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    10 Signs of Guilt

    By on January 31, 2014

    Each person is different, so the signs of cheating or guilt may be different. No matter what, most people will experience guilt after they cheat on a partner. They may show signs of guilt by suddenly being distant or angry. Your boyfriend or girlfriend may also stop paying attention to you or make excuses to avoid being around.

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    His Attitude Makes a Major Switch

    Sometimes, people have a drastic mood change because of tension at work or a death in the family. If there is not an outside cause for the attitude change, it could be a sign that your partner feels guilty. He may feel pulled in two directions and need to be in two places at once. To do this, he may create arguments so he can escape early and be with the other woman. In addition, he may start to complain about your habits or appearance. When someone cheats, they want to find a reason to justify their behavior. If possible, he will try to put the blame on you instead of on his own actions.

    Emotionally Distant

    When someone is in love or interested in two people at once, it takes away from the intimacy that they can have with you. They use this distance to create a shield and keep you from discovering their infidelity. Sudden emotional distance is a sign of guilt.

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    Acts Guilty

    This obvious behavior is a sign of infidelity. When your partner feels guilty, they may suddenly give you more compliments, attention or presents. This is done to assuage their conscience. Another guilty behavior can actually be sudden modesty. You may tell your partner how smart, attractive or kind they are. When they are plagued with guilt, they will deflect these compliments because they know the truth.

    Unusual Behavior

    A cheating spouse or boyfriend may suddenly exhibit strange, secretive behaviors. They may try to hide where they were or what they were doing. When you enter the living room, they may suddenly switch to a different computer screen or stop sending a text message.

    He Is Never Around

    While you may have spent all of your waking hours together in the past, he is suddenly never around when you expect him to be. He may make up excuses like workouts, fitness training or traveling for work. Although these reasons may all be legitimate, it could be an indicator that something else is going on. This will only become worse over time if the reason is another woman. As they become close, she will demand more time. In addition, he may try to stay away out of guilt.

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    No Longer Says “I Love You”

    Although some relationships avoid talking about emotional matters, most people say “I love you” on a frequent basis. New relationships may take a while to work up to this level of emotional expression. In these cases, you should not worry too much. If a long-term boyfriend or spouse suddenly stops expressing his love, it could be a sign of guilt.

    Spends More Time With Friends

    If your spouse or partner is cheating, they will want to avoid confronting you about it. Instead, they will try to spend more time with their friends. They may suddenly start having a string of football games or sporting events that they just “have to go to” with their friends.

    Changes in Appearances

    There is a reason that couples gain weight after they have been together for a long time. When you are comfortable with someone and well-loved, you do not worry as much about how you look. In comparison, single individuals tend to spend more time fixing their hair, working out and generally improving the way they look. Your husband or boyfriend may suddenly adopt a new clothing style or start to work out. He may change colognes or even start dressing differently for work. Although some changes in appearance could amount to nothing, they could also be the sign of something else.

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    He Often Is Unreachable

    In the past, he may have always texted or called you back if his phone was off. If he suddenly stops answering, it could be a sign of something else. He could be in a business meeting, but it is unlikely that he is unable to reach his phone all the time. His sudden unavailability is about more than just hiding that he is with another woman. He needs to be unreachable so that he does not have to return home so soon. The only way to do that is keep his phone off when he does not want to rush home to you.

    Listen to Your Gut

    Without proof, it is easy to dismiss doubts or concerns. If your gut says something is off, listen to it. It may not be a sign of a guilt or another woman. Your gut reaction could indicate that he is suddenly not interested or your relationship is nearing an end. Listen to your instincts because the changes in your partner will be subtle.

    13 Comments

    1. Badman with a big heart

      May 9, 2017 at 7:41 am

      I know that she did,she won’t admit it.
      Had his number on her cell ask her about it.put it under a friend’s name
      After seen that asked her why she said did not want to make me mad…
      Spending time with him,like lunches and after work.she works with him and still does says she likes him and fels like he cares about what she got to say…
      Married for 8 years I love her and I’m loyal and loving and a bad boy.I can handle the cheating,it’s the lies that get me trust is everything to me. It’s been 7 months sense I found out.we still have sex and talk and it feels real. She’s 5 months pregnant and I don’t know if it’s mine or if she still seeing this guy..classic
      She’s strong, smart and a good planner…..
      Just need some outside information and advice or whatever you all think good or bad it’s all good:)
      And ya she would keep the truth hidden till death.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 9, 2017 at 1:58 pm

        I would probably stop being with her. If it is the lies that you can’t stand, tell her that. Tell her that you are open to forgiving a lot if she will just tell you the truth. An estimated 9 out of 10 relationships end because of cheating, so it something that happens in a lot of relationships. If you think that she is worth it and can commit to not cheating again, then go for it. If she can’t tell the truth, can’t stop talking to the guy and can’t be faithful, then forget about her. Also, you should get a paternity test after the baby is born since you don’t actually know if it is yours or his.

    2. Karlee

      March 4, 2017 at 1:04 pm

      I caught my partner on a dating site i actually sent one the one he was chatting to a message n she responded back to me my partner denied he even knew of this person n since then our relationship has being bad as ever he also has two phones n the one he uses everyday most of he’s app’s are blocked n he hates if i touch he’s phone. Hes job allows him to be away most of the time sometimes two days month sometimes i try n go with him just so he can’t get up to no good as he tells me he’s not sleeping around on me i already had my proof our sex life is not good he tries to avoid me never touches me like he used to n i don’t make moves anymore as i know what he’s up to makes me sick to my stomach so he gets what he wants im not one for sitting back n taking this grap we always fight n argue n he always gets annoyed with me bringing up the same subject all the time her) i was friends with him on Facebook but noticed that i couldn’t get into any of hes comments. So now we both don’t have facebook anymore . My gut feeling tells me all the time plus he’s body language that he’s still up to no good how long till i just snap why cant he just have the balls to tell me so i can be free of this so called relationship is it because he doesn’t want me to be right about him or is he innocence n im just paranoid once bitten twice shy all the signs are there but my mind is going into over drive i can’t think straight anymore

      • web admin

        web admin

        March 5, 2017 at 10:39 am

        His behavior is making you act irrationally, which is not good for you, your relationship or him. It sounds like you do have something to be worried about, so you are not paranoid. From your description, it sounds like he has pulled away from you and mentally checked out of the relationship. He may just be chatting up women and flirting online, or he may be following through in real life. The fact that he has two phones, won’t let you see the phone and is gone enough to be up to trouble makes it seem more likely than not that he is cheating. All of this puts you in a bad position. If you ask him to show his apps and phone, it will push him away more and make him defensive. Plus, in a good relationship, you should be able to trust your partner and never need to look at their phone. If you do not look at his information and let things go, then he may continue to contemplate cheating and could still pull away from you. Honestly, it seems like the best option may be to break up with him and move on. There are obviously trust issues in the relationship and he is pulling away from you emotionally, so even if he is not cheating, it does not sound like you have the pieces there for the relationship to last. Hopefully, your next partner will be someone who you can trust and who cares for you as much as you do for him.

    3. Sher

      August 27, 2016 at 8:55 am

      My ex started acting distant, we stopped doing couples things and i became more like a booty call. Then he was unavailable alot and spent more time with “his friends” he lied about where he was and i left him not knowing i was pregnant. A few months later when bubs was 3 months old he came clean about cheating he had 2 other women on the go one is now his girlfriend.

      • web admin

        web admin

        August 27, 2016 at 3:37 pm

        That is an awful experience to go through. On the bright side, at least that relationship is out of your life. No one deserves to go through what you dealt with with him, and it is good for you and your child that you were able to move on.

    4. Alicia

      December 27, 2015 at 8:13 pm

      This is how my boyfriend of six years has been acting. We have a 5 yr old daughter and we built a home together this year. We always lived with his family’s house or with my family or his friends house or my friends house. This year he found a great job, and we have a home of our own now.All of a sudden he’s started to act weird, he started disappearing a couple nights, found girls clothes,makeup and condom wrappers in the car. He started to become distant and avoid talking to me. He has 2 phones and hes been trying to hide it from me. He said he did not cheat on me, he said that he was doing a favor for a friend by letting him borrow the car.i cry all the time because i see hes guilty.

      • web admin

        web admin

        December 31, 2015 at 8:14 pm

        That is a difficult problem. I think that the only thing that you can do is to confront him about it. Even if a “friend” borrowed the car, why would the friend leave a girl’s clothes, make up or condom wrappers in someone else’s car? Plus, who has sex in someone else’s car and leaves around proof? How would your boyfriend explain the missing nights, the extra phone, the secrecy or the sudden emotional distance? Ask him all of these questions and demand the truth. He may still lie to you, but at least you will have everything out in the open. Afterward, you will have to decide what you want to do. Do you want to stay with him if he cheated and continued to lie to you about it? Would you be willing to turn a blind eye to his behavior if he remains adamant about not cheating? If you were to leave, would you be able to find a place to live? What do you want?

    5. Jane

      April 21, 2015 at 9:44 pm

      I think this is all true… My husband tried to be over smart … He had affair outside… He was with that other woman outside.. I phone him and he was showering so much love on me… Later on when I call him on his phone he said he is coming back home and put the phone aside.. I dint disconnect the call and that time his other phone rang…. I was shocked when I heard he was saying to someone I love you I miss you darling… I was completely broken…

      • web admin

        web admin

        April 21, 2015 at 9:58 pm

        That sounds like a really terrible experience, Jane. The worst part is that you probably felt like a horrible, jealous person for suspecting him, but it turns out you were right. The second phone would normally be a dead giveaway, but he probably justified it by saying that it was just for work. I am really sorry that you were stuck in that sitaution–did you ever confront him about it? What are you guys going to do?

    6. Courtney Pocock

      March 19, 2015 at 3:25 pm

      A large portion of relationships have to deal with infidelities at some point. Getting past this rough time and learning to get over the guilt/betrayal is always difficult. I am sorry to hear that you had a problem with infidelities. I hope everything worked out.

    7. Karen

      May 5, 2014 at 8:42 pm

      The third one is so true. I don’t think I’ve ever been cheated on, but I did kiss with another guy when I was together with my first boyfriend. I don’t even remember why because I liked my boyfriend a lot more than the other guy. Anyways, after the incident I acted just like you described. He couldn’t tell, though.

      • web admin

        web admin

        May 12, 2015 at 6:56 pm

        A large portion of relationships have to deal with infidelities at some point. Getting past this rough time and learning to get over the guilt/betrayal is always difficult. I am sorry to hear that you had a problem with infidelities. I hope everything worked out.

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