A girl...

    September 5, 2015 at 4:33 pm

    Thanks for all informations! 🙂 I read lots of things about Finns, Finnish guys… And ah i think, i’m falling in love with a Finnish guy, or i’m just fan of him, i’m not sure… I’m 17, i visited Savonlinna/Finland in last January. I met a Finnish guy, he’s a student, (we went to there with school…) he’s so helpful but he doesn’t speak so much. One time he sat my near at cafeteria, next time i sat with him but he didn’t speak again. Then i asked his name and age, he’s 24, but he didn’t ask my name or age. I couldn’t speak him well. He’s my friend on Facebook and i can’t speak with him still… It’s 8 mounths and i can’t miss him! What should i do? I know, we’re so different, i’m Turkish and Turkish people are generally so warm… But ah i really don’t know what should i do… :'(

    • web admin

      web admin

      September 5, 2015 at 8:21 pm

      If you like him and want to stay in touch, then go ahead and try talking to him on Facebook. With such a distance between you, you will need all of the social media options possible to stay in contact. You do not have to tell him about your feelings or send him a long message–a basic hello would be fine to start the conversation off.

    • Aika

      November 28, 2015 at 7:13 am

      I feel the same! I am an Asian woman and I met a finnish guy in some online games. Have the guts to talk with him! They’re literally shy at first but once they are comfortable with you, they will speak a lot! and I like him though… but there’s no chance of meeting him personally. we live in different part of the world. but you, you have the opportunity! so…. go talk to him! 🙂

      • web admin

        web admin

        November 28, 2015 at 5:09 pm

        That sounds like great advice, Aika. It is too bad you will not get to meet up with your own Finnish guy. If you are still in school, you could always try studying in Europe for a while. At the very least, you would get a great education and a chance to meet him in real life. At the most, you could end up with your soulmate. Either way, good luck to you!

        • Aika

          May 27, 2016 at 6:50 am

          Update: Hello! As you can see, I have a fighting spirit here. The finnish guy I met on an online game?? We are still chatting for 11 months now. It wasnt easy for me . You know what I did? For the first time in my life, I confessed my feelings to a guy. To a finnish guy I met online. You know his reply he just said “ok” when I told him that I have a crush on him. I expected that that’ll be his answer. All what you said in this blog applies to him! ? After that we didnt talk for weeks. My friends were pushing me to talk to him again on skype. And so I did. >.< his reply was so cold. So I told myself I'm done with himand regretted that I shouldnt have confessed to him. You know what happened? After 1 week, He messaged me on facebook ? After that, I felt happy and contended. Now I'm at ease that he is still my friend. Nothing was lost. Imagine if I didnt confess? I will still ask my self the "what ifs". Who knows, when I get older, I might visit him in Finland or the other way around, ? Thank you very much!

          • web admin

            web admin

            June 3, 2016 at 1:50 pm

            I am happy to hear that things are starting to work out for you. Although it is unfortunate that he does not like you back, at least you know not to wait for him any longer–and you still have a good friend out of all of it. Best of luck, Aika!

  20. Asumaan Suomeen

    August 23, 2015 at 6:50 pm

    Finnish men are interesting persons and good husbands. Finnish men have a lot of qualities what women appreciate. I think all the women of the world would like to date finnish men if they would just know how great they are. Finnish men don’t usually keep a lot of noise about them selves.

    • web admin

      web admin

      August 23, 2015 at 8:28 pm

      It is a good thing that you are here to tell the world about Finnish men, since you say that they are not boastful. 😉 All kidding aside, I am sure that many people who have dated Finnish men would agree with your description. Thank you for commenting! I am glad to see that this article was able to help you out!

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